July 21, 2024 • 33 mins
Join us on an impromptu car ride as I navigate through the day, delivering Carlos's work shoes after a mix-up involving my wallet. Amidst the hustle, I share our recent beach outing to Fort DeSoto and the joys of warm water, even if I'm not a fan of sand and swimming.
We also dive into our special 10-year anniversary photoshoot experience with Rebecca Rose Fine Portraits, discussing the highs and lows of capturing those precious moments. If you’re curious about the photos, you can find them on our social media pages.
On a more serious note, I explore the concept of parasocial relationships and the impact of social media influencers on their audiences. Reflecting on recent online controversies, we discuss the responsibilities and challenges faced by content creators and the importance of critical thinking in the digital age.
Finally, I touch on the importance of supporting human rights, particularly in the context of the ongoing conflict in Palestine. Tune in for a mix of personal anecdotes, thoughtful reflections, and a call for empathy and understanding in our interconnected world.
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Music.
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Up y'all i'm gonna go ahead and apologize now because
the audio may sound horrible and for
that i apologize um i am
doing a podcast on location well not really but i'm driving today carlos left
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his bag that typically well he left his bag that has his shoes for work there
and i have to go don't take it to him.
He's already late because I left my wallet in his car.
I left it in his car yesterday just because I didn't carry it with me because
we went to the beach, which I'm going to talk about here in a moment.
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And he had to bring it back. I was still in bed. So yeah.
So I was appreciative that he brought it back. And then he put him late and
then he get all the way there.
And didn't have it used. It happens to the best of us.
You know, me, I work from home. So I, which this week, I actually have to go
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to the office on Wednesday.
I work from home. So I use the, I don't really have that issue.
I don't really have a start time either. I can go in at, the latest I can go
in though is nine o'clock. The earliest I can go in is seven.
So as long as I do eight hours, all that matters. But anyway,
enough about that. How you guys doing?
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I appreciate everybody that downloaded the episode and listened.
I hope you enjoyed it. It was a fun episode for me.
And yeah, you know, we got an opportunity to celebrate, still celebrating the 10 year anniversary.
I wish you guys were able to see visually what's going on.
I don't have the pictures, but we did actually get pictures.
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We took some pictures at the beginning of July, the first weekend in July,
we took pictures and it was a really good photo shoot.
This is not a paid endorsement at all. It's Rebecca Rose Fine Portraits here
in the central Florida area in Maitland.
She was doing this contest. She was looking for couples or family members,
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which I think is something that she does as a promotion.
And, you know, I entered myself in Carlos and they called me back and said that
I was selected, so I was very excited about that.
I had a $250 sitting fee that I had to pay that was supposed to be refundable
as long as I didn't cancel my original appointment.
We couldn't make it because it was on a Friday. Carlos was getting off work.
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I scheduled it for 630.
His schedule changed. It was a lot going on that week that we couldn't do it.
So I end up losing the 250, which is incensing. But the $250,000 that was paid
for as the sitting fee, that actually went towards some of the purchase.
Because these are fine photos. These are like top dollar, top quality photos.
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So they're not the run-of-the-mill digital ones over at Walgreens or CVS.
These are actual photos.
My recommendation, go look her up if you so choose, and you will see her work.
She has over 360-something or 355, I don't know, five-star, like 355,
355 five-star reviews on her Google page.
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So she's, she, they know what they're doing. So it was a very good experience.
You know, they, they gave us some sparkling grape juice and basically just talked
to us and, you know, got to know us a little bit.
Their thing is to, you know, like the prior call before the session,
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we, you know, sat down, told them what our color schemes are in the rooms that
we were going to put them in.
And, you know, they, they wanted to know where we were going to put it and,
you know, what kind of couple we were, what kind of photos we wanted to take.
And then after that, they kind of did the same thing at the actual session.
Once the session was done, they.
You know, they scheduled an appointment for us to be able to sit down and choose photos.
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So we ended up getting three portraits, two that work digitally. They're on my Facebook.
So if you want to go look at the pictures, go to Facebook. I'll give you all
the social media stuff later.
It's also on TikTok as well. So I'll give you all the social media stuff later.
So you guys can go look it up for context and, you know, tell me what you think.
But we, you know, it was three photos. those
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one free gift because they did give
us a free gift for taking the pictures and also in
exchange for us being able to well the social
media part i don't think was anything to do with it but i think that they took
that as an opportunity they asked us if we were okay with them being on social
media and we're okay anytime carlos and i can get the opportunity to display
our love you know publicly is something that we enjoy doing so you know we we
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uh we did say yes so So, but yeah,
the $250 that we paid for the sitting fee.
So I guess you can say it wasn't like really like super free.
Well, not super free. It wasn't like drawing, but you know, I mean,
I knew that going in. I was disappointed because I wanted the $250 back.
But, you know, I don't spend money that I don't intend to use.
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You know what I'm saying? Does that make sense?
I wouldn't have spent the $250 if I didn't have it. That's the best way to say
it. But I would have had to have been like, no, no, but, you know, it's fine.
But two of the photos, it was two of us, well, us individually sitting in chairs.
And then the one of us, you guys will get a chance to see that.
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I'll have to reveal it at some point once we do get it in.
But we had to pay for the shipping, which the shipping was like,
I think it was like 50 bucks for the shipping, for them to ship the picture.
Picture and the taxes from, uh, cause the, the two 50 that they had was just
two 50. It didn't include the taxes that they charged.
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So that, so yeah, that was, uh, that was fun. It was a good,
uh, good, good experience.
The shots are great. They look great.
And people on social media have been raving about it. We posted it on Instagram,
Facebook, and Tik TOK. So, you know.
Yeah, a lot of people are loving it. And, you know, we're grateful.
You know, Carlos and I are very connected in a lot of ways when it comes to our relationship.
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And I'm extremely grateful for the opportunity to, you know,
I don't know, to love a man like him.
I'm going to pause for just one second. All right, I'm back.
So, but yeah, it was it was great. It was a great, great experience.
And so that was like a commemoration of our 10 year anniversary.
I know a lot of people have issues Maybe they don't have issues But they talk about us,
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And the fact that we have so many different anniversaries I'm not going to go
over the process of explaining If you want to know Look at the previous Or listen
to the previous episode But, you know, it's a monument to us You know what I'm saying?
To have had This is the longest relationship that both of us have had So, that,
Yesterday, we went to the beach Fort DeSoto is an amazing It's a beach that's
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in the Gulf, the Gulf of Mexico over in the Tampa side of things.
It's about two hours away from Orlando.
And the very first time that we went, it was nice.
I love the temperature of the water. I do not. I'm not a cold person when it comes to water.
I like it cold, but I don't like it cold. I don't like my water.
Like, I love it cold to drink, but I don't like dipping my body in coldness.
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You know what I'm saying? It's not a fun thing for me.
So when I went there and I realized how warm that water was,
I was just like, oh my God, I can go to this beach every weekend if that's the case.
I'm going to be honest. I'm not a beach person. Firstly, I hate sand.
Secondly, I don't know how to swim. So I'm very uncomfortable with,
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you know, getting pretty far out there that the water area or the beach area, it seems pretty even.
Even they just, you know, the floor, you know, it doesn't like drop out,
which I'm a, that's what I'm afraid of, you know, and I know I'll panic if that,
if I were to go out deeper into the, the abyss, if you will.
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But so we, you know, we stay kind of close enough, you know,
I just don't want a situation where I end up slipping. But anyway,
the water was super warm.
It was probably Probably about a good 70 degrees, which is warm, very warm.
I mean, typically, you know, beach waters are about, you know,
55, 60 degrees and that's cold.
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So, you know, to, to have, it felt like a, not quite like a sauna,
but it was, it was just as somebody, you know, like as warm as water could possibly
be, you know, lukewarm maybe. be.
And, you know, we did a couple hours a couple weeks ago. I think that was the same.
No, it was the eighth that we went.
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And Carlos and I made a decision that, you know, since he's off on weekends now,
he's off on, you know, Saturdays, that we will go, you know,
to some of the local spots in the area, like local beaches and springs.
We were supposed to go to Jenny Springs.
We didn't go to Jenny Springs because it's a cold water spring and that might've
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impeded on our overall experience.
I think it's only, it's two hours away as well.
So, you know, we didn't end up going to Jenny Springs. We were also going to
go to Devil's Den, but Devil's Den, you have to have.
Devils Den, you have to have snorkeling gear. I can't swim, so that's not an option.
You can't just go down there and just dip your feet in it. No,
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you have to have your snorkels. You have to rent it.
You do have to have your fins and your snorkel gear.
So with the goggles, I mean, and, you know, they provide the rest.
And it's just like, that's not an experience that I'm willing to do.
I don't know how to breathe with those things. So we didn't do it.
You know, that was fun. It was, you know, enjoyable. And then we took our niece.
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She goes back to work full-time next Saturday. So, yeah, she's up.
It was her last hurrah. She got her little bathing suit. You know,
she was very, very shy, which was surprising to me. She was very shy.
You know, the reason why it's surprising is because her personality,
she's not really a shy person.
You know, she's slow to come around to you if she doesn't know you,
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and that's normal, I think.
But she, yeah, she was very shy. I was like, all right, girl, but very modest person.
She's not like for the attention or anything.
So, but, uh, yeah, she had fun.
Carlos had fun. We got back here probably close to about seven o'clock,
you know, laid it on down.
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I'm going to be honest. Cause I, I didn't get a chance to take a nap.
Carlos wanted to take a, you know, 25 minute nap. I was like,
I'm, I can't, my body was up.
So I ended up, you know, shopping for groceries on, um, you know,
walmart.com. And then we ended up, you know, getting, being on the couch.
We were watching something.
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I don't remember. I was asleep half of the time.
Oh, I left Carlos to sleep a little bit longer. He woke up at about nine.
And when he came downstairs, I fell asleep. So that's pretty much how that went.
But yeah, we, it was good. It was a good time.
We enjoyed ourselves as we always do. And, you know, the perks of living in
Florida is the advantage of us, you know, the advantage of us having the beaches
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and everything at our disposal.
So I have to find a new spot for next week.
I have a little bit over a week to go, but, you know, I'm sure I'll figure it out.
What else is going on? Let me see.
So, yeah. Driving in the car, trying to get to Carlos' job, trying to have fun,
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trying to have fun. I don't have anything planned for the day.
Sundays, I typically let, you know, I make no choices and let the day take me
wherever it's going to go.
I don't need to wash my car. Maybe I will.
I have a membership where I can go weekly, go pretty much as many times as I want to.
It did rain last week, so I might end up going and do that to get that done.
And then I'll just be chilling at the house and waiting until Carlos gets home.
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His day started off with a bang.
With him leaving his stuff at the house. Yeah. Just turned his day around. That's unfortunate.
So, yeah. What else do I got going on? There was something I wanted to talk
about when it comes to social media.
I've been noticing a lot lately.
And I'm going to be honest. honest, I'm not completely versed about what's going
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on in terms of, you know, the entire situation and who these people actually are.
But there's been a lot of discourse, discourse about parasocial relationships.
Parasocial relationships happen when like an online persona,
you know, connects with their audience and their audience feel like, oh, they're my friend.
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And, you know, because they share personal stuff.
Some of you guys might've created parasocial relationships with me in what I do.
But you don't really know them. You don't know the people that you see online,
only the persona that they've made.
And saying that, there's been a lot of conversation around.
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Influencers, that word being thrown around, who is considered an influencer,
what influencers' responsibility are when it comes to, you know,
their audience and, you know, how their audience decides to activate themselves.
I, you know, go on TikTok sometimes, you know, for the drama aspect of it.
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And there's this guy named Yuval the Terrible and Ayame, which is a beautiful,
beautiful half, well, biracial or, you know, Black woman who just is,
she's, I think it's her beauty, not to say the least about her as a person.
She's just quirky and funny.
And then she's beautiful on top of that.
You know, there was discourse about them and their relationship and how it became
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weird because they were monetizing their relationship or their meeting in a way to,
you know, gain money for a situation that was connected to Gaza,
Palestine, and all that other stuff.
I haven't made a stance on that myself, you know, side, you know,
sidebar, but I am a person who I don't know, no genocide here. I don't support it.
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You know, I don't support, you know, the, the, the situation that's happening in Palestine.
And, you know, I think it's atrocious. And, you know, me as a black person,
knowing the roots of where black people came from, I can imagine,
you know, the, this, I can't imagine this happening in 2024 and the magnitude
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which is happening and no one doing anything about, you know,
and I'm not very versed about the situation enough to go into detail,
but I support humans being human.
I support people being able to live and, you know, not being oppressed,
you know, from a very basic sense of my people, you know, my black folks here
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in America being oppressed.
So I, you know, So I am not for, you know, what's happening in Palestine at all.
And, you know, I'm going to be very clear about that if anyone was wondering.
So anyway, they created this thing.
I think, well, no, I think there was a lot more talks than what people understood there to be.
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And people were upset because they thought that it was real. real and
it you know had there's an element of it that was real
but for the most part it wasn't simply because there
was a lot of like behind the scenes that made it happen well the
uval his name is uval the terrible on on
uh tiktok tiktok tiktok and you know he's this guy that does this commentary
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he he does a lot of like you know linguistic videos talking about the human
condition speaking about you know you know more specifically the stuff that's
happening in Palestine and,
you know, he's a very, very articulate and smart Jewish man who,
you know, he's, people love him because they learn stuff from him.
You know, social media should also be about learning too.
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And anyway, in this particular instance, he is not doing so well because he
says some stuff about the Holocaust and, you know, going back and forth with
the black content creator,
Mattis Juan, long story short.
It just created this discussion. And now what's happening with Cody Cove,
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where people are feeling like they have to take a stand and comment on things
that on situations that really don't have anything to do with them.
You know what I'm saying? like Yuval's friend, Christian Divine.
And I'm speaking very meta at this point. Like I know a lot of this might be
going over people's heads and I understand that.
But the ultimate point that I'm trying to talk about is, you know,
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it's very difficult to create a relationship with someone that you don't really know that well.
And when people happen to, you know, have these missteps and they,
you know, make a mistake,
that becomes a reckoning among a lot of folks to say that's how
they truly feel and that's who they really are when in
actuality it was just a moment you know of lapse of judgment
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it's not anything regarding something that
will you know tarnish someone's entire character now i'm i'm in no way shape
or form saying that the criticism that was given to you've all in a particular
situation about the holocaust stuff was not valid like i don't you know i'm
not abstaining him for the responsibility behind you know being able to to choose your words,
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especially if you're someone who curates your content in the way that this gentleman does.
I'm not abstaining him from that. I think that criticism has been valid because
his words were very hurtful.
Basically, he equated the, you know, slave trade, you know, to the Holocaust
and, you know, you know, had some anti-Black rhetoric that was going on.
That he was rightfully so called out for. And long story short,
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that discord has created, you know, this conversation in terms of,
you know, parasocial relationships and when is it time for other people to have
to stand out and speak up for themselves.
I was just listening to a video, including Jarvis Johnson. I actually like Jarvis Johnson.
He's a person that I acknowledge that he's a young person.
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You know, he's very knowledgeable in what he does and entertaining and all that fun stuff.
And, you know, I learned more about the situation, you know,
regarding like people feeling like they have to stand on it.
But I learned about the Cody Coe situation from DeAngelo Wallace,
who is a gentleman that does a very good job of doing investigative journalist kind of videos,
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you know, on pop culture, social media and, you know, scandals that might just
be specific to, you know, the YouTube platform or, you know,
quote, you know, the specific platform,
Reddits and things of that nature. you know, that they come from.
So shout out to those two.
And I watched a little bit of Hassan's video. I don't know him that well.
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I just know him through Jarvis.
And, you know, I saw the video of him reacting to D'Angelo's video.
And there's a lot of things that are happening. There's an ugly ass.
I wish you guys could see it. I hate these cars, but a Tesla truck,
to me, it's just a blatant display of your money.
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You want people to think and know that you got money.
And I think that's kind of the status of people getting Teslas because I don't
know if they're the best vehicles there are.
And it seems like there's an abundance of those Tesla vehicles out,
but I don't really ever hear people talk about the quality of those vehicles.
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But I'm also not not in that world. So it's probably something that's on over
my head. So yeah. So yeah.
Yeah, so that's, you know, parasocial relationships and, you know,
the relationships that we create online definitely need to be dissected.
And if you find yourself in a space where you're feeling like you are deeply
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invested in, you know, a person or thing that, you know, really,
you know, that really doesn't have anything to do with you.
Or you feel too strongly about something in a situation that doesn't directly
impact you because of the person that's involved being someone that you like
or you dislike on social media, you should probably consider that to not be
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a valid critique or criticism.
I see a lot of hate online among, you know, it's really the creators' audiences
because I don't ever hear the creators talk about, you know,
telling people to go and be mean to other people's comment section.
But it happens a lot. It happens a lot.
And it's just a weird space. It just makes the internet weird.
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I was saying this to my friend.
I was like, man, you know, social media is not weird.
You know, I mean, social media is not real. It ain't a real place.
Like, let's be honest here. I'm actually at the place there.
Don't let me do this. Let me see. I'm in the green section. Okay.
All right. I'm here. I got a big upturn loose. There's somebody behind me.
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Yeah, they brought this pickup area here in Orlando. It's definitely convenient
if you're dropping somebody off, you know a lot of uber Because we used to oh, is that the green one?
Okay. Okay We use a lot of uh, I see him We used to have to go through traffic
and it was a nightmare trying to Come on, you need me to get out.
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All right. Yeah. Yeah. Hold on y'all.
Music.
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So, you know, we have to, you know, look at our content sometimes when we're
online and understand and know
that, you know, there's, there's more to it than what we happen to see.
And I didn't even finish my thought about the, about, you know,
the drop-off stuff, but it's fine.
If you're in Orlando and you've done the drop-off section, you know what it
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is. So, yep. My husband works at Universal.
So, yeah. Yeah.
But you have to, you just have to be really careful with the content you curate.
You know, the way the algorithm, I always have a problem saying that word.
Algorithm works. You know, there's a lot of like rage baiting that happens when
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it comes to the content that you connect to on social media.
So you'll find yourself, you know, if you hate a particular,
you know, piece of content, you'll notice that it will be more active in your
feed that you're just kind of rage scrolling, you know, and that's not good. It's not healthy.
And I'm not saying that social media isn't, you know, a valuable place to get your information.
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I just think that sometimes, you know, for us, you know, bullying our favorite
content creators to saying things that they may not know very much about or,
you know, people, you know, there's this thing, you know, silence is golden.
Silence is what speaks volumes about what's happening.
And reality of it is people just trying to process what's going on.
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You know what I'm saying?
And, you know, I might not be able to articulate how I feel about something.
And it doesn't mean that I stand for it, you know. And I feel that exact same
way about the situation that I just mentioned about Palestine.
I've been inactive in saying something. Not that I have a social media presence or anything like that.
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I've just been inactive because it's a lot of stuff that you have to learn.
And I think for me, when it comes to the support of Palestine, it's very basic.
I support people being able to be the best people.
And I don't support genocide. side. I don't support people being killed for
no reason. I don't support any of that.
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So I don't support kids being killed, none of that.
So it's the easy stance for me. You know what I'm saying?
It's not anything that takes that much of a decision. So that's where I'm at with that.
But that's pretty much all I got y'all. I ain't going to keep at this point
of rambling. Appreciate you guys listening. Thank you so much. I love all the support.
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All right, guys, enjoy the rest of your day and we will talk soon. Bye.
Music.
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Up y'all i'm gonna go ahead and apologize now because
the audio may sound horrible and for
that i apologize um i am
doing a podcast on location well not really but i'm driving today carlos left
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his bag that typically well he left his bag that has his shoes for work there
and i have to go don't take it to him.
He's already late because I left my wallet in his car.
I left it in his car yesterday just because I didn't carry it with me because
we went to the beach, which I'm going to talk about here in a moment.
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And he had to bring it back. I was still in bed. So yeah.
So I was appreciative that he brought it back. And then he put him late and
then he get all the way there.
And didn't have it used. It happens to the best of us.
You know, me, I work from home. So I, which this week, I actually have to go
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to the office on Wednesday.
I work from home. So I use the, I don't really have that issue.
I don't really have a start time either. I can go in at, the latest I can go
in though is nine o'clock. The earliest I can go in is seven.
So as long as I do eight hours, all that matters. But anyway,
enough about that. How you guys doing?
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I appreciate everybody that downloaded the episode and listened.
I hope you enjoyed it. It was a fun episode for me.
And yeah, you know, we got an opportunity to celebrate, still celebrating the 10 year anniversary.
I wish you guys were able to see visually what's going on.
I don't have the pictures, but we did actually get pictures.
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We took some pictures at the beginning of July, the first weekend in July,
we took pictures and it was a really good photo shoot.
This is not a paid endorsement at all. It's Rebecca Rose Fine Portraits here
in the central Florida area in Maitland.
She was doing this contest. She was looking for couples or family members,
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which I think is something that she does as a promotion.
And, you know, I entered myself in Carlos and they called me back and said that
I was selected, so I was very excited about that.
I had a $250 sitting fee that I had to pay that was supposed to be refundable
as long as I didn't cancel my original appointment.
We couldn't make it because it was on a Friday. Carlos was getting off work.
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I scheduled it for 630.
His schedule changed. It was a lot going on that week that we couldn't do it.
So I end up losing the 250, which is incensing. But the $250,000 that was paid
for as the sitting fee, that actually went towards some of the purchase.
Because these are fine photos. These are like top dollar, top quality photos.
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So they're not the run-of-the-mill digital ones over at Walgreens or CVS.
These are actual photos.
My recommendation, go look her up if you so choose, and you will see her work.
She has over 360-something or 355, I don't know, five-star, like 355,
355 five-star reviews on her Google page.
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So she's, she, they know what they're doing. So it was a very good experience.
You know, they, they gave us some sparkling grape juice and basically just talked
to us and, you know, got to know us a little bit.
Their thing is to, you know, like the prior call before the session,
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we, you know, sat down, told them what our color schemes are in the rooms that
we were going to put them in.
And, you know, they, they wanted to know where we were going to put it and,
you know, what kind of couple we were, what kind of photos we wanted to take.
And then after that, they kind of did the same thing at the actual session.
Once the session was done, they.
You know, they scheduled an appointment for us to be able to sit down and choose photos.
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So we ended up getting three portraits, two that work digitally. They're on my Facebook.
So if you want to go look at the pictures, go to Facebook. I'll give you all
the social media stuff later.
It's also on TikTok as well. So I'll give you all the social media stuff later.
So you guys can go look it up for context and, you know, tell me what you think.
But we, you know, it was three photos. those
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one free gift because they did give
us a free gift for taking the pictures and also in
exchange for us being able to well the social
media part i don't think was anything to do with it but i think that they took
that as an opportunity they asked us if we were okay with them being on social
media and we're okay anytime carlos and i can get the opportunity to display
our love you know publicly is something that we enjoy doing so you know we we
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uh we did say yes so So, but yeah,
the $250 that we paid for the sitting fee.
So I guess you can say it wasn't like really like super free.
Well, not super free. It wasn't like drawing, but you know, I mean,
I knew that going in. I was disappointed because I wanted the $250 back.
But, you know, I don't spend money that I don't intend to use.
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You know what I'm saying? Does that make sense?
I wouldn't have spent the $250 if I didn't have it. That's the best way to say
it. But I would have had to have been like, no, no, but, you know, it's fine.
But two of the photos, it was two of us, well, us individually sitting in chairs.
And then the one of us, you guys will get a chance to see that.
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I'll have to reveal it at some point once we do get it in.
But we had to pay for the shipping, which the shipping was like,
I think it was like 50 bucks for the shipping, for them to ship the picture.
Picture and the taxes from, uh, cause the, the two 50 that they had was just
two 50. It didn't include the taxes that they charged.
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So that, so yeah, that was, uh, that was fun. It was a good,
uh, good, good experience.
The shots are great. They look great.
And people on social media have been raving about it. We posted it on Instagram,
Facebook, and Tik TOK. So, you know.
Yeah, a lot of people are loving it. And, you know, we're grateful.
You know, Carlos and I are very connected in a lot of ways when it comes to our relationship.
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And I'm extremely grateful for the opportunity to, you know,
I don't know, to love a man like him.
I'm going to pause for just one second. All right, I'm back.
So, but yeah, it was it was great. It was a great, great experience.
And so that was like a commemoration of our 10 year anniversary.
I know a lot of people have issues Maybe they don't have issues But they talk about us,
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And the fact that we have so many different anniversaries I'm not going to go
over the process of explaining If you want to know Look at the previous Or listen
to the previous episode But, you know, it's a monument to us You know what I'm saying?
To have had This is the longest relationship that both of us have had So, that,
Yesterday, we went to the beach Fort DeSoto is an amazing It's a beach that's
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in the Gulf, the Gulf of Mexico over in the Tampa side of things.
It's about two hours away from Orlando.
And the very first time that we went, it was nice.
I love the temperature of the water. I do not. I'm not a cold person when it comes to water.
I like it cold, but I don't like it cold. I don't like my water.
Like, I love it cold to drink, but I don't like dipping my body in coldness.
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You know what I'm saying? It's not a fun thing for me.
So when I went there and I realized how warm that water was,
I was just like, oh my God, I can go to this beach every weekend if that's the case.
I'm going to be honest. I'm not a beach person. Firstly, I hate sand.
Secondly, I don't know how to swim. So I'm very uncomfortable with,
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you know, getting pretty far out there that the water area or the beach area, it seems pretty even.
Even they just, you know, the floor, you know, it doesn't like drop out,
which I'm a, that's what I'm afraid of, you know, and I know I'll panic if that,
if I were to go out deeper into the, the abyss, if you will.
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But so we, you know, we stay kind of close enough, you know,
I just don't want a situation where I end up slipping. But anyway,
the water was super warm.
It was probably Probably about a good 70 degrees, which is warm, very warm.
I mean, typically, you know, beach waters are about, you know,
55, 60 degrees and that's cold.
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So, you know, to, to have, it felt like a, not quite like a sauna,
but it was, it was just as somebody, you know, like as warm as water could possibly
be, you know, lukewarm maybe. be.
And, you know, we did a couple hours a couple weeks ago. I think that was the same.
No, it was the eighth that we went.
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And Carlos and I made a decision that, you know, since he's off on weekends now,
he's off on, you know, Saturdays, that we will go, you know,
to some of the local spots in the area, like local beaches and springs.
We were supposed to go to Jenny Springs.
We didn't go to Jenny Springs because it's a cold water spring and that might've
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impeded on our overall experience.
I think it's only, it's two hours away as well.
So, you know, we didn't end up going to Jenny Springs. We were also going to
go to Devil's Den, but Devil's Den, you have to have.
Devils Den, you have to have snorkeling gear. I can't swim, so that's not an option.
You can't just go down there and just dip your feet in it. No,
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you have to have your snorkels. You have to rent it.
You do have to have your fins and your snorkel gear.
So with the goggles, I mean, and, you know, they provide the rest.
And it's just like, that's not an experience that I'm willing to do.
I don't know how to breathe with those things. So we didn't do it.
You know, that was fun. It was, you know, enjoyable. And then we took our niece.
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She goes back to work full-time next Saturday. So, yeah, she's up.
It was her last hurrah. She got her little bathing suit. You know,
she was very, very shy, which was surprising to me. She was very shy.
You know, the reason why it's surprising is because her personality,
she's not really a shy person.
You know, she's slow to come around to you if she doesn't know you,
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and that's normal, I think.
But she, yeah, she was very shy. I was like, all right, girl, but very modest person.
She's not like for the attention or anything.
So, but, uh, yeah, she had fun.
Carlos had fun. We got back here probably close to about seven o'clock,
you know, laid it on down.
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I'm going to be honest. Cause I, I didn't get a chance to take a nap.
Carlos wanted to take a, you know, 25 minute nap. I was like,
I'm, I can't, my body was up.
So I ended up, you know, shopping for groceries on, um, you know,
walmart.com. And then we ended up, you know, getting, being on the couch.
We were watching something.
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I don't remember. I was asleep half of the time.
Oh, I left Carlos to sleep a little bit longer. He woke up at about nine.
And when he came downstairs, I fell asleep. So that's pretty much how that went.
But yeah, we, it was good. It was a good time.
We enjoyed ourselves as we always do. And, you know, the perks of living in
Florida is the advantage of us, you know, the advantage of us having the beaches
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and everything at our disposal.
So I have to find a new spot for next week.
I have a little bit over a week to go, but, you know, I'm sure I'll figure it out.
What else is going on? Let me see.
So, yeah. Driving in the car, trying to get to Carlos' job, trying to have fun,
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trying to have fun. I don't have anything planned for the day.
Sundays, I typically let, you know, I make no choices and let the day take me
wherever it's going to go.
I don't need to wash my car. Maybe I will.
I have a membership where I can go weekly, go pretty much as many times as I want to.
It did rain last week, so I might end up going and do that to get that done.
And then I'll just be chilling at the house and waiting until Carlos gets home.
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His day started off with a bang.
With him leaving his stuff at the house. Yeah. Just turned his day around. That's unfortunate.
So, yeah. What else do I got going on? There was something I wanted to talk
about when it comes to social media.
I've been noticing a lot lately.
And I'm going to be honest. honest, I'm not completely versed about what's going
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on in terms of, you know, the entire situation and who these people actually are.
But there's been a lot of discourse, discourse about parasocial relationships.
Parasocial relationships happen when like an online persona,
you know, connects with their audience and their audience feel like, oh, they're my friend.
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And, you know, because they share personal stuff.
Some of you guys might've created parasocial relationships with me in what I do.
But you don't really know them. You don't know the people that you see online,
only the persona that they've made.
And saying that, there's been a lot of conversation around.
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Influencers, that word being thrown around, who is considered an influencer,
what influencers' responsibility are when it comes to, you know,
their audience and, you know, how their audience decides to activate themselves.
I, you know, go on TikTok sometimes, you know, for the drama aspect of it.
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And there's this guy named Yuval the Terrible and Ayame, which is a beautiful,
beautiful half, well, biracial or, you know, Black woman who just is,
she's, I think it's her beauty, not to say the least about her as a person.
She's just quirky and funny.
And then she's beautiful on top of that.
You know, there was discourse about them and their relationship and how it became
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weird because they were monetizing their relationship or their meeting in a way to,
you know, gain money for a situation that was connected to Gaza,
Palestine, and all that other stuff.
I haven't made a stance on that myself, you know, side, you know,
sidebar, but I am a person who I don't know, no genocide here. I don't support it.
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You know, I don't support, you know, the, the, the situation that's happening in Palestine.
And, you know, I think it's atrocious. And, you know, me as a black person,
knowing the roots of where black people came from, I can imagine,
you know, the, this, I can't imagine this happening in 2024 and the magnitude
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which is happening and no one doing anything about, you know,
and I'm not very versed about the situation enough to go into detail,
but I support humans being human.
I support people being able to live and, you know, not being oppressed,
you know, from a very basic sense of my people, you know, my black folks here
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in America being oppressed.
So I, you know, So I am not for, you know, what's happening in Palestine at all.
And, you know, I'm going to be very clear about that if anyone was wondering.
So anyway, they created this thing.
I think, well, no, I think there was a lot more talks than what people understood there to be.
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And people were upset because they thought that it was real. real and
it you know had there's an element of it that was real
but for the most part it wasn't simply because there
was a lot of like behind the scenes that made it happen well the
uval his name is uval the terrible on on
uh tiktok tiktok tiktok and you know he's this guy that does this commentary
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he he does a lot of like you know linguistic videos talking about the human
condition speaking about you know you know more specifically the stuff that's
happening in Palestine and,
you know, he's a very, very articulate and smart Jewish man who,
you know, he's, people love him because they learn stuff from him.
You know, social media should also be about learning too.
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And anyway, in this particular instance, he is not doing so well because he
says some stuff about the Holocaust and, you know, going back and forth with
the black content creator,
Mattis Juan, long story short.
It just created this discussion. And now what's happening with Cody Cove,
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where people are feeling like they have to take a stand and comment on things
that on situations that really don't have anything to do with them.
You know what I'm saying? like Yuval's friend, Christian Divine.
And I'm speaking very meta at this point. Like I know a lot of this might be
going over people's heads and I understand that.
But the ultimate point that I'm trying to talk about is, you know,
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it's very difficult to create a relationship with someone that you don't really know that well.
And when people happen to, you know, have these missteps and they,
you know, make a mistake,
that becomes a reckoning among a lot of folks to say that's how
they truly feel and that's who they really are when in
actuality it was just a moment you know of lapse of judgment
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it's not anything regarding something that
will you know tarnish someone's entire character now i'm i'm in no way shape
or form saying that the criticism that was given to you've all in a particular
situation about the holocaust stuff was not valid like i don't you know i'm
not abstaining him for the responsibility behind you know being able to to choose your words,
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especially if you're someone who curates your content in the way that this gentleman does.
I'm not abstaining him from that. I think that criticism has been valid because
his words were very hurtful.
Basically, he equated the, you know, slave trade, you know, to the Holocaust
and, you know, you know, had some anti-Black rhetoric that was going on.
That he was rightfully so called out for. And long story short,
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that discord has created, you know, this conversation in terms of,
you know, parasocial relationships and when is it time for other people to have
to stand out and speak up for themselves.
I was just listening to a video, including Jarvis Johnson. I actually like Jarvis Johnson.
He's a person that I acknowledge that he's a young person.
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You know, he's very knowledgeable in what he does and entertaining and all that fun stuff.
And, you know, I learned more about the situation, you know,
regarding like people feeling like they have to stand on it.
But I learned about the Cody Coe situation from DeAngelo Wallace,
who is a gentleman that does a very good job of doing investigative journalist kind of videos,
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you know, on pop culture, social media and, you know, scandals that might just
be specific to, you know, the YouTube platform or, you know,
quote, you know, the specific platform,
Reddits and things of that nature. you know, that they come from.
So shout out to those two.
And I watched a little bit of Hassan's video. I don't know him that well.
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I just know him through Jarvis.
And, you know, I saw the video of him reacting to D'Angelo's video.
And there's a lot of things that are happening. There's an ugly ass.
I wish you guys could see it. I hate these cars, but a Tesla truck,
to me, it's just a blatant display of your money.
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You want people to think and know that you got money.
And I think that's kind of the status of people getting Teslas because I don't
know if they're the best vehicles there are.
And it seems like there's an abundance of those Tesla vehicles out,
but I don't really ever hear people talk about the quality of those vehicles.
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But I'm also not not in that world. So it's probably something that's on over
my head. So yeah. So yeah.
Yeah, so that's, you know, parasocial relationships and, you know,
the relationships that we create online definitely need to be dissected.
And if you find yourself in a space where you're feeling like you are deeply
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invested in, you know, a person or thing that, you know, really,
you know, that really doesn't have anything to do with you.
Or you feel too strongly about something in a situation that doesn't directly
impact you because of the person that's involved being someone that you like
or you dislike on social media, you should probably consider that to not be
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a valid critique or criticism.
I see a lot of hate online among, you know, it's really the creators' audiences
because I don't ever hear the creators talk about, you know,
telling people to go and be mean to other people's comment section.
But it happens a lot. It happens a lot.
And it's just a weird space. It just makes the internet weird.
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I was saying this to my friend.
I was like, man, you know, social media is not weird.
You know, I mean, social media is not real. It ain't a real place.
Like, let's be honest here. I'm actually at the place there.
Don't let me do this. Let me see. I'm in the green section. Okay.
All right. I'm here. I got a big upturn loose. There's somebody behind me.
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Yeah, they brought this pickup area here in Orlando. It's definitely convenient
if you're dropping somebody off, you know a lot of uber Because we used to oh, is that the green one?
Okay. Okay We use a lot of uh, I see him We used to have to go through traffic
and it was a nightmare trying to Come on, you need me to get out.
(23:34):
All right. Yeah. Yeah. Hold on y'all.
Music.
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So, you know, we have to, you know, look at our content sometimes when we're
online and understand and know
that, you know, there's, there's more to it than what we happen to see.
And I didn't even finish my thought about the, about, you know,
the drop-off stuff, but it's fine.
If you're in Orlando and you've done the drop-off section, you know what it
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is. So, yep. My husband works at Universal.
So, yeah. Yeah.
But you have to, you just have to be really careful with the content you curate.
You know, the way the algorithm, I always have a problem saying that word.
Algorithm works. You know, there's a lot of like rage baiting that happens when
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it comes to the content that you connect to on social media.
So you'll find yourself, you know, if you hate a particular,
you know, piece of content, you'll notice that it will be more active in your
feed that you're just kind of rage scrolling, you know, and that's not good. It's not healthy.
And I'm not saying that social media isn't, you know, a valuable place to get your information.
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I just think that sometimes, you know, for us, you know, bullying our favorite
content creators to saying things that they may not know very much about or,
you know, people, you know, there's this thing, you know, silence is golden.
Silence is what speaks volumes about what's happening.
And reality of it is people just trying to process what's going on.
(25:59):
You know what I'm saying?
And, you know, I might not be able to articulate how I feel about something.
And it doesn't mean that I stand for it, you know. And I feel that exact same
way about the situation that I just mentioned about Palestine.
I've been inactive in saying something. Not that I have a social media presence or anything like that.
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I've just been inactive because it's a lot of stuff that you have to learn.
And I think for me, when it comes to the support of Palestine, it's very basic.
I support people being able to be the best people.
And I don't support genocide. side. I don't support people being killed for
no reason. I don't support any of that.
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So I don't support kids being killed, none of that.
So it's the easy stance for me. You know what I'm saying?
It's not anything that takes that much of a decision. So that's where I'm at with that.
But that's pretty much all I got y'all. I ain't going to keep at this point
of rambling. Appreciate you guys listening. Thank you so much. I love all the support.
You can support your boy Or if you want to give a few coins,
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Don't forget to share. I would love to see comments and just continue the conversation going.
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All right, guys, enjoy the rest of your day and we will talk soon. Bye.
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