In this powerful episode, certified divorce coach and author Kristen Crabtree joins host Aanya to share her journey out of a 22-year psychologically abusive marriage and how she reclaimed her authentic identity at age 53. Using her unique archaeologist–artifact–architect framework and her book Be the You That’s More You Than You’ve Ever Been, Kristen explains why true inner calm doesn’t come from external fixes but from quietly reconnecting with the self you buried long ago. Listeners will discover practical ways to break toxic thought–emotion–behavior loops, why awareness is the ultimate medicine, and how even tiny shifts (like listening to one life-changing audiobook) create ripple effects of liberation.
Key Takeaways
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Your “True You 2.0” is uncovered, not created — it’s already there beneath layers of adaptation, manipulation, or burnout.
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Calm is not something you chase externally (medication, meditation apps, or perfect routines); it’s the natural byproduct of hearing and living your own inner truth.
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Awareness is medicine: noticing the cycle of Thought → Emotion → Behavior → Experience (and back) lets you interrupt the loop at any point.
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Small permissions and random moments (a friend’s book recommendation, a hair-stylist’s suggestion) can spark massive transformation — the “web story” ripple effect.
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Meditation isn’t one-size-fits-all; walking in nature, guided experiences, or Dr. Joe Dispenza-style practices can all quiet the mind enough to hear yourself.
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The biggest barrier to authenticity is staying lost in inner (and outer) chaos — choosing to become intentional and deliberate is the first step out.
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You don’t need a PhD or a guru; your true self already holds every answer you’ll ever need.
Connect with Kristen Crabtree
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Website & full ecosystem: https://www.paramourparadox.com/
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New book: Be the You That's More You Than You've Ever Been (Amazon)
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Free Community: The Murmuration
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Special listener gifts (limited time): – Buy the book by Dec 31 → enter to win 1 of 20 limited-edition Paramour Paradox T-shirts – First 5 listeners who join The Murmuration and mention this podcast → receive a signed copy of the book (free shipping) – Free “Who Am I” video series + Mind Expansion (Me²) meditations
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