In this second episode of our ego development series, we explore what it's like to move out of a 1st person perspective, and into the 2nd: the rule-oriented and conformist perspectives. We talk about how kids first discover empathy and shame, how adults organize identity around rules, roles, and group norms, and where loyalty becomes both social glue and a cage. We also unpack the “nice person” and “rebel” shadows, then close with two practices—a somatic yes/no boundary check-in and an inner rulebook audit—to help you keep the rules that protect belonging and gently retire the ones that just protect fear.
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CHAPTERS:
00:00 – Welcome & Stage Two Intro
01:32 – What Is Second-Person Perspective?
04:40 – Kids, Empathy & the Birth of Shame
09:15 – Rule-Oriented Stage
12:38 – Conformist Stage
19:15 – How Stage Two Shaped Society
23:38 – Gifts of Rules, Loyalty & Structure
35:06 – Shadows of People-Pleasing & Legalism
41:55 – Shadows of the Rebel
51:05 – Guided Practice: Yes/No Boundary Check-In
55:07 – Guided Practice: Inner Rulebook Audit
1:02:21 – Key Takeaways & Next Stage Preview
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