Gaynor

In this episode, Gaynor shares her personal journey with pleasure and sexuality from a young age, as well as the challenges she faced in integrating that pleasure into intimate connections later in life. We explore the cycle of protection and resentment that many women experience after years of disconnecting from their bodies and needs—often losing themselves in the masculine-driven pursuit of orgasm as the ultimate goal.

We touch on Tantra and how it can help women reclaim their authentic and ever-changing experience of connection by embracing slowness and gentleness. We also begin to explore how we can better prepare younger generations for intimacy, empowering them to move at their own pace, express their needs, and set boundaries with confidence.

Looking back at our first experiences with intimacy, who is teaching who? Why is it that, more often than not, girls are the ones adapting to what feels right for the boys? Is it simply because they don’t know any different? These are the questions we need to start asking if we truly want to shift the narrative around pleasure, connection, and consent.

Gaynor also reflects on the book 'The Clan of the Cave Bear' by Jean M. Auel, that portrays the intitiation of a young women in an Ice Age clan tribe.