"This Old Thing!” How to Stop Deflecting compliments, Shine with Graceful Confidence

Have you ever felt that tension between craving recognition and shrinking back when it comes? You want to say “thank you,” but then guilt whispers, “Don’t seem proud.”

In this honest, faith-filled episode, we unpack why deflecting compliments doesn’t make you humble — and how receiving appreciation can actually glorify God. You’ll learn how to respond gracefully, reflect His glory through your good works, and silence false humility with truth.

Here’s the reframe: when your light shines and others notice, that’s not pride — it’s God being glorified through your good works.

What if receiving a compliment could actually be an act of worship?

🎧 What You’ll Hear

• The honest tension between craving appreciation and fearing pride

• Why receiving gratitude isn’t prideful — it’s gratitude in action

• Gentle, graceful ways to say “thank you” without deflecting or downplaying

• How upbringing, perfectionism, or false humility shape our discomfort

• How to see compliments as opportunities to glorify God, not self

💬 Key Takeaway

When people recognise your good works, they’re not glorifying you — they’re glorifying God through you.

Receiving compliments with humility isn’t taking His glory; it’s reflecting it.

✨ Scripture Snapshot

Matthew 5:16 — “Let your light so shine before men that they may see your good works and glorify your Father which is in heaven.” Romans 12:3 — “Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment.” Proverbs 29:5 — “Whoever flatters his neighbour is spreading a net for his feet.”

📝 Reflection Questions 

1. How do I usually respond when someone appreciates me?

2. Do I crave recognition — or deflect it out of fear or false humility?

3. How can I begin to receive appreciation as an act of worship, not pride — recognizing that it’s God’s light shining through me?

👉 Your Turn This week, when someone says “Well done,” pause before you deflect. Breathe. Smile. Say “Thank you.” And in your heart, whisper — “To God be the glory.”

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