#89: Why He Won’t Commit (And Why You’re Still Waiting)

When a man keeps you half chosen and half confused, the real problem isn’t his hesitation but the part of you willing to wait for it! Ever been strung along by a man who gives just enough to keep you hopeful but never enough to give you certainty? One day he’s all charm and chemistry, the next he’s conveniently unavailable? You start analyzing his behavior like a crime scene. Does he have trauma? Is it timing? Is it me? Hilary calls BS! In this episode, Hilary dismantles the obsession with figuring him out and asks a better question: Why are you waiting for someone who won’t choose you fully? Mixed signals are signals. If it only feels good when he’s present but wrecks your peace when he’s gone, that’s not romance — that’s chaos dressed as potential. And if you’re tolerating crumbs, playing it cool, or bending your boundaries just to keep him around, you’re accidentally auditioning for the role of “almost enough.” Hilary’s message is blunt but liberating: stop chasing clarity from him and start demanding consistency for yourself. You don’t need closure, you need standards. So ask yourself, are you in a relationship or just holding space for someone who hasn’t decided? And if you stopped waiting on his decision, what would yours be? Episode Highlights: Why “understanding him” is just a distraction from reclaiming your own power What mixed signals in dating are actually telling you How pick-me energy sabotages real commitment Signs you’re emotionally unavailable too The mindset shift that ends situationships for good Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why Women Stay Stuck in Non-Committal Relationships 01:34 The Trap of Overanalyzing His Mixed Signals 03:18 Emotional Burnout from Chasing Clarity 04:21 How to Evaluate a Relationship Beyond Chemistry 05:24 The Hidden Cost of Self-Betrayal and Pick-Me Energy 07:31 When You’re the One Afraid of Commitment 09:17 Shifting from Waiting to Self-Ownership 10:00 Final Call to Stop Settling ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else. ✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve?  🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass 💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply