In this episode of Inner Light, we sit down with executive coach and leadership strategist Yosi Kossowsky to unpack what “letting go” actually means in real life and real leadership. This is not a soft skill chat. It is a tactical look at how clinging to resentment, control and old identity stories quietly drains mental health productivity and impact.
Yosi explains why letting go is not weakness or spiritual bypassing. It is an intentional decision to stop “drinking the poison and hoping the other person will die” and to reclaim your own inner peace. Through the lens of neuroscience mindset and practical leadership she shows how unspoken fears overload and hidden narratives drive burnout poor sleep irritability and disconnection at work and at home.
If you are a high performer who feels constantly “on” yet rarely calm this conversation gives you language and frameworks to pause name what you are holding and release it without losing your edge. Inner peace becomes a leadership advantage not a luxury.
About the Guest:
Yosi Kossowsky is a visionary executive coach who blends neuroscience leadership science and deep human insight. She helps senior leaders and teams work with fear overload and control patterns so they can lead with clarity courage and emotional resilience. Her work focuses on trust collaboration and the inner landscape of leadership . starting from self leadership before strategy and org charts.
Key Takeaways:
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Letting go is not giving up. It is choosing to stop harming yourself with resentment blame and judgment and to redirect that energy into inner peace and healthier action.
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Resentment is like drinking poison and hoping the other person will die. The other person may not think about you at all while you suffer mentally emotionally and physically.
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Forgiveness in this frame is less about “absolving” the other person and more about forgiving yourself for holding on so long and choosing to release the poison.
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High performers often live in overload. Constant go mode leaves no space to pause breathe and notice what is actually occupying the mind which blocks genuine inner calm.
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Fear habit and identity all play a role. Using tools like the Enneagram Yosi shows how many personality patterns are different expressions of fear . fear of loss weakness visibility or not being enough.
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Unspoken fears have more power. Talking them out with a trusted person in a non ranting way makes them tangible and easier to release and reframe.
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Vulnerability is not the opposite of courage. As Brené Brown teaches and Yosi echoes courage is acting while afraid. Sharing inner truth is a leadership move not a failure.
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Trust has layers . relationship based societal and transactional. Leaders who let go of rigid control and build at least transactional trust create more collaboration growth and creativity.
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Control often signals low trust in others or self. Delegation and collaboration grow people and free leaders only when they are willing to sit with discomfort and loosen control.
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Resistance itself can be a teacher. Once you can see your own resistance and name it you finally have something real to work with and transform.
How Listeners Can Connect With Yosi Kossowsky :
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LinkedIn: Find and message Yosi Kossowsky (booking link available on his profile, per episode).
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