June 10, 2025 • 52 mins
Summary
In this episode of Practically Magic, host Courtney delves into the concepts of inner child and shadow work, exploring their significance in emotional healing and personal development. She discusses how childhood experiences shape our beliefs and coping mechanisms, emphasizing the importance of addressing these aspects for holistic healing. The conversation also touches on developmental stages, the interplay between inner child and shadow work, and the transformative power of creative expression through art. Latty encourages listeners to engage with their inner child and highlights various methods for healing, including emotional processing and mindfulness practices.
Takeaways
Inner child work involves connecting with past selves to heal present issues. Shadow work is about understanding and integrating parts of ourselves created from trauma. Developmental stages significantly impact our emotional and psychological growth. Healing through art can facilitate emotional expression and processing. Respecting oneself is fundamental to emotional healing and self-love. Trauma is subjective and varies from person to person. Engaging with your inner child can lead to profound healing experiences. The connection between inner child and shadow work is essential for holistic healing. Creative expression can help children and adults process their emotions. Mindfulness practices can aid in recognizing and addressing past traumas.
Chapters
00:00 Welcome to Practically Magic 10:20 Understanding Developmental Stages and Their Impact 20:49 The Connection Between Inner Child and Shadow Work 30:20 Healing Through Art and Emotional Processing 40:05 The Importance of Inner Child Work 50:21 Closing Thoughts and Future Endeavors
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Hello and welcome to Practically Magic.
We are back recording in the cave.
For those of you who cannot see on YouTube, listening to audio only, my recording studioright here in the cave, my meditation area of my healing spaces in my home.
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And I'm excited to bring a topic.
am Courtney.
Pearl, today I am your energetic emotional healer and we are going to be talking aboutinner child and shadow work.
Those of you who belong in the mystical realms or perhaps on the forums, perhaps onFacebook groups or TikTok, you're watching and people use these words or these terminology
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inner child work or shadow work quite a bit or they might refer to themselves as a lightworker.
we're to talk a little bit about what that means today and specifically inner child workand what that looks like.
So in lieu of that topic, I have grabbed one of my Oracle decks.
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love to use with children and yes, I do divination with children.
teach my kids divination and
You will remember that an episode we had previously, I believe it was in season one, wewent back and we did talk about uh teaching children, about teaching children um the
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essence of magic, of what is the true and real magic that we talk about here on thepodcast.
But today I really want to specifically talk about inner child work and how that work isbeing done as if we're teaching this sort of magical concept.
and healing work to children, how that actually looks for you and how that works foreveryone at every stage.
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So I am using my magic Oracle deck, one of the three or four decks that I have that when Igo to Tarot for Tips events and I'm reading cards, I'll have children come and visit my
table and I will have them pull a card.
And it's a very specific.
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simplified message just for kids and they actually believe in the magic.
The card that I've chosen for today's episode is respect yourself.
And if you're looking at the YouTube channel, you can see that it's the image of a blackcat.
One of my favorite things.
I have a black cat on the pillow right behind me.
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I have a black cat.
Of course.
Of course I do.
A black hat with a crown on their head.
Something that my local community knows about me.
I love to wear a tiara or a crown when it's my birthday or when it's a special occasion ormaybe when I just need an uplift.
I need something to lift me up and make me feel good.
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So I love wearing a crown.
It's my thing.
And that's also very inner childlike, right?
It's kind of placating my inner child and like, Hey, if I want to wear a crown, I'm anadult.
I can wear a crown if I want.
It's not dress ups, not just for kids, but I love how the message here with this image isrespect yourself because as adults, can dive into that so deeply.
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What does it mean to respect yourself?
What does it mean to treat yourself like you love yourself?
what would that look like?
And that is so perfect for the episode we're gonna talk about today.
The crux of the healing work that I do um when I learned to do integrative processingtechnique is that we are often going to...
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our past inner child self.
We are working at an age where particular traumas or difficulties happened, things thatmay have created neural pathways to allow us to handle situations in a certain way, to
cope in a certain way, even to get our needs met in a certain way.
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And
We run those programs like they're subconscious in our brains and in our patterns, in ourbehavior from then on, um even cultivating some needs being met throughout our lifetime.
So reinforcing those beliefs.
uh And I'll use an example.
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uh We may have had an experience as a young child where we felt
abandoned or in a time of need and great stress.
Our parents weren't there for us.
The people that we look to for safety and certainty, they weren't there for us.
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so we adopt a belief system.
We create a neural pathway that says, okay, so in order to get my needs met, I'm going tohave to potentially become very independent.
Maybe I've decided at five years old, I just need to not need anyone else.
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I need to just be very independent, look out for myself, don't rely on other peoplebecause they're not there for you anyway, right?
And this may be just one of many different choices that could have been made in thatcircumstance.
So someone else might become really, really needy clinging to those people who they canrely on because they couldn't rely on the people they were supposed to.
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but perhaps in this example, the, the coping mechanism was I'm going to become veryindependent and I'm not going to need anyone else.
And because of the time period and the, uh, psychological development, uh, happening atthat particular time in their life, we know from Erickson's theories of development, we
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know that at certain phases and stages of development, we
can either have our needs met and create self-esteem and identity and these certainmilestones, or we can have confusion and m trauma.
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So not to get too deeply into the academics of it, because I could talk about Erickson'suh theories, I could talk Maslow's hierarchy of needs, uh being that I am a
early childhood development educator.
em That is where my degree and my formal education steps in.
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I was a elementary school teacher for almost a decade.
So that's playing into my background quite a bit.
But when I started discovering healing work and doing things like the integratedprocessing technique, I realized that
The work I love to do most, although I do love working with kids and I have done emotionalprocesses with children that are excellent and fantastic because they move energy like
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nobody's business, where I might take an hour and a half to two hours session with anadult to move energy, to combat belief systems, to process certain things that happened in
their past.
ah I can do the same thing with a child and we can be in and out done in an hour.
because they're so young and pliable and their decisions were more recently made and lessreinforced over time.
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they're able to go, well, hmm, I'm realizing that the way I've been getting my needs met,for example, being super independent and not needing anyone, might be actually costing me
more than it's getting me.
So I can look at that and say,
Maybe I'll try meeting people and if they're there for me, they are, and if they aren't,then they aren't, but I can still believe that I'm a good person and that I am worthy.
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And I can release and move the shame out of that situation.
And they can easily see that as a possibility, whereas adults are like,
maybe more hardened and stuck in their ways.
So if an adult had been processing that same concept, they might've been like, well, Ican't need people because they never show up for me the same way that I do, or they're
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never gonna give me the same thing that I need.
um And everyone always abandons me, everyone always ends up neglecting me, or I never getmy needs met when I rely on other people.
So I just can't rely on other people, I just have to keep doing things for myself, always,always, always for myself.
And if you suggest that there is another way that perhaps there's a way in which they canask for help and rely on other people without the expectations of they're always gonna be
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there for me or they're always not gonna be there for me.
em Adults are usually stuck in confusion at that point.
Well, I don't get it.
How does that work?
uh I don't see how that, so what would I do then?
It just takes a lot more work and time and visualization and moving of energy and creatingnew neural pathways for that new way.
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So let's get into talking about it because we're to talk about developmental stages, thechakras or energy centers that are developed throughout time, and then the cycles and
seasons of those same developmental ages.
So to start off, I just need to reiterate that.
We are all like Russian nesting dolls.
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This is not uh my metaphor, but I have heard it and I love it because it makes a lot ofsense.
So we are basically, even in present time, all the ages we've ever been.
We are our pre-birth selves in the womb.
We are infants.
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We are toddlers.
We are...
All the ages and all of the experiences that we've ever been, we are all those things atonce.
So when someone says, well, I don't want to sit in that.
I don't want to deal with that trauma.
I don't want to relive and dig up and hash out the past.
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The thing I want to remind them.
And if you are one of them, I'm reminding you, I'm telling you at this moment in time, youcan't escape it because you already are in it.
It's the whole reason why we are triggered.
So as I said before, when I'm doing emotional processing, if I'm doing an integratedprocessing technique with a session with an adult, it's no different than if the adult is
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dealing with things that their five-year-old self had dealt with.
Or if I'm dealing with a five-year-old, if I'm having a session with an actual physicalfive-year-old,
and they're dealing with that same stuff.
I would do the process the same.
And that's why it was really important that during my training that we learn a lot aboutthose different stages of development and what sort of decisions are being made at
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different times of your life.
And why I think my background in uh having studied early childhood psychology andeducation and development.
plays really well into the work that I do now because I am doing inner child work quite alot.
Now to give you an idea of what this feels like or why this is important, I want you tojust take a moment with me wherever you are and I want you to just visualize.
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If you can close your eyes and visualize it, if you are not driving or doing somethingthat you
couldn't take just a moment to yourself, I want you to just visualize that in your mind'seye, you're, let's say, six-year-old self.
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Your six-year-old self, you, you at six years old, is standing right in front of you.
You might even crouch down or hunch over to get on their level as if you are speaking to asix-year-old child.
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It just happens to be you who is the six-year-old that's in front of you.
Now let's imagine that you are speaking to that six year old and you can say anything youwant to say to them.
But let's imagine that you're saying something they really need to hear at that stage oflife.
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Let's say you're telling them you're safe.
I'm here with you.
No one can hurt you.
because I'm here to protect you and I'm here to help you with what you need.
And if you're hungry, I'll get you something to eat.
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And if you want to play, I'll play with you.
and oh
just sit in that space for a moment and feel what that feels like.
How does your six-year-old self respond to those words?
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How do they feel when you say it to them?
And how do you feel getting to say that to them?
Now in being able to be the adult you've always needed, that is powerful healing work.
And what's even more powerful is to be able to say to that six-year-old, I want you tofeel safe and comfortable telling me whatever it is you want to tell me, whatever you need
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to say.
Whatever is stuck with you that you don't want to carry anymore, I'm going to let yourelease it.
And I'm going to be here to listen.
I'm actually just going to listen with no judgment, with nothing but compassion for you,little six year old.
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Cause whatever it is you have to say, it's okay.
It might be harsh.
It might feel.
violent at times?
Might be filled with rage?
It might be sad.
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But in just allowing your six-year-old to say whatever it is they need to say and you arejust listening without judgment, with nothing but compassion that that six-year-old had to
deal with some things and had to do the best they could with what they knew at the time.
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And you know this because you're an adult now.
You can look back and say, hey, my six-year-old maybe didn't handle it in the best way or
Maybe they made some decisions that were really harmful to us, but gosh, I can't reallyblame them.
They were doing the best they could with what they had at the time, with what they knew,with how much experience they had.
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They're only six after all.
You're just a child.
They need my compassion.
good does that feel to be able to be the one who gets to witness what that six-year-oldneeded?
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To be able to give them what they need.
That is the power of inner child work because we cannot classify, and even psychologistsand psychoanalysts, cannot classify what is trauma and what is not trauma.
The fact of the matter is,
Trauma is different for every single person.
Trauma is something that allows us to make certain beliefs about ourselves and to moveforward with coping mechanisms that maybe are not aligned with our best self, our most
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authentic self.
So in witnessing that and making new decisions, that is how we return to self.
We return to our authentic and best self by witnessing that
and making those new decisions, new neural pathways.
And some of the best ways to do that is to have an emotional experience and an emotionalconnection.
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So if you go back to our uh episode that we did on ketamine and psychedelics and healing,we had a discussion about how some people are able to, during a ketamine session or during
that psychedelics, they're able to see themselves as children.
or experiences that they've had as children and look at it without the emotion.
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Be able to say, yeah, that was really tough or, you know, but I'm just witnessing it as anobserver without any of that judgment or shame connected to it.
And now I get to see what other choices can be made.
And as you come out of ketamine and you're in that sort of mushy brain state afterwards,
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the integration part is why it's so important that you do some healing work.
Like for example, the integration, integrated processing technique, emotional processingthat I or Shandel both do in our own ways.
Okay.
So that's how powerful it is.
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And here are some decisions that when I'm doing the integrated processing technique or IPTsessions with clients, I'll take into consideration.
For example, at age two, so if our session happens to take us to age two and we're workingwith our two-year-old self, I will be asking questions that have a lot to do with fear of
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separation.
because it is spiritually and developmentally a time of separation from spiritual realms,for example, God and what the spirit knew of pre-existence, but also of separation from
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their identity with mom.
Because most infants and all the way up until age two associate their identity as
They depended on mom for literally everything.
And dad too, to some extent, or their caretaker.
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But remember they came from the womb so recently.
So it's going to be very much a slow and progressive separation of that identity andconnection to mom.
And when I say God, mean that,
At age two weeks and at two years, these are uh pivotal times in the separation of thespirit that is connecting to the body and being able to separate from the spiritual realm
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in which we've come from before we were born.
And so um if you are listening to this podcast and you're like, I don't believe in all ofthat.
I'm going to question why you're even here because this is what we talk about thespiritual realm.
the energy of spiritual things.
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And so we're letting go of the idea being a baby at age two.
At age three, this is a big step into independence.
A lot of people say it's the terrible twos, but really it's the terrible threes.
That's because now after the separation from mom at age two, age three is a time of
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um where a lot of times siblings are born.
So there's traumatic events happening around them.
They're more aware and conscious of these traumatic events and what beliefs they'readopting that those events might mean about themselves.
A lot of work done at age three, they are wanting to please.
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They're more aware of, are they pleasing?
their authority figures or do they even want to please their authority figures because atthis point they're like, what about me?
I want to please me, which is why it's a difficult age for parents because you're likerunning around after this three year old who wants what they want, right?
And then age four, and I have processed a lot of age four in time with my clients becausefour is the age of joy.
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It's a time when little guys just want joy.
all the time.
Four-year-olds are pretty joyful.
They're pretty joyful little guys.
The times when they are not joyful, when they have their tantrums and their difficultmoments for parents, it's because they are perceiving their joy being taken away.
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What they want to experience is joy and what mom or dad is fighting them on or taking themaway from is that joy that they're looking for.
I also want to talk about age seven for a second because I have processed a lot of ageseven in times with my clients as well.
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And it is the age of anger.
It is a developmental age very much associated with showing up with that anger and rage,practicing what anger feels like.
So this is when you have to those conversations with kids about like, when you are angry,here are appropriate ways to handle it.
And that's why in some of my work with children and I do these healing art classes, theheart smart art classes and the myth and magic classes are designed for children because
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art, as you know, from my episode on healing through art is a fantastic way to get thatcreative flow, playful energy and the energy of color into the conversation.
about feelings and emotions, and I use a lot of story time and books as well.
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So I have one called the Grumpy Unicorn.
We talk about anger.
Seven-year-olds, they're learning how to transition and to receive emotions like anger asinformation.
ah It's very difficult in a household where anger is not allowed.
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Anger is labeled as bad.
So if you are showing anger, you are not good.
My light just turned off.
It was flickering and then just I think the bulb just went out.
So if you're watching on YouTube, that's why it just went dark all of a sudden.
Luckily, the light is shining from the window, so we'll be fine.
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Yeah.
So what does it say about anger?
If you're in a household where they
are not allowed to express anger, or perhaps there is one individual in the house who isallowed to do anger, but no one else is.
And a lot of you listening right now, you might be thinking about your own children at ageseven or at these ages we're talking about, but I also want you to consider that we're not
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just talking about your children and how to raise your children in a way that is.
creating emotionally intelligent magical children, but we're also talking about you.
So you need to consider how am I parenting my inner child?
How am I showing up for my inner child?
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Because if you think about yourself and your family situation and your potential traumasor heaviness that you experienced at age seven,
Ask yourself, was I allowed to do anger at that age?
Was there some part of me that believed anger was not allowed, that it made me bad?
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I'm bad if I do anger.
So we're having conversations with seven-year-olds about what is an appropriate way tohandle anger?
What's an appropriate way to see and be friends with anger?
How do we separate ourselves from anger, not identifying with it, but seeing it as amessage coming in, as the information?
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Because that's what anger is.
And a lot of those heavy emotions, in fact.
Anger is, hey, something's not right.
I'm being uh violated in some way, and I need protection.
So anger is gonna come forward.
Now I get to make the decision, my higher self, my real true authentic self gets to makethe decision on what that is.
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How do we take action now?
Now that anger is shown up.
And in a calm state, we can do that.
But when we let anger override all of that, we can't do that.
So these are developmental ages and I've just covered a few of them today.
There's a lot more information here, but you're not here to take a class.
You're here to just learn something a little bit more about what inner child work is.
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I also want to um take into consideration that some of the courses that I'm taking fromTiffany Lezick, she wrote great work and the noble art.
She associates developmental ages with the seasons of the year.
and the cycles that happen at these seasons of the year.
And as I've been learning from her, she's a fantastic mentor to me in these classes I'mtaking from her.
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I've been learning how to do energy work that she teaches called Honey that uses theseasons of the year to do the healing work.
So similar to Reiki, but also kind of a good mismatch of what Reiki is like and whatemotional processing is like.
And Honey is sort of the thing that meets in the middle.
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So that's why I'm really enjoying learning about this type of healing work because itplays really nicely into what I already have been doing and just adding a great buttload
of information into that.
So she talks about cycles, cycles like in winter or the time from Yule to Imbulk being therebirth time of year.
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So we've come out of death and we're into rebirth.
But in bulk time from February 2nd to March is gifts from the inner child.
So this is where in the time of year, we're talking about coming out of infancy and intoyour child's work.
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So if you're in that cycle during that time of year or at any
point during the year you happen to just be personally in that cycle, then that's whatwill come up for you when you're doing this kind of healing work.
When you're on a healing journey and you need to discover what is it about my inner, mychild self that needs to be brought forward and addressed and witnessed so that I can move
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forward in a better way.
If I haven't convinced you yet,
with all of this so far, that inner child work is powerful and important and essential inyour healing journey.
So anytime you're trying to change, okay, you are noticing things about yourself that aresabotaging your progress.
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that's moving into what we call shadow work.
Right?
So our ego goes through these fragmented stages where we are split into all thesedifferent parts of us.
And some of them were built and created based on trauma from when we were children.
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So there's a part of us that gets extremely triggered or defensive or
gets extremely confused.
um We're taking a course with women, wealth and woo about trauma with money.
And this is a really good example to be brought up with this kind of thing because somepeople often get stuck in patterns with money or trying to progress in their business or
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in their wealth.
And they get into these patterns where they constantly sabotage themselves.
Maybe
every time they get a little bit of money, spend it.
Or maybe em they hoard their money so tightly that they really don't take any risks andnever grow their wealth because they're just so, so wrapped up in scarcity that they hoard
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their money and they hold on tight to it.
um No judgment on whether or not these patterns are good or bad.
I don't believe in good or bad, but I'm pointing out that how we
how we witness that relationship with money or how we move through a space where we'regoing into, want wealth, but I keep sabotaging myself.
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There's these parts of us that sabotage us in whatever we're progressing in because theyare our shadows.
Our shadow selves are not like demons or the way that they have been demonized by maybe
Christian culture, these parts of us are born out of trauma and created to protect us insome way, to serve a purpose in some way.
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So in therapy, for example, uh in our family systems is a modality of therapy that uhreally taps into this type of work.
uh
But what I want to address today is that inner child work and shadow work are very muchhand in hand.
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Because when you are addressing a child part of you, an inner child self, you are alsohaving a conversation with a shadow part.
Because when that child had a need that wasn't getting met, a shadow part is born fromthat.
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And the shadow part is the part that says, okay, well now we need to, going back to ouroriginal example, now I need to never need anyone ever again.
I will just always take care of myself and never rely on anyone else.
And when we get friendly with our shadow parts, we get to soften them.
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We get to reassure them.
We get to learn more about them.
There's a book called Inner.
um
The Dark Side of the Light Chasers is what it's called.
I have it on my shelf over there.
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It's a book we had to read when I was going to school at the Institute of Healing Arts.
it is basically, and it takes you through a meditation in the book about how you can gothrough, uh let's say you bring all of your shadow selves into a conference, into a
conference room.
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or you could see them as the teammates in a locker room, or you can walk onto a bus andhave all your shadow parts there sitting on the bus.
You find one that's really giving you problems right now.
Every time you try to make progress in some way in your life, this shadow part shows up.
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And you can name her something, or you can even give him a personality.
A whole visual, you could uh give them a name.
That's just exactly what they are.
I have one that I call controlling Kathy because when I stand up to control things, Ireally don't have control over.
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That's controlling Kathy taking over.
She thinks that she can literally make everything work the way it's supposed to.
She thinks that she can
bully everybody or get mad at everybody enough to where everybody will fall in line and dowhat she says.
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And I call it she and I have a personality and a visual of her because if I say it's me,there is a cloud of shame that wraps around the whole situation.
And then it's me that's doing all that.
When I think that the people who love me the most recognize that I'm not actually being myreal true authentic self when I get into those spaces, when I get into those places where
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I'm trying to control everything and everybody and I get really stressed out.
and angry and difficult for everybody else.
I think that the people who love me the most know that that's not really me.
And they're like, hey, they don't know about controlling Kathy, but they do know thatsomeone else is taking over.
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I can have a conversation with controlling Kathy and I can say, controlling Kathy, why areyou here?
What is going on?
Why do you feel the need to make everything work perfectly?
and everybody fall in line and everybody do what you tell them.
And controlling Kathy says, because I need some certainty.
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I'm afraid.
I'm afraid that if people don't do what I say, I can't keep everyone safe and I can't makethis day go the way I want it to go.
And we won't have good memories together because
everything will be too late and we won't get there in time and whatever it is.
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And then I realized, you know what?
You're just here to help me.
You're just trying to help me.
Now controlling Kathy was born out of trauma, out of an inner child that at some point inmy childhood, I made a decision because of events going on or whatever it was.
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And I've done a lot of work emotionally processing what it is with a facilitator thathelps me.
to figure this out.
But figuring out what is it that I need to know about what happened, how can I move all ofthe emotional energy out in shapes and colors to get to the heart of what it is I need?
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So my inner child is saying, I need to feel some certainty.
I need to feel like everything's gonna be okay and I can make sure it's okay.
And then controlling Cathy was born out of that.
She comes in when she feels like things are not gonna go well, things are not gonna go ourway if I don't come in and start controlling everything and control everybody and make
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sure everything happens the way it's supposed to happen.
And one thing that sped the process along for me in being able to move out of controllingCathy into a softer, more, you know what?
I can't control all this.
There is no certainty here.
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Only thing I can be certain of is that it's uncertain.
And maybe I need to let go of everything that doesn't matter quite so much.
And if the real, real goal here was to have good memories with my family, then mecontrolling my family this much is not making good memories.
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It's sabotaging what I actually want to.
which by the way, in almost every session that I do for all of time in the years I've beendoing this, what we ultimately discover through the process is that the way we get our
needs met is usually costing us the very thing we are trying to get.
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So if we don't change the way we get things, we will just end up losing the things wewant.
That's usually the epiphany that comes from all of this type of work.
So imagine what it feels like to be the adult who gets to go in and say, actually, we'regoing to get our needs met.
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We're just going to do it a different way now.
And it's going to be OK.
And I'm here.
And I've got you.
And we're going to be safe.
And I'm going to make sure it's OK for you.
And if it's not okay, we'll deal with that too.
Ultimately, it will work out.
So if that feels good to you to imagine what sort of work that would be like, I wouldhighly encourage you to look into ways that you can start to heal your inner child.
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And there are many, many ways to do this.
We just had, uh last night I was able to go to one of the women optimizing wellness eventswhere they did a sound bath.
um
And if you don't know what a sound bath is, sound surfing is another word for it thatCambria Davis uses.
She was the one who was doing our sound bath that night.
Um, it's not an actual bath.
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There's no water involved.
It's literally just meditation, laying on a comfortable surface, meditating while soundbowls and bells and gongs are, and tuning forks are used to create a bath of vibrations.
And when you
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do this, your body is rewriting itself.
There are cells in the body that when they vibrate at a certain frequency, they rewriteand reprogram themselves.
It's incredible.
And while there isn't any talking going on during it, it's interesting because people,when reflecting after a sound bath, they will say, I had my inner child show up.
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I had a conversation.
with my inner child and we were able to talk about what they need and I was able to letthem know that they're safe.
And it felt wonderful.
It felt so healing and so beautiful.
And just the sound bath created the environment in which that could happen, which isbeautiful and wonderful.
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But if you feel like you need more guidance, more facilitating,
someone to ask the right questions and to uh help guide you through the visualization ofthat.
That is the work that I do specifically with Healing Through Art.
The Healing Through Art Full Moon Course that I do or the standalone Healing Through Artsessions that I do for groups, that is exactly what we do.
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We start with a meditation where we bring forward one of your most needed inner childages.
And that is what I do with private sessions as well is we sit down together and what Iwill be doing with the the honey sessions is being able to bring forward.
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a past version of yourself.
And sometimes it's not a child.
Sometimes, and I have had sessions myself where it was my 26 year old self that showed up.
And it's interesting because I remember the day that that happened.
I was kind of waiting for it.
I just thought one day I will have to do this age.
And I remember the facilitator saying, your 26 year old self is coming forward.
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And I said, okay, here we go.
because that was the age when I was told by the doctor that I would probably not be ableto have children.
And it was incredibly, incredibly devastating to me.
Now it's not a developmental stage where my neuro pathways are being created at thatstage, but it's a really important stage that probably connects through energetic cords
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what age I was at some other earlier age, which is your body is going to fail you.
And I had sessions that
had that belief system way back in the womb.
This body is not perfect enough.
This body will fail you.
You will not be able to serve your purpose here on earth with this body because it's notperfect, because it needs to be more perfect.
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And because I have worked through those younger ages quite a lot, when my 26 year old selfcame forward, I was ready.
I was ready to help her deal with the
devastation of this body is broken, this body won't be able to do what purpose it wasmeant for, which I believed was being a mother.
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So I had to process the emotional, energetic feelings and belief systems at that age aswell.
But all of the work that I do is shadow work because we are dealing with inner child work.
They are coexistent.
They work together.
So as I said in the beginning, there are particular mystic healers like myself who aresaying, I'm a light worker.
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I want you to consider because some of them say I'm a light worker, but then they're like,but also yeah, there's shadow work involved.
There is always shadow work and inner child work involved in healing work.
And if you feel as if you are avoiding dealing with anything from your past, because it ispainful and it is hard to look at, I want you to remember the conversation we had in this
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episode where I invited you to talk to your six year old self and what that felt like.
because as hard as it may be to face certain things and to go through what that feelslike, it also feels like a complete rebirth in coming out of a session.
Like you had to die and come back.
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It's a cycle, it's a process, it's a healing cycle.
So there is a difficulty, there is probably emotional release.
For many people there's crying or laughing or
yawning or belching.
These are all energetic releases that I have seen and that people have experienced.
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So there is going to be the difficult part, but I have never had a session where a clientdid not come out of it and say, Oh, felt so good.
I needed that so much.
And everything that your child is bringing forward, not your child, but your child's self.
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you as a child, everything it's bringing forward, it's always what you need at presenttime.
It connects in some way to what you're going through or dealing with right now.
So if you're going through a divorce and that's really, really difficult and you're havinga lot of anxiety and a lot of stress and a lot of emotions dealing with your marriage
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ending,
For example, your child self that's gonna be brought up is going to be a past version ofyourself that dealt with something similar, that dealt with something that felt like that
loss and that separation and that abandonment and that betrayal and that whatever it isthat's coming up for you.
So it's really powerful to be able to deal with that from the source of where you decidedhow to handle that and how to see yourself through all that.
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And emotional processing,
whether it's partnered with catamine sessions or whether it's partnered with uh a soundbath or any other modality of healing work that we do in this holistic alternative healing
world.
I want you to remember that it's exactly what you need at the time that you need it.
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that it will bring forward only what you're ready for at that moment in time.
So there's no reason to be afraid of it.
There is no reason to hesitate.
Because if you're like, oh, there are some things from my past I'm just really not readyto look at, don't worry.
Your body will not bring forward anything that you are not ready to look at and that youare not ready to process.
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Eventually, you will be ready.
And eventually,
you'll move through it and you'll be able to move out shame and see yourself as you trulyare returning to self, not identifying with all of these fragmented ego parts that you
maybe go into when you're in your shadow parts, if that makes sense.
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Okay, I think I've generally covered what inner child work and shadow work really are andhopefully,
brought forward some things that make it clear for you.
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Hello and welcome to Practically Magic.
We are back recording in the cave.
For those of you who cannot see on YouTube, listening to audio only, my recording studioright here in the cave, my meditation area of my healing spaces in my home.
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And I'm excited to bring a topic.
am Courtney.
Pearl, today I am your energetic emotional healer and we are going to be talking aboutinner child and shadow work.
Those of you who belong in the mystical realms or perhaps on the forums, perhaps onFacebook groups or TikTok, you're watching and people use these words or these terminology
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inner child work or shadow work quite a bit or they might refer to themselves as a lightworker.
we're to talk a little bit about what that means today and specifically inner child workand what that looks like.
So in lieu of that topic, I have grabbed one of my Oracle decks.
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love to use with children and yes, I do divination with children.
teach my kids divination and
You will remember that an episode we had previously, I believe it was in season one, wewent back and we did talk about uh teaching children, about teaching children um the
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essence of magic, of what is the true and real magic that we talk about here on thepodcast.
But today I really want to specifically talk about inner child work and how that work isbeing done as if we're teaching this sort of magical concept.
and healing work to children, how that actually looks for you and how that works foreveryone at every stage.
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So I am using my magic Oracle deck, one of the three or four decks that I have that when Igo to Tarot for Tips events and I'm reading cards, I'll have children come and visit my
table and I will have them pull a card.
And it's a very specific.
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simplified message just for kids and they actually believe in the magic.
The card that I've chosen for today's episode is respect yourself.
And if you're looking at the YouTube channel, you can see that it's the image of a blackcat.
One of my favorite things.
I have a black cat on the pillow right behind me.
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I have a black cat.
Of course.
Of course I do.
A black hat with a crown on their head.
Something that my local community knows about me.
I love to wear a tiara or a crown when it's my birthday or when it's a special occasion ormaybe when I just need an uplift.
I need something to lift me up and make me feel good.
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So I love wearing a crown.
It's my thing.
And that's also very inner childlike, right?
It's kind of placating my inner child and like, Hey, if I want to wear a crown, I'm anadult.
I can wear a crown if I want.
It's not dress ups, not just for kids, but I love how the message here with this image isrespect yourself because as adults, can dive into that so deeply.
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What does it mean to respect yourself?
What does it mean to treat yourself like you love yourself?
what would that look like?
And that is so perfect for the episode we're gonna talk about today.
The crux of the healing work that I do um when I learned to do integrative processingtechnique is that we are often going to...
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our past inner child self.
We are working at an age where particular traumas or difficulties happened, things thatmay have created neural pathways to allow us to handle situations in a certain way, to
cope in a certain way, even to get our needs met in a certain way.
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And
We run those programs like they're subconscious in our brains and in our patterns, in ourbehavior from then on, um even cultivating some needs being met throughout our lifetime.
So reinforcing those beliefs.
uh And I'll use an example.
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uh We may have had an experience as a young child where we felt
abandoned or in a time of need and great stress.
Our parents weren't there for us.
The people that we look to for safety and certainty, they weren't there for us.
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so we adopt a belief system.
We create a neural pathway that says, okay, so in order to get my needs met, I'm going tohave to potentially become very independent.
Maybe I've decided at five years old, I just need to not need anyone else.
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I need to just be very independent, look out for myself, don't rely on other peoplebecause they're not there for you anyway, right?
And this may be just one of many different choices that could have been made in thatcircumstance.
So someone else might become really, really needy clinging to those people who they canrely on because they couldn't rely on the people they were supposed to.
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but perhaps in this example, the, the coping mechanism was I'm going to become veryindependent and I'm not going to need anyone else.
And because of the time period and the, uh, psychological development, uh, happening atthat particular time in their life, we know from Erickson's theories of development, we
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know that at certain phases and stages of development, we
can either have our needs met and create self-esteem and identity and these certainmilestones, or we can have confusion and m trauma.
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So not to get too deeply into the academics of it, because I could talk about Erickson'suh theories, I could talk Maslow's hierarchy of needs, uh being that I am a
early childhood development educator.
em That is where my degree and my formal education steps in.
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I was a elementary school teacher for almost a decade.
So that's playing into my background quite a bit.
But when I started discovering healing work and doing things like the integratedprocessing technique, I realized that
The work I love to do most, although I do love working with kids and I have done emotionalprocesses with children that are excellent and fantastic because they move energy like
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nobody's business, where I might take an hour and a half to two hours session with anadult to move energy, to combat belief systems, to process certain things that happened in
their past.
ah I can do the same thing with a child and we can be in and out done in an hour.
because they're so young and pliable and their decisions were more recently made and lessreinforced over time.
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they're able to go, well, hmm, I'm realizing that the way I've been getting my needs met,for example, being super independent and not needing anyone, might be actually costing me
more than it's getting me.
So I can look at that and say,
Maybe I'll try meeting people and if they're there for me, they are, and if they aren't,then they aren't, but I can still believe that I'm a good person and that I am worthy.
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And I can release and move the shame out of that situation.
And they can easily see that as a possibility, whereas adults are like,
maybe more hardened and stuck in their ways.
So if an adult had been processing that same concept, they might've been like, well, Ican't need people because they never show up for me the same way that I do, or they're
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never gonna give me the same thing that I need.
um And everyone always abandons me, everyone always ends up neglecting me, or I never getmy needs met when I rely on other people.
So I just can't rely on other people, I just have to keep doing things for myself, always,always, always for myself.
And if you suggest that there is another way that perhaps there's a way in which they canask for help and rely on other people without the expectations of they're always gonna be
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there for me or they're always not gonna be there for me.
em Adults are usually stuck in confusion at that point.
Well, I don't get it.
How does that work?
uh I don't see how that, so what would I do then?
It just takes a lot more work and time and visualization and moving of energy and creatingnew neural pathways for that new way.
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So let's get into talking about it because we're to talk about developmental stages, thechakras or energy centers that are developed throughout time, and then the cycles and
seasons of those same developmental ages.
So to start off, I just need to reiterate that.
We are all like Russian nesting dolls.
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This is not uh my metaphor, but I have heard it and I love it because it makes a lot ofsense.
So we are basically, even in present time, all the ages we've ever been.
We are our pre-birth selves in the womb.
We are infants.
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We are toddlers.
We are...
All the ages and all of the experiences that we've ever been, we are all those things atonce.
So when someone says, well, I don't want to sit in that.
I don't want to deal with that trauma.
I don't want to relive and dig up and hash out the past.
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The thing I want to remind them.
And if you are one of them, I'm reminding you, I'm telling you at this moment in time, youcan't escape it because you already are in it.
It's the whole reason why we are triggered.
So as I said before, when I'm doing emotional processing, if I'm doing an integratedprocessing technique with a session with an adult, it's no different than if the adult is
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dealing with things that their five-year-old self had dealt with.
Or if I'm dealing with a five-year-old, if I'm having a session with an actual physicalfive-year-old,
and they're dealing with that same stuff.
I would do the process the same.
And that's why it was really important that during my training that we learn a lot aboutthose different stages of development and what sort of decisions are being made at
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different times of your life.
And why I think my background in uh having studied early childhood psychology andeducation and development.
plays really well into the work that I do now because I am doing inner child work quite alot.
Now to give you an idea of what this feels like or why this is important, I want you tojust take a moment with me wherever you are and I want you to just visualize.
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If you can close your eyes and visualize it, if you are not driving or doing somethingthat you
couldn't take just a moment to yourself, I want you to just visualize that in your mind'seye, you're, let's say, six-year-old self.
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Your six-year-old self, you, you at six years old, is standing right in front of you.
You might even crouch down or hunch over to get on their level as if you are speaking to asix-year-old child.
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It just happens to be you who is the six-year-old that's in front of you.
Now let's imagine that you are speaking to that six year old and you can say anything youwant to say to them.
But let's imagine that you're saying something they really need to hear at that stage oflife.
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Let's say you're telling them you're safe.
I'm here with you.
No one can hurt you.
because I'm here to protect you and I'm here to help you with what you need.
And if you're hungry, I'll get you something to eat.
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And if you want to play, I'll play with you.
and oh
just sit in that space for a moment and feel what that feels like.
How does your six-year-old self respond to those words?
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How do they feel when you say it to them?
And how do you feel getting to say that to them?
Now in being able to be the adult you've always needed, that is powerful healing work.
And what's even more powerful is to be able to say to that six-year-old, I want you tofeel safe and comfortable telling me whatever it is you want to tell me, whatever you need
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to say.
Whatever is stuck with you that you don't want to carry anymore, I'm going to let yourelease it.
And I'm going to be here to listen.
I'm actually just going to listen with no judgment, with nothing but compassion for you,little six year old.
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Cause whatever it is you have to say, it's okay.
It might be harsh.
It might feel.
violent at times?
Might be filled with rage?
It might be sad.
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But in just allowing your six-year-old to say whatever it is they need to say and you arejust listening without judgment, with nothing but compassion that that six-year-old had to
deal with some things and had to do the best they could with what they knew at the time.
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And you know this because you're an adult now.
You can look back and say, hey, my six-year-old maybe didn't handle it in the best way or
Maybe they made some decisions that were really harmful to us, but gosh, I can't reallyblame them.
They were doing the best they could with what they had at the time, with what they knew,with how much experience they had.
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They're only six after all.
You're just a child.
They need my compassion.
good does that feel to be able to be the one who gets to witness what that six-year-oldneeded?
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To be able to give them what they need.
That is the power of inner child work because we cannot classify, and even psychologistsand psychoanalysts, cannot classify what is trauma and what is not trauma.
The fact of the matter is,
Trauma is different for every single person.
Trauma is something that allows us to make certain beliefs about ourselves and to moveforward with coping mechanisms that maybe are not aligned with our best self, our most
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authentic self.
So in witnessing that and making new decisions, that is how we return to self.
We return to our authentic and best self by witnessing that
and making those new decisions, new neural pathways.
And some of the best ways to do that is to have an emotional experience and an emotionalconnection.
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So if you go back to our uh episode that we did on ketamine and psychedelics and healing,we had a discussion about how some people are able to, during a ketamine session or during
that psychedelics, they're able to see themselves as children.
or experiences that they've had as children and look at it without the emotion.
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Be able to say, yeah, that was really tough or, you know, but I'm just witnessing it as anobserver without any of that judgment or shame connected to it.
And now I get to see what other choices can be made.
And as you come out of ketamine and you're in that sort of mushy brain state afterwards,
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the integration part is why it's so important that you do some healing work.
Like for example, the integration, integrated processing technique, emotional processingthat I or Shandel both do in our own ways.
Okay.
So that's how powerful it is.
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And here are some decisions that when I'm doing the integrated processing technique or IPTsessions with clients, I'll take into consideration.
For example, at age two, so if our session happens to take us to age two and we're workingwith our two-year-old self, I will be asking questions that have a lot to do with fear of
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separation.
because it is spiritually and developmentally a time of separation from spiritual realms,for example, God and what the spirit knew of pre-existence, but also of separation from
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their identity with mom.
Because most infants and all the way up until age two associate their identity as
They depended on mom for literally everything.
And dad too, to some extent, or their caretaker.
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But remember they came from the womb so recently.
So it's going to be very much a slow and progressive separation of that identity andconnection to mom.
And when I say God, mean that,
At age two weeks and at two years, these are uh pivotal times in the separation of thespirit that is connecting to the body and being able to separate from the spiritual realm
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in which we've come from before we were born.
And so um if you are listening to this podcast and you're like, I don't believe in all ofthat.
I'm going to question why you're even here because this is what we talk about thespiritual realm.
the energy of spiritual things.
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And so we're letting go of the idea being a baby at age two.
At age three, this is a big step into independence.
A lot of people say it's the terrible twos, but really it's the terrible threes.
That's because now after the separation from mom at age two, age three is a time of
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um where a lot of times siblings are born.
So there's traumatic events happening around them.
They're more aware and conscious of these traumatic events and what beliefs they'readopting that those events might mean about themselves.
A lot of work done at age three, they are wanting to please.
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They're more aware of, are they pleasing?
their authority figures or do they even want to please their authority figures because atthis point they're like, what about me?
I want to please me, which is why it's a difficult age for parents because you're likerunning around after this three year old who wants what they want, right?
And then age four, and I have processed a lot of age four in time with my clients becausefour is the age of joy.
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It's a time when little guys just want joy.
all the time.
Four-year-olds are pretty joyful.
They're pretty joyful little guys.
The times when they are not joyful, when they have their tantrums and their difficultmoments for parents, it's because they are perceiving their joy being taken away.
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What they want to experience is joy and what mom or dad is fighting them on or taking themaway from is that joy that they're looking for.
I also want to talk about age seven for a second because I have processed a lot of ageseven in times with my clients as well.
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And it is the age of anger.
It is a developmental age very much associated with showing up with that anger and rage,practicing what anger feels like.
So this is when you have to those conversations with kids about like, when you are angry,here are appropriate ways to handle it.
And that's why in some of my work with children and I do these healing art classes, theheart smart art classes and the myth and magic classes are designed for children because
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art, as you know, from my episode on healing through art is a fantastic way to get thatcreative flow, playful energy and the energy of color into the conversation.
about feelings and emotions, and I use a lot of story time and books as well.
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So I have one called the Grumpy Unicorn.
We talk about anger.
Seven-year-olds, they're learning how to transition and to receive emotions like anger asinformation.
ah It's very difficult in a household where anger is not allowed.
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Anger is labeled as bad.
So if you are showing anger, you are not good.
My light just turned off.
It was flickering and then just I think the bulb just went out.
So if you're watching on YouTube, that's why it just went dark all of a sudden.
Luckily, the light is shining from the window, so we'll be fine.
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Yeah.
So what does it say about anger?
If you're in a household where they
are not allowed to express anger, or perhaps there is one individual in the house who isallowed to do anger, but no one else is.
And a lot of you listening right now, you might be thinking about your own children at ageseven or at these ages we're talking about, but I also want you to consider that we're not
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just talking about your children and how to raise your children in a way that is.
creating emotionally intelligent magical children, but we're also talking about you.
So you need to consider how am I parenting my inner child?
How am I showing up for my inner child?
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Because if you think about yourself and your family situation and your potential traumasor heaviness that you experienced at age seven,
Ask yourself, was I allowed to do anger at that age?
Was there some part of me that believed anger was not allowed, that it made me bad?
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I'm bad if I do anger.
So we're having conversations with seven-year-olds about what is an appropriate way tohandle anger?
What's an appropriate way to see and be friends with anger?
How do we separate ourselves from anger, not identifying with it, but seeing it as amessage coming in, as the information?
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Because that's what anger is.
And a lot of those heavy emotions, in fact.
Anger is, hey, something's not right.
I'm being uh violated in some way, and I need protection.
So anger is gonna come forward.
Now I get to make the decision, my higher self, my real true authentic self gets to makethe decision on what that is.
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How do we take action now?
Now that anger is shown up.
And in a calm state, we can do that.
But when we let anger override all of that, we can't do that.
So these are developmental ages and I've just covered a few of them today.
There's a lot more information here, but you're not here to take a class.
You're here to just learn something a little bit more about what inner child work is.
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I also want to um take into consideration that some of the courses that I'm taking fromTiffany Lezick, she wrote great work and the noble art.
She associates developmental ages with the seasons of the year.
and the cycles that happen at these seasons of the year.
And as I've been learning from her, she's a fantastic mentor to me in these classes I'mtaking from her.
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I've been learning how to do energy work that she teaches called Honey that uses theseasons of the year to do the healing work.
So similar to Reiki, but also kind of a good mismatch of what Reiki is like and whatemotional processing is like.
And Honey is sort of the thing that meets in the middle.
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So that's why I'm really enjoying learning about this type of healing work because itplays really nicely into what I already have been doing and just adding a great buttload
of information into that.
So she talks about cycles, cycles like in winter or the time from Yule to Imbulk being therebirth time of year.
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So we've come out of death and we're into rebirth.
But in bulk time from February 2nd to March is gifts from the inner child.
So this is where in the time of year, we're talking about coming out of infancy and intoyour child's work.
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So if you're in that cycle during that time of year or at any
point during the year you happen to just be personally in that cycle, then that's whatwill come up for you when you're doing this kind of healing work.
When you're on a healing journey and you need to discover what is it about my inner, mychild self that needs to be brought forward and addressed and witnessed so that I can move
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forward in a better way.
If I haven't convinced you yet,
with all of this so far, that inner child work is powerful and important and essential inyour healing journey.
So anytime you're trying to change, okay, you are noticing things about yourself that aresabotaging your progress.
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that's moving into what we call shadow work.
Right?
So our ego goes through these fragmented stages where we are split into all thesedifferent parts of us.
And some of them were built and created based on trauma from when we were children.
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So there's a part of us that gets extremely triggered or defensive or
gets extremely confused.
um We're taking a course with women, wealth and woo about trauma with money.
And this is a really good example to be brought up with this kind of thing because somepeople often get stuck in patterns with money or trying to progress in their business or
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in their wealth.
And they get into these patterns where they constantly sabotage themselves.
Maybe
every time they get a little bit of money, spend it.
Or maybe em they hoard their money so tightly that they really don't take any risks andnever grow their wealth because they're just so, so wrapped up in scarcity that they hoard
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their money and they hold on tight to it.
um No judgment on whether or not these patterns are good or bad.
I don't believe in good or bad, but I'm pointing out that how we
how we witness that relationship with money or how we move through a space where we'regoing into, want wealth, but I keep sabotaging myself.
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There's these parts of us that sabotage us in whatever we're progressing in because theyare our shadows.
Our shadow selves are not like demons or the way that they have been demonized by maybe
Christian culture, these parts of us are born out of trauma and created to protect us insome way, to serve a purpose in some way.
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So in therapy, for example, uh in our family systems is a modality of therapy that uhreally taps into this type of work.
uh
But what I want to address today is that inner child work and shadow work are very muchhand in hand.
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Because when you are addressing a child part of you, an inner child self, you are alsohaving a conversation with a shadow part.
Because when that child had a need that wasn't getting met, a shadow part is born fromthat.
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And the shadow part is the part that says, okay, well now we need to, going back to ouroriginal example, now I need to never need anyone ever again.
I will just always take care of myself and never rely on anyone else.
And when we get friendly with our shadow parts, we get to soften them.
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We get to reassure them.
We get to learn more about them.
There's a book called Inner.
um
The Dark Side of the Light Chasers is what it's called.
I have it on my shelf over there.
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It's a book we had to read when I was going to school at the Institute of Healing Arts.
it is basically, and it takes you through a meditation in the book about how you can gothrough, uh let's say you bring all of your shadow selves into a conference, into a
conference room.
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or you could see them as the teammates in a locker room, or you can walk onto a bus andhave all your shadow parts there sitting on the bus.
You find one that's really giving you problems right now.
Every time you try to make progress in some way in your life, this shadow part shows up.
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And you can name her something, or you can even give him a personality.
A whole visual, you could uh give them a name.
That's just exactly what they are.
I have one that I call controlling Kathy because when I stand up to control things, Ireally don't have control over.
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That's controlling Kathy taking over.
She thinks that she can literally make everything work the way it's supposed to.
She thinks that she can
bully everybody or get mad at everybody enough to where everybody will fall in line and dowhat she says.
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And I call it she and I have a personality and a visual of her because if I say it's me,there is a cloud of shame that wraps around the whole situation.
And then it's me that's doing all that.
When I think that the people who love me the most recognize that I'm not actually being myreal true authentic self when I get into those spaces, when I get into those places where
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I'm trying to control everything and everybody and I get really stressed out.
and angry and difficult for everybody else.
I think that the people who love me the most know that that's not really me.
And they're like, hey, they don't know about controlling Kathy, but they do know thatsomeone else is taking over.
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I can have a conversation with controlling Kathy and I can say, controlling Kathy, why areyou here?
What is going on?
Why do you feel the need to make everything work perfectly?
and everybody fall in line and everybody do what you tell them.
And controlling Kathy says, because I need some certainty.
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I'm afraid.
I'm afraid that if people don't do what I say, I can't keep everyone safe and I can't makethis day go the way I want it to go.
And we won't have good memories together because
everything will be too late and we won't get there in time and whatever it is.
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And then I realized, you know what?
You're just here to help me.
You're just trying to help me.
Now controlling Kathy was born out of trauma, out of an inner child that at some point inmy childhood, I made a decision because of events going on or whatever it was.
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And I've done a lot of work emotionally processing what it is with a facilitator thathelps me.
to figure this out.
But figuring out what is it that I need to know about what happened, how can I move all ofthe emotional energy out in shapes and colors to get to the heart of what it is I need?
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So my inner child is saying, I need to feel some certainty.
I need to feel like everything's gonna be okay and I can make sure it's okay.
And then controlling Cathy was born out of that.
She comes in when she feels like things are not gonna go well, things are not gonna go ourway if I don't come in and start controlling everything and control everybody and make
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sure everything happens the way it's supposed to happen.
And one thing that sped the process along for me in being able to move out of controllingCathy into a softer, more, you know what?
I can't control all this.
There is no certainty here.
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Only thing I can be certain of is that it's uncertain.
And maybe I need to let go of everything that doesn't matter quite so much.
And if the real, real goal here was to have good memories with my family, then mecontrolling my family this much is not making good memories.
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It's sabotaging what I actually want to.
which by the way, in almost every session that I do for all of time in the years I've beendoing this, what we ultimately discover through the process is that the way we get our
needs met is usually costing us the very thing we are trying to get.
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So if we don't change the way we get things, we will just end up losing the things wewant.
That's usually the epiphany that comes from all of this type of work.
So imagine what it feels like to be the adult who gets to go in and say, actually, we'regoing to get our needs met.
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We're just going to do it a different way now.
And it's going to be OK.
And I'm here.
And I've got you.
And we're going to be safe.
And I'm going to make sure it's OK for you.
And if it's not okay, we'll deal with that too.
Ultimately, it will work out.
So if that feels good to you to imagine what sort of work that would be like, I wouldhighly encourage you to look into ways that you can start to heal your inner child.
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And there are many, many ways to do this.
We just had, uh last night I was able to go to one of the women optimizing wellness eventswhere they did a sound bath.
um
And if you don't know what a sound bath is, sound surfing is another word for it thatCambria Davis uses.
She was the one who was doing our sound bath that night.
Um, it's not an actual bath.
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There's no water involved.
It's literally just meditation, laying on a comfortable surface, meditating while soundbowls and bells and gongs are, and tuning forks are used to create a bath of vibrations.
And when you
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do this, your body is rewriting itself.
There are cells in the body that when they vibrate at a certain frequency, they rewriteand reprogram themselves.
It's incredible.
And while there isn't any talking going on during it, it's interesting because people,when reflecting after a sound bath, they will say, I had my inner child show up.
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I had a conversation.
with my inner child and we were able to talk about what they need and I was able to letthem know that they're safe.
And it felt wonderful.
It felt so healing and so beautiful.
And just the sound bath created the environment in which that could happen, which isbeautiful and wonderful.
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But if you feel like you need more guidance, more facilitating,
someone to ask the right questions and to uh help guide you through the visualization ofthat.
That is the work that I do specifically with Healing Through Art.
The Healing Through Art Full Moon Course that I do or the standalone Healing Through Artsessions that I do for groups, that is exactly what we do.
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We start with a meditation where we bring forward one of your most needed inner childages.
And that is what I do with private sessions as well is we sit down together and what Iwill be doing with the the honey sessions is being able to bring forward.
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a past version of yourself.
And sometimes it's not a child.
Sometimes, and I have had sessions myself where it was my 26 year old self that showed up.
And it's interesting because I remember the day that that happened.
I was kind of waiting for it.
I just thought one day I will have to do this age.
And I remember the facilitator saying, your 26 year old self is coming forward.
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And I said, okay, here we go.
because that was the age when I was told by the doctor that I would probably not be ableto have children.
And it was incredibly, incredibly devastating to me.
Now it's not a developmental stage where my neuro pathways are being created at thatstage, but it's a really important stage that probably connects through energetic cords
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what age I was at some other earlier age, which is your body is going to fail you.
And I had sessions that
had that belief system way back in the womb.
This body is not perfect enough.
This body will fail you.
You will not be able to serve your purpose here on earth with this body because it's notperfect, because it needs to be more perfect.
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And because I have worked through those younger ages quite a lot, when my 26 year old selfcame forward, I was ready.
I was ready to help her deal with the
devastation of this body is broken, this body won't be able to do what purpose it wasmeant for, which I believed was being a mother.
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So I had to process the emotional, energetic feelings and belief systems at that age aswell.
But all of the work that I do is shadow work because we are dealing with inner child work.
They are coexistent.
They work together.
So as I said in the beginning, there are particular mystic healers like myself who aresaying, I'm a light worker.
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I want you to consider because some of them say I'm a light worker, but then they're like,but also yeah, there's shadow work involved.
There is always shadow work and inner child work involved in healing work.
And if you feel as if you are avoiding dealing with anything from your past, because it ispainful and it is hard to look at, I want you to remember the conversation we had in this
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episode where I invited you to talk to your six year old self and what that felt like.
because as hard as it may be to face certain things and to go through what that feelslike, it also feels like a complete rebirth in coming out of a session.
Like you had to die and come back.
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It's a cycle, it's a process, it's a healing cycle.
So there is a difficulty, there is probably emotional release.
For many people there's crying or laughing or
yawning or belching.
These are all energetic releases that I have seen and that people have experienced.
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So there is going to be the difficult part, but I have never had a session where a clientdid not come out of it and say, Oh, felt so good.
I needed that so much.
And everything that your child is bringing forward, not your child, but your child's self.
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you as a child, everything it's bringing forward, it's always what you need at presenttime.
It connects in some way to what you're going through or dealing with right now.
So if you're going through a divorce and that's really, really difficult and you're havinga lot of anxiety and a lot of stress and a lot of emotions dealing with your marriage
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ending,
For example, your child self that's gonna be brought up is going to be a past version ofyourself that dealt with something similar, that dealt with something that felt like that
loss and that separation and that abandonment and that betrayal and that whatever it isthat's coming up for you.
So it's really powerful to be able to deal with that from the source of where you decidedhow to handle that and how to see yourself through all that.
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And emotional processing,
whether it's partnered with catamine sessions or whether it's partnered with uh a soundbath or any other modality of healing work that we do in this holistic alternative healing
world.
I want you to remember that it's exactly what you need at the time that you need it.
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that it will bring forward only what you're ready for at that moment in time.
So there's no reason to be afraid of it.
There is no reason to hesitate.
Because if you're like, oh, there are some things from my past I'm just really not readyto look at, don't worry.
Your body will not bring forward anything that you are not ready to look at and that youare not ready to process.
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Eventually, you will be ready.
And eventually,
you'll move through it and you'll be able to move out shame and see yourself as you trulyare returning to self, not identifying with all of these fragmented ego parts that you
maybe go into when you're in your shadow parts, if that makes sense.
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Okay, I think I've generally covered what inner child work and shadow work really are andhopefully,
brought forward some things that make it clear for you.
If you have any questions or if you are particular have a question like about you that youwould like to ask, um I would love to answer listener questions.
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If you want to write in a question, you can do that on our new podcast website,Practically Dash Magic.
Don't forget, magic is spelled with a C-K, the old, old English magic.
which is actually phonetically correct, if I must say, as a teacher, I just have to saythat.
uh So practically-magic.com is where you can submit questions.
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We also have a donate button where you can buy me a coffee.
And I would absolutely appreciate that.
Just a little something to say thank you for providing content that maybe helped you or
that provided you some goodness in your life, some magic in your life.
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uh We do have in the store tab of that Practically Magic website, there is going to beclasses and courses available.
We're just sort of making things and putting them up.
So if there isn't anything up when you go, check again, because we have different classescoming up throughout.
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the throughout the year.
So I can't tell you what's coming up next because I don't know yet, but there is going tobe a rotation of spells and rituals classes, creating sacred spaces classes, things that
will help you create magic in your everyday life.
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So you can apply that to your own practices and whatever spiritual practice you happen toidentify with.
Yeah, lots of exciting things coming up for Practically Magic and announcements being madeas we close out season two.
We are wrapping it up within the next couple episodes and that'll be the end of season twoif you can believe it.
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We've actually done two whole seasons of Practically Magic already.
And if I'm saying this and you're thinking, what?
I didn't know there were that many episodes.
Well, there are, so please go check them out.
There are some old episodes, season one, which are incredible about making magic andhealing work and emotional intelligence and all kinds of things that we talk about in this
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witchcraft and healing type world.
A lot of things that have to do with ancestral healing and uh Celtic folklore and all ofthe things that I bring to the table when I do my healing work.
I would like to take this opportunity to thank...
Ride the Wave Media Network that I, this podcast is a part of.
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They do all the work behind the scenes of producing, editing, releasing, uh managing thewebsite, all of that awesome, awesome work that's done there.
Lindsay, Louie Mae, uh JustBlane, all the team that's working super hard to make sure thatthese episodes are coming out and available to you.
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I'm just so grateful for the hard work that they do.
Makes it so easy for a content creator like me to just be able to hit record and make apodcast.
And if you would like to become a sponsor of this podcast, whether it's a small sponsorwith just some promotions in the episodes, or if you would like to be able to sponsor an
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entire season of this podcast,
I would highly recommend you getting a hold of me and the team at Ride the Wave Media sothat we can make that happen for you because I would love, love to have a sponsor for this
wonderful podcast that we've been doing.
What else?
What else?
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Yeah, donate button, sponsor the podcast.
Would love to have you on.
Reach out to me if you'd like to be a guest.
Reach out to me if you'd like me to be your guest.
Reach out to me if you would like me to attend a speaking event where I can do Celticstorytelling or I can speak on any of the topics that you see here on the podcast at one
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of your events.
I'm available for
any of those kinds of uh interactions.
Would love to have the opportunity to go and spread this sort of magic to the world in anyway possible.
Stay tuned for my summer camps if you have kids locally in the uh South Jordan area, SouthJordan, Harriman, Riverton area of Utah.
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I have summer art camps coming up where I teach children how to
raise their emotional intelligence and build their self-confidence and understand theirbig feelings while making art and improving their art skill.
So if that sounds like something interesting to you, I have classes that go all the wayfrom age five all the way up to 18.
So please check that out on my website, prism-healing.com.
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That is my business website, Prism Healing.
Okay, I think that's about everything so we'll check you next time and go make magicwizards witches and wizards
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