July 14, 2024 • 30 mins
Join us in this heartfelt episode as we celebrate a decade of love and milestones. Our host reflects on the 10-year anniversary with Carlos, sharing intimate stories and cherished memories that define their relationship. From the excitement of their first meeting to the joys and challenges of married life, every moment is a testament to their enduring bond.
Discover the significance of celebrating small victories and the importance of friendships that shape our lives. Our host also opens up about personal growth, the struggles of feeling valued, and the lessons learned through therapy.
Get ready for a candid discussion about relationships, the joys of celebrating love, and a sneak peek into their favorite TV show, "The Boys." Plus, find out how you can support and connect with our host on various social platforms. Tune in for an episode filled with love, laughter, and life's invaluable lessons.
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Music.
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Hey guys, good morning. I want to start by saying thank you to Carlos.
Because of him, in our celebration of our 10-year anniversary,
I am going to be pampering myself.
Or not myself, it's going to be by the means of Carlos.
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Because two things. Number one, And he didn't give me anything for our 10-year
anniversary yesterday.
And number two, because I gave him such a hard time for not getting me anything.
I want to explain to y'all how me and Carlos work when it comes to certain things.
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Yesterday was our anniversary, so I'm not going to skip over that.
But yesterday was our anniversary. We hit 10 years together.
I explained this viewpoint on my Facebook, but I'll explain it again to everybody
here. because yeah, I just am.
Carlos and I have been together like this 10 years ago, we met.
10 years ago, yesterday, we met. I knew this from Facebook because Facebook
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reminded me of a picture that I posted the same day that Carlos and I met.
And I remember being so excited about that outfit.
So it reminded me years later that that was the day.
So we started, I would say probably back in 2018,
2019, maybe a little earlier than that, celebrating our anniversary on July
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13th of every year, because that was the anniversary when we first met,
which I think is monumental because it was the start of something great.
I mean, you know, and then we do celebrate our relationship,
obviously, throughout the year, you know, just because it takes a lot of work, effort, and time to,
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you know, really get to know someone, love someone, and just be outwardly with
your love, you know, showing it to other people.
But our ninth anniversary will be this December because Carlos and I didn't get married until 2015.
Okay. December of 2015, to be exact, December 5th of 2015.
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So there's that. So we'll be celebrating our 10-year anniversary of being married,
which is also a big monument to in 2025, December of 2025.
So that's to kind of explain that, you know, the milestones or timeframes in
our relationship and why it seems like we're in constant celebration.
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You know, you don't necessarily have to have an anniversary to be able to celebrate your love.
You know, those are just, you know, different timeframes to be able to acknowledge,
like, the start of our relationship, you know, things that we did,
you know, stuff like that.
So that's just how we do it. And we're just people who just absolutely enjoy
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just celebrating, you know, the small victories because that's what gets you to the big ones.
So I gave him a hard time yesterday, rightfully so.
And I'm not going to lie. I did feel some type of way. And, you know,
he and I have had this conversation.
He might feel a little embarrassed that I'm bringing it up now,
but I know his intention wasn't to forget me completely.
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He just happened to be out in the moment, you know, going to go do things.
So I'm dedicating, you know, the things I'm going to do. I'm going to get my nails done.
I'm going to get my feet done. I'm going to get all of that done.
And it's going to be complimentary of Carlos.
So we like to joke around with each other. And sometimes we both have a tendency
to go in a little hard on each other, joking around.
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But I know he's shown me other things that he's done in our love. But I'm not going to lie.
Out of all days, yesterday would have been a lot more special.
But then I also have to put in perspective that if we're celebrating every day,
why is yesterday something that I'm harping on?
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So, but yeah, thank you to everybody.
I've been seeing some new downloads. I've been seeing people,
you know, talking about it.
My friends are more apt to listen. So I'm appreciative of that.
And I just see people, you know, interacting a little bit differently.
Currently, I really feel like I've connected this season.
You know, I'm not as, what do you call it? I'm not as...
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Frazzled as I was. And frazzled to me is kind of like, oh, surprise.
I do realize that some of my podcasts, sometimes they're not linear.
And I tend to jump around from point to point if I have a thought that will create something,
put another fork in the road or create another river where it doesn't seem linear.
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But for the most part, I feel like I've kind of gotten my stride a little bit.
And, you know, I'm able to stick to topic and bring, you know,
said points back and try my best not to use, you know, certain things or phrases over and over again.
One thing I've learned is I do speak a lot in like, in colloquialisms,
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like it is what it is, or, you know, like cliches that you say that you hear all the time.
I do, you know, speak like that. And that's easy to move the conversation forward,
but it doesn't necessarily explain my point.
So I've been trying to veer off having tangents like that or,
you know, having, you know, moments like that where I, you know,
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I say those things, but not fully explain a point.
So I'm still in the process of learning, guys.
I, you know, I'm an amateur at best, you know, even though I've done this for
eight seasons, I still, you know, will go off on a tangent.
And that's just, that's a lot like real life with me. You know,
I can be thinking one thought and then something else enters and,
you know, I can have a completely different.
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You know, point that was, you know, triggered by something else that I said,
you know, so that's the, you know, product of, of being cerebral and just,
you know, actually listening to what you say yourself and, you know, editing as you go.
So, so it can be exhausting sometimes, but that's just the way that it is.
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But, but yeah, we've been together for 10 years and, you know,
to me, I feel like anytime you can celebrate, you know, like 10 years ago,
I didn't know this man as well as I do today.
And to be honest, I don't know, like every depth of things.
And I can tell you, you know, recently, you know, I just learned something new
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about him, you know? And that's okay.
Some people have a tendency to be.
You know, unnerved by that, but there's no way you can really, really know people.
And I think sometimes, you know, to a fault, you'll say, you know me, but in reality,
you know, there's so many other elements and things that may inform other stuff
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and other ideas that, you know, that's really not a flex to say to someone,
you know, and it's also not as great as we think because, you know, people are nuanced.
So people have the right and the idea to change their minds sometimes because they can.
So, but yeah, 10 years ago, I didn't know him as well as I do now.
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We've done a lot of great things.
We've had a lot of, you know, growth and I've said this before.
And it's just so surprising to me how people can just really come together,
especially when you decide, you know, that someone is going to be in your life.
You know, I've had, I have friends that I've, you know, my, my,
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my friend, I call him my buddy, but my friend, he's, he's like a family member.
He's like a older brother, cousin kind of thing.
He and I, he gives a lot of advice. He listens to me, Sam does,
and he does a great job of like not making me feel judged, you know,
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even though some of the stuff that I've told him might be wild.
He's like, okay, you know, so So I recommend everybody go get a friend like
him, but he's, he's like a, a, you know, friend, you know, more than a friend,
family member, cousin, you know, whatever.
So he's definitely, we've been friends since 2006, which is coming up on,
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well, it's 18 years we've known each other and, you know, I still find myself getting to know him.
My friend, I had a friend who I had been, you know, friends with for about 20 plus years.
We had to break up, you know, simply because we...
You know, she admitted to me at the time that she couldn't be the friend that I needed.
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And, you know, there were just some things that I didn't necessarily align with
in our relationship at the time. We had to break up, you know.
And then, you know, there are just other people who come into my life that I've
known for years, you know, that are outside my family.
That I think their relationships are monumental.
You know, my homie Tamika. Although we don't talk every day,
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there is a shared understanding and love that we have for each other.
That, you know, keeps us close. So when we see each other, it's just like picking up when we left off.
And my husband absolutely adores her.
So, and, you know, just people that I've met over the years,
Felicia, George, you know, Devin, he chimes in every now and then.
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He actually chimed in last week. My homie, Suzanne, that's my girl.
You know, we're, you know, she's a businesswoman right now.
You know what I'm saying? She, you know, presidential over there,
so doing what she has to do. So, you know, I understand she'd be busy.
Princess, who I met through Suzanne, and we forged an amazing friendship,
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you know, through Suzanne.
So I'm thankful for Suzanne, you know, meeting Princess.
And a whole game of the other people, Rosalva, you know, my Cali homie,
that, you know, she and I, you know, have a lot in common, she and I. So shout out to her.
And I can go through a long list of people that I've met over life that I have
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forward friendships with.
And then I have my core friends or, yeah, core friends that I speak to pretty consistently.
I didn't do an episode last week. I didn't feel inspired to do one,
but I was going to do one in regards to, you know, perceptions,
you know, intent and, you know, recognizing relationships.
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I didn't end up recording it because I left. I was hanging out with my cousin
and a cousin that came, you know, through.
So I didn't get to record. And I was like, oh, I'll do it when I got back.
And I, you know, I was in my feelings about something.
I was in my feelings about something.
I was in my feelings about feeling appreciated.
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Me being someone who has abandonment issues and, you know, need words of affirmation
constantly and need a, I do need validation often.
And I think that's just the, that's the perks of my personality.
And it's something that I work with, with my therapist, but sometimes when I
have relationship with people, I feel like they don't necessarily understand
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or even care to understand where I'm coming from and what I'm about, they,
sometimes I just feel not valued, you know?
And I'm not going to say, you know, I've thought deeply about the feeling that
I had, because I know some of it is self-induced.
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Some of it could be, you know, weird, you know, odd perceptions,
you know, based on people's actions that may not necessarily be fair to them
that I have to take a pause on it.
But I had to chalk it up to just that being that I was, that it was, the problem was me.
And I really didn't have a way to flesh out the conversation,
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so I just didn't record it.
But sometimes that's the case.
And just to give you guys context on the times that I do, I don't make any content.
It's simply because I'm in a weird space, and what I don't want to come off
as mean and preachy and sensitive and crazy.
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To anybody. So I typically just kind of, you know, distance and,
all right, let me gather my thoughts.
I'm not evolved in that conversation yet. So hold off on putting that out because
you don't know how it's going to be mistaken.
And, you know, some of these people that you're talking about,
listen to the podcast, you know, and they may have questions that you might
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not necessarily be able to answer.
So, you know, that's the perks of the downside of having a mic sometimes,
Because sometimes you just want to use it as a venting session and you can't
because, you know, the people that you talk about, you have to face them.
You know what I'm saying?
Especially if you don't give them a heads up about what it is you're feeling.
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But it's, you know, sometimes sharing your emotions or sharing how you feel
with other people, you know, your intention is good, but it doesn't always land well.
And it's just difficult to do, you know, when you're trying to convey to someone
else about something that you feel slighted about.
But, you know, there's nothing you can do. So you really have to pick and choose your battles.
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Like, picking and choosing your battles is more than just, oh,
do I want to have this argument? I mean, sometimes it's like,
what point am I trying to make by saying this? You know what I'm saying?
And will it really land? And if it doesn't, what do you, you know, what do you do next?
So I'm learning to do that, you know, with the people that I care about and
that I love, you know, that I don't need to fight every battle,
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you know, as fervently as I might have in the past about things that don't really
ultimately make a difference in relationships.
But, you know, whatever.
I was going to say, does that make sense? I realize whenever I'm at work,
like when I'm talking to a client, just to let y'all know I'm a claims adjuster,
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I'll say that to, does that make sense?
And that's just my way of checking for understanding for the other people,
you know, that are on the opposite side.
And that's my way of doing that for you guys, because I want y'all to be able
to understand and feel where I'm coming from.
But growing older is difficult. quote, Goran Weiser is not as easy as you think it would be.
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And being open to change becomes a little bit more difficult.
I know a couple of weeks ago, I talked about like, you know,
how change is inevitable.
And that's the one thing that we rage against often. And, you know,
even Even though I know change is something that I, that is, you know, inevitable.
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Sometimes I do delay to have a rest of development because it's like,
oh, well, think of past situations and things that, you know,
might not, that show that might not be a good idea or the mindset that you're in.
It might not necessarily have been the best one. One, you know,
even with me transitioning to, you know, this role that I'm in with the company that I'm with,
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you know, there was hesitation for me to move over into the claims adjuster
role because, you know, I just thought that it was going to be me being bombarded
by calls and all that other stuff all the time.
And yeah, I mean, there are days where that happens, but I was just going based
on what other people were thinking and saying and feeling rather than,
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you know, using it as an opportunity for me to.
Just, you know, decide to do it on my own. And that was every,
that had everything to do with the previous position that I had taken.
It was really, it wasn't that it was difficult. It was actually very easy,
but it was taxing at times.
You know, anytime you deal, you deal with customers directly,
where it's a constant loop of, of customers, it could, you can,
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it can become exhausting, whether that's internal or external customers.
And you just really have to, you know, You have to reserve your energy and I
just felt like okay I made my transition from the previous job that I had to
this one and i'm not happy about it And I was coming to grips as to how happy
how unhappy I was that I was really hesitant about making a move,
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You know Because what if I don't get the job and then i'll be all excited and
you know You know ready to go for nothing or what if I do get the job and I
don't like it, you know There are so many other things,
And I say that to say you know.
And because of the wisdom that you may have, sometimes it will,
you know, it can delay you reacting or, you know, choosing something that will
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ultimately be the best thing for you.
And I have to say, you know, at this point, I'm going into month,
well, I'm in month number three of being a claims adjuster. And to be honest, I absolutely love it.
I'm still kind of like in the training phase of things. I haven't got my full
load of claims, but I don't see it being something that I won't be able to handle.
And to be honest, sometimes the algorithm algorithms and sometimes you get nine
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claims on one day and sometimes you get, you know, two claims on one day and
there's nothing you can do about it.
You just have to take it for what it is and do what you got to do.
And, you know, the idea is if I'm going to be working for the rest of my life,
why don't you do something that you enjoy?
I like the freedom that I get with this job. I like the, you know,
accessibility of being able to help people and really put forth an effort.
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Yeah, sometimes it does get frustrating rating because it's just like,
you know, you spent three days trying to contact this person and all of a sudden
on this day when you've got so many things to do, you gotta,
you know, you gotta reach out to this or somebody call you and you have to answer.
And it's just a lot of things that happen to take place that really can affect,
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you know, your perception of things.
Things. So, but yeah, I like the job and that's the, one of the reasons why
I have a lot more time and effort to, and just energy to be able to do the podcast.
Cause that other job, man, the hours really is what kicked my butt.
I was working from one to nine 30 every damn day.
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I only had Sundays and Wednesdays off, which is, you know, you typically have
two days off on a job, but I had Sundays and Wednesday off and I was just frustrated.
And to be honest, I was just mad. So, you know, I'm glad that I made that transition to this.
So I'll say that. But ultimately...
Getting to know Carlos and building a life, you know, braiding and weaving,
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you know, into a life that we've made.
We've met some really impressive people. We've inspired a lot of people,
which is not why we do the things that we do.
And I think that's just the byproduct of being who we are.
But we've had an opportunity to, you know, have some, you know,
real, you know, great people who celebrated who we are and celebrated who we're
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about in our relationship. And that's fun. I love that.
You know, we still have a lot more to go. We still have more years ahead of us.
And, you know, it's really, it's really great to be able to look back and be
like, oh my God, you know, we've, you know, overcome a lot of the odds that were against us.
We've, you know, put forth some good points and good ideas, you know, throughout the rest.
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And, you know, we have really been able to grow, you know, a lot.
And, you know, we're just celebrating the month of July, you know,
as it being our 10-year anniversary of actually meeting and,
you know, evolving in a relationship.
But, yeah, yesterday we went to Red Robin, or at least we were trying to go to Red Robin.
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And that was the very first date that me and Carlos went on, went to Red Robin.
And they were closed. It was an old taco place. Wasn't very happy about it because
they didn't have avocados. I was going to eat there.
You know, if I had to choose to eat, I was going to eat there,
but they didn't have any avocados. So that was kind of, how do y'all?
But, you know, it was because the avocados weren't ripe. So there's nothing
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they can do about that. They can't make them ripe.
So, but yeah, the place that we went to, you know, it actually just closed down this year.
Or they closed, there was something with the City of Winter Garden and Red Robin
where they had to close. So they closed that.
They closed that location. We could have went to the one on I-Drive,
but it was also like 8.30 at night.
And me and Carlos, and we actually took our niece along.
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I didn't feel like going. I didn't feel like going all the way over there,
so I didn't. And we ended up eating at Chili's. We had a good experience, a good time.
I ended up telling the waiter, I'm like, whenever I eat these chips and salsa,
it has this weird aftertaste to me. And it's so strange.
I can't put my finger on it, but finger. I can't put my finger on it,
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but it tastes like the oil is old.
She said that they change it every week, but I don't know.
Maybe they just have the oil on high frequency or some shit,
like, because it tastes burned.
You know what I'm saying? I know you guys have tasted like burnt grease before,
and you've eaten something that was fried in that burnt grease,
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and it has that aftertaste.
That's what it tastes like to me. Now, I could be wrong. I hope I didn't offend
her, but that's what it tasted like to me.
And it's like every time I eat them, it's that way. It just kind of, you know, fucks me up.
I'd be like, but I'd be eating them now because I was hungry last night.
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But, yeah, we had fun, low key.
And then we came home, watched The Boys. There's one more freaking episode of
The Boys. And I'm so upset because I feel like we have not gotten to a point
of resolve in this season.
It's been a lot of shit that's been going on.
Spoiler alert. Freaking Starlight is a damn shapeshifter. Or they found out that she was.
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And I can't think of... A butcher might have died.
You know what I'm saying? If you haven't watched this week's episode.
But next week is the last episode that will be airing until next year.
And next year's the last season.
So I don't think that they're going to kill Homelander. But I don't know. Homelander is weird.
Like, I feel like if they kill him, they ain't really got much else.
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It's just really trying to tame the rest of them. You know what I'm saying? Yeah.
And then A-Train left, because it turned out his ass was the leak,
which obviously the audience knew, but Homelander didn't know.
And that was wild to me that he was crying.
And he fired Sister Sage and Liberty. I think that's her name.
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The last episode, Liberty basically got, she was able to make it to where she
was able to produce milk.
And y'all know how much Homelander loved breast milk.
And she thought for sure that she was, you know, in there. And he was like, just get out of here.
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Man, I love that show. It's a good show. It's a good show, good show.
But, you know, it is what it is. You know, it tackled, you know,
the fight that you fight.
Sometimes you get tired of it. And there's, you know, Mother's Milk, Eminem.
You know, he said his father was killed by them.
His father's father was killed by them. and he wanted to break the cycle.
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And I understood that. I completely understood that.
Like it hit home on a deeper level, that scene.
But I thought that it was amazing that he did that with A-Train,
which was another Black actor.
And their experiences are different, but similar in a way that they both have
that same struggle to make things right. So I love that scene.
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I thought that it was amazing that they went back and forth.
I had to rewatch that because it just sent chills through me.
But yeah I like the boys I don't really like I know a couple weeks ago I said
that I really like you know superhero or sci-fi or whatever but I really like
the boys it's one of my favorite shows right now so yeah.
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But anyway, guys, that's another episode of Reggie being all over the place.
I got to go. I need to go get dressed.
I want to go get some food. I need to go get my car washed. And then I need
to start the pampering. So I got to go. All right.
I appreciate you guys listening. You can find me on TikTok at Reggie's Expressions,
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Music.
Music.
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Hey guys, good morning. I want to start by saying thank you to Carlos.
Because of him, in our celebration of our 10-year anniversary,
I am going to be pampering myself.
Or not myself, it's going to be by the means of Carlos.
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Because two things. Number one, And he didn't give me anything for our 10-year
anniversary yesterday.
And number two, because I gave him such a hard time for not getting me anything.
I want to explain to y'all how me and Carlos work when it comes to certain things.
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Yesterday was our anniversary, so I'm not going to skip over that.
But yesterday was our anniversary. We hit 10 years together.
I explained this viewpoint on my Facebook, but I'll explain it again to everybody
here. because yeah, I just am.
Carlos and I have been together like this 10 years ago, we met.
10 years ago, yesterday, we met. I knew this from Facebook because Facebook
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reminded me of a picture that I posted the same day that Carlos and I met.
And I remember being so excited about that outfit.
So it reminded me years later that that was the day.
So we started, I would say probably back in 2018,
2019, maybe a little earlier than that, celebrating our anniversary on July
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13th of every year, because that was the anniversary when we first met,
which I think is monumental because it was the start of something great.
I mean, you know, and then we do celebrate our relationship,
obviously, throughout the year, you know, just because it takes a lot of work, effort, and time to,
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you know, really get to know someone, love someone, and just be outwardly with
your love, you know, showing it to other people.
But our ninth anniversary will be this December because Carlos and I didn't get married until 2015.
Okay. December of 2015, to be exact, December 5th of 2015.
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So there's that. So we'll be celebrating our 10-year anniversary of being married,
which is also a big monument to in 2025, December of 2025.
So that's to kind of explain that, you know, the milestones or timeframes in
our relationship and why it seems like we're in constant celebration.
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You know, you don't necessarily have to have an anniversary to be able to celebrate your love.
You know, those are just, you know, different timeframes to be able to acknowledge,
like, the start of our relationship, you know, things that we did,
you know, stuff like that.
So that's just how we do it. And we're just people who just absolutely enjoy
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just celebrating, you know, the small victories because that's what gets you to the big ones.
So I gave him a hard time yesterday, rightfully so.
And I'm not going to lie. I did feel some type of way. And, you know,
he and I have had this conversation.
He might feel a little embarrassed that I'm bringing it up now,
but I know his intention wasn't to forget me completely.
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He just happened to be out in the moment, you know, going to go do things.
So I'm dedicating, you know, the things I'm going to do. I'm going to get my nails done.
I'm going to get my feet done. I'm going to get all of that done.
And it's going to be complimentary of Carlos.
So we like to joke around with each other. And sometimes we both have a tendency
to go in a little hard on each other, joking around.
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But I know he's shown me other things that he's done in our love. But I'm not going to lie.
Out of all days, yesterday would have been a lot more special.
But then I also have to put in perspective that if we're celebrating every day,
why is yesterday something that I'm harping on?
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So, but yeah, thank you to everybody.
I've been seeing some new downloads. I've been seeing people,
you know, talking about it.
My friends are more apt to listen. So I'm appreciative of that.
And I just see people, you know, interacting a little bit differently.
Currently, I really feel like I've connected this season.
You know, I'm not as, what do you call it? I'm not as...
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Frazzled as I was. And frazzled to me is kind of like, oh, surprise.
I do realize that some of my podcasts, sometimes they're not linear.
And I tend to jump around from point to point if I have a thought that will create something,
put another fork in the road or create another river where it doesn't seem linear.
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But for the most part, I feel like I've kind of gotten my stride a little bit.
And, you know, I'm able to stick to topic and bring, you know,
said points back and try my best not to use, you know, certain things or phrases over and over again.
One thing I've learned is I do speak a lot in like, in colloquialisms,
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like it is what it is, or, you know, like cliches that you say that you hear all the time.
I do, you know, speak like that. And that's easy to move the conversation forward,
but it doesn't necessarily explain my point.
So I've been trying to veer off having tangents like that or,
you know, having, you know, moments like that where I, you know,
(06:27):
I say those things, but not fully explain a point.
So I'm still in the process of learning, guys.
I, you know, I'm an amateur at best, you know, even though I've done this for
eight seasons, I still, you know, will go off on a tangent.
And that's just, that's a lot like real life with me. You know,
I can be thinking one thought and then something else enters and,
you know, I can have a completely different.
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You know, point that was, you know, triggered by something else that I said,
you know, so that's the, you know, product of, of being cerebral and just,
you know, actually listening to what you say yourself and, you know, editing as you go.
So, so it can be exhausting sometimes, but that's just the way that it is.
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But, but yeah, we've been together for 10 years and, you know,
to me, I feel like anytime you can celebrate, you know, like 10 years ago,
I didn't know this man as well as I do today.
And to be honest, I don't know, like every depth of things.
And I can tell you, you know, recently, you know, I just learned something new
(07:31):
about him, you know? And that's okay.
Some people have a tendency to be.
You know, unnerved by that, but there's no way you can really, really know people.
And I think sometimes, you know, to a fault, you'll say, you know me, but in reality,
you know, there's so many other elements and things that may inform other stuff
(07:52):
and other ideas that, you know, that's really not a flex to say to someone,
you know, and it's also not as great as we think because, you know, people are nuanced.
So people have the right and the idea to change their minds sometimes because they can.
So, but yeah, 10 years ago, I didn't know him as well as I do now.
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We've done a lot of great things.
We've had a lot of, you know, growth and I've said this before.
And it's just so surprising to me how people can just really come together,
especially when you decide, you know, that someone is going to be in your life.
You know, I've had, I have friends that I've, you know, my, my,
(08:34):
my friend, I call him my buddy, but my friend, he's, he's like a family member.
He's like a older brother, cousin kind of thing.
He and I, he gives a lot of advice. He listens to me, Sam does,
and he does a great job of like not making me feel judged, you know,
(08:54):
even though some of the stuff that I've told him might be wild.
He's like, okay, you know, so So I recommend everybody go get a friend like
him, but he's, he's like a, a, you know, friend, you know, more than a friend,
family member, cousin, you know, whatever.
So he's definitely, we've been friends since 2006, which is coming up on,
(09:19):
well, it's 18 years we've known each other and, you know, I still find myself getting to know him.
My friend, I had a friend who I had been, you know, friends with for about 20 plus years.
We had to break up, you know, simply because we...
You know, she admitted to me at the time that she couldn't be the friend that I needed.
(09:42):
And, you know, there were just some things that I didn't necessarily align with
in our relationship at the time. We had to break up, you know.
And then, you know, there are just other people who come into my life that I've
known for years, you know, that are outside my family.
That I think their relationships are monumental.
You know, my homie Tamika. Although we don't talk every day,
(10:03):
there is a shared understanding and love that we have for each other.
That, you know, keeps us close. So when we see each other, it's just like picking up when we left off.
And my husband absolutely adores her.
So, and, you know, just people that I've met over the years,
Felicia, George, you know, Devin, he chimes in every now and then.
(10:27):
He actually chimed in last week. My homie, Suzanne, that's my girl.
You know, we're, you know, she's a businesswoman right now.
You know what I'm saying? She, you know, presidential over there,
so doing what she has to do. So, you know, I understand she'd be busy.
Princess, who I met through Suzanne, and we forged an amazing friendship,
(10:49):
you know, through Suzanne.
So I'm thankful for Suzanne, you know, meeting Princess.
And a whole game of the other people, Rosalva, you know, my Cali homie,
that, you know, she and I, you know, have a lot in common, she and I. So shout out to her.
And I can go through a long list of people that I've met over life that I have
(11:10):
forward friendships with.
And then I have my core friends or, yeah, core friends that I speak to pretty consistently.
I didn't do an episode last week. I didn't feel inspired to do one,
but I was going to do one in regards to, you know, perceptions,
you know, intent and, you know, recognizing relationships.
(11:36):
I didn't end up recording it because I left. I was hanging out with my cousin
and a cousin that came, you know, through.
So I didn't get to record. And I was like, oh, I'll do it when I got back.
And I, you know, I was in my feelings about something.
I was in my feelings about something.
I was in my feelings about feeling appreciated.
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Me being someone who has abandonment issues and, you know, need words of affirmation
constantly and need a, I do need validation often.
And I think that's just the, that's the perks of my personality.
And it's something that I work with, with my therapist, but sometimes when I
have relationship with people, I feel like they don't necessarily understand
(12:23):
or even care to understand where I'm coming from and what I'm about, they,
sometimes I just feel not valued, you know?
And I'm not going to say, you know, I've thought deeply about the feeling that
I had, because I know some of it is self-induced.
(12:45):
Some of it could be, you know, weird, you know, odd perceptions,
you know, based on people's actions that may not necessarily be fair to them
that I have to take a pause on it.
But I had to chalk it up to just that being that I was, that it was, the problem was me.
And I really didn't have a way to flesh out the conversation,
(13:10):
so I just didn't record it.
But sometimes that's the case.
And just to give you guys context on the times that I do, I don't make any content.
It's simply because I'm in a weird space, and what I don't want to come off
as mean and preachy and sensitive and crazy.
(13:32):
To anybody. So I typically just kind of, you know, distance and,
all right, let me gather my thoughts.
I'm not evolved in that conversation yet. So hold off on putting that out because
you don't know how it's going to be mistaken.
And, you know, some of these people that you're talking about,
listen to the podcast, you know, and they may have questions that you might
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not necessarily be able to answer.
So, you know, that's the perks of the downside of having a mic sometimes,
Because sometimes you just want to use it as a venting session and you can't
because, you know, the people that you talk about, you have to face them.
You know what I'm saying?
Especially if you don't give them a heads up about what it is you're feeling.
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But it's, you know, sometimes sharing your emotions or sharing how you feel
with other people, you know, your intention is good, but it doesn't always land well.
And it's just difficult to do, you know, when you're trying to convey to someone
else about something that you feel slighted about.
But, you know, there's nothing you can do. So you really have to pick and choose your battles.
(14:37):
Like, picking and choosing your battles is more than just, oh,
do I want to have this argument? I mean, sometimes it's like,
what point am I trying to make by saying this? You know what I'm saying?
And will it really land? And if it doesn't, what do you, you know, what do you do next?
So I'm learning to do that, you know, with the people that I care about and
that I love, you know, that I don't need to fight every battle,
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you know, as fervently as I might have in the past about things that don't really
ultimately make a difference in relationships.
But, you know, whatever.
I was going to say, does that make sense? I realize whenever I'm at work,
like when I'm talking to a client, just to let y'all know I'm a claims adjuster,
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I'll say that to, does that make sense?
And that's just my way of checking for understanding for the other people,
you know, that are on the opposite side.
And that's my way of doing that for you guys, because I want y'all to be able
to understand and feel where I'm coming from.
But growing older is difficult. quote, Goran Weiser is not as easy as you think it would be.
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And being open to change becomes a little bit more difficult.
I know a couple of weeks ago, I talked about like, you know,
how change is inevitable.
And that's the one thing that we rage against often. And, you know,
even Even though I know change is something that I, that is, you know, inevitable.
(16:06):
Sometimes I do delay to have a rest of development because it's like,
oh, well, think of past situations and things that, you know,
might not, that show that might not be a good idea or the mindset that you're in.
It might not necessarily have been the best one. One, you know,
even with me transitioning to, you know, this role that I'm in with the company that I'm with,
(16:28):
you know, there was hesitation for me to move over into the claims adjuster
role because, you know, I just thought that it was going to be me being bombarded
by calls and all that other stuff all the time.
And yeah, I mean, there are days where that happens, but I was just going based
on what other people were thinking and saying and feeling rather than,
(16:48):
you know, using it as an opportunity for me to.
Just, you know, decide to do it on my own. And that was every,
that had everything to do with the previous position that I had taken.
It was really, it wasn't that it was difficult. It was actually very easy,
but it was taxing at times.
You know, anytime you deal, you deal with customers directly,
where it's a constant loop of, of customers, it could, you can,
(17:12):
it can become exhausting, whether that's internal or external customers.
And you just really have to, you know, You have to reserve your energy and I
just felt like okay I made my transition from the previous job that I had to
this one and i'm not happy about it And I was coming to grips as to how happy
how unhappy I was that I was really hesitant about making a move,
(17:33):
You know Because what if I don't get the job and then i'll be all excited and
you know You know ready to go for nothing or what if I do get the job and I
don't like it, you know There are so many other things,
And I say that to say you know.
And because of the wisdom that you may have, sometimes it will,
you know, it can delay you reacting or, you know, choosing something that will
(17:56):
ultimately be the best thing for you.
And I have to say, you know, at this point, I'm going into month,
well, I'm in month number three of being a claims adjuster. And to be honest, I absolutely love it.
I'm still kind of like in the training phase of things. I haven't got my full
load of claims, but I don't see it being something that I won't be able to handle.
And to be honest, sometimes the algorithm algorithms and sometimes you get nine
(18:18):
claims on one day and sometimes you get, you know, two claims on one day and
there's nothing you can do about it.
You just have to take it for what it is and do what you got to do.
And, you know, the idea is if I'm going to be working for the rest of my life,
why don't you do something that you enjoy?
I like the freedom that I get with this job. I like the, you know,
accessibility of being able to help people and really put forth an effort.
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Yeah, sometimes it does get frustrating rating because it's just like,
you know, you spent three days trying to contact this person and all of a sudden
on this day when you've got so many things to do, you gotta,
you know, you gotta reach out to this or somebody call you and you have to answer.
And it's just a lot of things that happen to take place that really can affect,
(19:01):
you know, your perception of things.
Things. So, but yeah, I like the job and that's the, one of the reasons why
I have a lot more time and effort to, and just energy to be able to do the podcast.
Cause that other job, man, the hours really is what kicked my butt.
I was working from one to nine 30 every damn day.
(19:22):
I only had Sundays and Wednesdays off, which is, you know, you typically have
two days off on a job, but I had Sundays and Wednesday off and I was just frustrated.
And to be honest, I was just mad. So, you know, I'm glad that I made that transition to this.
So I'll say that. But ultimately...
Getting to know Carlos and building a life, you know, braiding and weaving,
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you know, into a life that we've made.
We've met some really impressive people. We've inspired a lot of people,
which is not why we do the things that we do.
And I think that's just the byproduct of being who we are.
But we've had an opportunity to, you know, have some, you know,
real, you know, great people who celebrated who we are and celebrated who we're
(20:05):
about in our relationship. And that's fun. I love that.
You know, we still have a lot more to go. We still have more years ahead of us.
And, you know, it's really, it's really great to be able to look back and be
like, oh my God, you know, we've, you know, overcome a lot of the odds that were against us.
We've, you know, put forth some good points and good ideas, you know, throughout the rest.
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And, you know, we have really been able to grow, you know, a lot.
And, you know, we're just celebrating the month of July, you know,
as it being our 10-year anniversary of actually meeting and,
you know, evolving in a relationship.
But, yeah, yesterday we went to Red Robin, or at least we were trying to go to Red Robin.
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And that was the very first date that me and Carlos went on, went to Red Robin.
And they were closed. It was an old taco place. Wasn't very happy about it because
they didn't have avocados. I was going to eat there.
You know, if I had to choose to eat, I was going to eat there,
but they didn't have any avocados. So that was kind of, how do y'all?
But, you know, it was because the avocados weren't ripe. So there's nothing
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they can do about that. They can't make them ripe.
So, but yeah, the place that we went to, you know, it actually just closed down this year.
Or they closed, there was something with the City of Winter Garden and Red Robin
where they had to close. So they closed that.
They closed that location. We could have went to the one on I-Drive,
but it was also like 8.30 at night.
And me and Carlos, and we actually took our niece along.
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I didn't feel like going. I didn't feel like going all the way over there,
so I didn't. And we ended up eating at Chili's. We had a good experience, a good time.
I ended up telling the waiter, I'm like, whenever I eat these chips and salsa,
it has this weird aftertaste to me. And it's so strange.
I can't put my finger on it, but finger. I can't put my finger on it,
(21:59):
but it tastes like the oil is old.
She said that they change it every week, but I don't know.
Maybe they just have the oil on high frequency or some shit,
like, because it tastes burned.
You know what I'm saying? I know you guys have tasted like burnt grease before,
and you've eaten something that was fried in that burnt grease,
(22:20):
and it has that aftertaste.
That's what it tastes like to me. Now, I could be wrong. I hope I didn't offend
her, but that's what it tasted like to me.
And it's like every time I eat them, it's that way. It just kind of, you know, fucks me up.
I'd be like, but I'd be eating them now because I was hungry last night.
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But, yeah, we had fun, low key.
And then we came home, watched The Boys. There's one more freaking episode of
The Boys. And I'm so upset because I feel like we have not gotten to a point
of resolve in this season.
It's been a lot of shit that's been going on.
Spoiler alert. Freaking Starlight is a damn shapeshifter. Or they found out that she was.
(23:07):
And I can't think of... A butcher might have died.
You know what I'm saying? If you haven't watched this week's episode.
But next week is the last episode that will be airing until next year.
And next year's the last season.
So I don't think that they're going to kill Homelander. But I don't know. Homelander is weird.
Like, I feel like if they kill him, they ain't really got much else.
(23:30):
It's just really trying to tame the rest of them. You know what I'm saying? Yeah.
And then A-Train left, because it turned out his ass was the leak,
which obviously the audience knew, but Homelander didn't know.
And that was wild to me that he was crying.
And he fired Sister Sage and Liberty. I think that's her name.
(23:51):
The last episode, Liberty basically got, she was able to make it to where she
was able to produce milk.
And y'all know how much Homelander loved breast milk.
And she thought for sure that she was, you know, in there. And he was like, just get out of here.
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Man, I love that show. It's a good show. It's a good show, good show.
But, you know, it is what it is. You know, it tackled, you know,
the fight that you fight.
Sometimes you get tired of it. And there's, you know, Mother's Milk, Eminem.
You know, he said his father was killed by them.
His father's father was killed by them. and he wanted to break the cycle.
(24:36):
And I understood that. I completely understood that.
Like it hit home on a deeper level, that scene.
But I thought that it was amazing that he did that with A-Train,
which was another Black actor.
And their experiences are different, but similar in a way that they both have
that same struggle to make things right. So I love that scene.
(24:57):
I thought that it was amazing that they went back and forth.
I had to rewatch that because it just sent chills through me.
But yeah I like the boys I don't really like I know a couple weeks ago I said
that I really like you know superhero or sci-fi or whatever but I really like
the boys it's one of my favorite shows right now so yeah.
(25:19):
But anyway, guys, that's another episode of Reggie being all over the place.
I got to go. I need to go get dressed.
I want to go get some food. I need to go get my car washed. And then I need
to start the pampering. So I got to go. All right.
I appreciate you guys listening. You can find me on TikTok at Reggie's Expressions,
R-E-G-G-E-E, apostrophe S, Expressions on TikTok.
(25:41):
On Facebook, it is R-L, and that's A-R-E-L-E-L.
Socorro, S-O-C-O-R-R-O G-A-R-N-E-R On Facebook And Instagram you can find me
at R underscore N underscore Socorro Garner all together And you can also find
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me at Reggie's Expressions I think it's Reggie's dot Expressions And,
you know, for a measure If you guys want to donate to Cash App to me You can actually donate,
To me on Cash App as well You know, why not?
I ain't other content creators do it, so I'm going to do it too.
So let me get that real quick.
(26:22):
So you guys can donate to Cash App at $RLSG1980.
Any amount is appreciated.
You don't have to, but if you want to, you can.
Support a struggling content creator here. And also, the biggest thing that
you can do to help your boy out as well is share it with your friends.
You know, I'm seeing the downloads go up and I appreciate you guys loving the content.
(26:46):
I know y'all want to keep it to yourself because it's like, you want to gatekeep it and that's fine.
But, you know, if we want to really get me out there, you got to share it with other people.
So please do so. Share it to whoever on all platforms I am on for the most part.
So that's all I got. You guys enjoy the rest of your day. I love you and we'll
talk soon. See you next time.
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