S1 E8 Controlling The Uncontrollable Pain Point

Summary   In this conversation, Dr. Marc Reynolds discusses how to navigate pain points that are beyond your control and still make positive change. He shares three practical tips: focusing on what you can control, focusing on solutions rather than problems, and building resilience by seeing challenges as opportunities to learn and grow. By implementing these tips, you can foster a positive workplace and enhance team effectiveness.   Takeaways

• Focus on what you can control and take action in your sphere of influence.
• Redirect conversations from problems to solutions.
• See challenges as opportunities to learn and grow.
• Celebrate wins and build resilience in the workplace.

Chapters   00:00 Introduction: Navigating Pain Points Beyond Your Control 01:38 Chapter 1: Focusing on What You Can Control 02:35 Chapter 2: Shifting from Problems to Solutions 03:33 Chapter 3: Building Resilience and Celebrating Wins   Keywords   pain points, workplace, team effectiveness, challenges, solutions, resilience, positive change

Episode Transcript

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If you're a
business leader looking to fostera positive workplace, enhance team
effectiveness, and navigate challengeseffectively
while focusing on strategic objectives,or if you just want to make work work
better than join us for a mini workshop
where we sharethree things you can do today.
I'm your host Dr.
Marc Reynolds, and todaywe're going to talk about

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navigating pain pointsthat are beyond your control.
In the Dana Oakes interview, he said
some of the most difficult pain pointsyou can't do anything about.
Then it's how do you live with itwhen you have no control over it?
I encourage you to go backand watch that interview and check it out.
One of the examples he gave was there arelegislative laws that are passed.

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There are regulations and stipulationsand a host of different
things that come down in his worldthat he has no control with.
He just has to comply.
I think you'll find that in your life.
Either you experience the same thingor mentally in your mind you feel that
same “What am I supposed to do about it?”Or “I have no choice.

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That's just what I have to do.”
We want to give you three really practicaltips to address this
and empower yourself to still make growthand positive change, even
when there's nothing you can do directlyabout the pain point in front of you.
First is to stop
and ask,what are my options moving forward?

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What do I have control over?
You need to focus on what you can control.
By doing that,you won't feel stuck and paralyzed.
There's always something you can do.
It just might not be the solutionfor the entire problem,
but you're going to make progressin your sphere of influence
that helps bring hope, optimism,and a self-perception of empowerment.

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Second is to focus on solutionsrather than problems.
So when you in your own mind,or when someone else starts
complaining about a problem or a challengethat they can't do anything about,
redirect the conversation by asking, “Sowhat do you think our options
are?” Or “what do you think we can doto improve the situation”.

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By focusing and spending the majorityof your time on solutions
rather than problems, again,it's going to lead to productivity.
It's going to lead to growth, hope,and a positive workplace.
As soon as that shiftsand we become problem focused,
then productivity slows down,
morale drops and we start losing momentum.

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Stay focused on solutions.
It doesn't meanwe can't discuss the problems.
It doesn't meanwe can't analyze the problem.
It doesn't mean we can't take a momentto mourn its loss or to be frustrated.
It's just proportionally,we want the majority
of our day time and work hoursto be focused on creating solutions.

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Build resilience by seeing problemsor challenges as opportunities
to learn and grow.
You might ask yourself,what are we learning from this?
Don't linger on mistakesor fails, instead, celebrate
someone getting back up.
Celebrate resilience.
Celebrate learning.
Celebrate improvement and growth.

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If we celebrate those things,
then instead of it becoming
this burdened,
labored activity to come to work,
we're going to be looking for waysto get more of that celebration.
We're going to have that positive momentumand be motivated
to do something good, ratherthan just avoid doing something bad.

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One way you can applythat today is to set aside
a time at the beginning of every meeting,like Dana did,
to make sure that you're celebratingthe wins of your team.
Take time to point outdifferent individuals.
Make sure that you're coveringeach individual at different points
to make sure that they knowthat they've been seen, heard, that

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they're valued, and that you need themThey're doing their best work.
I hope these tips helpyou make work work better this week.
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We would love to talk and work with youmore to help you
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See you next time!