May 17, 2024 • 24 mins
In this episode of the "Loser Talk with Lar" podcast, we delve into the raw, inspiring journey of our host, Larry, as he navigates personal trials, loss, addiction, and the paramount importance of setting personal boundaries. Get a deep glimpse of Larry's early life, family experiences, the life that shaped him, and how his past molded his understanding of relationships - with himself and others.
Discover Larry's path towards health and wellness through the "Evolution of Larry" project. Understand how the lack of boundaries shaped his self-respect, reliability, and lifestyle, and the significant role boundaries play in safeguarding our mental health. Explore the narrative of Larry's childhood home, his family, and his poignant memories captured within its walls.
Learn about his journey of overcoming personal challenges, from dealing with a brother battling addiction to assuming responsibility for the family home following his mother's death. Despite heartbreak, adversity, and guilt, Larry developed the strength to forge personal boundaries and defended his principles.
We invite you to join us in this emotional, heart-rending, yet inspirational episode of Loser Talk with Lar. Journey with Larry as he learns to let go and lean into self-love, witnessing his thriving story of acceptance, resilience, and serenity's power to create a healthier, happier life.
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(00:00):
Music.
(01:05):
Play that funky music, Larry's Losers Orchestra.
I mean, seriously, play it.
Play it like you mean it. Play it. Play it. Play it.
(01:27):
They do it every week. They just play it.
Play it. They jam it funkily. and funky and all the things with the lingo of
coolness because they are Larry's Loser's Orchestra.
(01:48):
Give them some love. Yes, give them some love. Give them some love.
Yes. Yes, thank you. They work day and night to bring you the tunes.
Day and night. Oh my, thank you for being here for our, you can hear Wrigley squeaky toy.
(02:09):
Yeah, he's excited too. Thank you for being here for our 11th installment of
Loser Talk with Laird, losing a lot more than just weight.
I'm so excited that you're here with me.
So is Wrigley. If you haven't heard by now, I have a new website,
theevolutionoflary.com. mom.
(02:30):
I just can't believe it.
It's in its early stages, so be patient.
I'm adding a little bit here and there, so it's still being built, but I'm so proud of it.
It has a lot of mom in there, my family, my fur children, as you can hear in the background.
You get glimpses of me during different stages of my journey. It's so beautiful.
(02:57):
Last week, you heard the special Mother's Day edition.
And you heard the significance of hummingbirds
in my life. So you will see hummingbirds all over the website.
Mom loved purple and she looks so beautiful in it. So that's the base color of everything.
Just to explain some of the design concept to you, go to the evolutionoflarry.com.
(03:22):
This will be a hub of all things happy, all things happy, All things health
and wellness, all things loving ourselves,
there's no more fear of us or the food or the scale, etc..
It's a home base for our loser family to gather and to grow,
(03:45):
to lean on each other and lift each other up through our journeys.
It's a beautiful place to have a home base.
We have our own loser masterclass Zooms.
We offer one-on-ones with me where we can meet and focus on your personal strengths
and roadblocks. We have merchandise.
(04:08):
Have you seen it? Merchandise.
I designed a t-shirt. There's a water bottle so far. Just fun stuff.
I've just been having fun with it. We're also going to have a landing page for
recipes, motivational playlists, a monthly link letter that will start in June.
That's going to keep us all informed on the the latest happenings.
(04:31):
And we're even going to have a loser lounge that is going to highlight a transformation
every month, a loser lounge, lots of exciting things coming.
So make sure you are a part of this.
Get on there and leave your email also.
Yeah, get on there and leave your email. That's what I want you to do is leave
(04:52):
your email so you can be a part of this. Also, all of my social media stays the same.
So follow me on LarrysLosers22 on Instagram, The Evolution of Larry on Facebook.
Also ask to join our private Larrys Losers VIP on Facebook,
where we have exclusive content with our loser family gathering and communicating
(05:16):
so much to do to keep us engaged and excited about our health and wellness journeys.
If you're liking the work of this podcast, I have left my Venmo link on here.
The Evolution of Larry and Facebook have other ways to leave donations also.
I'm so grateful you're here with me.
(05:39):
Are you good at moving on?
You know the part of the God grant me the serenity to accept the things you cannot change part?
Are you good at that part?
Accepting and moving on? What about boundaries?
How are you with boundaries in your life?
(06:02):
Do you have trouble setting boundaries at your own detriment?
We tend to suck at all of this because we don't value ourselves.
So just using myself as an example, I tend to dwell on things.
So I have trouble moving on. I let things get to me.
(06:22):
I take things personally. Well, I used to, but we're going to get to that.
I let it bother me to the point that it causes depression, anxiety,
stress, all the things I used to.
When I was younger, I had no boundaries.
I didn't set boundaries with people. I felt like I was being nicer by not setting
(06:44):
boundaries and just saying, yes, of course I will.
Of course I'll be there. Of course I'll do that. Of course I can.
Yes, I'd love to. Of course I will.
To everything. And then not following through with most of it.
I didn't follow through.
I wouldn't show up. I wouldn't help with anything.
I hated myself, so it didn't matter what people thought of me.
(07:07):
It didn't matter that they thought I was wishy-washy or had no integrity.
I just drink, drink, drink. Nothing mattered. Hated myself.
These are just examples of me and my unhealthy.
Okay? That's my unhealthy. All right? Now think of those questions and your answers.
(07:28):
And after I tell you the story about boundaries and letting go.
We will define solutions and healthy, okay?
So here's the story.
By now, most of you know my early years began on a farm, but mom really didn't like that life.
(07:50):
And after a few years, we migrated into town.
Town was a very small town of about 1,200 people, so it was farm town.
I really never fit in anywhere on the farm and town.
Anywhere in Indiana, I always felt uncomfortable, like I had to be someone else,
(08:14):
and I'm not very good at that.
Anywho, we moved into town, found this beautiful house on a hill.
Huge front yard for us kids, big backyard. yard. Lots of land.
That would still make dad happy.
He could still do his huge garden, and trust me, he did. And mom could be in town.
(08:35):
I could be two blocks from school. The house would need to have a little remodeling,
well, actually a lot of remodeling, to fit our family.
The people that sold it to us, very interesting older couples, so interesting.
I'll never forget them, Harold and Gracie Roberts.
They had created a sanctuary outside. The sanctuary outside was a zoo.
(09:00):
I'm not kidding. Seriously, it was a zoo. They had peacocks.
They had reindeer. They had lots of animals.
Inside their home was a square dancing palace.
Once again, I'm not kidding. beautiful hardwood floors, blue shag carpeting on all the walls.
(09:21):
Blue shag carpeting on all the walls, you heard me. For acoustics, it was a sight to see.
Gracie, who was four foot seven, had dug out the basement herself.
She seriously took a shovel and made a basement herself.
(09:42):
You should have seen the kitchen. The kitchen, all the kitchen was made for her, of course.
She was the cook. So the sink was like three feet off the ground.
So all this had to be redone for us, for mom, you know, for regular sized people.
So everything had to be redone. So back to the basement, four foot seven,
(10:05):
she had dug out the basement.
Mom and dad had a grand idea of carpet squares and big dreams of bedrooms down
there for the older kids.
Not me, of course, because I got the only other room upstairs next to mom and dad.
They also took the beautiful sunroom, which was devastating to me.
Oh my God, I love that room.
(10:26):
It was at the front of the house that overlooked the hill, all the windows.
It just overlooked the hill and it had a fireplace. place. It was so beautiful.
But we needed another bathroom. Of course we did.
There was all of us in that one house. So they turned that room into their primary bathroom.
(10:46):
Mom made the house exactly the way she wanted it.
She picked out the brick. It had a tint of blue that she loved.
Dad took Mom to Arthur, Illinois to meet with the Amish to design her dream kitchen.
They made all the cabinets custom by hand. I remember how excited she was.
(11:12):
She was getting double ovens. She was getting anything she wanted. and she deserved it.
She furnished the house entirely with Tell City Furniture.
If you're from Indiana, you know what that is. It was a company here in Indiana
that is out of business now, but it was a very nice furniture company.
(11:32):
She had every room furnished with their pieces.
Our family home was complete beautiful
we lived we loved thought
laughed cried lots and lots of all of it over the years happened in that house
(11:53):
so many memories in our beautiful home well as you know mom and i took care
of dad there in that home and helped him transition there,
So now he's gone.
Mom and I moved away, and you know I had to help mom transition at my niece's home.
(12:15):
So now my sweet mom is gone. Speaking of boundaries, my sister is extremely
sick with alcoholism and very toxic.
There's no communication with her anymore.
Boundaries, right? That leaves my brother, who was left living in the house.
Before mom left, she wanted to be comforted knowing her three kids were safe
(12:39):
and taken care of with homes, at least.
My sister has a place to live. My brother could live there if he could handle
the utilities and payments of taxes, house insurance, etc.
And I have a house. But she kept going back to my brother.
His whole life he was non-functioning, especially now.
(13:03):
Total meth addict, drugs, alcohol.
She knew deep down he would not be able to take care of the situation,
and it bothered her so much up until the end.
It actually was such a big deal to her that just a day before she left,
we had a notary come in to sign an amendment to the will to change it from the
(13:26):
property being in us three kids' names to just mine.
She knew I was strong enough to handle it that finally all the enabling was
over and he would have to fend for himself.
As hard as that was to think about, she even said she was glad she wouldn't be around to see it.
(13:49):
So mom left. Shock set in with me, and a couple years went by.
I hesitated to put the house in just my name and left it as it is for the time being.
I texted my brother not long after my mom left and told him that if he could
keep the utilities on, then there was no illegal activity up there, which was laughable.
(14:10):
I mean, seriously, it was always illegal activity up there. It was a flop house.
He could continue living there. If not, I would have to sell the house.
So I ignored the situation for two years. I didn't care about life.
I didn't care about anything.
My number one person had just left me. So two years go by.
(14:33):
And then the fall of 2023, something is telling me to put the house in my name.
You all know that life guides me. and life was telling me, Larry,
go put the house in your name. So that was October.
So my niece and I make a visit and it just so happens we go to the utility office
(14:54):
and September, the utilities were shut off.
So the process begins.
But in the meantime, I start visiting the house and oh my God,
you cannot even imagine what he has done to the house.
Filth, trash, disgust, disrespect.
(15:17):
So talk about boundaries. I tell him over and over again, I just say in a calm,
clear voice, I am selling the house.
You have to get out.
At first he says, okay, it's your house. I'll get it out. That's what he says
at first. But then the excuses start coming.
(15:40):
And then the mean brother starts coming. And then the drug addict brother starts coming.
The brother that no one ever dared stand up to before.
How dare I tell him no? That 16-year-old child starts coming at me.
That 16-year-old that when his daddy left him, stunted him.
(16:03):
And he never grew up from that 16-year-old child.
No one has ever done that to him before, told him no.
He's always gotten a free ride before. But now Larry has just shown him what a true boundary is.
And he did not like it.
So the court battle begins. Of course, I win the battle, and he is evicted from the house.
(16:27):
He told me I was dead to him, and I told him I didn't care, which I don't. I really don't.
We never had a relationship anyway, which is what I said.
He died that day my father left us. He's never allowed himself to move on from that.
(16:48):
Anywho, my niece and I showed up the day we were told by the judge,
at noon, to evict him with the police.
It was very sad and horrific.
He had friends there helping him. He was panicked, strapping belongs to a truck.
I mean, it was horrible.
(17:08):
His girlfriend, whatever she is, loaded up a trailer that was tied to a lawn mower.
She rode off into the sunset, driving right in front of us as our mouths fell open.
He eventually walked off with his poor dog, who is another victim in this mess.
(17:33):
He walked a few blocks to his property my aunt gave him that is down on the riverbank.
He's now homeless living in
a camper all the belongings strewn about
he was homeless when he lived in the house no utilities for six months living
(17:54):
in filth and trash the house would have fallen down around him or it would have
been taken away because of no payment of taxes Taxes, not a care in the world.
Who has to pay taxes? Who has to pay utilities? Who has to pay house?
I mean, just not a care in the world.
(18:15):
So we've had to clear all the junk out of the house, get it ready to sell.
My childhood home, I have to have peace from all of this.
I have to move on and restore mom's name.
He had turned that place into a drug flophouse, and I put an end to it.
(18:37):
I hope a family ends up with it that will grow there like we did,
laugh, love, and cry like we did, have big dreams like Mom and Dad did.
Finally restored to what it was meant to be.
It will be very emotional to move on and say goodbye.
But after I had to say goodbye to Mom, mom.
(19:00):
After that, I'm able to move on and accept the things I can't control so much easier.
I see the bigger picture now, and I live in that serene place of peace.
I love myself now, and that also sees me up to have hard, sets me up to have hard boundaries.
It sets me up very well to have hard boundaries, because after that,
(19:24):
I can do anything and do hard things, like be able to make the decision to evict my brother.
Am I proud of that? Not at all. But do I feel guilty? Not at all. I did the right thing.
I did what mom and I had discussed so many times.
I did what was right for me, what was right for the house, for the community,
(19:49):
and ultimately for my brother.
Rather, he's needed tough love his whole life, and unfortunately,
he's just now getting it in his 60s.
I honestly think it's way too late for him, but I have my own life to live.
I've moved on from my brother's and sister's toxic problems. I've saved myself.
(20:12):
And speaking of acceptance, I accept that there's people out there that are
judging me for the decisions I've made, And I can tell you that that would have bothered me extremely.
That would extremely would have bothered me in my younger years.
But now I sleep peacefully, knowing the people that mean something to me, love me.
(20:36):
And I finally love me.
And when that happens, no one else matters.
I make decisions for me.
Life is different now, and it's beautiful on this side.
Now that I've gone through my healthier path with boundaries and acceptance,
(20:57):
does it show you a way, a path to yours?
Go back and ask yourself those questions now and see if you can make a path
to healthy for you. Are you good at accepting things as is and moving on?
Are you good at setting boundaries?
(21:17):
Learn to love yourself.
Find your peace and serenity. We all deserve it.
Don't forget to visit the website, theevolutionoflarry.com. It's a work of love and progress.
(21:37):
Leave your email for the Loser link letter coming soon.
Follow Larry's Losers 22 on Instagram, The Evolution of Larry on Facebook.
Ask to join Larry's Losers VIP group on Facebook.
Our Loser family is gathering with lots of fun ways to connect on our health
and wellness journeys. We even have our own Loser Masterclass Zooms,
(22:01):
and all of you are welcome to join.
Everyone can join. If you're liking this podcast vibe, you can leave a gift.
I provided the Venmo link on here.
The website and Facebook have other ways to gift also. I am so happy you're with me.
(22:23):
Now before i leave you here's some words of wisdom,
daring to set boundaries is about
having the courage to love ourselves even when
we risk disappointing others
thank you so much for listening see you next time love you all Thank you all.
(23:00):
Music.
Music.
(01:05):
Play that funky music, Larry's Losers Orchestra.
I mean, seriously, play it.
Play it like you mean it. Play it. Play it. Play it.
(01:27):
They do it every week. They just play it.
Play it. They jam it funkily. and funky and all the things with the lingo of
coolness because they are Larry's Loser's Orchestra.
(01:48):
Give them some love. Yes, give them some love. Give them some love.
Yes. Yes, thank you. They work day and night to bring you the tunes.
Day and night. Oh my, thank you for being here for our, you can hear Wrigley squeaky toy.
(02:09):
Yeah, he's excited too. Thank you for being here for our 11th installment of
Loser Talk with Laird, losing a lot more than just weight.
I'm so excited that you're here with me.
So is Wrigley. If you haven't heard by now, I have a new website,
theevolutionoflary.com. mom.
(02:30):
I just can't believe it.
It's in its early stages, so be patient.
I'm adding a little bit here and there, so it's still being built, but I'm so proud of it.
It has a lot of mom in there, my family, my fur children, as you can hear in the background.
You get glimpses of me during different stages of my journey. It's so beautiful.
(02:57):
Last week, you heard the special Mother's Day edition.
And you heard the significance of hummingbirds
in my life. So you will see hummingbirds all over the website.
Mom loved purple and she looks so beautiful in it. So that's the base color of everything.
Just to explain some of the design concept to you, go to the evolutionoflarry.com.
(03:22):
This will be a hub of all things happy, all things happy, All things health
and wellness, all things loving ourselves,
there's no more fear of us or the food or the scale, etc..
It's a home base for our loser family to gather and to grow,
(03:45):
to lean on each other and lift each other up through our journeys.
It's a beautiful place to have a home base.
We have our own loser masterclass Zooms.
We offer one-on-ones with me where we can meet and focus on your personal strengths
and roadblocks. We have merchandise.
(04:08):
Have you seen it? Merchandise.
I designed a t-shirt. There's a water bottle so far. Just fun stuff.
I've just been having fun with it. We're also going to have a landing page for
recipes, motivational playlists, a monthly link letter that will start in June.
That's going to keep us all informed on the the latest happenings.
(04:31):
And we're even going to have a loser lounge that is going to highlight a transformation
every month, a loser lounge, lots of exciting things coming.
So make sure you are a part of this.
Get on there and leave your email also.
Yeah, get on there and leave your email. That's what I want you to do is leave
(04:52):
your email so you can be a part of this. Also, all of my social media stays the same.
So follow me on LarrysLosers22 on Instagram, The Evolution of Larry on Facebook.
Also ask to join our private Larrys Losers VIP on Facebook,
where we have exclusive content with our loser family gathering and communicating
(05:16):
so much to do to keep us engaged and excited about our health and wellness journeys.
If you're liking the work of this podcast, I have left my Venmo link on here.
The Evolution of Larry and Facebook have other ways to leave donations also.
I'm so grateful you're here with me.
(05:39):
Are you good at moving on?
You know the part of the God grant me the serenity to accept the things you cannot change part?
Are you good at that part?
Accepting and moving on? What about boundaries?
How are you with boundaries in your life?
(06:02):
Do you have trouble setting boundaries at your own detriment?
We tend to suck at all of this because we don't value ourselves.
So just using myself as an example, I tend to dwell on things.
So I have trouble moving on. I let things get to me.
(06:22):
I take things personally. Well, I used to, but we're going to get to that.
I let it bother me to the point that it causes depression, anxiety,
stress, all the things I used to.
When I was younger, I had no boundaries.
I didn't set boundaries with people. I felt like I was being nicer by not setting
(06:44):
boundaries and just saying, yes, of course I will.
Of course I'll be there. Of course I'll do that. Of course I can.
Yes, I'd love to. Of course I will.
To everything. And then not following through with most of it.
I didn't follow through.
I wouldn't show up. I wouldn't help with anything.
I hated myself, so it didn't matter what people thought of me.
(07:07):
It didn't matter that they thought I was wishy-washy or had no integrity.
I just drink, drink, drink. Nothing mattered. Hated myself.
These are just examples of me and my unhealthy.
Okay? That's my unhealthy. All right? Now think of those questions and your answers.
(07:28):
And after I tell you the story about boundaries and letting go.
We will define solutions and healthy, okay?
So here's the story.
By now, most of you know my early years began on a farm, but mom really didn't like that life.
(07:50):
And after a few years, we migrated into town.
Town was a very small town of about 1,200 people, so it was farm town.
I really never fit in anywhere on the farm and town.
Anywhere in Indiana, I always felt uncomfortable, like I had to be someone else,
(08:14):
and I'm not very good at that.
Anywho, we moved into town, found this beautiful house on a hill.
Huge front yard for us kids, big backyard. yard. Lots of land.
That would still make dad happy.
He could still do his huge garden, and trust me, he did. And mom could be in town.
(08:35):
I could be two blocks from school. The house would need to have a little remodeling,
well, actually a lot of remodeling, to fit our family.
The people that sold it to us, very interesting older couples, so interesting.
I'll never forget them, Harold and Gracie Roberts.
They had created a sanctuary outside. The sanctuary outside was a zoo.
(09:00):
I'm not kidding. Seriously, it was a zoo. They had peacocks.
They had reindeer. They had lots of animals.
Inside their home was a square dancing palace.
Once again, I'm not kidding. beautiful hardwood floors, blue shag carpeting on all the walls.
(09:21):
Blue shag carpeting on all the walls, you heard me. For acoustics, it was a sight to see.
Gracie, who was four foot seven, had dug out the basement herself.
She seriously took a shovel and made a basement herself.
(09:42):
You should have seen the kitchen. The kitchen, all the kitchen was made for her, of course.
She was the cook. So the sink was like three feet off the ground.
So all this had to be redone for us, for mom, you know, for regular sized people.
So everything had to be redone. So back to the basement, four foot seven,
(10:05):
she had dug out the basement.
Mom and dad had a grand idea of carpet squares and big dreams of bedrooms down
there for the older kids.
Not me, of course, because I got the only other room upstairs next to mom and dad.
They also took the beautiful sunroom, which was devastating to me.
Oh my God, I love that room.
(10:26):
It was at the front of the house that overlooked the hill, all the windows.
It just overlooked the hill and it had a fireplace. place. It was so beautiful.
But we needed another bathroom. Of course we did.
There was all of us in that one house. So they turned that room into their primary bathroom.
(10:46):
Mom made the house exactly the way she wanted it.
She picked out the brick. It had a tint of blue that she loved.
Dad took Mom to Arthur, Illinois to meet with the Amish to design her dream kitchen.
They made all the cabinets custom by hand. I remember how excited she was.
(11:12):
She was getting double ovens. She was getting anything she wanted. and she deserved it.
She furnished the house entirely with Tell City Furniture.
If you're from Indiana, you know what that is. It was a company here in Indiana
that is out of business now, but it was a very nice furniture company.
(11:32):
She had every room furnished with their pieces.
Our family home was complete beautiful
we lived we loved thought
laughed cried lots and lots of all of it over the years happened in that house
(11:53):
so many memories in our beautiful home well as you know mom and i took care
of dad there in that home and helped him transition there,
So now he's gone.
Mom and I moved away, and you know I had to help mom transition at my niece's home.
(12:15):
So now my sweet mom is gone. Speaking of boundaries, my sister is extremely
sick with alcoholism and very toxic.
There's no communication with her anymore.
Boundaries, right? That leaves my brother, who was left living in the house.
Before mom left, she wanted to be comforted knowing her three kids were safe
(12:39):
and taken care of with homes, at least.
My sister has a place to live. My brother could live there if he could handle
the utilities and payments of taxes, house insurance, etc.
And I have a house. But she kept going back to my brother.
His whole life he was non-functioning, especially now.
(13:03):
Total meth addict, drugs, alcohol.
She knew deep down he would not be able to take care of the situation,
and it bothered her so much up until the end.
It actually was such a big deal to her that just a day before she left,
we had a notary come in to sign an amendment to the will to change it from the
(13:26):
property being in us three kids' names to just mine.
She knew I was strong enough to handle it that finally all the enabling was
over and he would have to fend for himself.
As hard as that was to think about, she even said she was glad she wouldn't be around to see it.
(13:49):
So mom left. Shock set in with me, and a couple years went by.
I hesitated to put the house in just my name and left it as it is for the time being.
I texted my brother not long after my mom left and told him that if he could
keep the utilities on, then there was no illegal activity up there, which was laughable.
(14:10):
I mean, seriously, it was always illegal activity up there. It was a flop house.
He could continue living there. If not, I would have to sell the house.
So I ignored the situation for two years. I didn't care about life.
I didn't care about anything.
My number one person had just left me. So two years go by.
(14:33):
And then the fall of 2023, something is telling me to put the house in my name.
You all know that life guides me. and life was telling me, Larry,
go put the house in your name. So that was October.
So my niece and I make a visit and it just so happens we go to the utility office
(14:54):
and September, the utilities were shut off.
So the process begins.
But in the meantime, I start visiting the house and oh my God,
you cannot even imagine what he has done to the house.
Filth, trash, disgust, disrespect.
(15:17):
So talk about boundaries. I tell him over and over again, I just say in a calm,
clear voice, I am selling the house.
You have to get out.
At first he says, okay, it's your house. I'll get it out. That's what he says
at first. But then the excuses start coming.
(15:40):
And then the mean brother starts coming. And then the drug addict brother starts coming.
The brother that no one ever dared stand up to before.
How dare I tell him no? That 16-year-old child starts coming at me.
That 16-year-old that when his daddy left him, stunted him.
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And he never grew up from that 16-year-old child.
No one has ever done that to him before, told him no.
He's always gotten a free ride before. But now Larry has just shown him what a true boundary is.
And he did not like it.
So the court battle begins. Of course, I win the battle, and he is evicted from the house.
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He told me I was dead to him, and I told him I didn't care, which I don't. I really don't.
We never had a relationship anyway, which is what I said.
He died that day my father left us. He's never allowed himself to move on from that.
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Anywho, my niece and I showed up the day we were told by the judge,
at noon, to evict him with the police.
It was very sad and horrific.
He had friends there helping him. He was panicked, strapping belongs to a truck.
I mean, it was horrible.
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His girlfriend, whatever she is, loaded up a trailer that was tied to a lawn mower.
She rode off into the sunset, driving right in front of us as our mouths fell open.
He eventually walked off with his poor dog, who is another victim in this mess.
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He walked a few blocks to his property my aunt gave him that is down on the riverbank.
He's now homeless living in
a camper all the belongings strewn about
he was homeless when he lived in the house no utilities for six months living
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in filth and trash the house would have fallen down around him or it would have
been taken away because of no payment of taxes Taxes, not a care in the world.
Who has to pay taxes? Who has to pay utilities? Who has to pay house?
I mean, just not a care in the world.
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So we've had to clear all the junk out of the house, get it ready to sell.
My childhood home, I have to have peace from all of this.
I have to move on and restore mom's name.
He had turned that place into a drug flophouse, and I put an end to it.
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I hope a family ends up with it that will grow there like we did,
laugh, love, and cry like we did, have big dreams like Mom and Dad did.
Finally restored to what it was meant to be.
It will be very emotional to move on and say goodbye.
But after I had to say goodbye to Mom, mom.
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After that, I'm able to move on and accept the things I can't control so much easier.
I see the bigger picture now, and I live in that serene place of peace.
I love myself now, and that also sees me up to have hard, sets me up to have hard boundaries.
It sets me up very well to have hard boundaries, because after that,
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I can do anything and do hard things, like be able to make the decision to evict my brother.
Am I proud of that? Not at all. But do I feel guilty? Not at all. I did the right thing.
I did what mom and I had discussed so many times.
I did what was right for me, what was right for the house, for the community,
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and ultimately for my brother.
Rather, he's needed tough love his whole life, and unfortunately,
he's just now getting it in his 60s.
I honestly think it's way too late for him, but I have my own life to live.
I've moved on from my brother's and sister's toxic problems. I've saved myself.
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And speaking of acceptance, I accept that there's people out there that are
judging me for the decisions I've made, And I can tell you that that would have bothered me extremely.
That would extremely would have bothered me in my younger years.
But now I sleep peacefully, knowing the people that mean something to me, love me.
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And I finally love me.
And when that happens, no one else matters.
I make decisions for me.
Life is different now, and it's beautiful on this side.
Now that I've gone through my healthier path with boundaries and acceptance,
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does it show you a way, a path to yours?
Go back and ask yourself those questions now and see if you can make a path
to healthy for you. Are you good at accepting things as is and moving on?
Are you good at setting boundaries?
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Learn to love yourself.
Find your peace and serenity. We all deserve it.
Don't forget to visit the website, theevolutionoflarry.com. It's a work of love and progress.
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Now before i leave you here's some words of wisdom,
daring to set boundaries is about
having the courage to love ourselves even when
we risk disappointing others
thank you so much for listening see you next time love you all Thank you all.
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