9 | What if First Time Obedience Creates Defiant Kids Who Meltdown Instead of Build Connection?

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What comes to mind when you hear the word obedience? For many mamas, it feels tied to pressure, rules, and the belief that if our child doesn’t obey instantly, we must be failing. But what if that way of thinking is actually breaking connection with your strong-willed or neurodivergent child?

In this episode, I’m rethinking obedience through a biblical lens — and exploring how connection, trust, and the Holy Spirit reshape the way we show up as moms, especially when raising kids with ASD, ADHD, ODD, or PDA.

We’ll cover:

• The traditional view of obedience — and why it often leaves kids feeling unseen or discouraged.
• A deeper dive into Scripture and how relationship always comes before obedience.
• The role of the Holy Spirit in guiding us away from fear-based parenting and toward love and trust.

 

What you’ll walk away with:

• A fresh perspective on obedience that prioritizes your child’s heart over fear and control.
• Permission to meet your child at their developmental level — whether they’re strong-willed, neurodivergent, or both.
• Practical and faith-filled encouragement to lean into the Holy Spirit’s whisper instead of the world’s pressure.

Bible Verses Referenced:

• Luke 22:39–45 

• Ephesians 6:1–4

• Colossians 3:21 

 

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