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May 28, 2025 20 mins

Friends,

In today’s episode, I share my motto for adaptability:

Make a plan.

Work the plan.

Don’t fall in love with the plan.

I confess, I was not at all adaptable for the first 19 years of my life. In fact, my adaptability skills were not really tested until I was in my 40’s and started traveling to other countries. It was then that I learned that adaptability is a skill that I needed to learn to develop. The question I learned to ask myself in situations that called for adaptability is this:

Are you going to freeze or are you going to flex?

I learned that the only way to flex those muscles was to develop them. It takes practice to be adaptable, especially when true adaptability means making the pivot with a good attitude.

I pray this blesses you!

Becky

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I'm going to confess.

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I did not have the ability to adapt when I was a young person.
For the first 19 years of my life, the theme was same.
I had the same home, same church.
Went to the same school, kindergarten through 12th grade, lived in the same neighborhood,
had the same family, and the same friends.

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In fact, I don't think I began to learn how to adapt until I was in my 40s and I began
traveling to other countries.
One of my daughters was instrumental in teaching me how to adapt as she started traveling
throughout the world before I did.
So over the years I've learned how to camp out, how to travel to Asia for two weeks with

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only a carry on, how to sleep in airplanes and on trains, how to adjust to no air conditioning
in countries near the equator or no electricity for hours on end, how to eat questionable
food.
I had to remember not to drink from the tap.
And there are some customs in the U.S. that are totally acceptable but are considered extremely

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rude and unacceptable in other countries.
An example that immediately comes to mind is when you are waiting to cross the street
and a car stops to let you cross, traditionally you wave a thank you.
And that wave is usually just holding up your hand, holding up your hand straight so that

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the palm is facing that person.
It's an American way of saying thank you.
But there are countries in which showing the palm of your hand to another person is considered
the height of rudeness.
It would be similar to other hand gestures that we might make in the United States or
some might make that are also considered rude.

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And so experiencing these things, practicing these things, learning these things help develop
adaptability.
And if you love to travel is I do, travel is an excellent training ground for adaptability.
But adaptability is not limited to travel in a world that is constantly changing.

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Your culture, technology, expectations, our ability to adapt is no longer optional.
It's essential.
Want to know more?
Let's dive into today's episode.
Hey, friend, are you a people pleasing conflict avoiding leader?
Is your secret relationship with fear affecting your leadership decisions?

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Do you want to learn how to build credibility and confidence or to navigate difficult conversations?
Do you long to manage your time without sacrificing your family or self-care?
Welcome to leadership becomes her.
I Becky Burroughs your host and a minister and life and leadership coach with over 50 years

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experience in leadership.
I firmly believe God has given you everything you need to lead well.
You have the toolbox.
You just need to learn how to use the tools.
So get comfy or start a mindless task.
You know how to pause or rewind if you need to.
Let's get started.

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So I have recorded previous episodes on the topic of resilience.
And resilience and adaptability are concepts that are really closely related because they
both involve navigating challenging situations.
But there's a different focus.

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Resilience is when you have that ability to recover from difficulty where adaptability
is the ability to adjust to changing circumstances and to learn from experiences so that it creates
a positive outcome.
When we talk about resilience, we often talk about that ability to bounce back, to recover

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quickly from a difficulty or a setback while maintaining a positive outlook and finding
ways to persevere in challenging times.
But adaptability is adjusting to a new situation.
It's the ability to learn from an experience and so that you can create a positive outcome.

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It's that ability to embrace change so that you can use it as an opportunity for growth
and development.
But both resilience and adaptability involve learning from setbacks and using those experiences
to grow and improve.
When you are resilient, you tend to have a positive outlook and you're able to see opportunity

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for growth even in difficult situations.
It's that positive outlook that's also crucial for adaptability because it allows you to
embrace change and learn from new experiences.
These are both skills that can be developed and honed through practice and experience.
And when you develop both resilience and adaptability, it can lead to personal growth,

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to greater self-confidence and improved ability to manage stress and anxiety.
So in essence, while resilience focuses on the ability to recover from setbacks, adaptability
focuses on the ability to learn from those experiences and adjust to changing circumstances

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and both are essential for navigating life's challenges and achieving some measure of
success in life.
So if you think of adaptability as the capacity to adjust to new conditions, unexpected challenges
and evolving goals while maintaining integrity and purpose, how does this relate to ministry?

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Whether your ministry is in a church or working in a nonprofit or even leading in your own
business, how do you learn to adapt to things that are constantly changing?
Well, an example in church would be, and you've seen this in churches where worship styles

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are adapted.
For example, I'm old enough to remember when we even started using technology in worship
or during the pandemic, everyone was forced to adapt to that current reality.
Obviously, we can't be together.
How do we continue to worship together?

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Hey, let's live stream the service.
And there are some churches that were already doing that before the pandemic.
We were some that had to start in that moment so that they could continue to provide worship
services and try to keep the congregation connected together.
And certainly since the pandemic, churches have continued to live stream.

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One of the things that I've seen that has changed since the pandemic is before that happened,
everybody tried to come to church who was committed to coming to church and the live streaming
was for people who perhaps had never set foot in our doors.
After the pandemic, we found a lot of elderly people and people with young children choosing

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to stay at home and continue to watch the live stream.
Why?
Because it's easier.
Because if you're a young parent, you don't have to wrestle with kids.
And that sounds like a good alternative, but you miss that congregational feel, that relationship
development.
Yes, you're still worshiping, but you're not developing those relationships in the church.

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But for those who are shut in or for whom it's very difficult physically to come to church,
having a live stream has been an alternative.
So that's been a way that people have adapted.
Let's say that the person, the woman, let's say leading women's ministry notices that only

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the older women are coming to the Bible class, the lady's Bible class as some churches call
it, and the younger women are not coming.
And so she does a little survey and finds that they either all work outside the home or
child care is not provided.
And so they don't know what to do with their kids.

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And so she adapts her program.
Maybe she starts providing child care so that they will come.
Or maybe she offers an evening Bible class or a podcast series so these women can listen
to it.
Or Instagram devotional challenges to engage them digitally.
She adapts to what's going on in her church.

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We see the same thing happening in nonprofit, in small business where they have to pivot.
Let's say a nonprofit has a certain way of raising funds.
And it's the ability to raise funds, decreases over the years, they have to adapt and think
of different ways to raise money for their nonprofit.

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When running a small business, let's say it's a small business that sells a product in the
store and she's seeing less and less foot traffic.
Well, she could say, you know, we're going to have to close down soon.
Or she can say, hey, let's add e-commerce.
Let's offer virtual shopping appointments.

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Let's partner with local influencers.
That's adapting to the current situation.
So the question is, are you clinging to a model of ministry or a model for business that
worked three years ago, five years ago, but it does not serve people now.
If we have not learned how to adapt, we find ourselves clinging to it.

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I see this happen in church with programs such as vacation Bible school.
In many churches, Vacation Bible Schools are an icon, we have to offer it.
It's the most important outreach we do.
And yet some churches have no data to show that it's actually an effective outreach.
They just do it because they've always done it.
We did that for many years.

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We had an incredible vacation Bible schools, very expensive.
Everybody was involved.
It was a production.
But as we began to have budget crunches, we began to look at the data and go, is it really
bringing in new people?
Is it an outreach or is it just something fun for our kids to do and our families to

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do?
The other thing we found is that we offered it during the day back then when it was so productive.
Now all of our young moms work outside the home.
And so we're not able to get the volunteer base that we were before.
So a decision had to be made as to what to do with it now.
One of the ways that nonprofits have to adapt is by adjusting their fundraising strategies

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when the economy is bad.
I remember during the pandemic that two year period was there was this surge in nonprofit
donations.
But then when the pandemic ended, so did the nonprofit donations.
And I can immediately think of a number of nonprofits that I was closely tied to that

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folded after the pandemic.
Perhaps because they didn't know how to adapt to the new situation or perhaps because they
didn't have time to economically recover and adapt.
One way we can adapt in nonprofit is to respond to community feedback or a shift in what's

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needed.
Sometimes what we think is is needed in our community that we're trying to fill that
need is maybe not the overarching need.
And as we learn more, we do more as we learn differently, we do differently.
Another way to adapt is to be flexible with your staff, your volunteers and sometimes that's

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painful.
Sometimes you have to lay people off during hard economic times in order to keep the business
going and that's always painful.
I know in ministry, I used to be a children's minister and very often had to adapt for outdoor
events, because of weather.
So we would have trunk or treat, always around Halloween weekend.

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You never know.
We never knew if it was going to be rainy or cold or whatever and we always had a plan
B. A plan of adapting should it rain.
We'll move this event indoors.
A nonprofit leader.
Let's say planning a large in person event to raise money and then there's a storm that

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cancels the event.
Maybe the facility they were going to use loses power.
A leader with the ability to adapt can pivot and come up with another way to raise money.
Let's have a virtual auction.
Let's do something different.
Let's try this.
Find that ability to adapt to think outside the box to have a plan B.

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So when your mission is challenged, when your ministry is challenged, when your business
is challenged, do you freeze or do you flex?
And I love that visual because quite frankly, the ability to adapt takes new mental muscles.
It takes thinking outside the box, trying something you've never done before.

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If you've ever gone and let's say lifted weights and you've never done that before, it's
a little painful the next day.
But you keep it up and you develop those muscles.
So when something happens that derails what you have planned, do you freeze or do you flex?

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As leaders, I want you to think about how do you personally deal with disappointment,
with stress or with the changing times or with changing roles?
Do you freeze or do you flex?
How do you lead others through transition?
Do you freeze or do you flex?

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One activity that you can do that can help you think about the ability to adapt is look
back on times when you have adapted.
Think about a time when you were forced to make a change.
You were forced to pivot.
You had to adapt how to go, what worked, what didn't work, what did you learn from that

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experience that you can take with you and apply to the next experience because there's
going to be one, the next experience where you're going to have to adapt.
And really what it involves is trusting God not just in our plans but trusting God in the
unknown.

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Praying for discernment, when to stay on the course and when is it time to shift.
Adaptability is not about having no plan.
It's about holding the plan loosely knowing that God's purpose will prevail even when
the method changes.
I have a motto.
Make a plan, work the plan, don't fall in love with the plan.

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And that model has served me well because I'm really good at making plans and I'm really
good at working the plans but sometimes the plans don't work out.
And so part of what I do to make the plan work the plan and don't fall in love with the
plan is I always have a plan B and very often even a plan C.

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That way if plan A doesn't work I haven't failed, I'll just shift, I'll adapt and work
it with plan B.
So I want to end with a challenge today.
I want to encourage you to do one thing this week that stretches your adaptability muscle,
either personally or professionally.

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Do something you've never done before.
Come up with a plan you've never tried before.
If your plan A is ready to go, come up with a plan B and a plan C before you attempt plan
A.
If like me you're very routine oriented in your personal life, do something outside of your

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routine so that you can adapt.
Right now as I speak I am in a closet.
The furthest end of my house recording this episode because the rest of my house is in
some form or another being demolished.
I've had serious plumbing issues and a mitigation team has come in and they have cut out my house

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as hardwood floors.
They have cut out the hardwood floors about a quarter of my kitchen, two thirds of my bedroom,
half of my hallway, a third of my office and my laundry room.
I mean every single room in my house is affected by this and they have about 15 high powered

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fans going because they've determined there's a lot of humidity.
They can't do anything about my plumbing until they get rid of all this humidity.
It is so incredibly loud in my house right now that my dog wouldn't even come in the first
day.
But I've had to learn to adapt.
One of the things I had to do was move out of my bedroom into another bedroom which means

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I had to plan ahead what am I going to need for the next perhaps two weeks.
That's optimistic of me.
I don't know how long this is going to take but planning ahead I can't use my washer or
my dryer and so I'm having to adapt and think okay what am I going to do?
Where am I going to go to do my laundry?
I can't use my kitchen sink or my dishwasher.

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I've had to adapt how am I going to make my meals and I'm not going to go into all the
ways in which I've worked around all of these inconveniences but it has been stretching my
adaptability muscles to the max.
The good news is I like the sound of white noise and so I'm sleeping like a baby at night
but it's very very loud during the day.

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What about you?
What do you need to do to stretch those adaptability muscles?
I hope this is given you something to think about.
Hey, let's do this again next week where I'm going to talk about what happens when we're
not adaptable.
See you next week.

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It is my prayer that this podcast inspired you, blessed you or made you think.
If so, please share it with a friend, subscribe and please leave a review.
Hey, I want to connect with you.
Follow me on Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn, send me a DM or email me at hello@beckyburroughs.com.

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If you are a Christian woman who leads and you are interested in one of my Leadership Boot
camps for Women in Miinistry, this is a four week workshop or becoming part of a Kairos
Cohort, your long group coaching, send me a DM or an email for more information.
We'll talk soon.
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