May 21, 2024 • 14 mins
Empowering Parents: Advocacy for Neurodivergent Children
Ashley Hinkle hosts a comprehensive guide for parents on advocacy for neurodivergent children, focusing on equipping and empowering them to advocate for their children's unique educational needs. Ashley discusses the challenges and successes of raising neurodivergent children, specifically addressing concerns around bullying and how it can impact children with conditions like autism and ADHD. The script outlines practical strategies for parents to support their children, including teaching them about different forms of bullying, how to handle encounters assertively, and the importance of building a supportive community. Ashley emphasizes the need for parents to manage their anxieties to better advocate for their children, sharing personal experiences and suggesting ways to become resilient advocates. The guide also includes tips on finding therapeutic support, creating a neurodivergent-affirming environment, and preparing children to stand up against bullying confidently. Resources and coaching opportunities for navigating IEP meetings and the special education system are offered to help parents become effective advocates.
00:00 Welcome to the Parents Guide to Advocacy 00:50 Navigating Bullying Concerns for Neurodivergent Children 01:37 Personal Reflections on Bullying and Advocacy 05:13 Strategies to Empower Children Against Bullying 09:58 Building a Supportive Community and Conclusion
Resources:
Federal anti-bullying laws
https://www.stopbullying.gov/resources/laws/federal
Common components of state anti-bullying laws
https://www.stopbullying.gov/resources/laws/key-components
How disability-related Harassment impacts a Child’s Right to education section 504 and Title II
https://www2.ed.gov/about/offices/list/ocr/letters/colleague-bullying-201410.pdf
Article: The difference between Teasing and Bullying
https://www.understood.org/en/articles/difference-between-teasing-and-bullying
Article: How to Defend Kids from Bullies
https://www.understood.org/en/articles/how-to-defend-kids-from-bullies
Article: Bullying Laws: Your Child’s Rights at School
https://www.understood.org/en/articles/bullying-laws
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Welcome to the Parents Guide to Advocacy.
I'm your host, Ashley Hinkle.
My mission is to equip, empower, and support parents to become fierce advocates for their children's unique educational needs.
Our goal as a community is to be resourced and resilient parents, continually growing to be the safe place our children need.
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We will navigate the challenges of raising neurodivergent kids, highlight the joyful moments, and celebrate the successes our families experience when we see the spark in our children's eyes from learning something new.
If ending the feelings of overwhelm, guilt, and frustration to embrace courage, perseverance, and empowerment you Sounds good to you? Then let's go. 7 00:00:50,875.714285714 --> 00:00:51,655.714285714 Hey friends. 8 00:00:52,165.714285714 --> 00:00:55,255.714285714 Bullying has been a hot topic of discussion in my circles. 9 00:00:55,705.714285714 --> 00:00:57,85.714285714 And I'm sure in yours too. 10 00:00:57,715.714285714 --> 00:01:02,155.714285714 Personally, one of my biggest fears with my son's autism ADHD. 11 00:01:02,485.714285714 --> 00:01:03,385.714285714 Diagnosis. 12 00:01:03,775.714285714 --> 00:01:08,595.714285714 Has been, what if he gets bullied? Then a thousand more questions spiral from there. 13 00:01:09,15.714285714 --> 00:01:09,465.714285714 Like. 14 00:01:10,155.714285714 --> 00:01:19,665.714285714 Will it give him a negative sense of self? Will he start to hate school? Well, he withdraw and be afraid to make friends well, he shut down and not take healthy risks. 15 00:01:20,265.714285714 --> 00:01:24,435.714285714 How will this affect his life longterm? And around and around, I go. 16 00:01:25,185.714285714 --> 00:01:27,465.714285714 Then all I can picture is my suite. 17 00:01:27,855.714285714 --> 00:01:32,925.714285714 Excited a little boy hanging his head down with that expression he has when he's really sad. 18 00:01:33,675.714285714 --> 00:01:35,55.714285714 It makes the mama bear come out. 19 00:01:35,385.714285714 --> 00:01:36,945.714285714 And all I want to do is protect him. 20 00:01:37,545.714285714 --> 00:01:41,325.71428571 But then I realized that my anxiety over him getting bullied. 21 00:01:41,715.71428571 --> 00:01:43,245.71428571 Maybe holding him back. 22 00:01:43,645.71428571 --> 00:01:48,175.71428571 Or sheltering him from learning the necessary skills to fend off bullying himself. 23 00:01:48,975.71428571 --> 00:01:50,505.71428571 The more I learn about advocacy. 24 00:01:50,925.71428571 --> 00:01:53,355.71428571 The more I learn that it starts with us parents. 25 00:01:53,895.71428571 --> 00:01:59,325.71428571 This is why we have to deal with our own internal issues before we can be solid parents for our kids. 26 00:01:59,895.71428571 --> 00:02:02,475.71428571 When the fears of bullying started to descend on me. 27 00:02:03,15.71428571 --> 00:02:06,15.71428571 I realized I needed to work through my own social anxieties. 28 00:02:06,465.71428571 --> 00:02:08,535.71428571 And how to stand up to criticism myself. 29 00:02:09,195.71428571 --> 00:02:14,925.71428571 I consulted with my therapist about knowing my options when hailing myself and my family in public. 30 00:02:15,345.71428571 --> 00:02:17,55.71428571 When people make nasty comments. 31 00:02:17,505.71428571 --> 00:02:19,635.71428571 Or aggressively invade our personal space. 32 00:02:20,325.71428571 --> 00:02:25,515.71428571 When, you know how to handle a situation, should it arise? You are prepared and equipped. 33 00:02:25,845.71428571 --> 00:02:28,65.71428571 To defend yourself in an empowering way. 34 00:02:29,95.71428571 --> 00:02:33,55.71428571 We've had several encounters this year in our small town, from different people. 35 00:02:33,895.71428571 --> 00:02:36,55.71428571 Well, it hasn't been the same person repeatedly. 36 00:02:36,445.71428571 --> 00:02:40,915.71428571 We've had to equip ourselves to handle unwanted hurtful interactions with others. 37 00:02:41,965.71428571 --> 00:02:46,135.71428571 I'll share a situation that happened to my son and I in public a few months ago. 38 00:02:47,245.71428571 --> 00:02:50,125.71428571 Unfortunately, I was caught off guard and wasn't ready to respond. 39 00:02:50,815.71428571 --> 00:02:54,595.71428571 This field, my anxiety and left me fearful until I became equipped. 40 00:02:55,495.71428571 --> 00:02:58,915.71428571 The nasty encounter Luke and I had was with a stranger at the library. 41 00:02:59,905.71428571 --> 00:03:02,725.71428571 We were on our Saturday morning homework date and the youth area. 42 00:03:03,685.71428571 --> 00:03:08,425.71428571 The woman was studying there, even though it wasn't the appropriate place for her to be working. 43 00:03:09,325.71428571 --> 00:03:12,985.71428571 But anyway, Luke and I sat across the room and got out of his mouth counters. 44 00:03:14,5.71428571 --> 00:03:19,15.71428571 Luke speaks loudly because he has difficulty with volume control with his, a proxy of speech. 45 00:03:19,795.71428571 --> 00:03:21,655.71428571 Over a period of about five minutes. 46 00:03:22,45.71428571 --> 00:03:25,525.71428571 The woman repeatedly cleared her throat loudly and shot me glares. 47 00:03:26,395.71428571 --> 00:03:29,215.71428571 I just focused on Luke and kept helping him with his math. 48 00:03:30,115.71428571 --> 00:03:30,715.71428571 She packed up. 49 00:03:30,715.71428571 --> 00:03:33,55.71428571 Her things walked out of her way to pass me. 50 00:03:33,565.71428571 --> 00:03:34,735.71428571 Looked over her shoulder. 51 00:03:35,785.71428571 --> 00:03:39,385.71428571 And said a really nasty name. 52 00:03:40,255.71428571 --> 00:03:41,695.71428571 I was stunned as she walked away. 53 00:03:42,385.71428571 --> 00:03:48,175.71428571 How could she look at my five-year-old son and say that in front of him? Thankfully Luke didn't catch it. 54 00:03:48,865.71428571 --> 00:03:52,555.71428571 He hadn't heard that language before and he was busy counting his marshmallows. 55 00:03:53,605.71428571 --> 00:03:56,425.71428571 You don't expect someone to be rude and hurtful in a library. 56 00:03:57,175.71428571 --> 00:03:58,135.71428571 But it happens. 57 00:03:59,65.71428571 --> 00:04:01,705.71428571 Even though I knew this woman must have some issues. 58 00:04:02,215.71428571 --> 00:04:04,375.71428571 I wished I had been faster to clap back. 59 00:04:05,95.71428571 --> 00:04:07,525.71428571 But he wants to give that person the satisfaction. 60 00:04:07,945.71428571 --> 00:04:09,205.71428571 Of knowing they got to you. 61 00:04:09,985.71428571 --> 00:04:11,365.71428571 It's better to be prepared. 62 00:04:11,755.71428571 --> 00:04:13,315.71428571 No your options ahead of time. 63 00:04:13,705.71428571 --> 00:04:15,265.71428571 And lovingly protect your child. 64 00:04:16,505.71428571 --> 00:04:17,15.71428571 Then. 65 00:04:17,555.71428571 --> 00:04:21,185.71428571 Rather than feeling bullied and owning what some random person said to you. 66 00:04:21,545.71428571 --> 00:04:23,255.71428571 You leave the situation confident. 67 00:04:23,615.71428571 --> 00:04:24,455.71428571 Like a boss. 68 00:04:24,875.71428571 --> 00:04:25,985.71428571 Knowing you handled it. 69 00:04:26,15.71428571 --> 00:04:32,585.71428571 I also, when you be play the situation in your mind, Remember that it says so much more about that person. 70 00:04:32,915.71428571 --> 00:04:34,85.71428571 Than it does about you. 71 00:04:35,165.71428571 --> 00:04:38,15.71428571 I tell myself, that's all I need to know about them. 72 00:04:39,95.71428571 --> 00:04:41,225.71428571 Then, whenever that memory comes up. 73 00:04:41,645.71428571 --> 00:04:44,885.71428571 I remind myself that the person who is critical or cruel. 74 00:04:45,425.71428571 --> 00:04:46,565.71428571 Has their own problems. 75 00:04:46,985.71428571 --> 00:04:49,595.71428571 And is likely acting out of their own messed up reality. 76 00:04:50,345.71428571 --> 00:04:51,395.71428571 None of that makes bullying. 77 00:04:51,395.71428571 --> 00:04:51,995.71428571 Okay. 78 00:04:52,745.71428571 --> 00:04:55,505.71428571 There is no tolerance for bullying and it should stop immediately. 79 00:04:56,225.71428571 --> 00:04:58,385.71428571 However, when it does inevitably happen. 80 00:04:58,835.71428571 --> 00:05:01,85.71428571 It helps to distance ourselves from it mentally. 81 00:05:01,535.71428571 --> 00:05:07,175.71428571 Pulling back in visually imagining a shield in front of us and the other person's words bouncing off. 82 00:05:07,955.71428571 --> 00:05:12,665.71428571 We don't need to let another person label define, or have an influence over who we are. 83 00:05:13,715.71428571 --> 00:05:16,25.71428571 Let's look at a few strategies that we can consider. 84 00:05:16,355.71428571 --> 00:05:17,795.71428571 To be proactive parents. 85 00:05:18,185.71428571 --> 00:05:20,795.71428571 And equip our children before a bullying event happens. 86 00:05:21,935.71428571 --> 00:05:22,595.71428571 Number one. 87 00:05:23,285.71428571 --> 00:05:23,975.71428571 Teach our kids. 88 00:05:23,975.71428571 --> 00:05:26,375.71428571 The difference between playing bullying and teasing. 89 00:05:26,975.71428571 --> 00:05:30,425.71428571 Explain different types of bullying, including physical and emotional. 90 00:05:31,145.71428571 --> 00:05:37,325.71428571 Also advocating that your child's school implement a culture of belonging for neurodivergent learners. 91 00:05:38,255.71428571 --> 00:05:41,585.71428571 All students need to be educated about embracing differences. 92 00:05:41,945.71428571 --> 00:05:44,165.71428571 And neuro-diversity affirming practices. 93 00:05:45,335.71428571 --> 00:05:45,875.71428571 Number two. 94 00:05:46,685.71428571 --> 00:05:50,285.71428571 Share social stories with them about a fictional bullying event. 95 00:05:50,855.71428571 --> 00:05:53,765.71428571 And discuss how the person being bullied should respond. 96 00:05:54,485.71428571 --> 00:05:55,625.71428571 Encourage them. 97 00:05:56,45.71428571 --> 00:05:57,185.71428571 To be an upstander. 98 00:05:57,575.71428571 --> 00:06:02,735.71428571 Who reports bullying to teachers who can help rather than being a passive bystander. 99 00:06:03,395.71428571 --> 00:06:08,585.71428571 Children who support others as upstanders are more likely to have other stand up for them. 100 00:06:08,945.71428571 --> 00:06:10,115.71428571 When the tables turn. 101 00:06:10,385.71428571 --> 00:06:11,255.71428571 And they are bullied. 102 00:06:11,975.71428571 --> 00:06:16,115.71428571 The idea of an upstander is from the article, how to defend kids from bullies. 103 00:06:16,475.71428571 --> 00:06:17,825.71428571 On understood.org. 104 00:06:18,365.71428571 --> 00:06:19,895.71428571 I'll link to it in the show notes.. 105 00:06:20,875.71428571 --> 00:06:21,595.71428571 Number three. 106 00:06:21,955.71428571 --> 00:06:23,515.71428571 Inform and authority figure. 107 00:06:23,875.71428571 --> 00:06:26,365.71428571 This could be a parent teacher coach. 108 00:06:26,755.71428571 --> 00:06:28,375.71428571 Police officer or security guard. 109 00:06:29,395.71428571 --> 00:06:30,235.71428571 Teach your child. 110 00:06:30,535.71428571 --> 00:06:32,395.71428571 That they don't need to tolerate harassment. 111 00:06:32,905.71428571 --> 00:06:34,15.71428571 And it should be reported. 112 00:06:34,525.71428571 --> 00:06:36,55.71428571 They don't have to stay silent. 113 00:06:37,435.71428571 --> 00:06:38,95.71428571 Number four. 114 00:06:38,515.71428571 --> 00:06:41,5.71428571 Teach children, how to assess the level of threat. 115 00:06:41,815.71428571 --> 00:06:43,165.71428571 If there is a physical threat. 116 00:06:43,465.71428571 --> 00:06:49,545.71428571 How do they keep themselves safe? How do they deal with verbal and emotional bullying? Number five. 117 00:06:50,685.71428571 --> 00:06:53,595.71428571 Help them have scripts ready? That show they are indifferent. 118 00:06:54,15.71428571 --> 00:06:56,85.71428571 To a bullies attempts to make them feel bad. 119 00:06:56,715.71428571 --> 00:06:57,465.71428571 For instance. 120 00:06:57,975.71428571 --> 00:07:00,735.71428571 If a child is frequently made fun of by another classmate. 121 00:07:01,125.71428571 --> 00:07:06,405.71428571 For being a slow reader, then the child being bullied could respond by saying, okay. 122 00:07:06,825.71428571 --> 00:07:08,535.71428571 I read slower than some people. 123 00:07:08,775.71428571 --> 00:07:09,405.71428571 So what. 124 00:07:10,545.71428571 --> 00:07:13,665.71428571 This lack of emotional response will make the bully lose interest. 125 00:07:14,85.71428571 --> 00:07:16,515.71428571 And realize your child, isn't a potential target. 126 00:07:17,805.71428571 --> 00:07:22,335.71428571 Number six, help your child understand and embrace the way their mind is wired. 127 00:07:22,995.71428571 --> 00:07:25,185.71428571 Show them to focus on their own strengths. 128 00:07:25,755.71428571 --> 00:07:29,235.71428571 Everyone is created differently in that is what makes the world beautiful. 129 00:07:29,685.71428571 --> 00:07:34,395.71428571 No two brains are like everyone has a different way of thinking and viewing the world. 130 00:07:34,995.71428571 --> 00:07:37,845.71428571 Just like every person has their own strengths and weaknesses. 131 00:07:38,445.71428571 --> 00:07:41,895.71428571 A bully, focusing on your weaknesses is an attempt to distract. 132 00:07:42,255.71428571 --> 00:07:44,595.71428571 From their own weaknesses or struggles. 133 00:07:45,585.71428571 --> 00:07:53,685.71428571 In addition to educating your child with a neurodivergent affirming perspective, that encourages differences, educate their peers as well. 134 00:07:54,255.71428571 --> 00:07:59,355.71428571 Be prepared to answer questions from friends and classmates about your child's unique wiring. 135 00:08:00,225.71428571 --> 00:08:00,885.71428571 For instance. 136 00:08:01,485.71428571 --> 00:08:06,165.71428571 Luke had made a friend in his kindergarten class and started talking about her a lot at home. 137 00:08:06,915.71428571 --> 00:08:08,295.71428571 When I chaperoned a field trip. 138 00:08:08,535.71428571 --> 00:08:11,295.71428571 This friend had several questions about the way Luke talked. 139 00:08:12,15.71428571 --> 00:08:14,775.71428571 I was able to explain that everyone has a different voice. 140 00:08:15,165.71428571 --> 00:08:17,835.71428571 And the world would be boring if we all sounded the same. 141 00:08:18,525.71428571 --> 00:08:20,55.71428571 I shared that I have a different voice. 142 00:08:20,85.71428571 --> 00:08:21,15.71428571 And so does she. 143 00:08:21,615.71428571 --> 00:08:23,535.71428571 She asked if Luke's voice would change. 144 00:08:24,165.71428571 --> 00:08:25,185.71428571 And I told her yes. 145 00:08:25,215.71428571 --> 00:08:27,735.71428571 And so what hers and all of the other kids. 146 00:08:28,95.71428571 --> 00:08:29,745.71428571 Just like mine did as I got older. 147 00:08:30,705.71428571 --> 00:08:33,165.71428571 Normalizing differences with love and support. 148 00:08:33,195.71428571 --> 00:08:37,335.71428571 Can help shape how this next generation views the world and interacts with others. 149 00:08:37,845.71428571 --> 00:08:40,65.71428571 We can equip them for this change in worldview. 150 00:08:41,325.71428571 --> 00:08:43,485.71428571 Remember knowledge is the eye-opener. 151 00:08:43,875.71428571 --> 00:08:45,675.71428571 And application is the game changer. 152 00:08:46,335.71428571 --> 00:08:49,155.71428571 Knowing how your child's wiring affects them uniquely. 153 00:08:49,545.71428571 --> 00:08:54,945.71428571 And being able to educate others helps create awareness and a more neurodivergent affirming society. 154 00:08:55,575.71428571 --> 00:08:58,755.71428571 You use questions as an opportunity to create positive change. 155 00:08:59,415.71428571 --> 00:09:08,445.71428571 As your child gets older, educate them about their abilities and prepare them to answer questions with answers that leave them feeling empowered to. 156 00:09:09,265.71428571 --> 00:09:14,635.71428571 Number seven, find social groups or activities that align with their strengths and interests. 157 00:09:15,265.71428571 --> 00:09:19,555.71428571 Give them opportunities to bond with others that they choose and click with. 158 00:09:20,305.71428571 --> 00:09:24,295.71428571 Another idea is to make connections with other kids who have the same diagnosis. 159 00:09:24,925.71428571 --> 00:09:27,385.71428571 It always helps to hang out with the other people who get it. 160 00:09:28,185.71428571 --> 00:09:28,995.71428571 Number eight. 161 00:09:29,355.71428571 --> 00:09:32,385.71428571 Have a therapist on the books for occasional check-ins. 162 00:09:32,955.71428571 --> 00:09:36,705.71428571 Make positive mental health, a priority, just like physical health. 163 00:09:37,305.71428571 --> 00:09:41,295.71428571 A trusted third party may help your child open up about situations. 164 00:09:41,295.71428571 --> 00:09:43,845.71428571 They may not want to share with you in detail. 165 00:09:44,745.71428571 --> 00:09:47,385.71428571 Having a diverse team of service providers. 166 00:09:47,715.71428571 --> 00:09:51,855.71428571 Teachers, family and friends that are neurodivergent affirming. 167 00:09:52,275.71428571 --> 00:09:53,325.71428571 We'll show your child. 168 00:09:53,775.71428571 --> 00:09:57,735.71428571 They have a community surrounding them that cares about them and their future. 169 00:09:58,725.71428571 --> 00:10:01,65.71428571 The great thing is we, as parents consume out. 170 00:10:01,455.71428571 --> 00:10:05,55.71428571 And look at the strategies we just described to equip our kids. 171 00:10:05,385.71428571 --> 00:10:07,755.71428571 And apply them to our lives as adults too. 172 00:10:08,475.71428571 --> 00:10:15,255.71428571 We can analyze if this encounter qualifies as bullying and determine the threat level, we can inform an authority figure. 173 00:10:15,555.71428571 --> 00:10:18,195.71428571 If an unexpected instance of harassment happens. 174 00:10:18,795.71428571 --> 00:10:22,65.71428571 We parents can have scripts to respond to nasty comments. 175 00:10:22,455.71428571 --> 00:10:25,155.71428571 And show that we are in different insensitive remarks. 176 00:10:25,815.71428571 --> 00:10:29,655.71428571 We can learn more about how our brains are wired and focus on our strengths. 177 00:10:29,925.71428571 --> 00:10:31,155.71428571 Rather than our weaknesses. 178 00:10:32,25.71428571 --> 00:10:36,285.71428571 This skill is especially important to consider because many diagnoses are genetic. 179 00:10:37,455.71428571 --> 00:10:40,845.71428571 Healthy routines and proactive preparation as a family. 180 00:10:41,385.71428571 --> 00:10:44,355.71428571 We'll normalize any differences and build confidence in your child. 181 00:10:44,865.71428571 --> 00:10:46,785.71428571 Reassuring them that they are not alone. 182 00:10:47,445.71428571 --> 00:10:52,45.71428571 We parents also need to have friends who understand parenting neurodivergent children. 183 00:10:53,695.71428571 --> 00:10:54,685.71428571 It is such a relief. 184 00:10:54,685.71428571 --> 00:10:57,205.71428571 When I get together with a few of my friends who have children. 185 00:10:57,655.71428571 --> 00:10:58,795.71428571 Who are differently wired. 186 00:10:59,435.71428571 --> 00:11:01,265.71428571 None of us have to worry about a social. 187 00:11:01,985.71428571 --> 00:11:06,545.71428571 Mishap between the kids or if our kids are too loud or boisterous. 188 00:11:07,475.71428571 --> 00:11:09,305.71428571 We can just take a deep sigh of relief. 189 00:11:09,725.71428571 --> 00:11:12,305.71428571 And enjoy that fenced in playground for an hour. 190 00:11:13,85.71428571 --> 00:11:14,945.71428571 This community can be essential. 191 00:11:15,275.71428571 --> 00:11:17,555.71428571 Especially in challenging times. 192 00:11:18,65.71428571 --> 00:11:20,15.71428571 We all need kind compassionate people. 193 00:11:20,15.71428571 --> 00:11:20,855.71428571 We can lean on. 194 00:11:21,545.71428571 --> 00:11:22,985.71428571 As I recommend that idea. 195 00:11:23,375.71428571 --> 00:11:25,115.71428571 I feel challenged to ask myself. 196 00:11:25,715.71428571 --> 00:11:28,175.71428571 Am I that type of person for the people around me. 197 00:11:29,435.71428571 --> 00:11:31,175.71428571 I challenge you to ask yourself that too. 198 00:11:32,315.71428571 --> 00:11:34,145.71428571 If you become a kind compassionate. 199 00:11:34,535.71428571 --> 00:11:35,765.71428571 Engaged parent. 200 00:11:36,125.71428571 --> 00:11:37,565.71428571 I'm sure you will attract others. 201 00:11:37,565.71428571 --> 00:11:38,75.71428571 Like you. 202 00:11:38,795.71428571 --> 00:11:41,855.71428571 And we all need a village when it comes to raising kids with extra needs. 203 00:11:42,995.71428571 --> 00:11:45,755.71428571 When we are equipped and empowered, we can shut down bullying. 204 00:11:46,235.71428571 --> 00:11:47,315.71428571 We can teach our kids. 205 00:11:47,795.71428571 --> 00:11:48,785.71428571 I'm not taking it. 206 00:11:49,735.71428571 --> 00:11:55,585.71428571 A lot of painful memories from my childhood are stuck in my mind because I didn't have the skills to process what happened. 207 00:11:56,65.71428571 --> 00:11:59,515.71428571 Much less to be proactive and prepared to stand up against it. 208 00:12:00,415.71428571 --> 00:12:06,745.71428571 Let's give our kids the tools to be prepared, to strip the power from bullying to make it an insignificant event. 209 00:12:07,165.71428571 --> 00:12:10,555.71428571 Because they are confident, empowered, kids who know their worth. 210 00:12:11,625.71428571 --> 00:12:14,55.71428571 If anyone is experiencing bullying that is ongoing. 211 00:12:14,505.71428571 --> 00:12:15,705.71428571 And their child is suffering. 212 00:12:15,735.71428571 --> 00:12:19,155.71428571 Please reach out to the school police and mental health professionals. 213 00:12:19,725.71428571 --> 00:12:21,525.71428571 Check out, stop bullying.gov 214 00:12:21,885.71428571 --> 00:12:25,875.71428571 to find more information about federal and state anti-bullying laws. 215 00:12:26,595.71428571 --> 00:12:29,595.71428571 I'll link to other anti-bullying resources in the show notes. 216 00:12:30,615.71428571 --> 00:12:32,955.71428571 Remember you are resourced and resilient. 217 00:12:33,615.71428571 --> 00:12:35,505.71428571 Let's make our kids resourced and resilient. 218 00:12:35,535.71428571 --> 00:12:35,835.71428571 to. 219 00:12:36,675.71428571 --> 00:12:37,575.71428571 Until next time. 220 00:12:38,115.71428571 --> 00:12:38,565.71428571 Ash. 221 00:12:40,732.38095238 --> 00:12:42,72.38095238 Hey there, before you go. 222 00:12:42,657.38095238 --> 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Welcome to the Parents Guide to Advocacy.
I'm your host, Ashley Hinkle.
My mission is to equip, empower, and support parents to become fierce advocates for their children's unique educational needs.
Our goal as a community is to be resourced and resilient parents, continually growing to be the safe place our children need.
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We will navigate the challenges of raising neurodivergent kids, highlight the joyful moments, and celebrate the successes our families experience when we see the spark in our children's eyes from learning something new.
If ending the feelings of overwhelm, guilt, and frustration to embrace courage, perseverance, and empowerment you Sounds good to you? Then let's go. 7 00:00:50,875.714285714 --> 00:00:51,655.714285714 Hey friends. 8 00:00:52,165.714285714 --> 00:00:55,255.714285714 Bullying has been a hot topic of discussion in my circles. 9 00:00:55,705.714285714 --> 00:00:57,85.714285714 And I'm sure in yours too. 10 00:00:57,715.714285714 --> 00:01:02,155.714285714 Personally, one of my biggest fears with my son's autism ADHD. 11 00:01:02,485.714285714 --> 00:01:03,385.714285714 Diagnosis. 12 00:01:03,775.714285714 --> 00:01:08,595.714285714 Has been, what if he gets bullied? Then a thousand more questions spiral from there. 13 00:01:09,15.714285714 --> 00:01:09,465.714285714 Like. 14 00:01:10,155.714285714 --> 00:01:19,665.714285714 Will it give him a negative sense of self? Will he start to hate school? Well, he withdraw and be afraid to make friends well, he shut down and not take healthy risks. 15 00:01:20,265.714285714 --> 00:01:24,435.714285714 How will this affect his life longterm? And around and around, I go. 16 00:01:25,185.714285714 --> 00:01:27,465.714285714 Then all I can picture is my suite. 17 00:01:27,855.714285714 --> 00:01:32,925.714285714 Excited a little boy hanging his head down with that expression he has when he's really sad. 18 00:01:33,675.714285714 --> 00:01:35,55.714285714 It makes the mama bear come out. 19 00:01:35,385.714285714 --> 00:01:36,945.714285714 And all I want to do is protect him. 20 00:01:37,545.714285714 --> 00:01:41,325.71428571 But then I realized that my anxiety over him getting bullied. 21 00:01:41,715.71428571 --> 00:01:43,245.71428571 Maybe holding him back. 22 00:01:43,645.71428571 --> 00:01:48,175.71428571 Or sheltering him from learning the necessary skills to fend off bullying himself. 23 00:01:48,975.71428571 --> 00:01:50,505.71428571 The more I learn about advocacy. 24 00:01:50,925.71428571 --> 00:01:53,355.71428571 The more I learn that it starts with us parents. 25 00:01:53,895.71428571 --> 00:01:59,325.71428571 This is why we have to deal with our own internal issues before we can be solid parents for our kids. 26 00:01:59,895.71428571 --> 00:02:02,475.71428571 When the fears of bullying started to descend on me. 27 00:02:03,15.71428571 --> 00:02:06,15.71428571 I realized I needed to work through my own social anxieties. 28 00:02:06,465.71428571 --> 00:02:08,535.71428571 And how to stand up to criticism myself. 29 00:02:09,195.71428571 --> 00:02:14,925.71428571 I consulted with my therapist about knowing my options when hailing myself and my family in public. 30 00:02:15,345.71428571 --> 00:02:17,55.71428571 When people make nasty comments. 31 00:02:17,505.71428571 --> 00:02:19,635.71428571 Or aggressively invade our personal space. 32 00:02:20,325.71428571 --> 00:02:25,515.71428571 When, you know how to handle a situation, should it arise? You are prepared and equipped. 33 00:02:25,845.71428571 --> 00:02:28,65.71428571 To defend yourself in an empowering way. 34 00:02:29,95.71428571 --> 00:02:33,55.71428571 We've had several encounters this year in our small town, from different people. 35 00:02:33,895.71428571 --> 00:02:36,55.71428571 Well, it hasn't been the same person repeatedly. 36 00:02:36,445.71428571 --> 00:02:40,915.71428571 We've had to equip ourselves to handle unwanted hurtful interactions with others. 37 00:02:41,965.71428571 --> 00:02:46,135.71428571 I'll share a situation that happened to my son and I in public a few months ago. 38 00:02:47,245.71428571 --> 00:02:50,125.71428571 Unfortunately, I was caught off guard and wasn't ready to respond. 39 00:02:50,815.71428571 --> 00:02:54,595.71428571 This field, my anxiety and left me fearful until I became equipped. 40 00:02:55,495.71428571 --> 00:02:58,915.71428571 The nasty encounter Luke and I had was with a stranger at the library. 41 00:02:59,905.71428571 --> 00:03:02,725.71428571 We were on our Saturday morning homework date and the youth area. 42 00:03:03,685.71428571 --> 00:03:08,425.71428571 The woman was studying there, even though it wasn't the appropriate place for her to be working. 43 00:03:09,325.71428571 --> 00:03:12,985.71428571 But anyway, Luke and I sat across the room and got out of his mouth counters. 44 00:03:14,5.71428571 --> 00:03:19,15.71428571 Luke speaks loudly because he has difficulty with volume control with his, a proxy of speech. 45 00:03:19,795.71428571 --> 00:03:21,655.71428571 Over a period of about five minutes. 46 00:03:22,45.71428571 --> 00:03:25,525.71428571 The woman repeatedly cleared her throat loudly and shot me glares. 47 00:03:26,395.71428571 --> 00:03:29,215.71428571 I just focused on Luke and kept helping him with his math. 48 00:03:30,115.71428571 --> 00:03:30,715.71428571 She packed up. 49 00:03:30,715.71428571 --> 00:03:33,55.71428571 Her things walked out of her way to pass me. 50 00:03:33,565.71428571 --> 00:03:34,735.71428571 Looked over her shoulder. 51 00:03:35,785.71428571 --> 00:03:39,385.71428571 And said a really nasty name. 52 00:03:40,255.71428571 --> 00:03:41,695.71428571 I was stunned as she walked away. 53 00:03:42,385.71428571 --> 00:03:48,175.71428571 How could she look at my five-year-old son and say that in front of him? Thankfully Luke didn't catch it. 54 00:03:48,865.71428571 --> 00:03:52,555.71428571 He hadn't heard that language before and he was busy counting his marshmallows. 55 00:03:53,605.71428571 --> 00:03:56,425.71428571 You don't expect someone to be rude and hurtful in a library. 56 00:03:57,175.71428571 --> 00:03:58,135.71428571 But it happens. 57 00:03:59,65.71428571 --> 00:04:01,705.71428571 Even though I knew this woman must have some issues. 58 00:04:02,215.71428571 --> 00:04:04,375.71428571 I wished I had been faster to clap back. 59 00:04:05,95.71428571 --> 00:04:07,525.71428571 But he wants to give that person the satisfaction. 60 00:04:07,945.71428571 --> 00:04:09,205.71428571 Of knowing they got to you. 61 00:04:09,985.71428571 --> 00:04:11,365.71428571 It's better to be prepared. 62 00:04:11,755.71428571 --> 00:04:13,315.71428571 No your options ahead of time. 63 00:04:13,705.71428571 --> 00:04:15,265.71428571 And lovingly protect your child. 64 00:04:16,505.71428571 --> 00:04:17,15.71428571 Then. 65 00:04:17,555.71428571 --> 00:04:21,185.71428571 Rather than feeling bullied and owning what some random person said to you. 66 00:04:21,545.71428571 --> 00:04:23,255.71428571 You leave the situation confident. 67 00:04:23,615.71428571 --> 00:04:24,455.71428571 Like a boss. 68 00:04:24,875.71428571 --> 00:04:25,985.71428571 Knowing you handled it. 69 00:04:26,15.71428571 --> 00:04:32,585.71428571 I also, when you be play the situation in your mind, Remember that it says so much more about that person. 70 00:04:32,915.71428571 --> 00:04:34,85.71428571 Than it does about you. 71 00:04:35,165.71428571 --> 00:04:38,15.71428571 I tell myself, that's all I need to know about them. 72 00:04:39,95.71428571 --> 00:04:41,225.71428571 Then, whenever that memory comes up. 73 00:04:41,645.71428571 --> 00:04:44,885.71428571 I remind myself that the person who is critical or cruel. 74 00:04:45,425.71428571 --> 00:04:46,565.71428571 Has their own problems. 75 00:04:46,985.71428571 --> 00:04:49,595.71428571 And is likely acting out of their own messed up reality. 76 00:04:50,345.71428571 --> 00:04:51,395.71428571 None of that makes bullying. 77 00:04:51,395.71428571 --> 00:04:51,995.71428571 Okay. 78 00:04:52,745.71428571 --> 00:04:55,505.71428571 There is no tolerance for bullying and it should stop immediately. 79 00:04:56,225.71428571 --> 00:04:58,385.71428571 However, when it does inevitably happen. 80 00:04:58,835.71428571 --> 00:05:01,85.71428571 It helps to distance ourselves from it mentally. 81 00:05:01,535.71428571 --> 00:05:07,175.71428571 Pulling back in visually imagining a shield in front of us and the other person's words bouncing off. 82 00:05:07,955.71428571 --> 00:05:12,665.71428571 We don't need to let another person label define, or have an influence over who we are. 83 00:05:13,715.71428571 --> 00:05:16,25.71428571 Let's look at a few strategies that we can consider. 84 00:05:16,355.71428571 --> 00:05:17,795.71428571 To be proactive parents. 85 00:05:18,185.71428571 --> 00:05:20,795.71428571 And equip our children before a bullying event happens. 86 00:05:21,935.71428571 --> 00:05:22,595.71428571 Number one. 87 00:05:23,285.71428571 --> 00:05:23,975.71428571 Teach our kids. 88 00:05:23,975.71428571 --> 00:05:26,375.71428571 The difference between playing bullying and teasing. 89 00:05:26,975.71428571 --> 00:05:30,425.71428571 Explain different types of bullying, including physical and emotional. 90 00:05:31,145.71428571 --> 00:05:37,325.71428571 Also advocating that your child's school implement a culture of belonging for neurodivergent learners. 91 00:05:38,255.71428571 --> 00:05:41,585.71428571 All students need to be educated about embracing differences. 92 00:05:41,945.71428571 --> 00:05:44,165.71428571 And neuro-diversity affirming practices. 93 00:05:45,335.71428571 --> 00:05:45,875.71428571 Number two. 94 00:05:46,685.71428571 --> 00:05:50,285.71428571 Share social stories with them about a fictional bullying event. 95 00:05:50,855.71428571 --> 00:05:53,765.71428571 And discuss how the person being bullied should respond. 96 00:05:54,485.71428571 --> 00:05:55,625.71428571 Encourage them. 97 00:05:56,45.71428571 --> 00:05:57,185.71428571 To be an upstander. 98 00:05:57,575.71428571 --> 00:06:02,735.71428571 Who reports bullying to teachers who can help rather than being a passive bystander. 99 00:06:03,395.71428571 --> 00:06:08,585.71428571 Children who support others as upstanders are more likely to have other stand up for them. 100 00:06:08,945.71428571 --> 00:06:10,115.71428571 When the tables turn. 101 00:06:10,385.71428571 --> 00:06:11,255.71428571 And they are bullied. 102 00:06:11,975.71428571 --> 00:06:16,115.71428571 The idea of an upstander is from the article, how to defend kids from bullies. 103 00:06:16,475.71428571 --> 00:06:17,825.71428571 On understood.org. 104 00:06:18,365.71428571 --> 00:06:19,895.71428571 I'll link to it in the show notes.. 105 00:06:20,875.71428571 --> 00:06:21,595.71428571 Number three. 106 00:06:21,955.71428571 --> 00:06:23,515.71428571 Inform and authority figure. 107 00:06:23,875.71428571 --> 00:06:26,365.71428571 This could be a parent teacher coach. 108 00:06:26,755.71428571 --> 00:06:28,375.71428571 Police officer or security guard. 109 00:06:29,395.71428571 --> 00:06:30,235.71428571 Teach your child. 110 00:06:30,535.71428571 --> 00:06:32,395.71428571 That they don't need to tolerate harassment. 111 00:06:32,905.71428571 --> 00:06:34,15.71428571 And it should be reported. 112 00:06:34,525.71428571 --> 00:06:36,55.71428571 They don't have to stay silent. 113 00:06:37,435.71428571 --> 00:06:38,95.71428571 Number four. 114 00:06:38,515.71428571 --> 00:06:41,5.71428571 Teach children, how to assess the level of threat. 115 00:06:41,815.71428571 --> 00:06:43,165.71428571 If there is a physical threat. 116 00:06:43,465.71428571 --> 00:06:49,545.71428571 How do they keep themselves safe? How do they deal with verbal and emotional bullying? Number five. 117 00:06:50,685.71428571 --> 00:06:53,595.71428571 Help them have scripts ready? That show they are indifferent. 118 00:06:54,15.71428571 --> 00:06:56,85.71428571 To a bullies attempts to make them feel bad. 119 00:06:56,715.71428571 --> 00:06:57,465.71428571 For instance. 120 00:06:57,975.71428571 --> 00:07:00,735.71428571 If a child is frequently made fun of by another classmate. 121 00:07:01,125.71428571 --> 00:07:06,405.71428571 For being a slow reader, then the child being bullied could respond by saying, okay. 122 00:07:06,825.71428571 --> 00:07:08,535.71428571 I read slower than some people. 123 00:07:08,775.71428571 --> 00:07:09,405.71428571 So what. 124 00:07:10,545.71428571 --> 00:07:13,665.71428571 This lack of emotional response will make the bully lose interest. 125 00:07:14,85.71428571 --> 00:07:16,515.71428571 And realize your child, isn't a potential target. 126 00:07:17,805.71428571 --> 00:07:22,335.71428571 Number six, help your child understand and embrace the way their mind is wired. 127 00:07:22,995.71428571 --> 00:07:25,185.71428571 Show them to focus on their own strengths. 128 00:07:25,755.71428571 --> 00:07:29,235.71428571 Everyone is created differently in that is what makes the world beautiful. 129 00:07:29,685.71428571 --> 00:07:34,395.71428571 No two brains are like everyone has a different way of thinking and viewing the world. 130 00:07:34,995.71428571 --> 00:07:37,845.71428571 Just like every person has their own strengths and weaknesses. 131 00:07:38,445.71428571 --> 00:07:41,895.71428571 A bully, focusing on your weaknesses is an attempt to distract. 132 00:07:42,255.71428571 --> 00:07:44,595.71428571 From their own weaknesses or struggles. 133 00:07:45,585.71428571 --> 00:07:53,685.71428571 In addition to educating your child with a neurodivergent affirming perspective, that encourages differences, educate their peers as well. 134 00:07:54,255.71428571 --> 00:07:59,355.71428571 Be prepared to answer questions from friends and classmates about your child's unique wiring. 135 00:08:00,225.71428571 --> 00:08:00,885.71428571 For instance. 136 00:08:01,485.71428571 --> 00:08:06,165.71428571 Luke had made a friend in his kindergarten class and started talking about her a lot at home. 137 00:08:06,915.71428571 --> 00:08:08,295.71428571 When I chaperoned a field trip. 138 00:08:08,535.71428571 --> 00:08:11,295.71428571 This friend had several questions about the way Luke talked. 139 00:08:12,15.71428571 --> 00:08:14,775.71428571 I was able to explain that everyone has a different voice. 140 00:08:15,165.71428571 --> 00:08:17,835.71428571 And the world would be boring if we all sounded the same. 141 00:08:18,525.71428571 --> 00:08:20,55.71428571 I shared that I have a different voice. 142 00:08:20,85.71428571 --> 00:08:21,15.71428571 And so does she. 143 00:08:21,615.71428571 --> 00:08:23,535.71428571 She asked if Luke's voice would change. 144 00:08:24,165.71428571 --> 00:08:25,185.71428571 And I told her yes. 145 00:08:25,215.71428571 --> 00:08:27,735.71428571 And so what hers and all of the other kids. 146 00:08:28,95.71428571 --> 00:08:29,745.71428571 Just like mine did as I got older. 147 00:08:30,705.71428571 --> 00:08:33,165.71428571 Normalizing differences with love and support. 148 00:08:33,195.71428571 --> 00:08:37,335.71428571 Can help shape how this next generation views the world and interacts with others. 149 00:08:37,845.71428571 --> 00:08:40,65.71428571 We can equip them for this change in worldview. 150 00:08:41,325.71428571 --> 00:08:43,485.71428571 Remember knowledge is the eye-opener. 151 00:08:43,875.71428571 --> 00:08:45,675.71428571 And application is the game changer. 152 00:08:46,335.71428571 --> 00:08:49,155.71428571 Knowing how your child's wiring affects them uniquely. 153 00:08:49,545.71428571 --> 00:08:54,945.71428571 And being able to educate others helps create awareness and a more neurodivergent affirming society. 154 00:08:55,575.71428571 --> 00:08:58,755.71428571 You use questions as an opportunity to create positive change. 155 00:08:59,415.71428571 --> 00:09:08,445.71428571 As your child gets older, educate them about their abilities and prepare them to answer questions with answers that leave them feeling empowered to. 156 00:09:09,265.71428571 --> 00:09:14,635.71428571 Number seven, find social groups or activities that align with their strengths and interests. 157 00:09:15,265.71428571 --> 00:09:19,555.71428571 Give them opportunities to bond with others that they choose and click with. 158 00:09:20,305.71428571 --> 00:09:24,295.71428571 Another idea is to make connections with other kids who have the same diagnosis. 159 00:09:24,925.71428571 --> 00:09:27,385.71428571 It always helps to hang out with the other people who get it. 160 00:09:28,185.71428571 --> 00:09:28,995.71428571 Number eight. 161 00:09:29,355.71428571 --> 00:09:32,385.71428571 Have a therapist on the books for occasional check-ins. 162 00:09:32,955.71428571 --> 00:09:36,705.71428571 Make positive mental health, a priority, just like physical health. 163 00:09:37,305.71428571 --> 00:09:41,295.71428571 A trusted third party may help your child open up about situations. 164 00:09:41,295.71428571 --> 00:09:43,845.71428571 They may not want to share with you in detail. 165 00:09:44,745.71428571 --> 00:09:47,385.71428571 Having a diverse team of service providers. 166 00:09:47,715.71428571 --> 00:09:51,855.71428571 Teachers, family and friends that are neurodivergent affirming. 167 00:09:52,275.71428571 --> 00:09:53,325.71428571 We'll show your child. 168 00:09:53,775.71428571 --> 00:09:57,735.71428571 They have a community surrounding them that cares about them and their future. 169 00:09:58,725.71428571 --> 00:10:01,65.71428571 The great thing is we, as parents consume out. 170 00:10:01,455.71428571 --> 00:10:05,55.71428571 And look at the strategies we just described to equip our kids. 171 00:10:05,385.71428571 --> 00:10:07,755.71428571 And apply them to our lives as adults too. 172 00:10:08,475.71428571 --> 00:10:15,255.71428571 We can analyze if this encounter qualifies as bullying and determine the threat level, we can inform an authority figure. 173 00:10:15,555.71428571 --> 00:10:18,195.71428571 If an unexpected instance of harassment happens. 174 00:10:18,795.71428571 --> 00:10:22,65.71428571 We parents can have scripts to respond to nasty comments. 175 00:10:22,455.71428571 --> 00:10:25,155.71428571 And show that we are in different insensitive remarks. 176 00:10:25,815.71428571 --> 00:10:29,655.71428571 We can learn more about how our brains are wired and focus on our strengths. 177 00:10:29,925.71428571 --> 00:10:31,155.71428571 Rather than our weaknesses. 178 00:10:32,25.71428571 --> 00:10:36,285.71428571 This skill is especially important to consider because many diagnoses are genetic. 179 00:10:37,455.71428571 --> 00:10:40,845.71428571 Healthy routines and proactive preparation as a family. 180 00:10:41,385.71428571 --> 00:10:44,355.71428571 We'll normalize any differences and build confidence in your child. 181 00:10:44,865.71428571 --> 00:10:46,785.71428571 Reassuring them that they are not alone. 182 00:10:47,445.71428571 --> 00:10:52,45.71428571 We parents also need to have friends who understand parenting neurodivergent children. 183 00:10:53,695.71428571 --> 00:10:54,685.71428571 It is such a relief. 184 00:10:54,685.71428571 --> 00:10:57,205.71428571 When I get together with a few of my friends who have children. 185 00:10:57,655.71428571 --> 00:10:58,795.71428571 Who are differently wired. 186 00:10:59,435.71428571 --> 00:11:01,265.71428571 None of us have to worry about a social. 187 00:11:01,985.71428571 --> 00:11:06,545.71428571 Mishap between the kids or if our kids are too loud or boisterous. 188 00:11:07,475.71428571 --> 00:11:09,305.71428571 We can just take a deep sigh of relief. 189 00:11:09,725.71428571 --> 00:11:12,305.71428571 And enjoy that fenced in playground for an hour. 190 00:11:13,85.71428571 --> 00:11:14,945.71428571 This community can be essential. 191 00:11:15,275.71428571 --> 00:11:17,555.71428571 Especially in challenging times. 192 00:11:18,65.71428571 --> 00:11:20,15.71428571 We all need kind compassionate people. 193 00:11:20,15.71428571 --> 00:11:20,855.71428571 We can lean on. 194 00:11:21,545.71428571 --> 00:11:22,985.71428571 As I recommend that idea. 195 00:11:23,375.71428571 --> 00:11:25,115.71428571 I feel challenged to ask myself. 196 00:11:25,715.71428571 --> 00:11:28,175.71428571 Am I that type of person for the people around me. 197 00:11:29,435.71428571 --> 00:11:31,175.71428571 I challenge you to ask yourself that too. 198 00:11:32,315.71428571 --> 00:11:34,145.71428571 If you become a kind compassionate. 199 00:11:34,535.71428571 --> 00:11:35,765.71428571 Engaged parent. 200 00:11:36,125.71428571 --> 00:11:37,565.71428571 I'm sure you will attract others. 201 00:11:37,565.71428571 --> 00:11:38,75.71428571 Like you. 202 00:11:38,795.71428571 --> 00:11:41,855.71428571 And we all need a village when it comes to raising kids with extra needs. 203 00:11:42,995.71428571 --> 00:11:45,755.71428571 When we are equipped and empowered, we can shut down bullying. 204 00:11:46,235.71428571 --> 00:11:47,315.71428571 We can teach our kids. 205 00:11:47,795.71428571 --> 00:11:48,785.71428571 I'm not taking it. 206 00:11:49,735.71428571 --> 00:11:55,585.71428571 A lot of painful memories from my childhood are stuck in my mind because I didn't have the skills to process what happened. 207 00:11:56,65.71428571 --> 00:11:59,515.71428571 Much less to be proactive and prepared to stand up against it. 208 00:12:00,415.71428571 --> 00:12:06,745.71428571 Let's give our kids the tools to be prepared, to strip the power from bullying to make it an insignificant event. 209 00:12:07,165.71428571 --> 00:12:10,555.71428571 Because they are confident, empowered, kids who know their worth. 210 00:12:11,625.71428571 --> 00:12:14,55.71428571 If anyone is experiencing bullying that is ongoing. 211 00:12:14,505.71428571 --> 00:12:15,705.71428571 And their child is suffering. 212 00:12:15,735.71428571 --> 00:12:19,155.71428571 Please reach out to the school police and mental health professionals. 213 00:12:19,725.71428571 --> 00:12:21,525.71428571 Check out, stop bullying.gov 214 00:12:21,885.71428571 --> 00:12:25,875.71428571 to find more information about federal and state anti-bullying laws. 215 00:12:26,595.71428571 --> 00:12:29,595.71428571 I'll link to other anti-bullying resources in the show notes. 216 00:12:30,615.71428571 --> 00:12:32,955.71428571 Remember you are resourced and resilient. 217 00:12:33,615.71428571 --> 00:12:35,505.71428571 Let's make our kids resourced and resilient. 218 00:12:35,535.71428571 --> 00:12:35,835.71428571 to. 219 00:12:36,675.71428571 --> 00:12:37,575.71428571 Until next time. 220 00:12:38,115.71428571 --> 00:12:38,565.71428571 Ash. 221 00:12:40,732.38095238 --> 00:12:42,72.38095238 Hey there, before you go. 222 00:12:42,657.38095238 --> 00:12:44,907.38095238 Please go on iTunes and leave me a review. 223 00:12:45,547.38095238 --> 00:12:50,7.38095238 It will help more parents become resourced and resilient advocates for their children. 224 00:12:50,847.38095238 --> 00:13:02,617.37995238 Also, if you feel overwhelmed and unfamiliar with what services are available for your child and what to ask for in an IEP meeting, then visit my website, sparkeducationadvocacy. 225 00:13:03,507.38095238 --> 00:13:03,847.38095238 org. 226 00:13:04,637.38095238 --> 00:13:13,127.38095238 If you are ready to become your child's best advocate in IEP meetings and in social life experiences, I provide parent coaching. 227 00:13:13,547.38095238 --> 00:13:17,437.38095238 And IEP representation, both virtually and in person. 228 00:13:18,2.38095238 --> 00:13:26,722.38095238 I will help you break down the special education system and IEP documents in a relatable way so it's less complicated and more manageable. 229 00:13:27,552.38095238 --> 00:13:32,132.38095238 Together, we will defeat the inner voices of guilt, overwhelm, and frustration. 230 00:13:32,762.38095238 --> 00:13:40,952.38095238 You will be equipped with the knowledge and communication skills necessary to hold school staff accountable for meeting our children's educational needs. 231 00:13:42,2.38095238 --> 00:13:48,92.38095238 I'll also share the key questions and phrases I use in IEP meetings to get things done. 232 00:13:48,862.38095238 --> 00:13:56,922.38095238 If you're ready to take your seat as your child's expert at the IEP table, go to my website, ClarkEducationAdvocacy. 233 00:13:56,952.38095238 --> 00:13:59,502.38095238 org, and fill out the contact form.
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