March 13, 2024 • 13 mins
Today, we delve into the thrilling or terrifying moment of acknowledging that you’re about to welcome a new life into this world. Are you ready to experience the dramatic changes everyone says you will experience? Join us as we share our no regrets 'Baby Bucket List' — a compilation of activities and experiences that everyone should do before you become parents. Don’t forget to engage with us! Subscribe, click the bell, or leave a comment. We love to hear from listeners on how we can improve and offer more valuable content for all expecting parents out there.
#NoRegretsParenting #ExpectingParents #ParentingJourney #ParenthoodPrep, #BabyPreparation #NewParents #ParenthoodAdventures #ParentingGoals, #BabyOnTheWay #ParentingTips #FamilyAdventures #PregnancyJourney #RelationshipPodcast
Mark as Played
Transcript
Episode Transcript
Available transcripts are automatically generated. Complete accuracy is not guaranteed.
(00:00):
The moment just happened. The moment you say, I'm pregnant. And you say, oh.
That's not what you said. Well, no matter what you say, what do you do next?
Whatever you do, make sure you have no regrets.
This is our no regrets, here comes the baby bucket list. Here comes the baby.
(00:20):
I don't know, it's just funny the way you said it. I mean, the fact of the matter
is that when the baby's on its way, his way, her way, your life's going to completely
change. Not everyone tells you that.
I know we've been saying that. All your friends are telling you that.
And you're probably like, okay, okay.
Trust me, it's going to change. It's going to be dramatic.
It's going to turn your world upside down in a positive way.
(00:43):
So we compiled a few of the things upon reflection that we wish we did more of.
Some of the things we are so happy we did.
Like cross country moves. Nope, not those. That was a lot of fun in the middle
of having a child. Nope, nope, nope.
We got pregnant pretty quickly. we had some friends who were struggling to get
pregnant and having to go through different avenues to make that happen.
(01:04):
And so we kind of had a conversation and just discussed like,
hey, we're married, we're 30.
Let's just see what happens. Let's see what God has for us.
Boom. We got pregnant. And it was a huge blessing, but also a shock.
And we were newlyweds. So we wanted to make sure we capitalized on that nine
(01:24):
months before baby came of just things we wanted She literally came like a week
after our one-year anniversary. Yeah, it was pretty wild.
And let me just say, if you're out there struggling to conceive,
like we had so many friends who were struggling, and that's why we decided to
stop preventing. And you're not alone.
We are definitely more the exception than the rule out of our friend group.
(01:48):
Yeah, out of our friend group.
So yeah, we definitely weren't expecting it.
But when it does, and have faith that it does, you need to do these things.
Okay, number one, be the chile bonita. What do you mean?
I like my little accent on that. So one time I have like a little bit of a- Flare. A little flair.
I have no idea what this means. I could be saying a curse word for all I know.
(02:10):
My grandma used to say this all the time, but my cousin, because she was like
a little, she said she was very social. She was like a little- Social butterfly.
Oh, that's cute. She called it a little pepper that just kept rolling. That's really funny.
Chile bonita. So anyway, so be the chile bonita. And what I mean by this is like, see your friends.
And this seems super, super, super obvious, but do it and do it a lot and do
it well, especially those guy nights, those girl nights.
(02:32):
That's super important. You know, it's kind of like having a kid.
It's like when your boy gets a girlfriend or it's like when,
you know, it's a, it's a Thanos snap and you've probably experienced this when
your, your friends have had kids like, boom, they're gone overnight and you don't see them.
So see your friends, have those guy nights, have those girl nights,
do something fun with them. I mean, one of the things that we did is that we
(02:53):
were very, very lucky. We just moved to Florida.
And you were very, very lucky. I'm a huge Tom Brady fan.
And so we are living within the
vicinity of Tampa. And so I called my boy Tommy. I was like, hey, Tommy.
I think it's time for you to un-retire. I think it's time for you to un-retire
for a year because he had just retired. And he said, you know what?
I'll do it for you because your wife's pregnant.
And so very grateful for Tommy to give us this gift.
(03:15):
But we went to a lot of football games. And friends used to visit us from California
and we took them to games.
It was a good time it was a great way to get friends to come and visit us
because it was like hey we got tickets wanna come
and they were like pay your way and come see Tom Brady yeah so we're
really glad we did that but fine like everyone has something like that that
maybe you haven't done like if you haven't done something you've been wanting
(03:36):
to do like you should go do that thing as a couple and also with your friends
now's the time because you're not gonna do it again seize the day it's gonna
be it's gonna be goodbye after that so,
see your friends see your friends be the chili panita.
Enjoy the adult mommy and daddy moments
before they're gone the intimate
(03:56):
like well not before they're gone before they
become much more difficult and there's a monitor placed and
like you know it's it's a whole process like you
know there's there's now a sheet that has to be laid over the
bed that's like because you don't have time to wash the
sheet so there's like the mommy daddy sheet and then you have to have a little
(04:17):
monitor there and then it could be like the other other night we're like you
know our daughter went to bed early i was like maybe mommy and daddy time is
gonna happen and i like had to go use the restroom real quick and i come out
and like caitlin's like doing laundry and like her mommy outfit i'm like oh that's which like,
stain remover now like yeah let's let's go let's go get this going is that too much.
(04:41):
I mean like it's gonna here's it's all of that changes so much when you have
a kids and like Like this is something you don't talk about enough.
Okay, but before that. That's what I'm saying. Okay, no, before the baby is
even here. Okay, but before the baby is even here.
I'm so passionate about this subject. Let me tell you, as the bump gets bigger,
things get tricky. Yes, when you're pregnant, things get weird.
(05:03):
In the beginning, the first trimester, you're like not feeling good.
Nothing sounds good to eat.
A lot of people are nauseous. So like a sexy time does not sound fun.
And then your second trimester, you're feeling good. you
got your energy back you got the pregnancy glow
your bump is not that big and so
(05:23):
your husband's not concerned he's either squishing
your baby or poking your baby this was
a legitimate thing for him guys so guys out there understand me maybe they do
well it's like if it's a boy then it's no don't because then you're like i don't
know you feel like you're you're like bouncing or something like you're you're
(05:45):
it's like it's like that the painting of the the two fingers.
Fingers coming together if it's a
girl it's even more awkward and then by the third trimester the whole thing's
just weird i think it's like a mental thing for him he had like a mental thing
so and we were newlyweds so this is like something we wanted to do but like
(06:06):
it got trickier and then And as you get bigger... It feels like Twister after a while.
Yeah, it's like... Well, if you position that... Red, red, circle there, blue, circle there.
Yeah, no, it got weird. And then your bump gets big. And then it's just like a chore.
It's like a duty that needs to get done because in order to make the baby come
(06:28):
out, you kind of have to do it.
And it's totally okay at that point just to know that the conversation is going
to be something like this.
Like, hey, you need to stick it. it's not gonna be it's this is not for me this
is not even i don't even for you but like winning nobody's winning but i need
you to get in there and get the job done.
(06:48):
So the romance talks about this the romance goes away
this is probably this should probably actually never one of those this is probably
the most important thing because you know while you can you should take
advantage of it but then you also need prepared mentally for
what's going to happen in those
last couple months yeah it's just it's just weird the
romance is gone it's a tactical it's like a medical
(07:10):
procedure it's a tactical approach yes point
is point point is get get
it in while you can okay do
the activities you enjoy a lot no
matter what it is like go out there and just become a.
Just an expert of whatever it
(07:33):
is you love to do you know for us we were a a covid relationship
so we love board games we love board
game well you love board games i tolerate sight
if you never played sight let me tell you it
is a it's a great game it brings couples together it
almost broke us up many times but you
know so for us we but he loves it so like you
(07:55):
know my birthday we do it on my birthday
every year on your birthday birthday gift i
get to play i cite we love we love to go to the movies go
in the movies board games drinks out i mean
but mocktails just yeah mocktails mocktail game
was strong mocktail game was strong or you would
estimate it you would get your cocktail and i would get like an extra appetizer
(08:17):
because caitlin eating for two drink we were one of our favorite places was
this little barbecue place in orlando and i go down there i get two drinks and
i would get a giant pretzel because he.
Well, he's gluten intolerant.
So just be me and the baby and the pretzel.
I think whatever it is, just don't sleep on doing things that you love and you enjoy as a couple.
(08:41):
I think that's kind of like, so the first one is be really social with your
friends and do something with your friends. The other thing I would say is find
those things you want to do as a couple and do them together.
And if it's spend some money doing it, it's worth it. Yeah.
We also did a lot of activities because we moved to a new place. So we went kayaking.
And paddle boarding and like, just like saw Florida.
(09:04):
I think we're really happy we capitalized on those moments. It's kind of like
dating again. Like it really was. It's kind of like.
Yeah. Make sure you date your spouse before your baby gets here because. It's really important.
You know, it becomes all about like your family unit and it's harder to,
to date one another once your baby gets here.
I mean, you can find those moments, but those like outings really change.
(09:26):
Don't put it on the back burner. yeah whatever you do don't sleep on the baby
moon do the baby moon find a way we.
Could not afford it we do not take
financial advice from us don't take financial advice from us but
but but honestly kaylin has
a like find a way like for us i was very hesitant about this justin proposed
(09:49):
we took out like a year zero percent finance credit card and we put the trip
on a card somewhere dave dave rams is just rolling in his yeah don't take advice
from us i was very hesitant about this.
We had savings that we didn't want to dip into, but it was like,
okay, we could pay it off if we had to. But we were able to pay it off.
(10:10):
We love to travel. It's something that I think we connect while we're on trips with.
We get really good quality time. That's my love language. I love to eat.
So I love going to new places.
You love to see castles and things and an adventure.
So we had the best time. And I think we're really glad we did it.
(10:33):
It gives you that chance to really date your spouse again. And if you're married
and you remember back to your honeymoon, you get just so much quality time experiencing
something new together,
which just kind of sends everything up firing up there in your brain and just
makes you fall in love even more.
I mean, you do get that all over again. And you'll never be able to travel the
same way, like this way again, until you're probably, until you're empty nesters.
(10:56):
I mean, this this is literally it and so yeah like while it might
not sound it sounds scary and
it's not good financial advice i'll totally admit it to go out there
get a you know credit card or something that you can pay off in time and don't
do it unless you know you can pay it off yeah i mean be smart about it i mean
but even if you can't afford like some extravagant trip do like a weekend trip
go somewhere explore a new city what you can afford to do yeah i mean i just
(11:20):
i think we We are so grateful.
And I know, like Kaylin mentioned, she was very, very against it at first.
I was like, we don't go into debt.
She was not about it. That's not a thing. But I think coming out of it,
we're... I think it was such an investment in our relationship.
I mean, yeah, we just had the best time. And we got married right around COVID era.
(11:46):
So like the place we wanted to go for
our honeymoon wasn't available to us until our baby moon
so it was really a chance to like go see the world together and we didn't get
to travel together a lot before we like any other time because you know we didn't
meet until later in life yeah so just go out there and take advantage of it
(12:08):
and find a way to make it happen.
Well, I mean, those are just a few things that we would say to do.
And I know it's not a very in-depth list, but the most important thing is just
to be there with your partner and to date your partner as much as possible,
making sure you have such a firm foundation together and making sure that love
is strong and that the partner feels loved and that you're getting what you
(12:29):
need out of the relationship.
It's just, it's a really good time to do some of that growth and exploration
as a couple because your life is just gonna be turned upside down.
In the best way. way in the best way possible got
anything else no i i love this well if
you like the show if you love this show subscribe click the bell all that good
(12:50):
stuff leave us a comment wherever you listen on podcasts if you hate the show
subscribe click the bell leave a comment we're listening to your podcast let
us know let us know how we can improve let us know yeah we'll see how we can
do better you can leave a review you can follow us on the ig and the tiktok
outside of that i am justin Kaylin,
enjoy your kids enjoy the time before you have your kids and we'll see you real soon.
The moment just happened. The moment you say, I'm pregnant. And you say, oh.
That's not what you said. Well, no matter what you say, what do you do next?
Whatever you do, make sure you have no regrets.
This is our no regrets, here comes the baby bucket list. Here comes the baby.
(00:20):
I don't know, it's just funny the way you said it. I mean, the fact of the matter
is that when the baby's on its way, his way, her way, your life's going to completely
change. Not everyone tells you that.
I know we've been saying that. All your friends are telling you that.
And you're probably like, okay, okay.
Trust me, it's going to change. It's going to be dramatic.
It's going to turn your world upside down in a positive way.
(00:43):
So we compiled a few of the things upon reflection that we wish we did more of.
Some of the things we are so happy we did.
Like cross country moves. Nope, not those. That was a lot of fun in the middle
of having a child. Nope, nope, nope.
We got pregnant pretty quickly. we had some friends who were struggling to get
pregnant and having to go through different avenues to make that happen.
(01:04):
And so we kind of had a conversation and just discussed like,
hey, we're married, we're 30.
Let's just see what happens. Let's see what God has for us.
Boom. We got pregnant. And it was a huge blessing, but also a shock.
And we were newlyweds. So we wanted to make sure we capitalized on that nine
(01:24):
months before baby came of just things we wanted She literally came like a week
after our one-year anniversary. Yeah, it was pretty wild.
And let me just say, if you're out there struggling to conceive,
like we had so many friends who were struggling, and that's why we decided to
stop preventing. And you're not alone.
We are definitely more the exception than the rule out of our friend group.
(01:48):
Yeah, out of our friend group.
So yeah, we definitely weren't expecting it.
But when it does, and have faith that it does, you need to do these things.
Okay, number one, be the chile bonita. What do you mean?
I like my little accent on that. So one time I have like a little bit of a- Flare. A little flair.
I have no idea what this means. I could be saying a curse word for all I know.
(02:10):
My grandma used to say this all the time, but my cousin, because she was like
a little, she said she was very social. She was like a little- Social butterfly.
Oh, that's cute. She called it a little pepper that just kept rolling. That's really funny.
Chile bonita. So anyway, so be the chile bonita. And what I mean by this is like, see your friends.
And this seems super, super, super obvious, but do it and do it a lot and do
it well, especially those guy nights, those girl nights.
(02:32):
That's super important. You know, it's kind of like having a kid.
It's like when your boy gets a girlfriend or it's like when,
you know, it's a, it's a Thanos snap and you've probably experienced this when
your, your friends have had kids like, boom, they're gone overnight and you don't see them.
So see your friends, have those guy nights, have those girl nights,
do something fun with them. I mean, one of the things that we did is that we
(02:53):
were very, very lucky. We just moved to Florida.
And you were very, very lucky. I'm a huge Tom Brady fan.
And so we are living within the
vicinity of Tampa. And so I called my boy Tommy. I was like, hey, Tommy.
I think it's time for you to un-retire. I think it's time for you to un-retire
for a year because he had just retired. And he said, you know what?
I'll do it for you because your wife's pregnant.
And so very grateful for Tommy to give us this gift.
(03:15):
But we went to a lot of football games. And friends used to visit us from California
and we took them to games.
It was a good time it was a great way to get friends to come and visit us
because it was like hey we got tickets wanna come
and they were like pay your way and come see Tom Brady yeah so we're
really glad we did that but fine like everyone has something like that that
maybe you haven't done like if you haven't done something you've been wanting
(03:36):
to do like you should go do that thing as a couple and also with your friends
now's the time because you're not gonna do it again seize the day it's gonna
be it's gonna be goodbye after that so,
see your friends see your friends be the chili panita.
Enjoy the adult mommy and daddy moments
before they're gone the intimate
(03:56):
like well not before they're gone before they
become much more difficult and there's a monitor placed and
like you know it's it's a whole process like you
know there's there's now a sheet that has to be laid over the
bed that's like because you don't have time to wash the
sheet so there's like the mommy daddy sheet and then you have to have a little
(04:17):
monitor there and then it could be like the other other night we're like you
know our daughter went to bed early i was like maybe mommy and daddy time is
gonna happen and i like had to go use the restroom real quick and i come out
and like caitlin's like doing laundry and like her mommy outfit i'm like oh that's which like,
stain remover now like yeah let's let's go let's go get this going is that too much.
(04:41):
I mean like it's gonna here's it's all of that changes so much when you have
a kids and like Like this is something you don't talk about enough.
Okay, but before that. That's what I'm saying. Okay, no, before the baby is
even here. Okay, but before the baby is even here.
I'm so passionate about this subject. Let me tell you, as the bump gets bigger,
things get tricky. Yes, when you're pregnant, things get weird.
(05:03):
In the beginning, the first trimester, you're like not feeling good.
Nothing sounds good to eat.
A lot of people are nauseous. So like a sexy time does not sound fun.
And then your second trimester, you're feeling good. you
got your energy back you got the pregnancy glow
your bump is not that big and so
(05:23):
your husband's not concerned he's either squishing
your baby or poking your baby this was
a legitimate thing for him guys so guys out there understand me maybe they do
well it's like if it's a boy then it's no don't because then you're like i don't
know you feel like you're you're like bouncing or something like you're you're
(05:45):
it's like it's like that the painting of the the two fingers.
Fingers coming together if it's a
girl it's even more awkward and then by the third trimester the whole thing's
just weird i think it's like a mental thing for him he had like a mental thing
so and we were newlyweds so this is like something we wanted to do but like
(06:06):
it got trickier and then And as you get bigger... It feels like Twister after a while.
Yeah, it's like... Well, if you position that... Red, red, circle there, blue, circle there.
Yeah, no, it got weird. And then your bump gets big. And then it's just like a chore.
It's like a duty that needs to get done because in order to make the baby come
(06:28):
out, you kind of have to do it.
And it's totally okay at that point just to know that the conversation is going
to be something like this.
Like, hey, you need to stick it. it's not gonna be it's this is not for me this
is not even i don't even for you but like winning nobody's winning but i need
you to get in there and get the job done.
(06:48):
So the romance talks about this the romance goes away
this is probably this should probably actually never one of those this is probably
the most important thing because you know while you can you should take
advantage of it but then you also need prepared mentally for
what's going to happen in those
last couple months yeah it's just it's just weird the
romance is gone it's a tactical it's like a medical
(07:10):
procedure it's a tactical approach yes point
is point point is get get
it in while you can okay do
the activities you enjoy a lot no
matter what it is like go out there and just become a.
Just an expert of whatever it
(07:33):
is you love to do you know for us we were a a covid relationship
so we love board games we love board
game well you love board games i tolerate sight
if you never played sight let me tell you it
is a it's a great game it brings couples together it
almost broke us up many times but you
know so for us we but he loves it so like you
(07:55):
know my birthday we do it on my birthday
every year on your birthday birthday gift i
get to play i cite we love we love to go to the movies go
in the movies board games drinks out i mean
but mocktails just yeah mocktails mocktail game
was strong mocktail game was strong or you would
estimate it you would get your cocktail and i would get like an extra appetizer
(08:17):
because caitlin eating for two drink we were one of our favorite places was
this little barbecue place in orlando and i go down there i get two drinks and
i would get a giant pretzel because he.
Well, he's gluten intolerant.
So just be me and the baby and the pretzel.
I think whatever it is, just don't sleep on doing things that you love and you enjoy as a couple.
(08:41):
I think that's kind of like, so the first one is be really social with your
friends and do something with your friends. The other thing I would say is find
those things you want to do as a couple and do them together.
And if it's spend some money doing it, it's worth it. Yeah.
We also did a lot of activities because we moved to a new place. So we went kayaking.
And paddle boarding and like, just like saw Florida.
(09:04):
I think we're really happy we capitalized on those moments. It's kind of like
dating again. Like it really was. It's kind of like.
Yeah. Make sure you date your spouse before your baby gets here because. It's really important.
You know, it becomes all about like your family unit and it's harder to,
to date one another once your baby gets here.
I mean, you can find those moments, but those like outings really change.
(09:26):
Don't put it on the back burner. yeah whatever you do don't sleep on the baby
moon do the baby moon find a way we.
Could not afford it we do not take
financial advice from us don't take financial advice from us but
but but honestly kaylin has
a like find a way like for us i was very hesitant about this justin proposed
(09:49):
we took out like a year zero percent finance credit card and we put the trip
on a card somewhere dave dave rams is just rolling in his yeah don't take advice
from us i was very hesitant about this.
We had savings that we didn't want to dip into, but it was like,
okay, we could pay it off if we had to. But we were able to pay it off.
(10:10):
We love to travel. It's something that I think we connect while we're on trips with.
We get really good quality time. That's my love language. I love to eat.
So I love going to new places.
You love to see castles and things and an adventure.
So we had the best time. And I think we're really glad we did it.
(10:33):
It gives you that chance to really date your spouse again. And if you're married
and you remember back to your honeymoon, you get just so much quality time experiencing
something new together,
which just kind of sends everything up firing up there in your brain and just
makes you fall in love even more.
I mean, you do get that all over again. And you'll never be able to travel the
same way, like this way again, until you're probably, until you're empty nesters.
(10:56):
I mean, this this is literally it and so yeah like while it might
not sound it sounds scary and
it's not good financial advice i'll totally admit it to go out there
get a you know credit card or something that you can pay off in time and don't
do it unless you know you can pay it off yeah i mean be smart about it i mean
but even if you can't afford like some extravagant trip do like a weekend trip
go somewhere explore a new city what you can afford to do yeah i mean i just
(11:20):
i think we We are so grateful.
And I know, like Kaylin mentioned, she was very, very against it at first.
I was like, we don't go into debt.
She was not about it. That's not a thing. But I think coming out of it,
we're... I think it was such an investment in our relationship.
I mean, yeah, we just had the best time. And we got married right around COVID era.
(11:46):
So like the place we wanted to go for
our honeymoon wasn't available to us until our baby moon
so it was really a chance to like go see the world together and we didn't get
to travel together a lot before we like any other time because you know we didn't
meet until later in life yeah so just go out there and take advantage of it
(12:08):
and find a way to make it happen.
Well, I mean, those are just a few things that we would say to do.
And I know it's not a very in-depth list, but the most important thing is just
to be there with your partner and to date your partner as much as possible,
making sure you have such a firm foundation together and making sure that love
is strong and that the partner feels loved and that you're getting what you
(12:29):
need out of the relationship.
It's just, it's a really good time to do some of that growth and exploration
as a couple because your life is just gonna be turned upside down.
In the best way. way in the best way possible got
anything else no i i love this well if
you like the show if you love this show subscribe click the bell all that good
(12:50):
stuff leave us a comment wherever you listen on podcasts if you hate the show
subscribe click the bell leave a comment we're listening to your podcast let
us know let us know how we can improve let us know yeah we'll see how we can
do better you can leave a review you can follow us on the ig and the tiktok
outside of that i am justin Kaylin,
enjoy your kids enjoy the time before you have your kids and we'll see you real soon.
Popular Podcasts
Crime Junkie
Does hearing about a true crime case always leave you scouring the internet for the truth behind the story? Dive into your next mystery with Crime Junkie. Every Monday, join your host Ashley Flowers as she unravels all the details of infamous and underreported true crime cases with her best friend Brit Prawat. From cold cases to missing persons and heroes in our community who seek justice, Crime Junkie is your destination for theories and stories you won’t hear anywhere else. Whether you're a seasoned true crime enthusiast or new to the genre, you'll find yourself on the edge of your seat awaiting a new episode every Monday. If you can never get enough true crime... Congratulations, you’ve found your people. Follow to join a community of Crime Junkies! Crime Junkie is presented by audiochuck Media Company.
24/7 News: The Latest
The latest news in 4 minutes updated every hour, every day.
Stuff You Should Know
If you've ever wanted to know about champagne, satanism, the Stonewall Uprising, chaos theory, LSD, El Nino, true crime and Rosa Parks, then look no further. Josh and Chuck have you covered.