The Breakdown Before the Breakthrough: Talking Eating Disorders, Men’s Mental Health, and Infertility with The Man Behind The Muscle, James Roffey

Looking at James Roffey today, you see the strength, the discipline, the presence of a man who has done the inner work. But behind that calm exterior is a story that challenges everything we think we know about mental health, masculinity, and what it means to fall apart and put yourself back together again.

James is breaking down taboos and speaking openly about the topics that too often go unspoken. His story touches on eating disorders in men, the heartbreak of infertility, the pain of rejection, and the mental health battles that can bring even the strongest to their knees.

From losing his identity when his professional football dream was cut short, to spiralling into years of disordered eating and eventually being hospitalised weighing just five and a half stone, James has lived through it all. He shares what it felt like to be on the edge, the toll it took on his body and mind, and the long process of recovery that followed, not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually too.

He also opens up about the breakdown of his marriage, rebuilding from rock bottom, and the reality of parenting while carrying deep pain. This is not about victimhood, it’s about ownership, growth, and choosing to live differently.

James is the kind of guest who brings truth to the table without ego. His honesty is powerful, his story is unforgettable, and his willingness to speak up is helping others realise they are not alone.

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