September 3, 2024 • 34 mins
In this episode of 'Intimacy After', host Queen discusses the complex relationship between sex and depression. She addresses listener questions about using sex as a treatment for depression, examines scientific research on the topic, and emphasizes the importance of professional medical help. Join Queen as she delves into mental health stigma, the impacts of depression on sexual health, and the role of medications and alternative therapies. Don't miss this discussion on how to navigate intimacy issues while managing mental health.
Timeline 00:00 Welcome to Intimacy After 01:03 The Importance of Mental Health 01:37 Sex and Depression: A Complex Relationship 02:56 Listener Question: Can Sex Treat Depression? 07:16 Understanding Depression and Its Impact 24:25 Biblical Perspectives on Mental Health and Intimacy 27:52 The Role of Medication and Natural Remedies 33:42 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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Come on inside. 9 00:00:49,626.12244898 --> 00:00:57,276.12244898 Hello and welcome inside the system, friends to another episode of intimacy after. 10 00:00:57,666.12244898 --> 00:01:00,666.12244898 I am so excited to be talking about today's topics. 11 00:01:00,666.12244898 --> 00:01:02,556.12244898 So I hope you are ready. 12 00:01:03,66.12244898 --> 00:01:05,766.12244898 It used to be that mental health was a taboo. 13 00:01:06,366.12244898 --> 00:01:08,556.12244898 Thankfully though, not totally. 14 00:01:08,616.12244898 --> 00:01:13,176.12244898 Unstigmatized it is remarkably better. 15 00:01:13,266.12244898 --> 00:01:20,406.12244898 Wouldn't you agree? I have witnessed a change since I started my journey in medicine over 20 plus years ago. 16 00:01:20,916.12244898 --> 00:01:24,666.12244898 Especially for those in the black and brown communities. 17 00:01:25,56.12244898 --> 00:01:29,526.12244898 You are seeking assistance more and more? Bravo. 18 00:01:29,526.12244898 --> 00:01:30,876.12244898 My sister friend. 19 00:01:31,206.12244898 --> 00:01:33,516.12244898 Mental health is vast. 20 00:01:33,756.12244898 --> 00:01:36,966.12244898 It is as wide as it is deep. 21 00:01:37,326.12244898 --> 00:01:44,926.12244898 I have made mention in past podcasts, but after receiving specific questions about sex and depression. 22 00:01:45,646.12244898 --> 00:01:49,6.12244898 Thought I would gingerly take a deeper look. 23 00:01:49,306.12244898 --> 00:01:55,426.12244898 I do have colleagues who are awesome counselors on depression and those who are doing great. 24 00:01:55,696.12244898 --> 00:01:58,456.12244898 In the sex field, but combined. 25 00:01:58,666.12244898 --> 00:02:00,136.12244898 Mm, no. 26 00:02:00,646.12244898 --> 00:02:02,446.12244898 Most, not all. 27 00:02:02,476.12244898 --> 00:02:08,26.12244898 Most psychiatrists, psychologists, counselors, et cetera, will treat your depression. 28 00:02:08,566.12244898 --> 00:02:13,756.12244898 But get quite uncomfortable when have to discuss sex. 29 00:02:14,236.12244898 --> 00:02:18,986.12244898 Why well, talking about sex is a Pandora box. 30 00:02:19,136.12244898 --> 00:02:24,956.12244898 There are so many different practices and preferences that venture in there. 31 00:02:24,956.12244898 --> 00:02:38,276.12244898 Put one at risk for judging and being judged then the sex therapist have their hands full with lots of things to uncover dealing with mental health and its huge scope. 32 00:02:38,626.12244898 --> 00:02:41,386.12244898 Not something they're truly interested in. 33 00:02:42,166.12244898 --> 00:02:45,796.12244898 So my sister friend, here we are. 34 00:02:46,66.12244898 --> 00:02:52,366.12244898 Let's see what I can do to bring the two together in a short podcast. 35 00:02:54,516.12244898 --> 00:02:55,686.12244898 You ask me. 36 00:02:56,136.12244898 --> 00:03:02,46.12244898 Can I use sex as a treatment for depression? It does release all those feel good. 37 00:03:02,46.12244898 --> 00:03:08,316.12244898 Want knots? Can I just have sex and feel good all the time? I'm not big on medicine and stuff. 38 00:03:09,516.12244898 --> 00:03:13,236.12244898 You did not provide permission to use your first name in the voice message. 39 00:03:13,476.12244898 --> 00:03:15,756.12244898 So I'll just say the first letter. 40 00:03:16,116.12244898 --> 00:03:16,416.12244898 Am. 41 00:03:17,316.12244898 --> 00:03:21,396.12244898 Well, M that is a very loaded question. 42 00:03:21,636.12244898 --> 00:03:22,686.12244898 Of our, a good question. 43 00:03:23,16.12244898 --> 00:03:26,706.12244898 That seems to make sense in a literal sort of way. 44 00:03:26,976.12244898 --> 00:03:27,396.12244898 Right. 45 00:03:27,666.12244898 --> 00:03:34,686.12244898 But let's unpack and look at it from a practical and a mild scientific sort of way. 46 00:03:35,706.12244898 --> 00:03:40,386.12244898 I want to interject here that as I'm unpacking AM's question. 47 00:03:40,716.12244898 --> 00:03:56,316.12244898 That I have a big advocate and proponent for saying there's no such thing as a silly question or a stupid question, right? I think it's on the part of the person who's being asked the question. 48 00:03:56,556.12244898 --> 00:04:01,266.12244898 To take the time to pause and disect what's being asked. 49 00:04:01,656.12244898 --> 00:04:02,346.12244898 Sure enough. 50 00:04:02,556.12244898 --> 00:04:09,906.12244898 Sometimes the person asking the question is not quite sure how to phrase the questions so that it's understood. 51 00:04:10,206.12244898 --> 00:04:15,66.12244898 And so I like to take the time to break down questions as they are asked. 52 00:04:15,516.12244898 --> 00:04:25,956.12244898 I know some times I say the questions ask, or I repeat the questions that are asked by some of my listeners and I get feedback that, oh, well that's a silly question. 53 00:04:26,136.12244898 --> 00:04:27,156.12244898 Well, not really. 54 00:04:27,426.12244898 --> 00:04:31,686.12244898 I want this platform to be a place where your questions can be honored. 55 00:04:32,46.12244898 --> 00:04:36,156.12244898 And I will do my best to break things down and dig deeper. 56 00:04:36,396.12244898 --> 00:04:42,456.12244898 And you may be asking questions that you're not even really aware or quite sure of what to ask. 57 00:04:42,546.12244898 --> 00:04:43,746.12244898 Well, that's what I'm here for. 58 00:04:43,956.12244898 --> 00:04:47,286.12244898 Let's break it down and look at what Emma's asking. 59 00:04:48,56.12244898 --> 00:04:48,356.12244898 Right. 60 00:04:48,566.12244898 --> 00:04:55,196.12244898 So the question is, can I use sex as a treatment for depression? It does release all those feel. 61 00:04:55,196.12244898 --> 00:04:56,36.12244898 Good watt knots. 62 00:04:56,36.12244898 --> 00:05:00,986.12244898 Can I just have sex and feel good all the time? I'm not big on medicine and stuff. 63 00:05:01,616.12244898 --> 00:05:05,576.12244898 So I wanted to do a little research on. 64 00:05:06,296.12244898 --> 00:05:10,406.12244898 This to see if anyone else actually looked into this before. 65 00:05:10,946.12244898 --> 00:05:12,176.12244898 Yes research. 66 00:05:12,836.12244898 --> 00:05:15,836.12244898 I am a doctor, stop acting surprise. 67 00:05:16,106.12244898 --> 00:05:19,256.12244898 I want to make sure that I am given you. 68 00:05:19,796.12244898 --> 00:05:20,456.12244898 Good. 69 00:05:20,546.12244898 --> 00:05:25,76.12244898 An adequate answers to your questions, right? Your question is important. 70 00:05:25,76.12244898 --> 00:05:27,416.12244898 Em, and others have the same question. 71 00:05:27,806.12244898 --> 00:05:29,156.12244898 Or thoughts too. 72 00:05:29,156.12244898 --> 00:05:31,796.12244898 So I wanted to give it my full attention. 73 00:05:32,36.12244898 --> 00:05:32,666.12244898 Thank you. 74 00:05:32,666.12244898 --> 00:05:33,236.12244898 Ma'am. 75 00:05:33,746.12244898 --> 00:05:35,126.12244898 I didn't know. 76 00:05:35,426.12244898 --> 00:05:42,386.12244898 There are journals called the journal of sexual medicine and archives of sexual behavior. 77 00:05:42,476.12244898 --> 00:05:45,626.12244898 Like what it does make sense. 78 00:05:45,986.12244898 --> 00:05:46,796.12244898 I guess. 79 00:05:47,216.12244898 --> 00:05:52,166.12244898 But I was too deep in cancer treatment and oncology stuff to look up and breathe or. 80 00:05:52,556.12244898 --> 00:05:54,506.12244898 Talk about such things back then. 81 00:05:55,76.12244898 --> 00:05:55,856.12244898 Thank in Jesus. 82 00:05:55,886.12244898 --> 00:06:02,306.12244898 I'm able to step away for awhile from that journey that began back in 1999, pursuing medicine. 83 00:06:03,56.12244898 --> 00:06:04,796.12244898 But medicine is in my blood. 84 00:06:05,546.12244898 --> 00:06:08,726.12244898 The journal of affective disorder and the depression. 85 00:06:08,996.12244898 --> 00:06:10,316.12244898 And anxiety journal. 86 00:06:10,526.12244898 --> 00:06:11,996.12244898 That's the norm for me. 87 00:06:12,446.12244898 --> 00:06:14,996.12244898 Here I am learning something new. 88 00:06:15,416.12244898 --> 00:06:16,136.12244898 You see. 89 00:06:16,586.12244898 --> 00:06:17,96.12244898 Thanks. 90 00:06:17,156.12244898 --> 00:06:17,756.12244898 Em. 91 00:06:18,666.12244898 --> 00:06:21,726.12244898 My little research in the area of sex and depression. 92 00:06:21,726.12244898 --> 00:06:29,496.12244898 I had limitations and ethical consideration and often these research admittedly. 93 00:06:30,126.12244898 --> 00:06:32,646.12244898 State that they faced challenges. 94 00:06:32,646.12244898 --> 00:06:39,936.12244898 And some of these challenges include difficulty in recruiting, participant potential reporting biases. 95 00:06:40,446.12244898 --> 00:06:44,616.12244898 Ethical consideration in studying vulnerable populations. 96 00:06:45,216.12244898 --> 00:06:55,236.12244898 And the complexity is an isolating variables due to the multifaceted nature of both depression and mental health. 97 00:06:55,596.12244898 --> 00:06:57,426.12244898 And I want to add to that. 98 00:06:58,86.12244898 --> 00:07:00,216.12244898 The many shades of sex. 99 00:07:01,266.12244898 --> 00:07:04,686.12244898 Another reason why your question is so deep. 100 00:07:04,746.12244898 --> 00:07:12,966.12244898 M is because we have to peel back and look at several questions in an offer itself. 101 00:07:13,116.12244898 --> 00:07:15,396.12244898 Your question is quite layer. 102 00:07:15,636.12244898 --> 00:07:16,296.12244898 So. 103 00:07:16,956.12244898 --> 00:07:30,276.12244898 We want to look at what is depression and how do you know you're depressed? Should I assume that you have already been officially diagnosed with depression or is this self-diagnosis. 104 00:07:30,886.12244898 --> 00:07:42,316.12244898 If you're diagnosed with depression am, then another question is what is the impact of depression? On your sexual health on the flip side. 105 00:07:42,736.12244898 --> 00:07:47,506.12244898 What is the effect of sexual activity? On depression symptoms. 106 00:07:48,736.12244898 --> 00:07:50,266.12244898 Is it as you think. 107 00:07:50,656.12244898 --> 00:07:54,796.12244898 Or are there other unpleasant side effects to think about. 108 00:07:55,516.12244898 --> 00:07:57,406.12244898 Sex having side effects. 109 00:07:58,126.12244898 --> 00:07:58,966.12244898 That's new. 110 00:07:58,996.12244898 --> 00:07:59,476.12244898 Right. 111 00:07:59,956.12244898 --> 00:08:03,886.12244898 Then there's an influence of antidepressants on sexual health. 112 00:08:04,366.12244898 --> 00:08:05,446.12244898 You're not alone. 113 00:08:05,836.12244898 --> 00:08:08,266.12244898 Not many like to take medications. 114 00:08:08,566.12244898 --> 00:08:17,56.12244898 But sometimes the body needs a little help to correct certain changes in the brain and other imbalances. 115 00:08:17,356.12244898 --> 00:08:23,536.12244898 There are also gender differences in the relationship between depression and sex. 116 00:08:23,806.12244898 --> 00:08:28,246.12244898 The way that male and female respond to both are different. 117 00:08:28,276.12244898 --> 00:08:34,486.12244898 And the way you respond is also different from others, different from me. 118 00:08:35,26.12244898 --> 00:08:42,176.12244898 Does sexual satisfaction play a role in mental health? Em, there you have it. 119 00:08:42,566.12244898 --> 00:08:44,186.12244898 Lots of hidden questions. 120 00:08:44,456.12244898 --> 00:08:45,506.12244898 Within yours. 121 00:08:45,956.12244898 --> 00:08:47,96.12244898 Where to start. 122 00:08:47,996.12244898 --> 00:08:51,656.12244898 Let's look at your question again to stay on track here. 123 00:08:51,956.12244898 --> 00:08:57,266.12244898 Can I use sex as a treatment for depression? Let's start with the first part. 124 00:08:57,836.12244898 --> 00:09:00,926.12244898 Sex as a potential treatment for depression. 125 00:09:01,406.12244898 --> 00:09:02,666.12244898 Believe it or not. 126 00:09:02,846.12244898 --> 00:09:09,416.12244898 Em, sister, friends, you all are scientists and researchers, and don't even know it. 127 00:09:10,496.12244898 --> 00:09:21,956.12244898 There are some studies that have examined whether sexual activities can have a mood enhancing effect and potentially alleviate depressive symptoms. 128 00:09:22,406.12244898 --> 00:09:30,996.12244898 Imagine that, huh? This research area often looks at the release of neurotransmitters and hormones that during sex. 129 00:09:31,416.12244898 --> 00:09:34,566.12244898 The feel good stuff and whatnot that M refers to. 130 00:09:35,416.12244898 --> 00:09:38,236.12244898 To show the complexities of sex and depression. 131 00:09:38,506.12244898 --> 00:09:42,106.12244898 These studies look at different aspects of mental health. 132 00:09:42,586.12244898 --> 00:09:45,436.12244898 There are different types of depressions as well. 133 00:09:45,496.12244898 --> 00:09:49,996.12244898 Did you know that? Not that we're going to forget about the sexual dysfunction part. 134 00:09:50,506.12244898 --> 00:10:00,406.12244898 But there's also a serious potential issue when it comes to certain types of depression that can lead to increase risk of suicide. 135 00:10:01,96.12244898 --> 00:10:03,676.12244898 Taken one's own life. 136 00:10:04,36.12244898 --> 00:10:09,526.12244898 And suicide discussion came front and center while I was still serving in the army. 137 00:10:09,916.12244898 --> 00:10:16,546.12244898 Many young soldiers would return from conflict depressed and what know what to do about it. 138 00:10:17,566.12244898 --> 00:10:19,336.12244898 Some would not seek help. 139 00:10:20,176.12244898 --> 00:10:22,36.12244898 Trying to be tough. 140 00:10:22,606.12244898 --> 00:10:25,906.12244898 And this was evident in the rise of suicide. 141 00:10:26,716.12244898 --> 00:10:44,926.12244898 Kudos to the military for stepping up and creating sensitivity classes, teaching leadership and staff, what to look for, what changes would hint to someone who is experiencing depression and may even be at risk for suicide and so much more. 142 00:10:46,216.12244898 --> 00:10:53,176.12244898 Asking you about depression is now in most cases, a common part of the intake form. 143 00:10:53,416.12244898 --> 00:10:55,786.12244898 Whenever you visit your clinics. 144 00:10:56,416.12244898 --> 00:10:57,406.12244898 Sister Fran. 145 00:10:57,856.12244898 --> 00:11:00,586.12244898 Do you know, some common signs of depression. 146 00:11:01,846.12244898 --> 00:11:08,746.12244898 Here comes my disclaimer, just in case you're listening for the first time and hopping on this podcast. 147 00:11:09,256.12244898 --> 00:11:13,36.12244898 I am queen your family friendly cancer doc. 148 00:11:13,426.12244898 --> 00:11:14,896.12244898 Via the podcast. 149 00:11:15,16.12244898 --> 00:11:17,296.12244898 I am not a part of your medical team. 150 00:11:17,626.12244898 --> 00:11:20,296.12244898 I am not a counselor or psychiatrist. 151 00:11:20,596.12244898 --> 00:11:25,36.12244898 I have learned a lot over the years, taking care of my patients diagnosed with cancer. 152 00:11:25,246.12244898 --> 00:11:30,736.12244898 Many of the topics here are part of my common survivorship model for these patients. 153 00:11:31,66.12244898 --> 00:11:37,306.12244898 However, please ask your doctor about anything discussed on this podcast. 154 00:11:37,886.12244898 --> 00:11:50,386.12244898 If you review some of the questions that will be discussed later and find that you are at risk for depression or suicide seek help immediately. 155 00:11:51,46.12244898 --> 00:11:52,276.12244898 Don't delay. 156 00:11:53,436.12244898 --> 00:11:53,946.12244898 Okay. 157 00:11:54,666.12244898 --> 00:12:00,966.12244898 So there are many forms on the website that you can use to self evaluate. 158 00:12:01,176.12244898 --> 00:12:07,176.12244898 If you are depressed and depressed, mood can also be temporary based on life changes. 159 00:12:07,536.12244898 --> 00:12:12,666.12244898 You know, the mantra, speak with your primary care provider. 160 00:12:12,726.12244898 --> 00:12:13,116.12244898 Okay. 161 00:12:13,146.12244898 --> 00:12:13,656.12244898 Here it goes. 162 00:12:14,26.12244898 --> 00:12:19,216.12244898 So while you're swiping left or swiping up or checking out all those social media. 163 00:12:19,756.12244898 --> 00:12:21,46.12244898 Take a step back. 164 00:12:21,406.12244898 --> 00:12:26,296.12244898 To do some self evaluation and check out things that you could benefit from. 165 00:12:26,596.12244898 --> 00:12:29,386.12244898 Just go to the national Institute of mental health. 166 00:12:30,46.12244898 --> 00:12:38,176.12244898 And look up what ever questions you may have beat about depression, anxiety, or anything along those sorts. 167 00:12:38,806.12244898 --> 00:12:41,86.12244898 You can also go to CDC. 168 00:12:41,506.12244898 --> 00:12:47,836.12244898 And type in mental health conditions, specifically depression and anxiety. 169 00:12:48,76.12244898 --> 00:12:50,626.12244898 And you would also find information there. 170 00:12:51,286.12244898 --> 00:12:55,846.12244898 They will give good insights on the different types of depression. 171 00:12:56,326.12244898 --> 00:13:00,736.12244898 Common treatment and much more than this podcast can provide. 172 00:13:01,336.12244898 --> 00:13:03,406.12244898 Depression can affect people differently. 173 00:13:03,616.12244898 --> 00:13:07,156.12244898 And there are some common signs you can look for. 174 00:13:07,876.12244898 --> 00:13:09,766.12244898 If you are writing this down. 175 00:13:10,66.12244898 --> 00:13:14,926.12244898 I will give the big umbrella term with a few examples to follow. 176 00:13:16,496.12244898 --> 00:13:17,426.12244898 Here we go. 177 00:13:17,736.12244898 --> 00:13:18,396.12244898 Mood. 178 00:13:19,146.12244898 --> 00:13:24,906.12244898 Feeling sad, anxious or empty most days for more than two weeks. 179 00:13:25,686.12244898 --> 00:13:27,396.12244898 That is something to consider. 180 00:13:27,996.12244898 --> 00:13:36,456.12244898 However I can interject by saying I feel sad some days when I think about my mom, I miss her very much. 181 00:13:36,736.12244898 --> 00:13:39,766.12244898 I do have sad feelings and empty. 182 00:13:40,16.12244898 --> 00:13:42,956.12244898 Feeling some days, especially on Sundays. 183 00:13:43,316.12244898 --> 00:13:53,66.12244898 When we typically catch up about the week So there is a difference if your sadness is associated with the death of a loved one. 184 00:13:53,426.12244898 --> 00:13:57,326.12244898 Again, This is just for you to take note, right. 185 00:13:58,366.12244898 --> 00:13:59,206.12244898 Interest. 186 00:13:59,566.12244898 --> 00:14:03,196.12244898 Losing interest in activities that used to be fun. 187 00:14:03,796.12244898 --> 00:14:09,736.12244898 Are you too busy to have fun? Or depressed and don't feel like doing anything. 188 00:14:10,156.12244898 --> 00:14:19,486.12244898 If you used to go out for walks or go to the movies or go shopping, what are you doing instead? Sleep. 189 00:14:19,996.12244898 --> 00:14:29,926.12244898 Are you having trouble sleeping? Waking up too early or sleeping too much difficulty falling asleep or difficulty staying asleep. 190 00:14:30,746.12244898 --> 00:14:31,616.12244898 Make a note. 191 00:14:32,186.12244898 --> 00:14:32,966.12244898 Appetite. 192 00:14:33,656.12244898 --> 00:14:37,346.12244898 Are you eating more? Or less than usual. 193 00:14:37,676.12244898 --> 00:14:39,836.12244898 Or having no appetite at all. 194 00:14:40,766.12244898 --> 00:14:41,546.12244898 Energy. 195 00:14:42,86.12244898 --> 00:14:49,676.12244898 Are you feeling tired even after sleeping well or lacking energy? Thoughts. 196 00:14:50,156.12244898 --> 00:14:56,546.12244898 Are you feeling hopeless, pessimistic or guilty? Worthless or helpless. 197 00:14:57,536.12244898 --> 00:15:02,216.12244898 These are the things that can spiral very quickly. 198 00:15:02,636.12244898 --> 00:15:06,296.12244898 Then their heartbeat behaviors feeling irritable. 199 00:15:06,746.12244898 --> 00:15:10,46.12244898 Easily frustrated or just simply restless. 200 00:15:10,886.12244898 --> 00:15:18,86.12244898 Cognitive having trouble concentrating, remembering details or making decision. 201 00:15:18,476.12244898 --> 00:15:23,996.12244898 I Have far no off people who just have a difficult time making decision. 202 00:15:24,476.12244898 --> 00:15:29,336.12244898 For me, who is military, make a decision, even if it's the wrong one. 203 00:15:29,336.12244898 --> 00:15:31,166.12244898 You just think about it evaluating. 204 00:15:31,676.12244898 --> 00:15:32,96.12244898 Decide. 205 00:15:32,666.12244898 --> 00:15:37,166.12244898 For someone who go back and forth between three stuff who drive me bunkers. 206 00:15:37,676.12244898 --> 00:15:41,126.12244898 But that is a personality trait for some folks. 207 00:15:41,176.12244898 --> 00:15:43,816.12244898 If making decisions. 208 00:15:43,816.12244898 --> 00:15:44,986.12244898 Is difficult for you. 209 00:15:44,986.12244898 --> 00:15:46,366.12244898 And it's an ongoing thing. 210 00:15:46,756.12244898 --> 00:15:51,136.12244898 Then that may not be pointing to a cognitive issue leading to depression. 211 00:15:51,376.12244898 --> 00:15:53,656.12244898 It could be just your personality trait. 212 00:15:53,866.12244898 --> 00:16:02,956.12244898 If this is new, then you want to look deeper and you hear it comes, talk to your primary care about this. 213 00:16:03,616.12244898 --> 00:16:04,456.12244898 Physical. 214 00:16:04,786.12244898 --> 00:16:14,746.12244898 If you're experiencing aches and pains and headaches or stomach problems that don't improve with treatment, then you want to look a little bit deeper into that. 215 00:16:15,316.12244898 --> 00:16:17,266.12244898 I know for my listening audience. 216 00:16:17,266.12244898 --> 00:16:20,776.12244898 Most of you are over 40 and you're thinking. 217 00:16:21,316.12244898 --> 00:16:22,756.12244898 Aches and pains, if that. 218 00:16:23,776.12244898 --> 00:16:26,866.12244898 If that is what makes me depressed and I'm depressed all the time. 219 00:16:26,866.12244898 --> 00:16:28,96.12244898 Cause I'm always aching. 220 00:16:28,546.12244898 --> 00:16:31,906.12244898 And then pain, especially when it rains and the bones and that, and. 221 00:16:33,116.12244898 --> 00:16:35,576.12244898 No, that is not what I'm talking about. 222 00:16:36,146.12244898 --> 00:16:40,586.122449 So just to do a quick rundown on the areas I reviewed. 223 00:16:41,636.122449 --> 00:16:46,496.122449 If you think that you may be going through some depressive symptoms and you're not sure. 224 00:16:47,36.122449 --> 00:16:48,446.122449 Jot these down. 225 00:16:49,46.122449 --> 00:16:53,846.122449 Put a call into your primary care team and have a discussion. 226 00:16:54,686.122449 --> 00:16:59,246.122449 Mood and he sort of changes interest, losing. 227 00:16:59,906.122449 --> 00:17:02,216.122449 Interest in your activity, sleep. 228 00:17:02,696.122449 --> 00:17:09,566.122449 Appetite energy, your thoughts, behavior, cognitive, physical. 229 00:17:09,566.122449 --> 00:17:16,46.122449 Again, remember we say cognitive, we're talking about your brain and your thoughts and thinking and concentrating, right. 230 00:17:16,876.122449 --> 00:17:24,226.122449 If you feel depressed, you should make an appointment to see your doctor or a mental health professional as soon as possible. 231 00:17:24,676.122449 --> 00:17:27,286.122449 You can also talk to a friend or a loved one. 232 00:17:27,586.122449 --> 00:17:45,436.122449 Uh, faith leader or someone else you trust if you're reluctant to seek treatment, but remember that's a big burden to put on someone, right? If they're a friend or a loved one and you're depressed and you do the dumping and tell them all of that stuff, they can assist to a certain level. 233 00:17:46,456.122449 --> 00:17:50,956.122449 Let that decision be made with communication you have with your doctor. 234 00:17:51,136.122449 --> 00:17:55,396.122449 That's why it's so important for you to get to know your care team. 235 00:17:55,846.122449 --> 00:18:00,66.122449 So you know who you work with, so that you can reach out to someone you're comfortable. 236 00:18:00,276.122449 --> 00:18:01,806.122449 It's not always a physician. 237 00:18:01,806.122449 --> 00:18:03,636.122449 Sometimes it's a nurse practitioner. 238 00:18:03,906.122449 --> 00:18:06,336.122449 Uh, physician assistant or other. 239 00:18:06,636.122449 --> 00:18:10,26.122449 High-level caregivers that's within your team. 240 00:18:10,976.122449 --> 00:18:13,856.122449 You have to be prepared for your appointment. 241 00:18:14,396.122449 --> 00:18:21,926.122449 When you see your doctor, you can bring a list of things to note, including your mental and physical health concern. 242 00:18:22,956.122449 --> 00:18:24,576.122449 Let me back up a bit here. 243 00:18:25,516.122449 --> 00:18:32,956.122449 Going to your doctor without a list of some sort or something written down to discuss, it's not recommended. 244 00:18:33,136.122449 --> 00:18:36,346.122449 Then the conversation will be one way. 245 00:18:36,616.122449 --> 00:18:38,536.122449 That's not how you want it to be. 246 00:18:38,686.122449 --> 00:18:40,876.122449 So be prepared for your appointment. 247 00:18:41,236.122449 --> 00:18:46,756.122449 When you see your doctor, you can bring a list of things to note are discuss. 248 00:18:46,996.122449 --> 00:18:50,266.122449 You can talk about your mental and physical health concerns. 249 00:18:50,656.122449 --> 00:18:51,16.122449 Right. 250 00:18:51,16.122449 --> 00:18:51,856.122449 Those downs. 251 00:18:52,286.122449 --> 00:18:59,36.122449 Pass the medical and psychological illnesses, family history of mental illness is so very important. 252 00:18:59,126.122449 --> 00:19:04,226.122449 You need to have that info medications you're taken, including side effects. 253 00:19:04,256.122449 --> 00:19:05,396.122449 You're experiencing. 254 00:19:05,756.122449 --> 00:19:08,546.122449 Natural dietary supplements you're taking as well. 255 00:19:08,756.122449 --> 00:19:17,576.122449 So if you're drinking certainties and taking certain supplements, you need to make sure you write those down or bring the bottle with you. 256 00:19:17,786.122449 --> 00:19:19,736.122449 Your nurses there will love you for that. 257 00:19:20,226.122449 --> 00:19:27,546.122449 Your lifestyle habits, such as exercise, your nutrition, smoking alcohol consumption and drug use. 258 00:19:27,576.122449 --> 00:19:30,66.122449 Look, they're not there to judge you. 259 00:19:30,396.122449 --> 00:19:36,156.122449 But they can't make the appropriate recommendations if you are not honest with them. 260 00:19:36,396.122449 --> 00:19:41,316.122449 So write these things down and even if you're feeling judged, guess what? Hey, it's okay. 261 00:19:41,586.122449 --> 00:19:45,96.122449 You're going to be one of 20 or so that they're seeing that day. 262 00:19:45,96.122449 --> 00:19:47,316.122449 So you just go and get what you need. 263 00:19:47,346.122449 --> 00:19:50,46.122449 Talk to them and step out smartly. 264 00:19:51,126.122449 --> 00:19:53,736.122449 Getting back to some of the journals I have. 265 00:19:53,856.122449 --> 00:19:55,956.122449 I reviewed one good example. 266 00:19:55,956.122449 --> 00:20:13,356.122449 I came across was from Delosa at Al 2009 in the journal of sexual medicine who conducted a research to explore the frequency of sexual dysfunctions in patients with bipolar disorder and unipolar depression. 267 00:20:13,386.122449 --> 00:20:16,296.122449 Remember I told you there are different types of depression. 268 00:20:17,16.122449 --> 00:20:36,336.122449 And that is beyond the scope of this podcast, but just so that, you know, In this research, it found that lifetime impairment in the sexual response cycle was significantly more common in patients with mood disorders compared to control subjects. 269 00:20:36,726.122449 --> 00:20:42,996.122449 Sexual dysfunctions were also significantly associated with lifetime suicide attempts. 270 00:20:43,386.122449 --> 00:20:51,366.122449 In patients with bipolar disorder and thoughts of death in patients with unipolar depression. 271 00:20:52,956.122449 --> 00:20:56,466.122449 This again is stuff you need to be aware of. 272 00:20:57,576.122449 --> 00:21:02,76.122449 There is nothing weird about you or don't feel condemned. 273 00:21:03,76.122449 --> 00:21:07,516.122449 If you were back there and saying, ha so that's what it is. 274 00:21:08,56.122449 --> 00:21:09,406.122449 The next step should be. 275 00:21:10,6.122449 --> 00:21:12,406.122449 Ah, I need to make an appointment. 276 00:21:13,66.122449 --> 00:21:18,256.122449 Another key area of research is depression and sexual dysfunction. 277 00:21:18,586.122449 --> 00:21:24,16.122449 Many studies explore the link between depression and various forms of sexual dysfunction. 278 00:21:24,16.122449 --> 00:21:24,676.122449 For example. 279 00:21:25,156.122449 --> 00:21:37,96.122449 Research has shown that individuals with depression often experienced decreased libido desire to have sex difficulty achieving orgasm. 280 00:21:37,156.122449 --> 00:21:38,476.122449 Now let me pause here. 281 00:21:38,926.122449 --> 00:21:42,406.122449 If you never or seldom had orgasms. 282 00:21:42,976.122449 --> 00:21:46,306.122449 Then it would be tough to know if depression is a culprit. 283 00:21:46,846.122449 --> 00:21:47,296.122449 Right. 284 00:21:48,46.122449 --> 00:21:51,316.122449 Then there is also erectile dysfunction in men. 285 00:21:51,916.122449 --> 00:21:54,526.122449 That's the upcoming featured podcasts as well. 286 00:21:54,796.122449 --> 00:22:01,156.122449 So could it be, you're asking this question because you're not feeling your usual sexual self. 287 00:22:01,936.122449 --> 00:22:04,576.122449 Whatever usual may look like for you. 288 00:22:05,366.122449 --> 00:22:05,666.122449 Hmm. 289 00:22:06,206.122449 --> 00:22:06,626.122449 If. 290 00:22:07,376.122449 --> 00:22:11,126.122449 If you have been diagnosed with depression and noted, no change. 291 00:22:11,516.122449 --> 00:22:13,886.122449 Because there's nothing to change. 292 00:22:14,906.122449 --> 00:22:16,526.122449 Then we should seriously talk. 293 00:22:17,186.122449 --> 00:22:18,116.122449 Sex. 294 00:22:19,136.122449 --> 00:22:19,946.122449 Orgasm. 295 00:22:20,726.122449 --> 00:22:22,316.122449 That's like the desert. 296 00:22:23,246.122449 --> 00:22:28,646.122449 But if there's nothing broken, That is dessert is not your thing. 297 00:22:29,66.122449 --> 00:22:32,816.122449 Then there's nothing to change or fix in the sex department. 298 00:22:33,416.122449 --> 00:22:36,596.122449 Though I bet to differ on that. 299 00:22:37,736.122449 --> 00:22:39,836.122449 Let's treat the depression though. 300 00:22:40,826.122449 --> 00:22:43,976.122449 You may think you're having great sex. 301 00:22:44,906.122449 --> 00:22:46,346.122449 But if you're depressed. 302 00:22:47,156.122449 --> 00:22:49,46.122449 And you treat your depression. 303 00:22:49,826.122449 --> 00:22:56,516.122449 Is there a possibility that you can have even better sex? Imagine that. 304 00:22:57,846.122449 --> 00:22:59,376.122449 This is a young podcast. 305 00:22:59,616.122449 --> 00:23:05,526.122449 So I'm aware that about half of you are Christians, as you may have surmised. 306 00:23:05,556.122449 --> 00:23:09,366.122449 This is not about converting anyone to follow Christ though. 307 00:23:09,366.122449 --> 00:23:11,946.122449 I don't mind planting a seed here or there. 308 00:23:12,636.122449 --> 00:23:24,96.122449 But I am using his gifts to impart knowledge and understanding to everyone about certain things that will remove the wall. 309 00:23:24,216.122449 --> 00:23:29,76.122449 That's preventing you from lock-in in the direction of Christ. 310 00:23:29,676.122449 --> 00:23:35,466.122449 It is by hope that you all realize that Christ is not wrapped up in religiosity. 311 00:23:36,186.122449 --> 00:23:42,66.122449 I may not be doing things a hundred percent, but God does equip the called. 312 00:23:42,306.122449 --> 00:23:44,916.122449 So pardon me while I get dressed. 313 00:23:46,346.122449 --> 00:23:51,446.122449 As a Christ follower, I grew up learning that God will take care of everything. 314 00:23:51,446.122449 --> 00:23:53,846.122449 And there may be some of you thinking that. 315 00:23:54,176.122449 --> 00:23:56,876.122449 Someone is less spiritual. 316 00:23:57,116.122449 --> 00:23:59,246.122449 If they're diagnosed with depression. 317 00:23:59,666.122449 --> 00:24:01,676.122449 Because after all. 318 00:24:02,6.122449 --> 00:24:04,646.122449 The joy of the Lord is your strength. 319 00:24:05,516.122449 --> 00:24:14,846.122449 The joy of the Lord is indeed our strength, but I have learned that the Bible is an instruction book on how to live. 320 00:24:15,116.122449 --> 00:24:20,846.122449 How to serve Jesus through serving people, how to bring God's kingdom to earth. 321 00:24:21,146.122449 --> 00:24:24,716.122449 The Bible is not a religious book, per se. 322 00:24:25,16.122449 --> 00:24:35,366.122449 If you search the pages of the Bible, you will find many saints who were depressed and lots to be said about intimacy and sex to. 323 00:24:36,326.122449 --> 00:24:37,136.122449 Good stuff. 324 00:24:37,886.122449 --> 00:24:38,786.122449 I can hear you. 325 00:24:38,786.122449 --> 00:24:39,626.122449 I can hear you. 326 00:24:39,776.122449 --> 00:24:46,316.122449 What Bible are you reading? Who was depressed, who talk about intimacy in the Bible. 327 00:24:46,766.122449 --> 00:24:47,246.122449 Okay. 328 00:24:47,246.122449 --> 00:24:48,656.122449 My sister friends. 329 00:24:48,686.122449 --> 00:24:49,436.122449 I love you. 330 00:24:49,436.122449 --> 00:24:50,456.122449 Here we go. 331 00:24:50,486.122449 --> 00:24:54,116.122449 Who was depressed or face mental health issues in the Bible. 332 00:24:54,776.122449 --> 00:24:57,146.122449 Read up about king David. 333 00:24:57,656.122449 --> 00:24:58,736.122449 Yes indeed. 334 00:24:59,186.122449 --> 00:25:00,176.122449 Elijah. 335 00:25:00,626.122449 --> 00:25:05,456.122449 Fell into despair and even ask God to take his life. 336 00:25:06,176.122449 --> 00:25:10,646.122449 Naomi experience grief after losing her husband. 337 00:25:11,96.122449 --> 00:25:12,326.122449 And sons. 338 00:25:12,566.122449 --> 00:25:20,516.122449 Oh, what about job? And Hannah whose life was marked with anguish of unfulfilled, longing. 339 00:25:21,206.122449 --> 00:25:23,666.122449 Needing and wanting to have a child. 340 00:25:24,296.122449 --> 00:25:31,886.122449 That should suffice, but there are more that my Bible scholars in the podcast land can make known. 341 00:25:32,576.122449 --> 00:25:34,76.122449 I'm not a woman of the cloth. 342 00:25:34,496.122449 --> 00:25:36,626.122449 No leadership position in the church. 343 00:25:36,626.122449 --> 00:25:40,826.122449 I am not an elder or a deacon or anything of the sort. 344 00:25:41,426.122449 --> 00:25:46,16.122449 I'm simply trying to respond to God's love mercy and grace. 345 00:25:46,346.122449 --> 00:25:48,146.122449 By removing some lies. 346 00:25:48,596.122449 --> 00:25:52,196.122449 My scholarly background was not just meant for me. 347 00:25:52,586.122449 --> 00:25:54,626.122449 It's for you to sister friends. 348 00:25:54,866.122449 --> 00:26:07,716.122449 And as you can see, I like digging into stuff and researching and looking up things not only to apply in the cancel world, but to answer questions that you, my listeners have post to me. 349 00:26:08,526.122449 --> 00:26:09,696.122449 I love learning. 350 00:26:10,246.122449 --> 00:26:19,96.122449 Life is all about learning and that does not exclude the learning about Christ and what he has to say about some of these topics. 351 00:26:19,796.122449 --> 00:26:28,316.122449 Want to know what the Bible have to say about intimacy insects? Well, start by learning how to speak to your spouse. 352 00:26:28,886.122449 --> 00:26:30,566.122449 Awaken his loins. 353 00:26:31,946.122449 --> 00:26:32,756.122449 Check out. 354 00:26:33,206.122449 --> 00:26:36,596.122449 The book of songs is filled with. 355 00:26:37,346.122449 --> 00:26:38,696.122449 Raunchy love letters. 356 00:26:38,756.122449 --> 00:26:40,766.122449 Can I say raunchy? It's in the Bible. 357 00:26:40,766.122449 --> 00:26:45,716.122449 So we'll just say it's some surprisingly good stuff. 358 00:26:45,986.122449 --> 00:26:51,716.122449 The songs of Solomon is tucked away in the old Testament just before Isaiah wait. 359 00:26:52,226.122449 --> 00:26:54,416.122449 Let me look at the flow for you. 360 00:26:54,626.122449 --> 00:26:58,316.122449 Um, it's songs. 361 00:26:58,706.122449 --> 00:26:59,936.122449 Then Proverbs. 362 00:27:00,986.122449 --> 00:27:02,36.122449 Ecclesiastes. 363 00:27:02,36.122449 --> 00:27:10,706.122449 These songs of Solomon and then Isaiah C, you don't need to have all the books of the Bible memorized to serve God. 364 00:27:11,136.122449 --> 00:27:11,616.122449 But. 365 00:27:12,306.122449 --> 00:27:13,206.122449 I tell you what. 366 00:27:13,566.122449 --> 00:27:22,86.122449 Read the books, songs of Solomon, you may want to try in the English standard version of the Elizabethan king James version. 367 00:27:22,86.122449 --> 00:27:23,496.122449 Doesn't jive for you. 368 00:27:23,976.122449 --> 00:27:25,206.122449 But read it in. 369 00:27:25,656.122449 --> 00:27:28,536.122449 One off V context that you can relate to. 370 00:27:28,536.122449 --> 00:27:31,746.122449 And I V E S V message. 371 00:27:31,776.122449 --> 00:27:32,976.122449 Whatever works for you. 372 00:27:33,306.122449 --> 00:27:35,556.122449 But don't skip over songs of Solomon. 373 00:27:36,6.122449 --> 00:27:40,146.122449 Hear them talk about loins and bosoms and all that good stuff. 374 00:27:40,596.122449 --> 00:27:41,646.122449 This is the friend. 375 00:27:41,856.122449 --> 00:27:43,896.122449 It is in the Bible. 376 00:27:44,166.122449 --> 00:27:50,46.122449 God loves us and want us to know that he felt about all these things that he knew. 377 00:27:50,46.122449 --> 00:27:51,276.122449 We would think about. 378 00:27:51,636.122449 --> 00:27:51,906.122449 Hmm. 379 00:27:52,716.122449 --> 00:27:56,286.122449 The other part of your question am about disliking medicine. 380 00:27:56,556.122449 --> 00:27:59,436.122449 It's all about the details and type. 381 00:28:00,6.122449 --> 00:28:04,956.122449 I too though, a physician grew up in a time in the Caribbean. 382 00:28:05,166.122449 --> 00:28:15,426.122449 When my mom would boil Sarah CT, four different ailments are rubbed down my body with bay rum to quieten the fever very few and far between. 383 00:28:15,426.122449 --> 00:28:22,686.122449 Do we ever use actual purchased medicine? And visits to the doctor was fought. 384 00:28:22,746.122449 --> 00:28:28,116.122449 Well, it was deemed only necessary when roots, teas and mixtures and different stuff. 385 00:28:28,146.122449 --> 00:28:28,926.122449 Couldn't work. 386 00:28:29,406.122449 --> 00:28:37,206.122449 So I too, though, adopter do not like the idea of taking a medicine that causes side effects. 387 00:28:37,506.122449 --> 00:28:40,656.122449 Then taken another to fix the side effects from that. 388 00:28:40,656.122449 --> 00:28:43,146.122449 And if that causes side effects, then another medicine. 389 00:28:43,596.122449 --> 00:28:44,856.122449 You get the drift. 390 00:28:44,946.122449 --> 00:28:47,946.122449 It's a spiral that requires control. 391 00:28:48,556.122449 --> 00:28:56,266.122449 That answer requires some realism though, right? It begins with how bad is the first side effects. 392 00:28:56,716.122449 --> 00:29:09,46.122449 Is it tolerable? That's a discussion for you and your medical team to have, I am a big advocate for getting to know one, talking to your health manager team about your medical concerns. 393 00:29:09,376.122449 --> 00:29:17,656.122449 So if you have a diagnosis that require medicine, Take the medicine you want to drink your tea and have some roots. 394 00:29:17,896.122449 --> 00:29:24,646.122449 Let them know that you're going to drink the tea and have these roots too, but take the medicine they're giving you. 395 00:29:24,946.122449 --> 00:29:34,36.122449 If you're having some side effects, how bad is the side effect? You know, I did, um, a blog many moons ago. 396 00:29:34,36.122449 --> 00:29:35,986.122449 I'm going to have to do a podcast on it. 397 00:29:36,346.122449 --> 00:29:37,816.122449 That everything natural. 398 00:29:38,626.122449 --> 00:29:42,676.122449 Isn't natural because it doesn't cause side effects. 399 00:29:43,36.122449 --> 00:29:46,246.122449 You can have side effects from things that are deemed natural to. 400 00:29:46,696.122449 --> 00:29:50,986.122449 And I will get into that another time, but yes, yes, you can. 401 00:29:52,196.122449 --> 00:30:09,176.122449 This goes beyond medication for depression, but any diagnosis, treatment, or medication with that being said, there are a significant body of research focusing on the sexual side effects of antidepressant medication. 402 00:30:09,416.122449 --> 00:30:20,756.122449 That is medication that you take for depression, particularly one call selective serotonin re-uptake inhibitors, or S S our eyes. 403 00:30:21,116.122449 --> 00:30:25,766.122449 You hear them mentioning it in commercials? Listen for it. 404 00:30:26,186.122449 --> 00:30:30,776.122449 SSR eyes these studies investigate the prevalence. 405 00:30:31,106.122449 --> 00:30:34,46.122449 Nature and management of sexual dysfunction. 406 00:30:34,376.122449 --> 00:30:37,976.122449 Associated with antidepressants use. 407 00:30:38,156.122449 --> 00:30:42,26.122449 So yes, the side effects can lead to sexual dysfunction. 408 00:30:42,866.122449 --> 00:30:48,956.122449 If there was one to talk about in the beginning though, sister Frank, just being honest and real with you. 409 00:30:49,176.122449 --> 00:30:54,606.122449 If you're not having sex, you're not enjoying sex and you're not having an orgasm. 410 00:30:55,86.122449 --> 00:31:00,216.122449 And then you were diagnosed with depression and you start taking this medication. 411 00:31:00,216.122449 --> 00:31:02,106.122449 You cannot say the medication. 412 00:31:02,376.122449 --> 00:31:05,706.122449 Is causing you to have sexual dysfunction. 413 00:31:05,976.122449 --> 00:31:11,596.122449 It could be that the depression was causing it, but it can't be the medicine. 414 00:31:11,626.122449 --> 00:31:17,506.122449 And then you stop taking the medicine for depression because it says, oh, it causes sexual dysfunction. 415 00:31:17,776.122449 --> 00:31:20,536.122449 But you weren't functioned in sexually before. 416 00:31:21,566.122449 --> 00:31:22,556.122449 Being honest. 417 00:31:23,656.122449 --> 00:31:26,296.122449 You get to decide if you're going to. 418 00:31:26,896.122449 --> 00:31:29,116.122449 Not tell yourself the truth. 419 00:31:30,16.122449 --> 00:31:35,146.122449 So are you going to give up sex because you are depressed? I think not. 420 00:31:35,806.122449 --> 00:31:37,36.122449 Where there's a will. 421 00:31:37,96.122449 --> 00:31:38,236.122449 There's a way. 422 00:31:38,746.122449 --> 00:31:47,296.122449 So can you use sex as a treatment for depression? Not really, at least not by itself per my brief research. 423 00:31:47,566.122449 --> 00:31:52,696.122449 It does provide that momentary good feeling from the serotonin and hormones. 424 00:31:53,386.122449 --> 00:31:54,946.122449 But it is temporary. 425 00:31:54,976.122449 --> 00:31:56,176.122449 It's a surge. 426 00:31:56,326.122449 --> 00:32:10,46.122449 How long, and how often would you need to have sex to use as a treatment modality? It does release all those feel good? What knots that M mentioned in her question? So. 427 00:32:10,936.122449 --> 00:32:18,836.122449 What that really work? While you're not required to go around grinning like a shier cat all day long. 428 00:32:19,316.122449 --> 00:32:26,246.122449 Medication does offer a more balanced long-term effect for treating depression. 429 00:32:26,636.122449 --> 00:32:30,476.122449 And it does matter the type of depression that you have as well. 430 00:32:30,836.122449 --> 00:32:32,596.122449 As previously discussed. 431 00:32:33,486.122449 --> 00:32:37,506.122449 If you were diagnosed with depression and you take this medication. 432 00:32:38,556.122449 --> 00:32:43,986.122449 You may be surprised at the many things that can also change. 433 00:32:44,346.122449 --> 00:32:46,56.122449 You may come to terms. 434 00:32:46,566.122449 --> 00:32:48,516.122449 To saying, oh, wow. 435 00:32:49,26.122449 --> 00:32:54,606.122449 I didn't realize this was less or that was less, or that was being affected. 436 00:32:55,206.122449 --> 00:32:58,746.122449 It can also give a positive outcome. 437 00:32:59,646.122449 --> 00:33:01,836.122449 For the love of the almighty. 438 00:33:02,196.122449 --> 00:33:07,356.122449 Stop self-diagnosing you could be hurting yourself. 439 00:33:07,926.122449 --> 00:33:12,246.122449 Let your primary care medical team do what they do best. 440 00:33:12,566.122449 --> 00:33:27,56.122449 Based on your answers to the depression evaluation questions for a set period of time noted, they can make appropriate suggestion and know that someone has suggestions may have nothing to do with medication. 441 00:33:27,326.122449 --> 00:33:29,426.122449 You may just need to do some yoga. 442 00:33:29,696.122449 --> 00:33:31,646.122449 You may need to do some distress. 443 00:33:31,796.122449 --> 00:33:34,76.122449 You may need to do some meditation. 444 00:33:34,286.122449 --> 00:33:38,246.122449 They don't always right away dump medicine on you. 445 00:33:38,636.122449 --> 00:33:41,396.122449 It all starts with a conversation. 446 00:33:42,236.122449 --> 00:33:43,556.122449 Look, sister, friends. 447 00:33:44,276.122449 --> 00:33:47,456.122449 Intimacy and sex is a part of life. 448 00:33:48,116.122449 --> 00:33:52,166.122449 Don't let depression steal that away from you. 449 00:33:54,6.122449 --> 00:34:02,316.122449 Well, sister, friend, I know you have choices, so I thank you for tuning into Intimacy After podcast. 450 00:34:02,736.122449 --> 00:34:11,286.122449 You may subscribe for bimonthly alerts or stay in the know by visiting my website@queenquanta.com. 451 00:34:11,526.122449 --> 00:34:15,671.122449 That's Queen Q-U-A-N-T a.com. 452 00:34:16,441.122449 --> 00:34:24,816.122449 Until next time, remember, a life without Intimacy is like your favorite meal without salt. 453 00:34:25,701.122449 --> 00:34:28,321.122449 Ladies, let's spice it up. 454 00:34:28,821.122449 --> 00:34:32,111.122449 Life is beautiful, and God is awesome. 455 00:34:32,681.122449 --> 00:34:35,625.960449 This is Queen, signing out.
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Come on inside. 9 00:00:49,626.12244898 --> 00:00:57,276.12244898 Hello and welcome inside the system, friends to another episode of intimacy after. 10 00:00:57,666.12244898 --> 00:01:00,666.12244898 I am so excited to be talking about today's topics. 11 00:01:00,666.12244898 --> 00:01:02,556.12244898 So I hope you are ready. 12 00:01:03,66.12244898 --> 00:01:05,766.12244898 It used to be that mental health was a taboo. 13 00:01:06,366.12244898 --> 00:01:08,556.12244898 Thankfully though, not totally. 14 00:01:08,616.12244898 --> 00:01:13,176.12244898 Unstigmatized it is remarkably better. 15 00:01:13,266.12244898 --> 00:01:20,406.12244898 Wouldn't you agree? I have witnessed a change since I started my journey in medicine over 20 plus years ago. 16 00:01:20,916.12244898 --> 00:01:24,666.12244898 Especially for those in the black and brown communities. 17 00:01:25,56.12244898 --> 00:01:29,526.12244898 You are seeking assistance more and more? Bravo. 18 00:01:29,526.12244898 --> 00:01:30,876.12244898 My sister friend. 19 00:01:31,206.12244898 --> 00:01:33,516.12244898 Mental health is vast. 20 00:01:33,756.12244898 --> 00:01:36,966.12244898 It is as wide as it is deep. 21 00:01:37,326.12244898 --> 00:01:44,926.12244898 I have made mention in past podcasts, but after receiving specific questions about sex and depression. 22 00:01:45,646.12244898 --> 00:01:49,6.12244898 Thought I would gingerly take a deeper look. 23 00:01:49,306.12244898 --> 00:01:55,426.12244898 I do have colleagues who are awesome counselors on depression and those who are doing great. 24 00:01:55,696.12244898 --> 00:01:58,456.12244898 In the sex field, but combined. 25 00:01:58,666.12244898 --> 00:02:00,136.12244898 Mm, no. 26 00:02:00,646.12244898 --> 00:02:02,446.12244898 Most, not all. 27 00:02:02,476.12244898 --> 00:02:08,26.12244898 Most psychiatrists, psychologists, counselors, et cetera, will treat your depression. 28 00:02:08,566.12244898 --> 00:02:13,756.12244898 But get quite uncomfortable when have to discuss sex. 29 00:02:14,236.12244898 --> 00:02:18,986.12244898 Why well, talking about sex is a Pandora box. 30 00:02:19,136.12244898 --> 00:02:24,956.12244898 There are so many different practices and preferences that venture in there. 31 00:02:24,956.12244898 --> 00:02:38,276.12244898 Put one at risk for judging and being judged then the sex therapist have their hands full with lots of things to uncover dealing with mental health and its huge scope. 32 00:02:38,626.12244898 --> 00:02:41,386.12244898 Not something they're truly interested in. 33 00:02:42,166.12244898 --> 00:02:45,796.12244898 So my sister friend, here we are. 34 00:02:46,66.12244898 --> 00:02:52,366.12244898 Let's see what I can do to bring the two together in a short podcast. 35 00:02:54,516.12244898 --> 00:02:55,686.12244898 You ask me. 36 00:02:56,136.12244898 --> 00:03:02,46.12244898 Can I use sex as a treatment for depression? It does release all those feel good. 37 00:03:02,46.12244898 --> 00:03:08,316.12244898 Want knots? Can I just have sex and feel good all the time? I'm not big on medicine and stuff. 38 00:03:09,516.12244898 --> 00:03:13,236.12244898 You did not provide permission to use your first name in the voice message. 39 00:03:13,476.12244898 --> 00:03:15,756.12244898 So I'll just say the first letter. 40 00:03:16,116.12244898 --> 00:03:16,416.12244898 Am. 41 00:03:17,316.12244898 --> 00:03:21,396.12244898 Well, M that is a very loaded question. 42 00:03:21,636.12244898 --> 00:03:22,686.12244898 Of our, a good question. 43 00:03:23,16.12244898 --> 00:03:26,706.12244898 That seems to make sense in a literal sort of way. 44 00:03:26,976.12244898 --> 00:03:27,396.12244898 Right. 45 00:03:27,666.12244898 --> 00:03:34,686.12244898 But let's unpack and look at it from a practical and a mild scientific sort of way. 46 00:03:35,706.12244898 --> 00:03:40,386.12244898 I want to interject here that as I'm unpacking AM's question. 47 00:03:40,716.12244898 --> 00:03:56,316.12244898 That I have a big advocate and proponent for saying there's no such thing as a silly question or a stupid question, right? I think it's on the part of the person who's being asked the question. 48 00:03:56,556.12244898 --> 00:04:01,266.12244898 To take the time to pause and disect what's being asked. 49 00:04:01,656.12244898 --> 00:04:02,346.12244898 Sure enough. 50 00:04:02,556.12244898 --> 00:04:09,906.12244898 Sometimes the person asking the question is not quite sure how to phrase the questions so that it's understood. 51 00:04:10,206.12244898 --> 00:04:15,66.12244898 And so I like to take the time to break down questions as they are asked. 52 00:04:15,516.12244898 --> 00:04:25,956.12244898 I know some times I say the questions ask, or I repeat the questions that are asked by some of my listeners and I get feedback that, oh, well that's a silly question. 53 00:04:26,136.12244898 --> 00:04:27,156.12244898 Well, not really. 54 00:04:27,426.12244898 --> 00:04:31,686.12244898 I want this platform to be a place where your questions can be honored. 55 00:04:32,46.12244898 --> 00:04:36,156.12244898 And I will do my best to break things down and dig deeper. 56 00:04:36,396.12244898 --> 00:04:42,456.12244898 And you may be asking questions that you're not even really aware or quite sure of what to ask. 57 00:04:42,546.12244898 --> 00:04:43,746.12244898 Well, that's what I'm here for. 58 00:04:43,956.12244898 --> 00:04:47,286.12244898 Let's break it down and look at what Emma's asking. 59 00:04:48,56.12244898 --> 00:04:48,356.12244898 Right. 60 00:04:48,566.12244898 --> 00:04:55,196.12244898 So the question is, can I use sex as a treatment for depression? It does release all those feel. 61 00:04:55,196.12244898 --> 00:04:56,36.12244898 Good watt knots. 62 00:04:56,36.12244898 --> 00:05:00,986.12244898 Can I just have sex and feel good all the time? I'm not big on medicine and stuff. 63 00:05:01,616.12244898 --> 00:05:05,576.12244898 So I wanted to do a little research on. 64 00:05:06,296.12244898 --> 00:05:10,406.12244898 This to see if anyone else actually looked into this before. 65 00:05:10,946.12244898 --> 00:05:12,176.12244898 Yes research. 66 00:05:12,836.12244898 --> 00:05:15,836.12244898 I am a doctor, stop acting surprise. 67 00:05:16,106.12244898 --> 00:05:19,256.12244898 I want to make sure that I am given you. 68 00:05:19,796.12244898 --> 00:05:20,456.12244898 Good. 69 00:05:20,546.12244898 --> 00:05:25,76.12244898 An adequate answers to your questions, right? Your question is important. 70 00:05:25,76.12244898 --> 00:05:27,416.12244898 Em, and others have the same question. 71 00:05:27,806.12244898 --> 00:05:29,156.12244898 Or thoughts too. 72 00:05:29,156.12244898 --> 00:05:31,796.12244898 So I wanted to give it my full attention. 73 00:05:32,36.12244898 --> 00:05:32,666.12244898 Thank you. 74 00:05:32,666.12244898 --> 00:05:33,236.12244898 Ma'am. 75 00:05:33,746.12244898 --> 00:05:35,126.12244898 I didn't know. 76 00:05:35,426.12244898 --> 00:05:42,386.12244898 There are journals called the journal of sexual medicine and archives of sexual behavior. 77 00:05:42,476.12244898 --> 00:05:45,626.12244898 Like what it does make sense. 78 00:05:45,986.12244898 --> 00:05:46,796.12244898 I guess. 79 00:05:47,216.12244898 --> 00:05:52,166.12244898 But I was too deep in cancer treatment and oncology stuff to look up and breathe or. 80 00:05:52,556.12244898 --> 00:05:54,506.12244898 Talk about such things back then. 81 00:05:55,76.12244898 --> 00:05:55,856.12244898 Thank in Jesus. 82 00:05:55,886.12244898 --> 00:06:02,306.12244898 I'm able to step away for awhile from that journey that began back in 1999, pursuing medicine. 83 00:06:03,56.12244898 --> 00:06:04,796.12244898 But medicine is in my blood. 84 00:06:05,546.12244898 --> 00:06:08,726.12244898 The journal of affective disorder and the depression. 85 00:06:08,996.12244898 --> 00:06:10,316.12244898 And anxiety journal. 86 00:06:10,526.12244898 --> 00:06:11,996.12244898 That's the norm for me. 87 00:06:12,446.12244898 --> 00:06:14,996.12244898 Here I am learning something new. 88 00:06:15,416.12244898 --> 00:06:16,136.12244898 You see. 89 00:06:16,586.12244898 --> 00:06:17,96.12244898 Thanks. 90 00:06:17,156.12244898 --> 00:06:17,756.12244898 Em. 91 00:06:18,666.12244898 --> 00:06:21,726.12244898 My little research in the area of sex and depression. 92 00:06:21,726.12244898 --> 00:06:29,496.12244898 I had limitations and ethical consideration and often these research admittedly. 93 00:06:30,126.12244898 --> 00:06:32,646.12244898 State that they faced challenges. 94 00:06:32,646.12244898 --> 00:06:39,936.12244898 And some of these challenges include difficulty in recruiting, participant potential reporting biases. 95 00:06:40,446.12244898 --> 00:06:44,616.12244898 Ethical consideration in studying vulnerable populations. 96 00:06:45,216.12244898 --> 00:06:55,236.12244898 And the complexity is an isolating variables due to the multifaceted nature of both depression and mental health. 97 00:06:55,596.12244898 --> 00:06:57,426.12244898 And I want to add to that. 98 00:06:58,86.12244898 --> 00:07:00,216.12244898 The many shades of sex. 99 00:07:01,266.12244898 --> 00:07:04,686.12244898 Another reason why your question is so deep. 100 00:07:04,746.12244898 --> 00:07:12,966.12244898 M is because we have to peel back and look at several questions in an offer itself. 101 00:07:13,116.12244898 --> 00:07:15,396.12244898 Your question is quite layer. 102 00:07:15,636.12244898 --> 00:07:16,296.12244898 So. 103 00:07:16,956.12244898 --> 00:07:30,276.12244898 We want to look at what is depression and how do you know you're depressed? Should I assume that you have already been officially diagnosed with depression or is this self-diagnosis. 104 00:07:30,886.12244898 --> 00:07:42,316.12244898 If you're diagnosed with depression am, then another question is what is the impact of depression? On your sexual health on the flip side. 105 00:07:42,736.12244898 --> 00:07:47,506.12244898 What is the effect of sexual activity? On depression symptoms. 106 00:07:48,736.12244898 --> 00:07:50,266.12244898 Is it as you think. 107 00:07:50,656.12244898 --> 00:07:54,796.12244898 Or are there other unpleasant side effects to think about. 108 00:07:55,516.12244898 --> 00:07:57,406.12244898 Sex having side effects. 109 00:07:58,126.12244898 --> 00:07:58,966.12244898 That's new. 110 00:07:58,996.12244898 --> 00:07:59,476.12244898 Right. 111 00:07:59,956.12244898 --> 00:08:03,886.12244898 Then there's an influence of antidepressants on sexual health. 112 00:08:04,366.12244898 --> 00:08:05,446.12244898 You're not alone. 113 00:08:05,836.12244898 --> 00:08:08,266.12244898 Not many like to take medications. 114 00:08:08,566.12244898 --> 00:08:17,56.12244898 But sometimes the body needs a little help to correct certain changes in the brain and other imbalances. 115 00:08:17,356.12244898 --> 00:08:23,536.12244898 There are also gender differences in the relationship between depression and sex. 116 00:08:23,806.12244898 --> 00:08:28,246.12244898 The way that male and female respond to both are different. 117 00:08:28,276.12244898 --> 00:08:34,486.12244898 And the way you respond is also different from others, different from me. 118 00:08:35,26.12244898 --> 00:08:42,176.12244898 Does sexual satisfaction play a role in mental health? Em, there you have it. 119 00:08:42,566.12244898 --> 00:08:44,186.12244898 Lots of hidden questions. 120 00:08:44,456.12244898 --> 00:08:45,506.12244898 Within yours. 121 00:08:45,956.12244898 --> 00:08:47,96.12244898 Where to start. 122 00:08:47,996.12244898 --> 00:08:51,656.12244898 Let's look at your question again to stay on track here. 123 00:08:51,956.12244898 --> 00:08:57,266.12244898 Can I use sex as a treatment for depression? Let's start with the first part. 124 00:08:57,836.12244898 --> 00:09:00,926.12244898 Sex as a potential treatment for depression. 125 00:09:01,406.12244898 --> 00:09:02,666.12244898 Believe it or not. 126 00:09:02,846.12244898 --> 00:09:09,416.12244898 Em, sister, friends, you all are scientists and researchers, and don't even know it. 127 00:09:10,496.12244898 --> 00:09:21,956.12244898 There are some studies that have examined whether sexual activities can have a mood enhancing effect and potentially alleviate depressive symptoms. 128 00:09:22,406.12244898 --> 00:09:30,996.12244898 Imagine that, huh? This research area often looks at the release of neurotransmitters and hormones that during sex. 129 00:09:31,416.12244898 --> 00:09:34,566.12244898 The feel good stuff and whatnot that M refers to. 130 00:09:35,416.12244898 --> 00:09:38,236.12244898 To show the complexities of sex and depression. 131 00:09:38,506.12244898 --> 00:09:42,106.12244898 These studies look at different aspects of mental health. 132 00:09:42,586.12244898 --> 00:09:45,436.12244898 There are different types of depressions as well. 133 00:09:45,496.12244898 --> 00:09:49,996.12244898 Did you know that? Not that we're going to forget about the sexual dysfunction part. 134 00:09:50,506.12244898 --> 00:10:00,406.12244898 But there's also a serious potential issue when it comes to certain types of depression that can lead to increase risk of suicide. 135 00:10:01,96.12244898 --> 00:10:03,676.12244898 Taken one's own life. 136 00:10:04,36.12244898 --> 00:10:09,526.12244898 And suicide discussion came front and center while I was still serving in the army. 137 00:10:09,916.12244898 --> 00:10:16,546.12244898 Many young soldiers would return from conflict depressed and what know what to do about it. 138 00:10:17,566.12244898 --> 00:10:19,336.12244898 Some would not seek help. 139 00:10:20,176.12244898 --> 00:10:22,36.12244898 Trying to be tough. 140 00:10:22,606.12244898 --> 00:10:25,906.12244898 And this was evident in the rise of suicide. 141 00:10:26,716.12244898 --> 00:10:44,926.12244898 Kudos to the military for stepping up and creating sensitivity classes, teaching leadership and staff, what to look for, what changes would hint to someone who is experiencing depression and may even be at risk for suicide and so much more. 142 00:10:46,216.12244898 --> 00:10:53,176.12244898 Asking you about depression is now in most cases, a common part of the intake form. 143 00:10:53,416.12244898 --> 00:10:55,786.12244898 Whenever you visit your clinics. 144 00:10:56,416.12244898 --> 00:10:57,406.12244898 Sister Fran. 145 00:10:57,856.12244898 --> 00:11:00,586.12244898 Do you know, some common signs of depression. 146 00:11:01,846.12244898 --> 00:11:08,746.12244898 Here comes my disclaimer, just in case you're listening for the first time and hopping on this podcast. 147 00:11:09,256.12244898 --> 00:11:13,36.12244898 I am queen your family friendly cancer doc. 148 00:11:13,426.12244898 --> 00:11:14,896.12244898 Via the podcast. 149 00:11:15,16.12244898 --> 00:11:17,296.12244898 I am not a part of your medical team. 150 00:11:17,626.12244898 --> 00:11:20,296.12244898 I am not a counselor or psychiatrist. 151 00:11:20,596.12244898 --> 00:11:25,36.12244898 I have learned a lot over the years, taking care of my patients diagnosed with cancer. 152 00:11:25,246.12244898 --> 00:11:30,736.12244898 Many of the topics here are part of my common survivorship model for these patients. 153 00:11:31,66.12244898 --> 00:11:37,306.12244898 However, please ask your doctor about anything discussed on this podcast. 154 00:11:37,886.12244898 --> 00:11:50,386.12244898 If you review some of the questions that will be discussed later and find that you are at risk for depression or suicide seek help immediately. 155 00:11:51,46.12244898 --> 00:11:52,276.12244898 Don't delay. 156 00:11:53,436.12244898 --> 00:11:53,946.12244898 Okay. 157 00:11:54,666.12244898 --> 00:12:00,966.12244898 So there are many forms on the website that you can use to self evaluate. 158 00:12:01,176.12244898 --> 00:12:07,176.12244898 If you are depressed and depressed, mood can also be temporary based on life changes. 159 00:12:07,536.12244898 --> 00:12:12,666.12244898 You know, the mantra, speak with your primary care provider. 160 00:12:12,726.12244898 --> 00:12:13,116.12244898 Okay. 161 00:12:13,146.12244898 --> 00:12:13,656.12244898 Here it goes. 162 00:12:14,26.12244898 --> 00:12:19,216.12244898 So while you're swiping left or swiping up or checking out all those social media. 163 00:12:19,756.12244898 --> 00:12:21,46.12244898 Take a step back. 164 00:12:21,406.12244898 --> 00:12:26,296.12244898 To do some self evaluation and check out things that you could benefit from. 165 00:12:26,596.12244898 --> 00:12:29,386.12244898 Just go to the national Institute of mental health. 166 00:12:30,46.12244898 --> 00:12:38,176.12244898 And look up what ever questions you may have beat about depression, anxiety, or anything along those sorts. 167 00:12:38,806.12244898 --> 00:12:41,86.12244898 You can also go to CDC. 168 00:12:41,506.12244898 --> 00:12:47,836.12244898 And type in mental health conditions, specifically depression and anxiety. 169 00:12:48,76.12244898 --> 00:12:50,626.12244898 And you would also find information there. 170 00:12:51,286.12244898 --> 00:12:55,846.12244898 They will give good insights on the different types of depression. 171 00:12:56,326.12244898 --> 00:13:00,736.12244898 Common treatment and much more than this podcast can provide. 172 00:13:01,336.12244898 --> 00:13:03,406.12244898 Depression can affect people differently. 173 00:13:03,616.12244898 --> 00:13:07,156.12244898 And there are some common signs you can look for. 174 00:13:07,876.12244898 --> 00:13:09,766.12244898 If you are writing this down. 175 00:13:10,66.12244898 --> 00:13:14,926.12244898 I will give the big umbrella term with a few examples to follow. 176 00:13:16,496.12244898 --> 00:13:17,426.12244898 Here we go. 177 00:13:17,736.12244898 --> 00:13:18,396.12244898 Mood. 178 00:13:19,146.12244898 --> 00:13:24,906.12244898 Feeling sad, anxious or empty most days for more than two weeks. 179 00:13:25,686.12244898 --> 00:13:27,396.12244898 That is something to consider. 180 00:13:27,996.12244898 --> 00:13:36,456.12244898 However I can interject by saying I feel sad some days when I think about my mom, I miss her very much. 181 00:13:36,736.12244898 --> 00:13:39,766.12244898 I do have sad feelings and empty. 182 00:13:40,16.12244898 --> 00:13:42,956.12244898 Feeling some days, especially on Sundays. 183 00:13:43,316.12244898 --> 00:13:53,66.12244898 When we typically catch up about the week So there is a difference if your sadness is associated with the death of a loved one. 184 00:13:53,426.12244898 --> 00:13:57,326.12244898 Again, This is just for you to take note, right. 185 00:13:58,366.12244898 --> 00:13:59,206.12244898 Interest. 186 00:13:59,566.12244898 --> 00:14:03,196.12244898 Losing interest in activities that used to be fun. 187 00:14:03,796.12244898 --> 00:14:09,736.12244898 Are you too busy to have fun? Or depressed and don't feel like doing anything. 188 00:14:10,156.12244898 --> 00:14:19,486.12244898 If you used to go out for walks or go to the movies or go shopping, what are you doing instead? Sleep. 189 00:14:19,996.12244898 --> 00:14:29,926.12244898 Are you having trouble sleeping? Waking up too early or sleeping too much difficulty falling asleep or difficulty staying asleep. 190 00:14:30,746.12244898 --> 00:14:31,616.12244898 Make a note. 191 00:14:32,186.12244898 --> 00:14:32,966.12244898 Appetite. 192 00:14:33,656.12244898 --> 00:14:37,346.12244898 Are you eating more? Or less than usual. 193 00:14:37,676.12244898 --> 00:14:39,836.12244898 Or having no appetite at all. 194 00:14:40,766.12244898 --> 00:14:41,546.12244898 Energy. 195 00:14:42,86.12244898 --> 00:14:49,676.12244898 Are you feeling tired even after sleeping well or lacking energy? Thoughts. 196 00:14:50,156.12244898 --> 00:14:56,546.12244898 Are you feeling hopeless, pessimistic or guilty? Worthless or helpless. 197 00:14:57,536.12244898 --> 00:15:02,216.12244898 These are the things that can spiral very quickly. 198 00:15:02,636.12244898 --> 00:15:06,296.12244898 Then their heartbeat behaviors feeling irritable. 199 00:15:06,746.12244898 --> 00:15:10,46.12244898 Easily frustrated or just simply restless. 200 00:15:10,886.12244898 --> 00:15:18,86.12244898 Cognitive having trouble concentrating, remembering details or making decision. 201 00:15:18,476.12244898 --> 00:15:23,996.12244898 I Have far no off people who just have a difficult time making decision. 202 00:15:24,476.12244898 --> 00:15:29,336.12244898 For me, who is military, make a decision, even if it's the wrong one. 203 00:15:29,336.12244898 --> 00:15:31,166.12244898 You just think about it evaluating. 204 00:15:31,676.12244898 --> 00:15:32,96.12244898 Decide. 205 00:15:32,666.12244898 --> 00:15:37,166.12244898 For someone who go back and forth between three stuff who drive me bunkers. 206 00:15:37,676.12244898 --> 00:15:41,126.12244898 But that is a personality trait for some folks. 207 00:15:41,176.12244898 --> 00:15:43,816.12244898 If making decisions. 208 00:15:43,816.12244898 --> 00:15:44,986.12244898 Is difficult for you. 209 00:15:44,986.12244898 --> 00:15:46,366.12244898 And it's an ongoing thing. 210 00:15:46,756.12244898 --> 00:15:51,136.12244898 Then that may not be pointing to a cognitive issue leading to depression. 211 00:15:51,376.12244898 --> 00:15:53,656.12244898 It could be just your personality trait. 212 00:15:53,866.12244898 --> 00:16:02,956.12244898 If this is new, then you want to look deeper and you hear it comes, talk to your primary care about this. 213 00:16:03,616.12244898 --> 00:16:04,456.12244898 Physical. 214 00:16:04,786.12244898 --> 00:16:14,746.12244898 If you're experiencing aches and pains and headaches or stomach problems that don't improve with treatment, then you want to look a little bit deeper into that. 215 00:16:15,316.12244898 --> 00:16:17,266.12244898 I know for my listening audience. 216 00:16:17,266.12244898 --> 00:16:20,776.12244898 Most of you are over 40 and you're thinking. 217 00:16:21,316.12244898 --> 00:16:22,756.12244898 Aches and pains, if that. 218 00:16:23,776.12244898 --> 00:16:26,866.12244898 If that is what makes me depressed and I'm depressed all the time. 219 00:16:26,866.12244898 --> 00:16:28,96.12244898 Cause I'm always aching. 220 00:16:28,546.12244898 --> 00:16:31,906.12244898 And then pain, especially when it rains and the bones and that, and. 221 00:16:33,116.12244898 --> 00:16:35,576.12244898 No, that is not what I'm talking about. 222 00:16:36,146.12244898 --> 00:16:40,586.122449 So just to do a quick rundown on the areas I reviewed. 223 00:16:41,636.122449 --> 00:16:46,496.122449 If you think that you may be going through some depressive symptoms and you're not sure. 224 00:16:47,36.122449 --> 00:16:48,446.122449 Jot these down. 225 00:16:49,46.122449 --> 00:16:53,846.122449 Put a call into your primary care team and have a discussion. 226 00:16:54,686.122449 --> 00:16:59,246.122449 Mood and he sort of changes interest, losing. 227 00:16:59,906.122449 --> 00:17:02,216.122449 Interest in your activity, sleep. 228 00:17:02,696.122449 --> 00:17:09,566.122449 Appetite energy, your thoughts, behavior, cognitive, physical. 229 00:17:09,566.122449 --> 00:17:16,46.122449 Again, remember we say cognitive, we're talking about your brain and your thoughts and thinking and concentrating, right. 230 00:17:16,876.122449 --> 00:17:24,226.122449 If you feel depressed, you should make an appointment to see your doctor or a mental health professional as soon as possible. 231 00:17:24,676.122449 --> 00:17:27,286.122449 You can also talk to a friend or a loved one. 232 00:17:27,586.122449 --> 00:17:45,436.122449 Uh, faith leader or someone else you trust if you're reluctant to seek treatment, but remember that's a big burden to put on someone, right? If they're a friend or a loved one and you're depressed and you do the dumping and tell them all of that stuff, they can assist to a certain level. 233 00:17:46,456.122449 --> 00:17:50,956.122449 Let that decision be made with communication you have with your doctor. 234 00:17:51,136.122449 --> 00:17:55,396.122449 That's why it's so important for you to get to know your care team. 235 00:17:55,846.122449 --> 00:18:00,66.122449 So you know who you work with, so that you can reach out to someone you're comfortable. 236 00:18:00,276.122449 --> 00:18:01,806.122449 It's not always a physician. 237 00:18:01,806.122449 --> 00:18:03,636.122449 Sometimes it's a nurse practitioner. 238 00:18:03,906.122449 --> 00:18:06,336.122449 Uh, physician assistant or other. 239 00:18:06,636.122449 --> 00:18:10,26.122449 High-level caregivers that's within your team. 240 00:18:10,976.122449 --> 00:18:13,856.122449 You have to be prepared for your appointment. 241 00:18:14,396.122449 --> 00:18:21,926.122449 When you see your doctor, you can bring a list of things to note, including your mental and physical health concern. 242 00:18:22,956.122449 --> 00:18:24,576.122449 Let me back up a bit here. 243 00:18:25,516.122449 --> 00:18:32,956.122449 Going to your doctor without a list of some sort or something written down to discuss, it's not recommended. 244 00:18:33,136.122449 --> 00:18:36,346.122449 Then the conversation will be one way. 245 00:18:36,616.122449 --> 00:18:38,536.122449 That's not how you want it to be. 246 00:18:38,686.122449 --> 00:18:40,876.122449 So be prepared for your appointment. 247 00:18:41,236.122449 --> 00:18:46,756.122449 When you see your doctor, you can bring a list of things to note are discuss. 248 00:18:46,996.122449 --> 00:18:50,266.122449 You can talk about your mental and physical health concerns. 249 00:18:50,656.122449 --> 00:18:51,16.122449 Right. 250 00:18:51,16.122449 --> 00:18:51,856.122449 Those downs. 251 00:18:52,286.122449 --> 00:18:59,36.122449 Pass the medical and psychological illnesses, family history of mental illness is so very important. 252 00:18:59,126.122449 --> 00:19:04,226.122449 You need to have that info medications you're taken, including side effects. 253 00:19:04,256.122449 --> 00:19:05,396.122449 You're experiencing. 254 00:19:05,756.122449 --> 00:19:08,546.122449 Natural dietary supplements you're taking as well. 255 00:19:08,756.122449 --> 00:19:17,576.122449 So if you're drinking certainties and taking certain supplements, you need to make sure you write those down or bring the bottle with you. 256 00:19:17,786.122449 --> 00:19:19,736.122449 Your nurses there will love you for that. 257 00:19:20,226.122449 --> 00:19:27,546.122449 Your lifestyle habits, such as exercise, your nutrition, smoking alcohol consumption and drug use. 258 00:19:27,576.122449 --> 00:19:30,66.122449 Look, they're not there to judge you. 259 00:19:30,396.122449 --> 00:19:36,156.122449 But they can't make the appropriate recommendations if you are not honest with them. 260 00:19:36,396.122449 --> 00:19:41,316.122449 So write these things down and even if you're feeling judged, guess what? Hey, it's okay. 261 00:19:41,586.122449 --> 00:19:45,96.122449 You're going to be one of 20 or so that they're seeing that day. 262 00:19:45,96.122449 --> 00:19:47,316.122449 So you just go and get what you need. 263 00:19:47,346.122449 --> 00:19:50,46.122449 Talk to them and step out smartly. 264 00:19:51,126.122449 --> 00:19:53,736.122449 Getting back to some of the journals I have. 265 00:19:53,856.122449 --> 00:19:55,956.122449 I reviewed one good example. 266 00:19:55,956.122449 --> 00:20:13,356.122449 I came across was from Delosa at Al 2009 in the journal of sexual medicine who conducted a research to explore the frequency of sexual dysfunctions in patients with bipolar disorder and unipolar depression. 267 00:20:13,386.122449 --> 00:20:16,296.122449 Remember I told you there are different types of depression. 268 00:20:17,16.122449 --> 00:20:36,336.122449 And that is beyond the scope of this podcast, but just so that, you know, In this research, it found that lifetime impairment in the sexual response cycle was significantly more common in patients with mood disorders compared to control subjects. 269 00:20:36,726.122449 --> 00:20:42,996.122449 Sexual dysfunctions were also significantly associated with lifetime suicide attempts. 270 00:20:43,386.122449 --> 00:20:51,366.122449 In patients with bipolar disorder and thoughts of death in patients with unipolar depression. 271 00:20:52,956.122449 --> 00:20:56,466.122449 This again is stuff you need to be aware of. 272 00:20:57,576.122449 --> 00:21:02,76.122449 There is nothing weird about you or don't feel condemned. 273 00:21:03,76.122449 --> 00:21:07,516.122449 If you were back there and saying, ha so that's what it is. 274 00:21:08,56.122449 --> 00:21:09,406.122449 The next step should be. 275 00:21:10,6.122449 --> 00:21:12,406.122449 Ah, I need to make an appointment. 276 00:21:13,66.122449 --> 00:21:18,256.122449 Another key area of research is depression and sexual dysfunction. 277 00:21:18,586.122449 --> 00:21:24,16.122449 Many studies explore the link between depression and various forms of sexual dysfunction. 278 00:21:24,16.122449 --> 00:21:24,676.122449 For example. 279 00:21:25,156.122449 --> 00:21:37,96.122449 Research has shown that individuals with depression often experienced decreased libido desire to have sex difficulty achieving orgasm. 280 00:21:37,156.122449 --> 00:21:38,476.122449 Now let me pause here. 281 00:21:38,926.122449 --> 00:21:42,406.122449 If you never or seldom had orgasms. 282 00:21:42,976.122449 --> 00:21:46,306.122449 Then it would be tough to know if depression is a culprit. 283 00:21:46,846.122449 --> 00:21:47,296.122449 Right. 284 00:21:48,46.122449 --> 00:21:51,316.122449 Then there is also erectile dysfunction in men. 285 00:21:51,916.122449 --> 00:21:54,526.122449 That's the upcoming featured podcasts as well. 286 00:21:54,796.122449 --> 00:22:01,156.122449 So could it be, you're asking this question because you're not feeling your usual sexual self. 287 00:22:01,936.122449 --> 00:22:04,576.122449 Whatever usual may look like for you. 288 00:22:05,366.122449 --> 00:22:05,666.122449 Hmm. 289 00:22:06,206.122449 --> 00:22:06,626.122449 If. 290 00:22:07,376.122449 --> 00:22:11,126.122449 If you have been diagnosed with depression and noted, no change. 291 00:22:11,516.122449 --> 00:22:13,886.122449 Because there's nothing to change. 292 00:22:14,906.122449 --> 00:22:16,526.122449 Then we should seriously talk. 293 00:22:17,186.122449 --> 00:22:18,116.122449 Sex. 294 00:22:19,136.122449 --> 00:22:19,946.122449 Orgasm. 295 00:22:20,726.122449 --> 00:22:22,316.122449 That's like the desert. 296 00:22:23,246.122449 --> 00:22:28,646.122449 But if there's nothing broken, That is dessert is not your thing. 297 00:22:29,66.122449 --> 00:22:32,816.122449 Then there's nothing to change or fix in the sex department. 298 00:22:33,416.122449 --> 00:22:36,596.122449 Though I bet to differ on that. 299 00:22:37,736.122449 --> 00:22:39,836.122449 Let's treat the depression though. 300 00:22:40,826.122449 --> 00:22:43,976.122449 You may think you're having great sex. 301 00:22:44,906.122449 --> 00:22:46,346.122449 But if you're depressed. 302 00:22:47,156.122449 --> 00:22:49,46.122449 And you treat your depression. 303 00:22:49,826.122449 --> 00:22:56,516.122449 Is there a possibility that you can have even better sex? Imagine that. 304 00:22:57,846.122449 --> 00:22:59,376.122449 This is a young podcast. 305 00:22:59,616.122449 --> 00:23:05,526.122449 So I'm aware that about half of you are Christians, as you may have surmised. 306 00:23:05,556.122449 --> 00:23:09,366.122449 This is not about converting anyone to follow Christ though. 307 00:23:09,366.122449 --> 00:23:11,946.122449 I don't mind planting a seed here or there. 308 00:23:12,636.122449 --> 00:23:24,96.122449 But I am using his gifts to impart knowledge and understanding to everyone about certain things that will remove the wall. 309 00:23:24,216.122449 --> 00:23:29,76.122449 That's preventing you from lock-in in the direction of Christ. 310 00:23:29,676.122449 --> 00:23:35,466.122449 It is by hope that you all realize that Christ is not wrapped up in religiosity. 311 00:23:36,186.122449 --> 00:23:42,66.122449 I may not be doing things a hundred percent, but God does equip the called. 312 00:23:42,306.122449 --> 00:23:44,916.122449 So pardon me while I get dressed. 313 00:23:46,346.122449 --> 00:23:51,446.122449 As a Christ follower, I grew up learning that God will take care of everything. 314 00:23:51,446.122449 --> 00:23:53,846.122449 And there may be some of you thinking that. 315 00:23:54,176.122449 --> 00:23:56,876.122449 Someone is less spiritual. 316 00:23:57,116.122449 --> 00:23:59,246.122449 If they're diagnosed with depression. 317 00:23:59,666.122449 --> 00:24:01,676.122449 Because after all. 318 00:24:02,6.122449 --> 00:24:04,646.122449 The joy of the Lord is your strength. 319 00:24:05,516.122449 --> 00:24:14,846.122449 The joy of the Lord is indeed our strength, but I have learned that the Bible is an instruction book on how to live. 320 00:24:15,116.122449 --> 00:24:20,846.122449 How to serve Jesus through serving people, how to bring God's kingdom to earth. 321 00:24:21,146.122449 --> 00:24:24,716.122449 The Bible is not a religious book, per se. 322 00:24:25,16.122449 --> 00:24:35,366.122449 If you search the pages of the Bible, you will find many saints who were depressed and lots to be said about intimacy and sex to. 323 00:24:36,326.122449 --> 00:24:37,136.122449 Good stuff. 324 00:24:37,886.122449 --> 00:24:38,786.122449 I can hear you. 325 00:24:38,786.122449 --> 00:24:39,626.122449 I can hear you. 326 00:24:39,776.122449 --> 00:24:46,316.122449 What Bible are you reading? Who was depressed, who talk about intimacy in the Bible. 327 00:24:46,766.122449 --> 00:24:47,246.122449 Okay. 328 00:24:47,246.122449 --> 00:24:48,656.122449 My sister friends. 329 00:24:48,686.122449 --> 00:24:49,436.122449 I love you. 330 00:24:49,436.122449 --> 00:24:50,456.122449 Here we go. 331 00:24:50,486.122449 --> 00:24:54,116.122449 Who was depressed or face mental health issues in the Bible. 332 00:24:54,776.122449 --> 00:24:57,146.122449 Read up about king David. 333 00:24:57,656.122449 --> 00:24:58,736.122449 Yes indeed. 334 00:24:59,186.122449 --> 00:25:00,176.122449 Elijah. 335 00:25:00,626.122449 --> 00:25:05,456.122449 Fell into despair and even ask God to take his life. 336 00:25:06,176.122449 --> 00:25:10,646.122449 Naomi experience grief after losing her husband. 337 00:25:11,96.122449 --> 00:25:12,326.122449 And sons. 338 00:25:12,566.122449 --> 00:25:20,516.122449 Oh, what about job? And Hannah whose life was marked with anguish of unfulfilled, longing. 339 00:25:21,206.122449 --> 00:25:23,666.122449 Needing and wanting to have a child. 340 00:25:24,296.122449 --> 00:25:31,886.122449 That should suffice, but there are more that my Bible scholars in the podcast land can make known. 341 00:25:32,576.122449 --> 00:25:34,76.122449 I'm not a woman of the cloth. 342 00:25:34,496.122449 --> 00:25:36,626.122449 No leadership position in the church. 343 00:25:36,626.122449 --> 00:25:40,826.122449 I am not an elder or a deacon or anything of the sort. 344 00:25:41,426.122449 --> 00:25:46,16.122449 I'm simply trying to respond to God's love mercy and grace. 345 00:25:46,346.122449 --> 00:25:48,146.122449 By removing some lies. 346 00:25:48,596.122449 --> 00:25:52,196.122449 My scholarly background was not just meant for me. 347 00:25:52,586.122449 --> 00:25:54,626.122449 It's for you to sister friends. 348 00:25:54,866.122449 --> 00:26:07,716.122449 And as you can see, I like digging into stuff and researching and looking up things not only to apply in the cancel world, but to answer questions that you, my listeners have post to me. 349 00:26:08,526.122449 --> 00:26:09,696.122449 I love learning. 350 00:26:10,246.122449 --> 00:26:19,96.122449 Life is all about learning and that does not exclude the learning about Christ and what he has to say about some of these topics. 351 00:26:19,796.122449 --> 00:26:28,316.122449 Want to know what the Bible have to say about intimacy insects? Well, start by learning how to speak to your spouse. 352 00:26:28,886.122449 --> 00:26:30,566.122449 Awaken his loins. 353 00:26:31,946.122449 --> 00:26:32,756.122449 Check out. 354 00:26:33,206.122449 --> 00:26:36,596.122449 The book of songs is filled with. 355 00:26:37,346.122449 --> 00:26:38,696.122449 Raunchy love letters. 356 00:26:38,756.122449 --> 00:26:40,766.122449 Can I say raunchy? It's in the Bible. 357 00:26:40,766.122449 --> 00:26:45,716.122449 So we'll just say it's some surprisingly good stuff. 358 00:26:45,986.122449 --> 00:26:51,716.122449 The songs of Solomon is tucked away in the old Testament just before Isaiah wait. 359 00:26:52,226.122449 --> 00:26:54,416.122449 Let me look at the flow for you. 360 00:26:54,626.122449 --> 00:26:58,316.122449 Um, it's songs. 361 00:26:58,706.122449 --> 00:26:59,936.122449 Then Proverbs. 362 00:27:00,986.122449 --> 00:27:02,36.122449 Ecclesiastes. 363 00:27:02,36.122449 --> 00:27:10,706.122449 These songs of Solomon and then Isaiah C, you don't need to have all the books of the Bible memorized to serve God. 364 00:27:11,136.122449 --> 00:27:11,616.122449 But. 365 00:27:12,306.122449 --> 00:27:13,206.122449 I tell you what. 366 00:27:13,566.122449 --> 00:27:22,86.122449 Read the books, songs of Solomon, you may want to try in the English standard version of the Elizabethan king James version. 367 00:27:22,86.122449 --> 00:27:23,496.122449 Doesn't jive for you. 368 00:27:23,976.122449 --> 00:27:25,206.122449 But read it in. 369 00:27:25,656.122449 --> 00:27:28,536.122449 One off V context that you can relate to. 370 00:27:28,536.122449 --> 00:27:31,746.122449 And I V E S V message. 371 00:27:31,776.122449 --> 00:27:32,976.122449 Whatever works for you. 372 00:27:33,306.122449 --> 00:27:35,556.122449 But don't skip over songs of Solomon. 373 00:27:36,6.122449 --> 00:27:40,146.122449 Hear them talk about loins and bosoms and all that good stuff. 374 00:27:40,596.122449 --> 00:27:41,646.122449 This is the friend. 375 00:27:41,856.122449 --> 00:27:43,896.122449 It is in the Bible. 376 00:27:44,166.122449 --> 00:27:50,46.122449 God loves us and want us to know that he felt about all these things that he knew. 377 00:27:50,46.122449 --> 00:27:51,276.122449 We would think about. 378 00:27:51,636.122449 --> 00:27:51,906.122449 Hmm. 379 00:27:52,716.122449 --> 00:27:56,286.122449 The other part of your question am about disliking medicine. 380 00:27:56,556.122449 --> 00:27:59,436.122449 It's all about the details and type. 381 00:28:00,6.122449 --> 00:28:04,956.122449 I too though, a physician grew up in a time in the Caribbean. 382 00:28:05,166.122449 --> 00:28:15,426.122449 When my mom would boil Sarah CT, four different ailments are rubbed down my body with bay rum to quieten the fever very few and far between. 383 00:28:15,426.122449 --> 00:28:22,686.122449 Do we ever use actual purchased medicine? And visits to the doctor was fought. 384 00:28:22,746.122449 --> 00:28:28,116.122449 Well, it was deemed only necessary when roots, teas and mixtures and different stuff. 385 00:28:28,146.122449 --> 00:28:28,926.122449 Couldn't work. 386 00:28:29,406.122449 --> 00:28:37,206.122449 So I too, though, adopter do not like the idea of taking a medicine that causes side effects. 387 00:28:37,506.122449 --> 00:28:40,656.122449 Then taken another to fix the side effects from that. 388 00:28:40,656.122449 --> 00:28:43,146.122449 And if that causes side effects, then another medicine. 389 00:28:43,596.122449 --> 00:28:44,856.122449 You get the drift. 390 00:28:44,946.122449 --> 00:28:47,946.122449 It's a spiral that requires control. 391 00:28:48,556.122449 --> 00:28:56,266.122449 That answer requires some realism though, right? It begins with how bad is the first side effects. 392 00:28:56,716.122449 --> 00:29:09,46.122449 Is it tolerable? That's a discussion for you and your medical team to have, I am a big advocate for getting to know one, talking to your health manager team about your medical concerns. 393 00:29:09,376.122449 --> 00:29:17,656.122449 So if you have a diagnosis that require medicine, Take the medicine you want to drink your tea and have some roots. 394 00:29:17,896.122449 --> 00:29:24,646.122449 Let them know that you're going to drink the tea and have these roots too, but take the medicine they're giving you. 395 00:29:24,946.122449 --> 00:29:34,36.122449 If you're having some side effects, how bad is the side effect? You know, I did, um, a blog many moons ago. 396 00:29:34,36.122449 --> 00:29:35,986.122449 I'm going to have to do a podcast on it. 397 00:29:36,346.122449 --> 00:29:37,816.122449 That everything natural. 398 00:29:38,626.122449 --> 00:29:42,676.122449 Isn't natural because it doesn't cause side effects. 399 00:29:43,36.122449 --> 00:29:46,246.122449 You can have side effects from things that are deemed natural to. 400 00:29:46,696.122449 --> 00:29:50,986.122449 And I will get into that another time, but yes, yes, you can. 401 00:29:52,196.122449 --> 00:30:09,176.122449 This goes beyond medication for depression, but any diagnosis, treatment, or medication with that being said, there are a significant body of research focusing on the sexual side effects of antidepressant medication. 402 00:30:09,416.122449 --> 00:30:20,756.122449 That is medication that you take for depression, particularly one call selective serotonin re-uptake inhibitors, or S S our eyes. 403 00:30:21,116.122449 --> 00:30:25,766.122449 You hear them mentioning it in commercials? Listen for it. 404 00:30:26,186.122449 --> 00:30:30,776.122449 SSR eyes these studies investigate the prevalence. 405 00:30:31,106.122449 --> 00:30:34,46.122449 Nature and management of sexual dysfunction. 406 00:30:34,376.122449 --> 00:30:37,976.122449 Associated with antidepressants use. 407 00:30:38,156.122449 --> 00:30:42,26.122449 So yes, the side effects can lead to sexual dysfunction. 408 00:30:42,866.122449 --> 00:30:48,956.122449 If there was one to talk about in the beginning though, sister Frank, just being honest and real with you. 409 00:30:49,176.122449 --> 00:30:54,606.122449 If you're not having sex, you're not enjoying sex and you're not having an orgasm. 410 00:30:55,86.122449 --> 00:31:00,216.122449 And then you were diagnosed with depression and you start taking this medication. 411 00:31:00,216.122449 --> 00:31:02,106.122449 You cannot say the medication. 412 00:31:02,376.122449 --> 00:31:05,706.122449 Is causing you to have sexual dysfunction. 413 00:31:05,976.122449 --> 00:31:11,596.122449 It could be that the depression was causing it, but it can't be the medicine. 414 00:31:11,626.122449 --> 00:31:17,506.122449 And then you stop taking the medicine for depression because it says, oh, it causes sexual dysfunction. 415 00:31:17,776.122449 --> 00:31:20,536.122449 But you weren't functioned in sexually before. 416 00:31:21,566.122449 --> 00:31:22,556.122449 Being honest. 417 00:31:23,656.122449 --> 00:31:26,296.122449 You get to decide if you're going to. 418 00:31:26,896.122449 --> 00:31:29,116.122449 Not tell yourself the truth. 419 00:31:30,16.122449 --> 00:31:35,146.122449 So are you going to give up sex because you are depressed? I think not. 420 00:31:35,806.122449 --> 00:31:37,36.122449 Where there's a will. 421 00:31:37,96.122449 --> 00:31:38,236.122449 There's a way. 422 00:31:38,746.122449 --> 00:31:47,296.122449 So can you use sex as a treatment for depression? Not really, at least not by itself per my brief research. 423 00:31:47,566.122449 --> 00:31:52,696.122449 It does provide that momentary good feeling from the serotonin and hormones. 424 00:31:53,386.122449 --> 00:31:54,946.122449 But it is temporary. 425 00:31:54,976.122449 --> 00:31:56,176.122449 It's a surge. 426 00:31:56,326.122449 --> 00:32:10,46.122449 How long, and how often would you need to have sex to use as a treatment modality? It does release all those feel good? What knots that M mentioned in her question? So. 427 00:32:10,936.122449 --> 00:32:18,836.122449 What that really work? While you're not required to go around grinning like a shier cat all day long. 428 00:32:19,316.122449 --> 00:32:26,246.122449 Medication does offer a more balanced long-term effect for treating depression. 429 00:32:26,636.122449 --> 00:32:30,476.122449 And it does matter the type of depression that you have as well. 430 00:32:30,836.122449 --> 00:32:32,596.122449 As previously discussed. 431 00:32:33,486.122449 --> 00:32:37,506.122449 If you were diagnosed with depression and you take this medication. 432 00:32:38,556.122449 --> 00:32:43,986.122449 You may be surprised at the many things that can also change. 433 00:32:44,346.122449 --> 00:32:46,56.122449 You may come to terms. 434 00:32:46,566.122449 --> 00:32:48,516.122449 To saying, oh, wow. 435 00:32:49,26.122449 --> 00:32:54,606.122449 I didn't realize this was less or that was less, or that was being affected. 436 00:32:55,206.122449 --> 00:32:58,746.122449 It can also give a positive outcome. 437 00:32:59,646.122449 --> 00:33:01,836.122449 For the love of the almighty. 438 00:33:02,196.122449 --> 00:33:07,356.122449 Stop self-diagnosing you could be hurting yourself. 439 00:33:07,926.122449 --> 00:33:12,246.122449 Let your primary care medical team do what they do best. 440 00:33:12,566.122449 --> 00:33:27,56.122449 Based on your answers to the depression evaluation questions for a set period of time noted, they can make appropriate suggestion and know that someone has suggestions may have nothing to do with medication. 441 00:33:27,326.122449 --> 00:33:29,426.122449 You may just need to do some yoga. 442 00:33:29,696.122449 --> 00:33:31,646.122449 You may need to do some distress. 443 00:33:31,796.122449 --> 00:33:34,76.122449 You may need to do some meditation. 444 00:33:34,286.122449 --> 00:33:38,246.122449 They don't always right away dump medicine on you. 445 00:33:38,636.122449 --> 00:33:41,396.122449 It all starts with a conversation. 446 00:33:42,236.122449 --> 00:33:43,556.122449 Look, sister, friends. 447 00:33:44,276.122449 --> 00:33:47,456.122449 Intimacy and sex is a part of life. 448 00:33:48,116.122449 --> 00:33:52,166.122449 Don't let depression steal that away from you. 449 00:33:54,6.122449 --> 00:34:02,316.122449 Well, sister, friend, I know you have choices, so I thank you for tuning into Intimacy After podcast. 450 00:34:02,736.122449 --> 00:34:11,286.122449 You may subscribe for bimonthly alerts or stay in the know by visiting my website@queenquanta.com. 451 00:34:11,526.122449 --> 00:34:15,671.122449 That's Queen Q-U-A-N-T a.com. 452 00:34:16,441.122449 --> 00:34:24,816.122449 Until next time, remember, a life without Intimacy is like your favorite meal without salt. 453 00:34:25,701.122449 --> 00:34:28,321.122449 Ladies, let's spice it up. 454 00:34:28,821.122449 --> 00:34:32,111.122449 Life is beautiful, and God is awesome. 455 00:34:32,681.122449 --> 00:34:35,625.960449 This is Queen, signing out.
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