September 19, 2024 • 19 mins
Uncovering Core Values (Chapter Two)
In this insightful episode of Let Yourself Bloom, Jen Banks delves into the foundational concept of core values and how they shape our identity and life choices. Jen reads from her book, offering listeners a chance to explore Chapter 2, "Planting the Seeds," which emphasizes the importance of identifying and nurturing core values as the seeds of personal growth and fulfillment.
Jen shares her personal journey of discovering her core values—connection, contribution, reliability, and refinement—and how these values have guided her life. She provides practical steps for listeners to unearth their own core values, drawing inspiration from Brene Brown's "Dare to Lead." Through thoughtful reflections and engaging activities, Jen encourages listeners to align their daily decisions with their core values, fostering a more balanced and purposeful life.
This episode also features a fun "This or That" game to help pinpoint which values resonate most with you and a discussion on how to have core value conversations with your children. Jen emphasizes the role of parents in modeling and influencing their children's values, creating a family culture that reflects what truly matters.
Join us as we plant the seeds of our core values and watch them bloom into a life of authenticity, joy, and fulfillment.
(00:00) Welcome to let yourself Bloom, the podcast where motherhood and ambition coexist
(01:27) Identify your core values and apply them in your life
(04:59) Name your core values and observe other people living life according to them
(09:30) Identify and nurture your core values and let them guide your life
(11:13) When you're living in alignment with your values, how does that affect your choices
(14:59) Use music to help you identify your core values
(16:58) Before we end, I want to talk about core value conversations with kids
(18:31) As we end, I want to challenge you this week to choose one core value
(19:01) Let yourself bloom is a podcast about nurturing dreams while being a mom
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(01:27):
Hello, and welcome back to theLet Yourself Bloom podcast.
I have been doing a series where I havebeen reading my book on the podcast.
If you want a free version of away to consume my book, this is it.
Today, I'm going tostart by reading my book.
It's only about threepages for this chapter.
(01:48):
And if you want to skip thispart, that's totally fine.
But I will talk at the end aboutthe application of core values.
So I will start chapter two,planting the seeds, germination.
Seeds are core values.
It is attributed to Elvis Presley, thequote, Values are like fingerprints.
(02:10):
Nobodies are the same.
But you leave them over everything you do.
Identifying what means most toyou will guide your life and
liberate you from all you carry.
And I am here to help youidentify what means most to you.
Imagine your core valuesas seeds in your garden.
When we carry too many seeds in our hands,we risk dropping them, misplacing them,
(02:33):
or forgetting about them altogether.
However, when we carefully plantthese seeds in a dedicated garden
plot labeled core values, Thoseseeds take root and flourish.
When each core value is neatly organizedwith a sign in its own designated
row, it becomes readily accessiblewhenever we need to draw upon it.
(02:53):
Core values are the way you view life.
They govern your opinions, beliefs,and frustrations, whether you
can name the core value or not.
Many of your core values havebeen there since childhood.
You may not always choose yourcore values, you may just need to
uncover them or unearth them fromwithin your soil and name them.
(03:15):
If you concern yourself witheverything, you may find that
you truly prioritize nothing.
I'll give you a few core value examples,and then you can pick and choose
what resonates with you and narrowdown that list to just three to five
core value seeds to help you grow.
My core value seeds are connection,contribution, reliability, When I found
(03:41):
these core values, my life stoppedbeing hectic and started to be guided.
Knowing my core values startedthe germination process
on my path to blooming.
Germination is the development of a plantfrom a seed after a period of dormancy.
Some women may feel their identityis dormant within motherhood.
Once the ground is prepared andthe seeds are viable, your identity
(04:04):
can be reframed through theprocess of naming your core values.
To name my core values, I first wentthrough a list of core values from Brene
Brown's book, Dare to Lead, and placeda star by any that stuck out to me.
I also crossed out anythat were an obvious no.
I grouped words that were similarto identify overarching themes.
(04:25):
From there, I circled words thatstill stuck out and narrowed
my core values down to four.
In narrowing down and naming your corevalues, you could sort the values with a
value deck that you purchase or print outor write the values on a piece of paper.
Just have to pop in here and say thatsoon I will have a value deck with
my branding on it that will match thebook that you can purchase and use.
(04:50):
It's just so much easier, I feellike, to tangibly do it and see
and move than it is to do it on apiece of paper, but any way works.
Okay, back to the book.
My first core value is connection.
I love gatherings of allkinds and being around people.
I consider myself an extrovert, butespecially love when I can connect
personally with various individuals.
(05:12):
Other similar values that resonated werebelonging, collaboration, community,
cooperation, friendship, openness.
To me, connection looks like movingpast small talk, sharing both the
good and the hard, feeling seen,and the moments I say, me too.
My next core value is contribution.
(05:34):
Because I wasn't feeling fulfilledinside the home as a stay at home mother,
the values of achievement, ambition,contribution, freedom, fun, generosity,
independence, initiative, Personalfulfillment and service stuck out to me.
I wanted a word that signifiedmaking a difference beyond what
I was accomplishing at home.
To me, contribution looks like adding to acause bigger than myself, influencing the
(05:58):
lives of others, and making quantifiablechange, and giving generously.
Reliability is my third core value.
Growing up, the importance of beingon time was modeled over and over.
I internalized the practice of showing upearly and brought it into my adult life.
It was also instilled that in myfamily, we could be counted on.
(06:19):
We kept our promises and commitments.
Due to my upbringing and what I hadsubsequently learned was important,
I selected the values of commitment,efficiency, excellence, loyalty, order,
responsibility, and self discipline.
To me, reliability means followingthrough on what I said I would do, making
myself available, managing my mind andbeing respectful and true to who I am.
(06:43):
I will add here that somevalues can become maladaptive
and that means just extreme.
And so sometimes if it's anobsession, it may not be a value.
And I'm still borderline decidingon if my reliability is that way,
or if it really is just a value.
My fourth core value is refinement.
When I was 12, I begancollecting inspirational quotes.
(07:06):
Mentors gave me handouts filled withwisdom, and I wanted a place to record
all of the profound words I was hearing.
I began writing them downin the back of a notebook.
I then moved to typing them on a computer,altering the fonts and colors, and
printing them out when I had a full page.
I would glue them into ajournal, and my collection grew.
I believe these quotes are thereason I'm drawn to self improvement.
(07:27):
The related values were authenticity,growth, leadership, perseverance,
resourcefulness, self expression,self realization, and uniqueness.
To me, refinement looks likecontinuous learning, growing into
the next version of myself, beingconcise and naming the essentials.
I would also add here that Ireally love the word curate.
(07:50):
And so I, I feel like that, that goesin there with refinement as well.
The first two values were the easiestfor me to determine, whereas the other
two took a bit longer to put into words.
I also stopped at four instead oflooking for a fifth because I liked
how two began with the letter Cand two began with the letter R.
I'm open to seeing these I'm open toseeing if these change over time, but
(08:14):
for now they feel like the best fit.
Core values can be both descriptiveand aspirational, but will mostly
convey who you are currently.
If over half of your core valuesare attributes you hope to obtain,
you risk feeling shoulds and guilt.
As soon as you name your core values,you'll begin observing other people
making choices as if those choicesare associated with a core value.
(08:37):
It's important to note that weare not talking about values as
standards of behavior, rather one'sjudgment of what's important in life.
Core values are morally neutral.
Certain values are not better than others.
This knowledge helps you avoidjudging others so you can be who you
are and allow others to do the same.
When someone was late for anappointment, I would think to myself,
(08:59):
Even though they don't have thevalue of reliability at this moment,
they are living life according totheir core values and that's okay.
It's easy to judge people basedon your core values because
that's how you see the world.
We only have a glimpse of what'sreally going on in their life and
don't often see the big picture.
Maybe right beforehand theywere valuing patience with their
children over rushing to be on time.
(09:23):
Knowing your core values and beingable to recall them instantly will
help guide your decisions and help youfocus on what truly matters to you.
We will be referring back to our listof core values throughout the book.
So once you've named yours,keep the list nearby.
And then in the book, thereis the list of core values by
Brene Brown in Dare to Lead.
You can Google this.
(09:43):
It's easily found online andI will read some, if not all
of them later in the episode.
As you embark on the journey ofidentifying and nurturing your core
values, remember that these valuesare the seeds of your life's garden.
Plant them with intentionality,care, and attention.
Just as the gardener tends to each plant,ensuring it has the right conditions to
(10:05):
grow, You must cultivate your values andlet them guide your actions and decisions.
By focusing on your core values,you create a solid foundation
for your identity and a clearpath for your personal growth.
These values will help you navigatelife's challenges, celebrate its joys, and
maintain a sense of purpose and direction.
As you nurture these seeds, you'll findthat your life becomes more balanced,
(10:28):
fulfilled, and aligned with who you are.
Bloom tip.
Plant your core values withcare and nurture them daily.
They will help you grow andthrive in all parts of your life.
Remember, your gardenis yours to cultivate.
Embrace your core values.
Let them take root and watch as theygrow into beautiful thriving identity
flowers that reflect your true self.
(10:50):
With each value you nurture, youbloom into the best version of
yourself, ready to face the worldwith confidence, clarity, and joy.
End of chapter, and there's a cute littleillustration of a garden with the core
values that are planted in this picture.
There's respect, balance, and courage.
(11:14):
I want to start by talkingabout the opposite approach.
I want you to reflect on atime when you felt upset,
frustrated, or out of alignment.
Pause if you need more time.
In that moment, whatvalues were being violated?
(11:34):
When we feel off or uncomfortable,it's often because something is
clashing with what's important to us.
And that can be a window into ourneeds and what's going on in that
moment to help us get more aligned.
I want you to think about howyou make your daily decisions.
How would a core valueinfluence the way you approach
(11:56):
relationships, work, or self care?
When you're living in alignment with yourvalues, how does that affect your choices?
When you're out of alignment,what shifts for you?
You can reflect on this past week and seehow you made decisions or pay attention
to how you make future decisions.
(12:17):
Is it around a core value?
Are you on autopilot or just kind of inthe flow or are you steering your ship?
Are you in control of your life?
Are you the one that is consciouslymaking those decisions instead of
just letting life happen to you?
I would say this is oneof my favorite chapters.
(12:38):
If you can't tell, I just feel like ithad such a profound effect on my life.
When I discovered my core values.
That I wanted to sharethat with everybody.
My highest value is connection.
I feel like I didn't have the deepestrelationship with my mom growing up.
We didn't really connecton an emotional level.
(13:01):
So I feel like I soughtthose relationships out.
I found other women, other girls,other people to look up to and converse
with that I could get that deeperlevel of connection to fill my cup.
Okay.
Now I'm going to read some of thecore values and this will kind of be
just a lightning round to see juston the outset, if these resonate,
(13:25):
if any of them stick out to you.
Again, this can be foundin the book or online.
It's Brene Brown's list of core values.
Integrity, community, respect, growth,altruism, kindness, trust, understanding,
(13:45):
nature, ethics, financial stability.
Wisdom.
Joy.
Collaboration.
Risk taking.
Generosity.
Accountability.
Legacy.
(14:06):
Vision.
Thrift.
Beauty.
Excellence.
Dignity.
Stewardship.
Simplicity.
Intuition.
Leisure.
Optimism.
Peace.
(14:27):
Perseverance.
Caring.
Personal fulfillment.
Power.
Gratitude.
Confidence.
Time.
Those are just a few of thehundred that are listed and you
can always write your own or lookup other lists to compare it to.
And again, there will be a core value deckthat I create that will be coming out in
(14:51):
the near future in time for Christmas.
It makes a really great gift to helppeople identify their core values.
Now we're just going to playa game called This or That.
I have a few values here and I wantyou to consider if you feel like you
prioritize or align with one or the other.
(15:14):
Freedom or security?
Adventure or home?
Teamwork or independence?
Risk or tradition.
It's interesting because they, theydo feel like conflicting values.
(15:35):
So I wonder if you're drawn to oneor the other or how it feels for you.
I know what impacted me a lot asI read was discovering what word
resonated or stuck out the most.
I was trying to decide betweenservice and contribution.
And ultimately I settled oncontribution because I felt like it
(15:55):
was more of a collaborative effort.
We were contributing to a greater whole.
Whereas service, it kind of, you put goodout into the world and then it's harder
to quantify or see if it comes back.
Not that service is a lesser valueby any means, but that's just what
resonated or made sense in my mind.
(16:16):
Different values will stickout and make more sense to you.
If you're having a hard time identifyingyour core values, an idea is to put on
some music and see what comes up for youas you listen to the different songs.
Some songs can instill Serenity orfreedom, others, adventure, engagement,
(16:45):
beauty, all the different things.
There are lots of items orexperiences that we tie to our values.
And so maybe those could behelpful in identifying yours.
Before we end, I did also want to talkabout core value conversations with kids.
As a mother myself, I really love talkingabout core values with my kids and
(17:10):
identifying how what's important to themreflects who they are and the experiences
that we have within our family and whatis meaningful or memorable to them.
My oldest son, Rowan, hedefinitely values innovation.
He loves creating and buildingand transformers, origami.
(17:31):
He loves just putting something newinto the world that wasn't there before.
My middle son, Brant, values humor.
He is always smiling,laughing, having a good time.
He's not without his tantrums, butyou can just tell that he's happy
go lucky, and that's what he values.
Emerson, my youngest, it'shard to tell yet, but right
now I know he values coziness.
(17:53):
He really loves his blankie.
He loves sucking his thumb.
He loves cuddling that physical touch.
Those are some of thevalues I see in my kids.
As you model your core values, encourageyour children to think about what.
values they have, or you think aboutwhat you want to pass down to them,
(18:14):
what you want to instill, becauseyou as the parent have a lot of
influence to what your children value.
Not that you can control them, but youcan certainly influence what they are
experiencing or Learning as we end, I wantto challenge you this week to choose one
(18:35):
core value to focus on and consciouslybring it into every decision you make.
You can post about this on social media.
You can share it withme on Instagram, tag me.
I'd love to see how yourvalues are shaping your life.
And if you've identified some more ofyour core values, be sure to message
me on Instagram at let yourselfbloom underscore with Jen Banks.
And I'll share these in the next episode.
(18:57):
Thank you for joining me.
And I will talk to you again soon.
Bye.
Hello, and welcome back to theLet Yourself Bloom podcast.
I have been doing a series where I havebeen reading my book on the podcast.
If you want a free version of away to consume my book, this is it.
Today, I'm going tostart by reading my book.
It's only about threepages for this chapter.
(01:48):
And if you want to skip thispart, that's totally fine.
But I will talk at the end aboutthe application of core values.
So I will start chapter two,planting the seeds, germination.
Seeds are core values.
It is attributed to Elvis Presley, thequote, Values are like fingerprints.
(02:10):
Nobodies are the same.
But you leave them over everything you do.
Identifying what means most toyou will guide your life and
liberate you from all you carry.
And I am here to help youidentify what means most to you.
Imagine your core valuesas seeds in your garden.
When we carry too many seeds in our hands,we risk dropping them, misplacing them,
(02:33):
or forgetting about them altogether.
However, when we carefully plantthese seeds in a dedicated garden
plot labeled core values, Thoseseeds take root and flourish.
When each core value is neatly organizedwith a sign in its own designated
row, it becomes readily accessiblewhenever we need to draw upon it.
(02:53):
Core values are the way you view life.
They govern your opinions, beliefs,and frustrations, whether you
can name the core value or not.
Many of your core values havebeen there since childhood.
You may not always choose yourcore values, you may just need to
uncover them or unearth them fromwithin your soil and name them.
(03:15):
If you concern yourself witheverything, you may find that
you truly prioritize nothing.
I'll give you a few core value examples,and then you can pick and choose
what resonates with you and narrowdown that list to just three to five
core value seeds to help you grow.
My core value seeds are connection,contribution, reliability, When I found
(03:41):
these core values, my life stoppedbeing hectic and started to be guided.
Knowing my core values startedthe germination process
on my path to blooming.
Germination is the development of a plantfrom a seed after a period of dormancy.
Some women may feel their identityis dormant within motherhood.
Once the ground is prepared andthe seeds are viable, your identity
(04:04):
can be reframed through theprocess of naming your core values.
To name my core values, I first wentthrough a list of core values from Brene
Brown's book, Dare to Lead, and placeda star by any that stuck out to me.
I also crossed out anythat were an obvious no.
I grouped words that were similarto identify overarching themes.
(04:25):
From there, I circled words thatstill stuck out and narrowed
my core values down to four.
In narrowing down and naming your corevalues, you could sort the values with a
value deck that you purchase or print outor write the values on a piece of paper.
Just have to pop in here and say thatsoon I will have a value deck with
my branding on it that will match thebook that you can purchase and use.
(04:50):
It's just so much easier, I feellike, to tangibly do it and see
and move than it is to do it on apiece of paper, but any way works.
Okay, back to the book.
My first core value is connection.
I love gatherings of allkinds and being around people.
I consider myself an extrovert, butespecially love when I can connect
personally with various individuals.
(05:12):
Other similar values that resonated werebelonging, collaboration, community,
cooperation, friendship, openness.
To me, connection looks like movingpast small talk, sharing both the
good and the hard, feeling seen,and the moments I say, me too.
My next core value is contribution.
(05:34):
Because I wasn't feeling fulfilledinside the home as a stay at home mother,
the values of achievement, ambition,contribution, freedom, fun, generosity,
independence, initiative, Personalfulfillment and service stuck out to me.
I wanted a word that signifiedmaking a difference beyond what
I was accomplishing at home.
To me, contribution looks like adding to acause bigger than myself, influencing the
(05:58):
lives of others, and making quantifiablechange, and giving generously.
Reliability is my third core value.
Growing up, the importance of beingon time was modeled over and over.
I internalized the practice of showing upearly and brought it into my adult life.
It was also instilled that in myfamily, we could be counted on.
(06:19):
We kept our promises and commitments.
Due to my upbringing and what I hadsubsequently learned was important,
I selected the values of commitment,efficiency, excellence, loyalty, order,
responsibility, and self discipline.
To me, reliability means followingthrough on what I said I would do, making
myself available, managing my mind andbeing respectful and true to who I am.
(06:43):
I will add here that somevalues can become maladaptive
and that means just extreme.
And so sometimes if it's anobsession, it may not be a value.
And I'm still borderline decidingon if my reliability is that way,
or if it really is just a value.
My fourth core value is refinement.
When I was 12, I begancollecting inspirational quotes.
(07:06):
Mentors gave me handouts filled withwisdom, and I wanted a place to record
all of the profound words I was hearing.
I began writing them downin the back of a notebook.
I then moved to typing them on a computer,altering the fonts and colors, and
printing them out when I had a full page.
I would glue them into ajournal, and my collection grew.
I believe these quotes are thereason I'm drawn to self improvement.
(07:27):
The related values were authenticity,growth, leadership, perseverance,
resourcefulness, self expression,self realization, and uniqueness.
To me, refinement looks likecontinuous learning, growing into
the next version of myself, beingconcise and naming the essentials.
I would also add here that Ireally love the word curate.
(07:50):
And so I, I feel like that, that goesin there with refinement as well.
The first two values were the easiestfor me to determine, whereas the other
two took a bit longer to put into words.
I also stopped at four instead oflooking for a fifth because I liked
how two began with the letter Cand two began with the letter R.
I'm open to seeing these I'm open toseeing if these change over time, but
(08:14):
for now they feel like the best fit.
Core values can be both descriptiveand aspirational, but will mostly
convey who you are currently.
If over half of your core valuesare attributes you hope to obtain,
you risk feeling shoulds and guilt.
As soon as you name your core values,you'll begin observing other people
making choices as if those choicesare associated with a core value.
(08:37):
It's important to note that weare not talking about values as
standards of behavior, rather one'sjudgment of what's important in life.
Core values are morally neutral.
Certain values are not better than others.
This knowledge helps you avoidjudging others so you can be who you
are and allow others to do the same.
When someone was late for anappointment, I would think to myself,
(08:59):
Even though they don't have thevalue of reliability at this moment,
they are living life according totheir core values and that's okay.
It's easy to judge people basedon your core values because
that's how you see the world.
We only have a glimpse of what'sreally going on in their life and
don't often see the big picture.
Maybe right beforehand theywere valuing patience with their
children over rushing to be on time.
(09:23):
Knowing your core values and beingable to recall them instantly will
help guide your decisions and help youfocus on what truly matters to you.
We will be referring back to our listof core values throughout the book.
So once you've named yours,keep the list nearby.
And then in the book, thereis the list of core values by
Brene Brown in Dare to Lead.
You can Google this.
(09:43):
It's easily found online andI will read some, if not all
of them later in the episode.
As you embark on the journey ofidentifying and nurturing your core
values, remember that these valuesare the seeds of your life's garden.
Plant them with intentionality,care, and attention.
Just as the gardener tends to each plant,ensuring it has the right conditions to
(10:05):
grow, You must cultivate your values andlet them guide your actions and decisions.
By focusing on your core values,you create a solid foundation
for your identity and a clearpath for your personal growth.
These values will help you navigatelife's challenges, celebrate its joys, and
maintain a sense of purpose and direction.
As you nurture these seeds, you'll findthat your life becomes more balanced,
(10:28):
fulfilled, and aligned with who you are.
Bloom tip.
Plant your core values withcare and nurture them daily.
They will help you grow andthrive in all parts of your life.
Remember, your gardenis yours to cultivate.
Embrace your core values.
Let them take root and watch as theygrow into beautiful thriving identity
flowers that reflect your true self.
(10:50):
With each value you nurture, youbloom into the best version of
yourself, ready to face the worldwith confidence, clarity, and joy.
End of chapter, and there's a cute littleillustration of a garden with the core
values that are planted in this picture.
There's respect, balance, and courage.
(11:14):
I want to start by talkingabout the opposite approach.
I want you to reflect on atime when you felt upset,
frustrated, or out of alignment.
Pause if you need more time.
In that moment, whatvalues were being violated?
(11:34):
When we feel off or uncomfortable,it's often because something is
clashing with what's important to us.
And that can be a window into ourneeds and what's going on in that
moment to help us get more aligned.
I want you to think about howyou make your daily decisions.
How would a core valueinfluence the way you approach
(11:56):
relationships, work, or self care?
When you're living in alignment with yourvalues, how does that affect your choices?
When you're out of alignment,what shifts for you?
You can reflect on this past week and seehow you made decisions or pay attention
to how you make future decisions.
(12:17):
Is it around a core value?
Are you on autopilot or just kind of inthe flow or are you steering your ship?
Are you in control of your life?
Are you the one that is consciouslymaking those decisions instead of
just letting life happen to you?
I would say this is oneof my favorite chapters.
(12:38):
If you can't tell, I just feel like ithad such a profound effect on my life.
When I discovered my core values.
That I wanted to sharethat with everybody.
My highest value is connection.
I feel like I didn't have the deepestrelationship with my mom growing up.
We didn't really connecton an emotional level.
(13:01):
So I feel like I soughtthose relationships out.
I found other women, other girls,other people to look up to and converse
with that I could get that deeperlevel of connection to fill my cup.
Okay.
Now I'm going to read some of thecore values and this will kind of be
just a lightning round to see juston the outset, if these resonate,
(13:25):
if any of them stick out to you.
Again, this can be foundin the book or online.
It's Brene Brown's list of core values.
Integrity, community, respect, growth,altruism, kindness, trust, understanding,
(13:45):
nature, ethics, financial stability.
Wisdom.
Joy.
Collaboration.
Risk taking.
Generosity.
Accountability.
Legacy.
(14:06):
Vision.
Thrift.
Beauty.
Excellence.
Dignity.
Stewardship.
Simplicity.
Intuition.
Leisure.
Optimism.
Peace.
(14:27):
Perseverance.
Caring.
Personal fulfillment.
Power.
Gratitude.
Confidence.
Time.
Those are just a few of thehundred that are listed and you
can always write your own or lookup other lists to compare it to.
And again, there will be a core value deckthat I create that will be coming out in
(14:51):
the near future in time for Christmas.
It makes a really great gift to helppeople identify their core values.
Now we're just going to playa game called This or That.
I have a few values here and I wantyou to consider if you feel like you
prioritize or align with one or the other.
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Freedom or security?
Adventure or home?
Teamwork or independence?
Risk or tradition.
It's interesting because they, theydo feel like conflicting values.
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So I wonder if you're drawn to oneor the other or how it feels for you.
I know what impacted me a lot asI read was discovering what word
resonated or stuck out the most.
I was trying to decide betweenservice and contribution.
And ultimately I settled oncontribution because I felt like it
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was more of a collaborative effort.
We were contributing to a greater whole.
Whereas service, it kind of, you put goodout into the world and then it's harder
to quantify or see if it comes back.
Not that service is a lesser valueby any means, but that's just what
resonated or made sense in my mind.
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Different values will stickout and make more sense to you.
If you're having a hard time identifyingyour core values, an idea is to put on
some music and see what comes up for youas you listen to the different songs.
Some songs can instill Serenity orfreedom, others, adventure, engagement,
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beauty, all the different things.
There are lots of items orexperiences that we tie to our values.
And so maybe those could behelpful in identifying yours.
Before we end, I did also want to talkabout core value conversations with kids.
As a mother myself, I really love talkingabout core values with my kids and
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identifying how what's important to themreflects who they are and the experiences
that we have within our family and whatis meaningful or memorable to them.
My oldest son, Rowan, hedefinitely values innovation.
He loves creating and buildingand transformers, origami.
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He loves just putting something newinto the world that wasn't there before.
My middle son, Brant, values humor.
He is always smiling,laughing, having a good time.
He's not without his tantrums, butyou can just tell that he's happy
go lucky, and that's what he values.
Emerson, my youngest, it'shard to tell yet, but right
now I know he values coziness.
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He really loves his blankie.
He loves sucking his thumb.
He loves cuddling that physical touch.
Those are some of thevalues I see in my kids.
As you model your core values, encourageyour children to think about what.
values they have, or you think aboutwhat you want to pass down to them,
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what you want to instill, becauseyou as the parent have a lot of
influence to what your children value.
Not that you can control them, but youcan certainly influence what they are
experiencing or Learning as we end, I wantto challenge you this week to choose one
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core value to focus on and consciouslybring it into every decision you make.
You can post about this on social media.
You can share it withme on Instagram, tag me.
I'd love to see how yourvalues are shaping your life.
And if you've identified some more ofyour core values, be sure to message
me on Instagram at let yourselfbloom underscore with Jen Banks.
And I'll share these in the next episode.
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Thank you for joining me.
And I will talk to you again soon.
Bye.
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