Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with world-renowned sex educator and author Kenneth Play to talk all things oral sex on vulvas—techniques, mindset, communication, and pleasure-maximizing strategies. Known for his viral videos, global workshops, and author of Beyond Satisfied, Kenneth breaks down how anyone can become a more confident and skillful oral lover—no magic tongue required.
In this episode, we discuss:
The most common mistakes people make when going down on someone
How to build confidence if you feel awkward or unsure
Kenneth’s signature “sex hacking” approach and why it works
The anatomy of pleasure: why understanding the clitoris is essential
Why going slow is underrated and how to read your partner’s body cues
Communication tips that don’t kill the vibe
Techniques for different sensations: flicking, sucking, pressure, and more
How to involve your hands, body, and breath for maximum connection
Tips for anyone struggling to orgasm from oral stimulation
What Kenneth learned from working with thousands of vulva owners
Busting myths about what “good oral” looks like
How to prioritize pleasure over performance
Kenneth’s top tips for becoming a more intuitive, generous lover
Whether you’re new to oral or want to refine your technique, this episode is full of real, actionable tips that can immediately change your sex life.
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