July 24, 2024 • 17 mins
Hey everyone! I'm thrilled to share my excitement about how my first mock podcast went, hitting 80 downloads in just two days! As someone still learning the ropes, I can't thank you enough for your amazing support. This journey is just beginning, and I'm eager to take it with you.
Today, I want to dive into why we often seek approval from others throughout our lives, starting from childhood. It's natural to crave validation, but it's crucial to listen to our own intuition. We all have that inner voice guiding us, yet many of us tend to ignore it.
In this episode, I reflect on my personal experiences of seeking others' opinions and realizing that deep down, I always knew the right answers. It's all about trusting yourself and your instincts, even when others' feedback might not align with your feelings.
We'll explore the significance of genuine relationships and how true friends stand by you through thick and thin. I'll share insights on navigating social media's impact on our need for approval and the importance of maintaining a positive mindset, no matter the challenges.
Join me as I share my journey, my faith, and the lessons I've learned along the way. Let's embrace our intuition, cherish genuine connections, and strive for a fulfilling life. Thank you for being part of this adventure with me. Stay tuned for more insightful discussions!
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(00:00):
So, hey, you guys. How are you?
I just want to check in and let you guys know that I was actually really surprised
about how my first mock podcast went.
I had, I think, about 80 downloads for two days.
(00:22):
I know nothing about this stuff. I'm still learning, but I heard that's pretty amazing.
So I just want to thank you guys so very much. You guys are awesome.
I'm really looking forward to this adventure with you guys.
So that's first off. Thank you for being so amazing.
I was going to wait a few days to talk to you guys.
(00:42):
And then of course, today I had a million things going through my head and I
was like, hmm, I want to talk about this and I want to talk about that.
But I guess I'm just going to focus on what's really on the the forefront for me.
And it's simply about why we always need people's approval for something in our lives.
(01:04):
And this starts when we're really young, right?
We want to make our parents happy or significant people in our families happy
because in turn, we feel like we're doing the the right thing.
And I believe as we mature and get older, some of us still crave for that reassurance
(01:30):
that we're doing the right thing, right?
I would say a majority of society does that, whether it's from our families,
our friends, our significant other, social media, all of the above.
Love, it's all about getting that feedback, right?
That you're doing a good job and you're doing the right thing.
(01:51):
But at the end of the day, I think that the most important thing for us is to
focus on if we think it's the right thing and if we feel good about it.
Because, you know, we have this thing called the psyche, right?
Our subconscious conscience.
And it never lies. You know, you heard that as a kid, like your subconscious never like lies, right?
(02:20):
But you don't really get it. Or at least I didn't get it as a kid. I'm like, yeah, right.
I would always go to all my friends when I was younger and ask,
you know, what do you think?
But it's funny because Because now, as an adult, a full-fledged 52-year-old
adult, I always knew the answer.
(02:43):
You know, it's called intuition.
And we all have it. And we're all born with it. And many of us choose to simply ignore it.
It's kind of like in the movies where you had the little angel sitting on one shoulder,
shoulder and then you had the devil sitting on the other shoulder and like the
(03:06):
angels whispering in your ear, it's fine. Just do it.
And then the little devils whispering in your ear, you know, whatever.
Don't do it. Or vice versa is what I meant.
Whatever. Anyways, you know what I'm talking about, right? So you had the good
and the bad and like you would always make the wrong choice
even though you knew in the
(03:28):
back of your mind you knew the answer you knew what the consequence was going
to be you knew what was going to happen but you still did whatever you weren't
supposed to do or you still made a choice that should have been the reverse choice and in,
getting to that point you still
(03:49):
asked probably your whole circle of people around you for their opinions.
And I think, honestly, from my perspective, looking back now,
asking like all those girlfriends, what do you think?
How do you feel about this? And then sometimes they'd give me like opinions
(04:12):
or feedback that I completely didn't want to hear.
Meanwhile, I asked for it, right? So what are you going to do?
Like you ask your close friends for their opinion, and if you don't get back
what you want to hear, you get pissed at them, right?
I mean, it's like, what was I doing? And then you get all worked up over it.
(04:33):
But meanwhile, the whole point is that we know inside our own minds and in our
core what the right thing is to do.
Because Because God did gift us this thing called intuition.
God, the universe, whatever, whoever you think gave it to us, we got it, right?
(04:55):
So we're all born with this thing called intuition, but we don't utilize it.
And that's one thing during the past, like probably five years that I've really gotten strong about.
And I'm kind of proud of myself that I am able to just follow my instincts and
(05:16):
do what I want to do, what I believe in.
Some people might be very opinionated about something that I want to do,
and I respect their opinions fully.
But at the end of the day, if you're not hurting anybody and you're doing something
that makes you feel good about yourself,
(05:37):
and again, inside your core is not screaming out, this is the wrong thing, then guess what?
It's probably the right thing for you, and it's probably going to make you happy.
So do it. Life is short. Just do what you want to do.
If you have an aspiration to do something, work on it. It might not happen overnight.
(06:02):
You might have to think about it for some time and plan things out if you're
a planner, unlike me who just jumps and does things.
But you know, some people are planners and they really have to like sort things
out in their mind and write them down and organize them and have a timeline,
you know, whatever works best for you.
But point being is just go for what you want, you know?
(06:25):
Everyone is very opinionated in this world that we live in.
And I don't know, I mean, everyone's entitled to an opinion,
but yet on the same note, like, it's kind of sad because people are over opinionated about things.
And you know, there's a line there, right? There's like, there There should
be like a line where you can't step over the line about your opinions on a subject
(06:50):
or a person or whatever the case is.
You know, sometimes it just invades your privacy altogether, right?
So, but unfortunately, you know, this is the world we live in.
I mean, you see it all the time on social media, right?
People like make a post, for example, on Facebook and then, you know,
it didn't settle right with like a bunch of people.
(07:11):
And then all of a sudden you get this banter going back and forth and it's like
ridiculous because, you know, again, the person who wrote the post, maybe they're.
I don't know, they're correct or whatever, or maybe they're politically incorrect, whatever the case is.
But these days, it can take the smallest, slightest comment to just start a
(07:35):
full-fledged banter war on social media.
And it's sad because, again, people are actually posting things because they
want approval, like we were just talking about, and they want to feel,
you know, important, which is fine.
You know, we all want to feel important, right? That's like a normal thing for
(07:56):
humans. But it's very important for people to feel approved of on social media.
And it's kind of taken over the reality of the world, if you will,
because I feel, and I could be wrong, it's just my opinion, right?
I feel that much of society is living in this fake pretend world where real problems don't occur.
(08:22):
And if they do occur, we're hiding them under the carpet and we're pretending
like everything's perfect when it's not.
And that's just, I don't know, it's just really sad.
It's really, really sad that people just can't be who they are,
(08:43):
show who they are, and just come to terms with what it is.
But instead, people want to hide behind something and pretend. tend, you know?
And, you know, if that's the way that people cope, then that's okay,
(09:03):
you know, because people all have different coping mechanisms and I guess it's
whatever gets you through the day, right?
So no judgment there. People can do whatever they want, honestly.
I've just never really been one to really fall into the social media thing.
I've always been intrigued by it, but I'm more of an observer than anything.
(09:29):
I like to watch. I like to listen. And I don't really get offended by really
anything unless it's absolutely being directed towards hurting another person's feelings.
But other than that, I don't get too involved with politics or anything of the
sort because it just gets really, really messy, especially these days.
(09:51):
And I just like to watch silently and keep my opinions to myself.
It's just, I feel like that's just better to do than anything.
So yeah, I don't know.
It's a different kind of world. That's all I can say, you know.
I wish people were more real with each other and not so fake, you know.
(10:14):
You see someone in the supermarket and you say hi and they say hi to you.
And then like all of a sudden, you know, you turn your back and they talk about
you in like a matter of like 1.2 seconds.
That's the kind of stuff that really I just don't really have a lot of tolerance
for, you know. no, I just want genuine relationships with people.
(10:35):
And if I can't have a genuine relationship with someone, then I'd rather not
have one at all, to be perfectly honest with you.
You know, my family always taught me that if you can count your very closest confidants on one hand,
then you are very rich in a way that is not monetary, but in a way that counts
(10:58):
more than most materialistic things in the world.
And when you get older, you realize that, right?
When you're younger, you have no idea. You think everybody's your friend.
You think everybody next to you is the friend on your block.
Everyone on your block is your friend.
Everybody's your friend. But in actuality, what is really a friend?
(11:19):
Is it someone you just say hi to every single morning because you run into them
and they're your friend? No. know.
I mean, the definition of a true friend is pretty rare and pretty specific, right?
I would say that a true friend is someone that you can call at any time and
(11:39):
they will be there for you, no matter what.
They will drop everything and be there for you.
And I would say that a true friend is someone who is going to keep your deepest,
darkest secrets a secret.
And I would say a friend is someone who's going to be nonjudgmental when listening to you speak,
(12:01):
but yet respond in a manner that is kind, even though they may give their opinion,
which may be opposite of what you are thinking,
as long as it's in the direction to give you some positive feedback that might
(12:21):
sway you to change your mind for a better reason, right?
I have a very best friend and we are close and we are like sisters and we've
been there for each other throughout the many years.
And all the things I just described to you are the things that we've done for each other.
(12:45):
We've called each other in the middle of the night and we've both gone running,
kids and all, because that's what you do.
So for me, she is like my million dollar baby.
She is everything to me because I'd rather have one of her than 10 of the other.
And, you know, again, I had to kind of learn that the hard way.
(13:10):
I mean, of course, I have close friends, don't get me wrong,
but you know what I'm saying.
That one friend, that one special friend that knows you inside and out like
the back of your hand, you know?
And that being said, relationships can be really challenging, you know?
(13:30):
Socially very challenging. challenging but we get
there and we work on it and you
know our parents our families they try to teach us
the best they can right for these relationships we watch our
parents we watch our like special people in our lives that raised us our guardians
that raised us our family whoever raised you we watch them and like they're
(13:52):
our role model for relationships hence the whole like thing about divorce and
how people will say like,
well, my parents were divorced, so I got divorced after I got married because
that's like all I saw growing up.
And do I believe that?
(14:15):
Slightly, definitely. But then I also believe that we are at our own free will
when it comes to whether we follow what we learned when we were little or we
change our opinions when we're older, right?
Because you could have two great parents or you could have had a parent that
(14:37):
wasn't the best, right? Not the best role model.
It doesn't mean you have to be like them. It just means you can learn,
but not everybody learns.
And sometimes it takes people some time to realize how they could be different
from their offspring or their guardians, right?
So that being said, I don't know.
(15:01):
I have a lot to share with you guys. And as I get more comfortable doing this,
we're going to be talking about a lot of different things.
But I actually think that this is going to be really an amazing experience and
I'm very very excited and today I'm just kind of like having an off day to be honest with you.
(15:23):
Some stuff bothered me and I just kind of like let it go.
But yet I haven't. So obviously you can still kind of hear it in my tone, but it's all good.
Like I kind of said to you guys yesterday in the first podcast,
you have to keep a positive mindset.
And for me, spirituality is big and my My faith is very big and I'm already
(15:49):
a lot better than I was, you know, three hours ago.
And it's all about keeping the faith. Like I told you guys, we can get through absolutely anything.
I'm telling you, positive mindset.
Just be grateful. Look outside the window. See the air, even though we can't
actually see the air, but you know what I mean, right?
(16:11):
We're looking in midair and you see like the beautiful trees and the blue sky
and the sun, and even if it was raining, beauty, right?
It's all natural beauty that we're here on earth, currently present in the physical
being to be able to see and enjoy.
So in actuality, if you're listening to this, you're as lucky as I am because
(16:32):
here we are and God has us here and That's amazing.
And I am going to always get through whatever because of the techniques and
the strategies that I've learned over the years.
And this is why I totally want to share these things with you.
And I want to be able to give you some insight on how to look at the world slightly different.
(16:58):
And they're not always going to be like looking through rose colored glasses,
But even if you have dark tinted glasses, I'm still going to teach you to look through and see the sun.
And in the future, you guys will be able to tell what I'm or be able to see,
I should say, what I'm talking about. out.
(17:19):
So that being said, I'm going to let you guys go and I hope you guys have a
great day. And you know what?
Thank you so much for following me because you know what?
That means that you guys have faith in me and that you're going to continue
to listen and it's only going to get better from here on in, I promise.
And again, thank you, thank you, thank you.
(17:42):
And I hope that you guys will share my podcast with your friends,
and I would love to see it grow and I want you guys to be part of it.
All right. C'est la vie. I will talk to you guys next time. Bye.
So, hey, you guys. How are you?
I just want to check in and let you guys know that I was actually really surprised
about how my first mock podcast went.
I had, I think, about 80 downloads for two days.
(00:22):
I know nothing about this stuff. I'm still learning, but I heard that's pretty amazing.
So I just want to thank you guys so very much. You guys are awesome.
I'm really looking forward to this adventure with you guys.
So that's first off. Thank you for being so amazing.
I was going to wait a few days to talk to you guys.
(00:42):
And then of course, today I had a million things going through my head and I
was like, hmm, I want to talk about this and I want to talk about that.
But I guess I'm just going to focus on what's really on the the forefront for me.
And it's simply about why we always need people's approval for something in our lives.
(01:04):
And this starts when we're really young, right?
We want to make our parents happy or significant people in our families happy
because in turn, we feel like we're doing the the right thing.
And I believe as we mature and get older, some of us still crave for that reassurance
(01:30):
that we're doing the right thing, right?
I would say a majority of society does that, whether it's from our families,
our friends, our significant other, social media, all of the above.
Love, it's all about getting that feedback, right?
That you're doing a good job and you're doing the right thing.
(01:51):
But at the end of the day, I think that the most important thing for us is to
focus on if we think it's the right thing and if we feel good about it.
Because, you know, we have this thing called the psyche, right?
Our subconscious conscience.
And it never lies. You know, you heard that as a kid, like your subconscious never like lies, right?
(02:20):
But you don't really get it. Or at least I didn't get it as a kid. I'm like, yeah, right.
I would always go to all my friends when I was younger and ask,
you know, what do you think?
But it's funny because Because now, as an adult, a full-fledged 52-year-old
adult, I always knew the answer.
(02:43):
You know, it's called intuition.
And we all have it. And we're all born with it. And many of us choose to simply ignore it.
It's kind of like in the movies where you had the little angel sitting on one shoulder,
shoulder and then you had the devil sitting on the other shoulder and like the
(03:06):
angels whispering in your ear, it's fine. Just do it.
And then the little devils whispering in your ear, you know, whatever.
Don't do it. Or vice versa is what I meant.
Whatever. Anyways, you know what I'm talking about, right? So you had the good
and the bad and like you would always make the wrong choice
even though you knew in the
(03:28):
back of your mind you knew the answer you knew what the consequence was going
to be you knew what was going to happen but you still did whatever you weren't
supposed to do or you still made a choice that should have been the reverse choice and in,
getting to that point you still
(03:49):
asked probably your whole circle of people around you for their opinions.
And I think, honestly, from my perspective, looking back now,
asking like all those girlfriends, what do you think?
How do you feel about this? And then sometimes they'd give me like opinions
(04:12):
or feedback that I completely didn't want to hear.
Meanwhile, I asked for it, right? So what are you going to do?
Like you ask your close friends for their opinion, and if you don't get back
what you want to hear, you get pissed at them, right?
I mean, it's like, what was I doing? And then you get all worked up over it.
(04:33):
But meanwhile, the whole point is that we know inside our own minds and in our
core what the right thing is to do.
Because Because God did gift us this thing called intuition.
God, the universe, whatever, whoever you think gave it to us, we got it, right?
(04:55):
So we're all born with this thing called intuition, but we don't utilize it.
And that's one thing during the past, like probably five years that I've really gotten strong about.
And I'm kind of proud of myself that I am able to just follow my instincts and
(05:16):
do what I want to do, what I believe in.
Some people might be very opinionated about something that I want to do,
and I respect their opinions fully.
But at the end of the day, if you're not hurting anybody and you're doing something
that makes you feel good about yourself,
(05:37):
and again, inside your core is not screaming out, this is the wrong thing, then guess what?
It's probably the right thing for you, and it's probably going to make you happy.
So do it. Life is short. Just do what you want to do.
If you have an aspiration to do something, work on it. It might not happen overnight.
(06:02):
You might have to think about it for some time and plan things out if you're
a planner, unlike me who just jumps and does things.
But you know, some people are planners and they really have to like sort things
out in their mind and write them down and organize them and have a timeline,
you know, whatever works best for you.
But point being is just go for what you want, you know?
(06:25):
Everyone is very opinionated in this world that we live in.
And I don't know, I mean, everyone's entitled to an opinion,
but yet on the same note, like, it's kind of sad because people are over opinionated about things.
And you know, there's a line there, right? There's like, there There should
be like a line where you can't step over the line about your opinions on a subject
(06:50):
or a person or whatever the case is.
You know, sometimes it just invades your privacy altogether, right?
So, but unfortunately, you know, this is the world we live in.
I mean, you see it all the time on social media, right?
People like make a post, for example, on Facebook and then, you know,
it didn't settle right with like a bunch of people.
(07:11):
And then all of a sudden you get this banter going back and forth and it's like
ridiculous because, you know, again, the person who wrote the post, maybe they're.
I don't know, they're correct or whatever, or maybe they're politically incorrect, whatever the case is.
But these days, it can take the smallest, slightest comment to just start a
(07:35):
full-fledged banter war on social media.
And it's sad because, again, people are actually posting things because they
want approval, like we were just talking about, and they want to feel,
you know, important, which is fine.
You know, we all want to feel important, right? That's like a normal thing for
(07:56):
humans. But it's very important for people to feel approved of on social media.
And it's kind of taken over the reality of the world, if you will,
because I feel, and I could be wrong, it's just my opinion, right?
I feel that much of society is living in this fake pretend world where real problems don't occur.
(08:22):
And if they do occur, we're hiding them under the carpet and we're pretending
like everything's perfect when it's not.
And that's just, I don't know, it's just really sad.
It's really, really sad that people just can't be who they are,
(08:43):
show who they are, and just come to terms with what it is.
But instead, people want to hide behind something and pretend. tend, you know?
And, you know, if that's the way that people cope, then that's okay,
(09:03):
you know, because people all have different coping mechanisms and I guess it's
whatever gets you through the day, right?
So no judgment there. People can do whatever they want, honestly.
I've just never really been one to really fall into the social media thing.
I've always been intrigued by it, but I'm more of an observer than anything.
(09:29):
I like to watch. I like to listen. And I don't really get offended by really
anything unless it's absolutely being directed towards hurting another person's feelings.
But other than that, I don't get too involved with politics or anything of the
sort because it just gets really, really messy, especially these days.
(09:51):
And I just like to watch silently and keep my opinions to myself.
It's just, I feel like that's just better to do than anything.
So yeah, I don't know.
It's a different kind of world. That's all I can say, you know.
I wish people were more real with each other and not so fake, you know.
(10:14):
You see someone in the supermarket and you say hi and they say hi to you.
And then like all of a sudden, you know, you turn your back and they talk about
you in like a matter of like 1.2 seconds.
That's the kind of stuff that really I just don't really have a lot of tolerance
for, you know. no, I just want genuine relationships with people.
(10:35):
And if I can't have a genuine relationship with someone, then I'd rather not
have one at all, to be perfectly honest with you.
You know, my family always taught me that if you can count your very closest confidants on one hand,
then you are very rich in a way that is not monetary, but in a way that counts
(10:58):
more than most materialistic things in the world.
And when you get older, you realize that, right?
When you're younger, you have no idea. You think everybody's your friend.
You think everybody next to you is the friend on your block.
Everyone on your block is your friend.
Everybody's your friend. But in actuality, what is really a friend?
(11:19):
Is it someone you just say hi to every single morning because you run into them
and they're your friend? No. know.
I mean, the definition of a true friend is pretty rare and pretty specific, right?
I would say that a true friend is someone that you can call at any time and
(11:39):
they will be there for you, no matter what.
They will drop everything and be there for you.
And I would say that a true friend is someone who is going to keep your deepest,
darkest secrets a secret.
And I would say a friend is someone who's going to be nonjudgmental when listening to you speak,
(12:01):
but yet respond in a manner that is kind, even though they may give their opinion,
which may be opposite of what you are thinking,
as long as it's in the direction to give you some positive feedback that might
(12:21):
sway you to change your mind for a better reason, right?
I have a very best friend and we are close and we are like sisters and we've
been there for each other throughout the many years.
And all the things I just described to you are the things that we've done for each other.
(12:45):
We've called each other in the middle of the night and we've both gone running,
kids and all, because that's what you do.
So for me, she is like my million dollar baby.
She is everything to me because I'd rather have one of her than 10 of the other.
And, you know, again, I had to kind of learn that the hard way.
(13:10):
I mean, of course, I have close friends, don't get me wrong,
but you know what I'm saying.
That one friend, that one special friend that knows you inside and out like
the back of your hand, you know?
And that being said, relationships can be really challenging, you know?
(13:30):
Socially very challenging. challenging but we get
there and we work on it and you
know our parents our families they try to teach us
the best they can right for these relationships we watch our
parents we watch our like special people in our lives that raised us our guardians
that raised us our family whoever raised you we watch them and like they're
(13:52):
our role model for relationships hence the whole like thing about divorce and
how people will say like,
well, my parents were divorced, so I got divorced after I got married because
that's like all I saw growing up.
And do I believe that?
(14:15):
Slightly, definitely. But then I also believe that we are at our own free will
when it comes to whether we follow what we learned when we were little or we
change our opinions when we're older, right?
Because you could have two great parents or you could have had a parent that
(14:37):
wasn't the best, right? Not the best role model.
It doesn't mean you have to be like them. It just means you can learn,
but not everybody learns.
And sometimes it takes people some time to realize how they could be different
from their offspring or their guardians, right?
So that being said, I don't know.
(15:01):
I have a lot to share with you guys. And as I get more comfortable doing this,
we're going to be talking about a lot of different things.
But I actually think that this is going to be really an amazing experience and
I'm very very excited and today I'm just kind of like having an off day to be honest with you.
(15:23):
Some stuff bothered me and I just kind of like let it go.
But yet I haven't. So obviously you can still kind of hear it in my tone, but it's all good.
Like I kind of said to you guys yesterday in the first podcast,
you have to keep a positive mindset.
And for me, spirituality is big and my My faith is very big and I'm already
(15:49):
a lot better than I was, you know, three hours ago.
And it's all about keeping the faith. Like I told you guys, we can get through absolutely anything.
I'm telling you, positive mindset.
Just be grateful. Look outside the window. See the air, even though we can't
actually see the air, but you know what I mean, right?
(16:11):
We're looking in midair and you see like the beautiful trees and the blue sky
and the sun, and even if it was raining, beauty, right?
It's all natural beauty that we're here on earth, currently present in the physical
being to be able to see and enjoy.
So in actuality, if you're listening to this, you're as lucky as I am because
(16:32):
here we are and God has us here and That's amazing.
And I am going to always get through whatever because of the techniques and
the strategies that I've learned over the years.
And this is why I totally want to share these things with you.
And I want to be able to give you some insight on how to look at the world slightly different.
(16:58):
And they're not always going to be like looking through rose colored glasses,
But even if you have dark tinted glasses, I'm still going to teach you to look through and see the sun.
And in the future, you guys will be able to tell what I'm or be able to see,
I should say, what I'm talking about. out.
(17:19):
So that being said, I'm going to let you guys go and I hope you guys have a
great day. And you know what?
Thank you so much for following me because you know what?
That means that you guys have faith in me and that you're going to continue
to listen and it's only going to get better from here on in, I promise.
And again, thank you, thank you, thank you.
(17:42):
And I hope that you guys will share my podcast with your friends,
and I would love to see it grow and I want you guys to be part of it.
All right. C'est la vie. I will talk to you guys next time. Bye.
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