September 23, 2024 • 34 mins
Welcome back to another episode of Scary But Not Scary. Today, we're blending the mystical with the practical as we dive into three intriguing topics that just might shift the way you think about fear, luck, and personal power.
First up, we'll talk about hematite, the stone of grounding and protection. Is it really just a shiny rock? Or can it help you stay focused and secure when life feels chaotic?
Then we're tackling the superstition surrounding the number 13. Is it really unlucky or have we just been telling ourselves the wrong story? From ancient beliefs to modern-day myths, we'll uncover the good, the bad, and the weird behind this infamous number.
And to round things out, we'll move into something many of us face: feeling overwhelmed by our goals. We'll explore the idea that you gotta start somewhere, whether it's a small step towards something big or overcoming intimidation. We'll break down why taking that first step can be the most powerful move you make.
So whether you're here for the metaphysical, the motivational, or just to challenge your thinking, stick around. This episode promises a little bit of everything, grounded in mystery, but not too scary.
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Music.
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Welcome back to another episode of Scary But Not Scary.
Today, we're blending the mystical with the practical as we dive into three
intriguing topics that just might shift the way you think about fear,
luck, and personal power.
First up, we'll talk about hematite, the stone of grounding and protection.
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Is it really just a shiny rock? Or can it help you stay focused and secure when life feels chaotic?
Then we're tackling the superstition surrounding the number 13.
Is it really unlucky or have we just been telling ourselves the wrong story?
From ancient beliefs to modern-day myths, we'll uncover the good,
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the bad, and the weird behind this infamous number.
And to round things out, we'll move into something many of us face.
Feeling overwhelmed by our goals, We'll explore the idea that you gotta start
somewhere, whether it's a small step towards something big or overcoming intimidation.
We'll break down why taking that first step can be the most powerful move you make.
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So whether you're here for the metaphysical, the motivational,
or just to challenge your thinking, stick around.
This episode promises a little bit of everything, grounded in mystery,
but not too scary. Let's jump in.
We'll start this episode with a positive invocation.
We call upon the white light of love and protection, of healing and cleansing
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to be with, in and around us at all times.
Please keep us safe from harm, accidents and sickness at all times.
Only good and love is allowed in our space.
Bless creation. Thank you for watching.
Music.
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Today, we're talking about a stone that's long been associated with grounding
and protection, hematite.
You've probably seen it before, those shiny metallic black stones that look like polished iron.
But hematite is more than just a pretty face.
It's believed to offer powerful metaphysical benefits that can help you feel
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more centered, balanced, and in control of your life.
Hematite's story is as rich as its deep metallic hue.
The name itself comes from the Greek word haima, meaning blood,
which might seem strange until you realize that when hematite is crushed,
it creates a reddish powder that resembles blood.
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For centuries, various cultures have held hematite in high regard.
The ancient Egyptians used it in tombs to protect the dead on their journey
to the afterlife, and the Romans believed it could grant warriors courage in battle.
What's interesting is that the stone's association with blood wasn't just literal.
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In the metaphysical world, hematite has long been tied to the life force,
our vitality, energy, and our connection to the earth.
It's often referred to as the grounding stone, which brings us to the core of
its metaphysical properties.
Hematite is best known for its grounding and protective energy.
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Now, when we talk about grounding in a metaphysical sense, we're referring to
the idea of being firmly anchored to the earth physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
Many of us spend a lot of time in our heads, consumed by thoughts,
worries, and anxieties.
It's easy to feel like you're floating away, disconnected from the present moment.
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This is where hematite shines, No pun intended.
It's believed to pull negative energy away from you and back into the earth,
neutralizing it and leaving you feeling more balanced and secure.
Think of it as a psychic anchor. When life feels chaotic, hematite can help
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bring you back to your center.
It's like a reminder to breathe, relax, and focus on what's real and present
instead of getting lost in spiraling thoughts.
Another powerful benefit attributed to hematite is its ability to enhance confidence and willpower.
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Life is full of challenges, whether it's a difficult conversation,
an intimidating task, or just getting through the day.
When you feel disconnected from your inner strength, it's easy to give in to
self-doubt and procrastination. But with hematite, the belief is that it helps
you tap into your inner reserves of strength and determination.
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Its association with the root chakra, the energy center located at the base
of your spine, means hematite is believed to activate the parts of us that relate
to survival, stability, and personal power.
People who work with hematite often report feeling more focused and determined
when carrying it, especially during difficult or intimidating situations.
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It's like the stone reminds you of your own resilience and encourages you to
move forward with confidence.
Have you ever felt like your mind is just foggy, like you're struggling to focus or make decisions?
This is another area where hematite can be helpful.
Many believe that the stone promotes mental clarity, making it easier to focus
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on tasks and make sound decisions.
This makes hematite a favorite among students or anyone dealing with complex
projects or situations that require intense focus and mental sharpness.
On a metaphysical level, this is often explained by hematite's ability to balance
the mind-body aligning your thoughts with your actions.
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By fostering a sense of calm and grounding, it helps to clear the mental clutter,
allowing you to see the bigger picture more easily.
In a world where distractions are everywhere, this is an invaluable benefit.
Now, it's important to note that hematite's metaphysical properties extend beyond
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the mental and emotional realms.
Some believe that it also offers physical healing benefits, particularly when
it comes to blood-related issues.
Given its connection to blood in ancient cultures, it's no surprise that the
hematite is thought thought to help improve circulation, regulate blood pressure,
and support overall cardiovascular health.
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While it's essential to approach these claims with an open but critical mind,
always consulting a doctor for medical issues, the idea is that hematite,
with its grounding and balancing properties, helps to harmonize the energy within
the body, which some believe can support physical healing.
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Wondering how you can incorporate hematite into your daily life?
The good news is, it's super easy.
You can wear hematite jewelry like bracelets or necklaces to keep its energy
close throughout the day.
Many people like to carry a small hematite stone in their pocket or purse,
especially during stressful situations or when they need a boost of focus or confidence.
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For grounding, try holding a hematite stone in your hand during meditation.
Imagine its energy rooting you to the earth, stabilizing and centering you.
If you're feeling mentally scattered, hold a stone in your dominant hand and focus on your breath.
Visualize the stone pulling away any distracting or negative thoughts,
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leaving your mind clear and focused.
If you're looking for protection from negative energy, place hematite near the
entrance of your home or workspace.
It's said to absorb unwanted energy, keeping your space clear and harmonious.
In the world of metaphysical stones, hematite stands out as one of the most
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practical and accessible.
Its grounding, protective, and confidence-boosting properties make it a powerful
ally for anyone looking to stay balanced, clear-headed, and in control of their energy.
Whether you're using it to combat daily stress, enhance your focus,
or connect with your inner strength, hematite is truly a stone that bridges
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the gap between the physical and metaphysical.
Music.
Now, let's dive into a topic that has been surrounded by superstition and controversy
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for centuries. The number 13.
Whether you think it's bad luck or good fortune, there's no denying that the
number 13 carries an air of mystery and power.
For many, the number 13 is synonymous with bad luck, you might avoid booking
a hotel room on the 13th floor.
Or perhaps you'd never dream of scheduling an important event on Friday the 13th.
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But what's behind this fear? Why do people believe that 13 is unlucky?
And is there any truth to it? On the flip side, there are cultures and individuals
who view 13 as a number of luck and even prosperity.
So today we're going to look at both the good the bad surrounding the number
13 from its history and symbolism to real-life examples of how it has influenced people and events.
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By the end you might find yourself reconsidering your stance on this mysterious number.
Let's start by addressing the elephant in the room.
The fear of the number 13 is also known as Triskaideka phobia.
The word itself comes from Greek tris meaning three, kai meaning and,
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and deka meaning ten, with phobia meaning fear.
This fear is deeply ingrained in many cultures around the world.
But where did it come from? One of the most popular theories traces the fear
of 13 back to Norse mythology.
According to knowledge, legend, there was a banquet in Valhalla, the Hall of Gods.
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Twelve gods were invited to this feast, but then a thirteenth guest,
Loki, the trickster god, arrived uninvited.
Loki's presence led to chaos and ultimately resulted in the death of the beloved god Baldur.
This story gave rise to the idea
that 13 was an unlucky number because it disrupted balance and harmony.
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Another possible origin of the superstition comes from Christianity.
At the Last Supper, Jesus sat with 12 disciples, making them 13 in total.
According to the Bible, Judas, the disciple who betrayed Jesus,
was the 13th person to sit at the table.
The association of Judas with the number 13 led to belief that this number was
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cursed or unlucky, particularly when it connected the betrayal and death.
These religious and mythological stories have deeply influenced Western views of the number 13.
But it's important to note that this fear of 13 isn't universal.
In fact, some cultures revere the number.
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Now, we can't talk about the number 13 without mentioning Friday the 13th,
a day that has become synonymous with bad luck.
The combination of the unlucky number 13 and Friday, a day considered inauspicious
in some cultures, creates a double whammy of bad fortune in minds of many.
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But why Friday? Some scholars believe this goes back to the crucification of
Jesus, which is traditionally thought to have taken place on a Friday.
Coupled with the number 13, the 13th guest at the Last Supper,
Friday the 13th has become a date that people were naturally inclined to avoid.
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Another popular theory connects Friday the 13th to the Knights Templar,
a medieval Christian military order.
On Friday, October 13th, 1307, many members of the Templar order were arrested
by the French king, and many of them were executed.
Some believe that this event cemented Friday the 13th as a day of misfortune.
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And yet, despite the bad press, Friday the 13th isn't all doom and gloom.
Some people believe that it's the perfect day for good luck,
especially those who embrace the number 13 as a source of power or uniqueness.
In fact, many people look forward to Friday the 13th as a day to buck the trends
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and embrace their own forms of luck.
While 13 is often seen as unlucky in Western cultures, it's revered in many others.
In ancient Egypt, for example, 13 was considered a lucky number,
associated with the concept of rebirth.
Egyptians believed that life unfolded in 12 stages, and the 13th stage representing
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the afterlife and spiritual transformation.
Rather than fear 13, they embraced it as a symbol of eternity and immortality.
In numerology, the number 13 isn't inherently unlucky either.
In fact, numerologists believe that 13 holds the potential for great transformation.
It combines the energy of number 1, which symbolizes new beginnings and leadership,
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with the number 3, which represents creativity and communication.
When these energies come together in 13, they suggest that overcoming obstacles
or challenges can lead to personal growth and renewal.
Interestingly, in Judaism, 13 holds a significant and positive meaning.
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Jewish boys celebrate their bar mitzvah at the age of 13, marking their passage into adulthood.
The number is also associated with responsibility, maturity, and spiritual growth.
And in Tarot, the 13th card in the Major Arcana is the Death card.
While this might sound ominous, the card actually symbolizes transformation
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and new beginnings, much like the number 13 itself.
It's less likely about physical death and more about the end of one cycle and
start of another. other.
In Sikhism, the number 13 holds a special and significant meaning,
especially due to its pronunciation.
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In Punjabi, the primary language of the Sikh scriptures, the number 13 is pronounced as Tera.
In Punjabi, which also means yours or I am yours, referring to God.
This concept of Tera Syra symbolizes a profound sense of devotion and surrender to the divine.
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Here are a few key aspects of the significance of the number 13 in Sikhism.
In Sikhism, the idea of surrendering to God's will, known as Hakam, is a central theme.
The word Thera, as I am yours, is a constant reminder of humility,
servitude, and the individual's relationship with the divine.
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The concept of everything belonging to God is deeply ingrained in Sikh philosophy,
and the number 13 becomes a symbolic representation of that relationship.
A famous story from the life of Guru Nanak Devji, the founder of Sikhism, involves the number 13.
According to tradition, Guru Nanak worked as a storekeeper.
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He was responsible for distributing food to the needy.
When counting out items for distribution, Guru Nanak reached the number 13, or Tehran.
At that point, Guru Granth stopped counting and began giving away food freely,
repeatedly saying, Dera, Dera, meaning, I am yours, I am yours.
This story highlights Guru Nanak's complete submission to God's will and his
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deep compassion for humanity.
In daily Sikh prayers and hymns from the Guru Granth Sahib, the central scripture
of Sikhism, the idea of surrendering oneself to God is frequently emphasized.
The use of the word Dera becomes a spiritual practice for Sikhs,
reminding them that everything they have and do is ultimately in God's service
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and belongs to the Divine.
The number 13 also symbolizes the spirit of seva and generosity in Sikhism as
demonstrated by Guru Nanak's actions.
This idea continues to be reflected in the practice of Langar,
the communal kitchen where Sikhs freely serve food to all without distinction,
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reinforcing the idea that resources belong to God and should be shared with the community.
Despite the positive associations, the fear of 13 remains strong in many places today.
Take a look at the modern world. How often do you find a building with a 13th floor?
How many hotels and high-rise buildings simply skip over the number,
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going straight from 12 to 14?
Airlines often omit row 13 interceding arrangements.
This avoidance is known as dry sky damp phobia. I totally slaughtered that.
Interestingly, some believe this fear creates an opportunity for those who aren't afraid of 13.
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Because the number is so widely avoided, properties or items associated with
13 can sometimes be sold at a discount.
So for those who see 13 as lucky, this number could represent a unique form of good fortune.
And let's not forget about sports, where athletes have embraced the number 13
as a personal symbol of defiance against superstition.
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For instance, legendary basketball player Wilt Chamberlain wore the number 13
throughout his career, and it certainly didn't bring him any bad luck.
He's still regarded as one of the greatest players in NBA history.
Similarly, soccer players like Alfredo de Stefano wore 13 with pride,
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often using it as a badge of courage.
For many, embracing the number 13 is a way to challenge the status quo.
It's a number that stands out, one that represents rebellion and nonconformity.
If society tells us that 13 is unlucky, there are those who will embrace it
precisely because it goes against the grain.
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In recent years this attitude has been embraced by the witchcraft community
and other spiritual groups that see 13 as a number of strength and empowerment.
Witches in particular have reclaimed the number seeing it as a symbol of their
gathering as covens are traditionally said to have 13 members.
The number has become a symbol of both rebellion and mystical power,
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transcending the fear and superstition that has surrounded it for centuries.
Another often overlooked fact about the number 13 is its connection to the lunar cycle.
In many ancient cultures, the moon was revered as a powerful symbol of femininity,
magic, and transformation.
The lunar calendar has 13 cycles in a year, meaning that many ancient cultures
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viewed 13 as a natural, sacred number.
In fact, this connection to the moon might explain why 13 was viewed positively
in earlier times, particularly in societies that honoured the moon and divine feminine.
It wasn't until later that the number took a more sinister connotation in Western cultures.
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So, is the number 13 really unlucky? It depends on who you ask.
For some, 13 carries a weight of superstition, connected with stories of betrayal, chaos, and death.
For others, it's a number of power, transformation, and even luck.
What is clear is that 13 holds a unique place in our collective consciousness,
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representing both fear and potential.
Whether you're someone who avoids the number at all costs, or someone who embraces
it as a symbol of defiance, 13 is a number that will continue to intrigue,
inspire, and spook people for years to come.
Music.
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I'll see you next time.
Whether it's the fear of the unknown or the fear of failure,
We all know what it's like to face something that feels larger than life and
think, there is no way I can do this.
Today, we're going to talk about a topic that touches us all at one point or another.
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How to approach a goal that seems too big, too scary, or too far away,
and why the most important thing is to simply start.
Before we dive into this, let's take a moment to acknowledge something.
Fear is a natural response.
When we have big dreams or set out to achieve something meaningful,
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the sheer size of the task can be overwhelming.
But here's the catch. Every journey, no matter how long, starts with a single step.
Let's break it down, and by the end of this episode, I hope you'll walk away
with the courage to take that first, all-important step towards your intimidating goal.
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Let's start by talking about why certain goals intimidate us.
Why do we freeze in the face of some challenges while others seem so easy?
Well, it's all about perception. The human brain is wired to keep us safe. Thank you, evolution.
When something feels new, unknown, or too big to handle, our brain's immediate
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reaction is often to say, nope, too much, better stay safe.
And for some of us that voice of
doubt is really loud let's consider
what happens when you face an intimidating goal say
writing a book a hundred thousand words
that's enormous the sheer scope of
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it might make you feel unqualified unprepared or even paralyzed the same goes
for running a marathon starting a new business or even pursuing a new relationship
the end goal seems seems so far off that we feel trapped by the enormity of it all.
However, here's the reality. The goal itself isn't really what's scary.
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What's truly frightening is the process of getting there.
The unknown steps between where you are now and where you want to be.
You see, it's not the mountain that
intimidates you. It's the fear of not knowing if you can reach the top.
But here's Here's the thing, no one climbs a mountain in a single leap.
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They take it one step at a time.
So let's break it down.
Step 1. Reframe your goal.
The first thing you can do when faced with an intimidating goal is to reframe it.
Don't look at it as a massive mountain to climb. Instead, see it as a series of smaller hills.
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This shift in mindset can change everything. For example, instead of saying,
I want to lose 50 pounds, say, I want to lose 5 pounds.
Or instead of saying, I want to launch a successful business,
Say, I want to create my first product idea.
Breaking the goal into smaller bite-sized pieces makes it more digestible and
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more importantly, less terrifying.
Let's use an analogy here. If you were handed a 500-page book and told to memorize
it, you'd likely laugh and think, that's impossible.
But what if you were told to read and review one page a day?
Suddenly the task doesn't seem so impossible anymore.
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Sure it'll take a while but page by page you'll get through it.
When you break a goal down into smaller steps each step feels achievable and
that's where confidence begins to grow.
When you achieve that first step no matter how small you start to prove to yourself
that progress is possible.
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This is the fuel that keeps you going.
Step two, focus on progress, not perfection.
A lot of times we stop ourselves from even starting because we're afraid that it won't be perfect.
We think, if I can't do it exactly right, why bother?
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Perfectionism is one of the biggest barriers to progress.
And the truth is, you're not going to be perfect when you start. No one is.
Think about your favorite athletes, writers, or business leaders.
Every one of them started somewhere and every one of them stumbled at some point.
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Michael Jordan didn't make every shot when he first picked up a basketball.
J.K. Rowling didn't write Harry Potter in one flawless draft.
What made them successful was the fact that but they kept moving forward,
learning from each mistake and improving over time.
So when you set out to achieve your goal, allow yourself to be imperfect.
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Take messy action. Even if your first step is small and not exactly what you
envisioned, it's still progress.
Forward is forward, even if it's not in a straight line.
Let me put this in practical terms. If you want to run a marathon but haven't
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run a mile in years, perfection would look like running five miles on your first try.
That's unrealistic and likely to leave you feeling defeated.
Progress, however, might look like walking one mile today, jogging the next,
and building up from there.
Focus on progress. Perfection can wait. Forever, if necessary.
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Step 3. Build Momentum Through Action.
Momentum is one of the most powerful forces when it comes to achieving any goal.
And the best way to build momentum is to take action, no matter how small.
When you take even the tiniest step towards your goal, you're creating forward
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movement, and that movement is what starts to dissolve the fear and intimidation.
Here's a little secret. Starting is often the hardest part. Once you take that
first step, the next one becomes easier.
Action creates confidence, and confidence creates more action.
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Think of it like a snowball rolling down a hill. It starts small,
but with each turn it grows in size and speed.
That's how momentum works. But in order for it to build, you have to get that snowball rolling.
So if your goal is to launch a podcast, don't start by worrying about how you'll
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record a perfect episode.
Instead, start by writing down
your first episode idea. Maybe the next day you look into microphones.
Then you write your script. Before you know it, you've built momentum,
and suddenly the goal that once felt intimidating is within reach.
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Step 4. Embrace the process. One of the reasons we get stuck is because we want results now.
We live in a world that glorifies instant gratification.
But real meaningful goals take time. Instead of rushing towards the finish line,
learn to embrace the process.
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There's beauty in the journey, even when it's tough.
It's in the daily practice, the grind, the small victories that lead you towards something bigger.
Let's talk about a classic story.
The tortoise and the hare. The hare was fast, sure, but he got cocky and didn't respect the process.
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The tortoise, slow but steady, won the race because he kept moving, one step at a time.
You're the tortoise in this story. Your goal might take time,
but if you keep going, you'll get there.
Step 5. Overcoming setbacks. Setbacks are inevitable.
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You're going to encounter obstacles along the way, whether it's a lack of time,
resources, or motivation.
The key is to expect setbacks and know they are a part of the process.
What matters most is how you respond to them.
When a setback happens, don't see it as a sign to give up. Instead, see it as feedback.
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It's It's an opportunity to adjust, pivot, and keep going.
Resilience is the name of the game, and you're chasing a big goal.
You're going to get knocked down, but that doesn't mean you've failed.
The only real failure is quitting.
Step 6. Celebrate small wins.
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Finally, celebrate the small wins. Every time you achieve even the smallest
part of your goal, acknowledge it.
Did you run that first mile? Celebrate. Did you finish the first draft of your book?
Celebrate. These small victories will keep you motivated and remind you that
you're making progress, even when the end goal still feels far away.
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Remember, success is a series of small wins, not one big finish line.
So, to wrap this up, when you're faced with a goal that feels too big,
too scary or too far away, remember this, you don't have to see the whole path
right now, you just have to see the next step.
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And that step is the key. It doesn't have to be perfect, it doesn't have to
be huge, it just has to happen.
Once you take that first step, momentum will build, fear will fade,
and before you know it, you'll be further along than you ever thought possible.
As the famous quote goes, the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.
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If today's topic resonated with you, I encourage you to take that first step
towards whatever goal has been looming over you.
It's scary, sure, but it's also exciting. And most importantly, you can do it.
Music.
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As we wrap up today's episode of Scary But Not Scary, we have explored some
fascinating topics that remind us just how connected everything can be.
Whether it's the grounding power of hematite, the idea of taking that first
step towards our goals, or even the superstition and mystery surrounding the number 13.
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Hematite, with its ability to keep us grounded and clear-headed,
reminds us that stability starts within.
When we face challenges or doubts, We need something to help us stay balanced,
and hematite can serve as that anchor in our lives.
We also touched on the number 13. Feared by some, revered by others.
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It's a number that challenges us to rethink what we've been told and to look
deeper into what truly holds power in our lives.
Whether it's luck or bad omens, the truth is, what we believe shapes our reality.
Finally we talked about the importance of starting
somewhere no matter how daunting a task
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might seem everything begins with that
first step like I said before perfection
doesn't come on day one it's the
willingness to begin even imperfectly that sets us on a path to success so if
there's one thing to take away from this episode it's that life's mysteries
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whether in stones numbers Numbers
or new beginnings are all about how we choose to interact with them.
Embrace what grounds you. Take that first step and maybe give the number 13 a second chance.
It might not be so scary after all.
If you liked today's episode, please rate, review and follow this podcast.
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It'll really help to grow this podcast and help it reach as many listeners as possible.
Thank you for tuning in today. Until next time, stay inspired,
stay resilient, and don't fear the darkness.
This is Sony, signing off.
Music.
Music.
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Welcome back to another episode of Scary But Not Scary.
Today, we're blending the mystical with the practical as we dive into three
intriguing topics that just might shift the way you think about fear,
luck, and personal power.
First up, we'll talk about hematite, the stone of grounding and protection.
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Is it really just a shiny rock? Or can it help you stay focused and secure when life feels chaotic?
Then we're tackling the superstition surrounding the number 13.
Is it really unlucky or have we just been telling ourselves the wrong story?
From ancient beliefs to modern-day myths, we'll uncover the good,
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the bad, and the weird behind this infamous number.
And to round things out, we'll move into something many of us face.
Feeling overwhelmed by our goals, We'll explore the idea that you gotta start
somewhere, whether it's a small step towards something big or overcoming intimidation.
We'll break down why taking that first step can be the most powerful move you make.
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So whether you're here for the metaphysical, the motivational,
or just to challenge your thinking, stick around.
This episode promises a little bit of everything, grounded in mystery,
but not too scary. Let's jump in.
We'll start this episode with a positive invocation.
We call upon the white light of love and protection, of healing and cleansing
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to be with, in and around us at all times.
Please keep us safe from harm, accidents and sickness at all times.
Only good and love is allowed in our space.
Bless creation. Thank you for watching.
Music.
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Today, we're talking about a stone that's long been associated with grounding
and protection, hematite.
You've probably seen it before, those shiny metallic black stones that look like polished iron.
But hematite is more than just a pretty face.
It's believed to offer powerful metaphysical benefits that can help you feel
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more centered, balanced, and in control of your life.
Hematite's story is as rich as its deep metallic hue.
The name itself comes from the Greek word haima, meaning blood,
which might seem strange until you realize that when hematite is crushed,
it creates a reddish powder that resembles blood.
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For centuries, various cultures have held hematite in high regard.
The ancient Egyptians used it in tombs to protect the dead on their journey
to the afterlife, and the Romans believed it could grant warriors courage in battle.
What's interesting is that the stone's association with blood wasn't just literal.
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In the metaphysical world, hematite has long been tied to the life force,
our vitality, energy, and our connection to the earth.
It's often referred to as the grounding stone, which brings us to the core of
its metaphysical properties.
Hematite is best known for its grounding and protective energy.
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Now, when we talk about grounding in a metaphysical sense, we're referring to
the idea of being firmly anchored to the earth physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
Many of us spend a lot of time in our heads, consumed by thoughts,
worries, and anxieties.
It's easy to feel like you're floating away, disconnected from the present moment.
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This is where hematite shines, No pun intended.
It's believed to pull negative energy away from you and back into the earth,
neutralizing it and leaving you feeling more balanced and secure.
Think of it as a psychic anchor. When life feels chaotic, hematite can help
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bring you back to your center.
It's like a reminder to breathe, relax, and focus on what's real and present
instead of getting lost in spiraling thoughts.
Another powerful benefit attributed to hematite is its ability to enhance confidence and willpower.
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Life is full of challenges, whether it's a difficult conversation,
an intimidating task, or just getting through the day.
When you feel disconnected from your inner strength, it's easy to give in to
self-doubt and procrastination. But with hematite, the belief is that it helps
you tap into your inner reserves of strength and determination.
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Its association with the root chakra, the energy center located at the base
of your spine, means hematite is believed to activate the parts of us that relate
to survival, stability, and personal power.
People who work with hematite often report feeling more focused and determined
when carrying it, especially during difficult or intimidating situations.
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It's like the stone reminds you of your own resilience and encourages you to
move forward with confidence.
Have you ever felt like your mind is just foggy, like you're struggling to focus or make decisions?
This is another area where hematite can be helpful.
Many believe that the stone promotes mental clarity, making it easier to focus
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on tasks and make sound decisions.
This makes hematite a favorite among students or anyone dealing with complex
projects or situations that require intense focus and mental sharpness.
On a metaphysical level, this is often explained by hematite's ability to balance
the mind-body aligning your thoughts with your actions.
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By fostering a sense of calm and grounding, it helps to clear the mental clutter,
allowing you to see the bigger picture more easily.
In a world where distractions are everywhere, this is an invaluable benefit.
Now, it's important to note that hematite's metaphysical properties extend beyond
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the mental and emotional realms.
Some believe that it also offers physical healing benefits, particularly when
it comes to blood-related issues.
Given its connection to blood in ancient cultures, it's no surprise that the
hematite is thought thought to help improve circulation, regulate blood pressure,
and support overall cardiovascular health.
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While it's essential to approach these claims with an open but critical mind,
always consulting a doctor for medical issues, the idea is that hematite,
with its grounding and balancing properties, helps to harmonize the energy within
the body, which some believe can support physical healing.
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Wondering how you can incorporate hematite into your daily life?
The good news is, it's super easy.
You can wear hematite jewelry like bracelets or necklaces to keep its energy
close throughout the day.
Many people like to carry a small hematite stone in their pocket or purse,
especially during stressful situations or when they need a boost of focus or confidence.
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For grounding, try holding a hematite stone in your hand during meditation.
Imagine its energy rooting you to the earth, stabilizing and centering you.
If you're feeling mentally scattered, hold a stone in your dominant hand and focus on your breath.
Visualize the stone pulling away any distracting or negative thoughts,
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leaving your mind clear and focused.
If you're looking for protection from negative energy, place hematite near the
entrance of your home or workspace.
It's said to absorb unwanted energy, keeping your space clear and harmonious.
In the world of metaphysical stones, hematite stands out as one of the most
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practical and accessible.
Its grounding, protective, and confidence-boosting properties make it a powerful
ally for anyone looking to stay balanced, clear-headed, and in control of their energy.
Whether you're using it to combat daily stress, enhance your focus,
or connect with your inner strength, hematite is truly a stone that bridges
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the gap between the physical and metaphysical.
Music.
Now, let's dive into a topic that has been surrounded by superstition and controversy
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for centuries. The number 13.
Whether you think it's bad luck or good fortune, there's no denying that the
number 13 carries an air of mystery and power.
For many, the number 13 is synonymous with bad luck, you might avoid booking
a hotel room on the 13th floor.
Or perhaps you'd never dream of scheduling an important event on Friday the 13th.
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But what's behind this fear? Why do people believe that 13 is unlucky?
And is there any truth to it? On the flip side, there are cultures and individuals
who view 13 as a number of luck and even prosperity.
So today we're going to look at both the good the bad surrounding the number
13 from its history and symbolism to real-life examples of how it has influenced people and events.
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By the end you might find yourself reconsidering your stance on this mysterious number.
Let's start by addressing the elephant in the room.
The fear of the number 13 is also known as Triskaideka phobia.
The word itself comes from Greek tris meaning three, kai meaning and,
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and deka meaning ten, with phobia meaning fear.
This fear is deeply ingrained in many cultures around the world.
But where did it come from? One of the most popular theories traces the fear
of 13 back to Norse mythology.
According to knowledge, legend, there was a banquet in Valhalla, the Hall of Gods.
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Twelve gods were invited to this feast, but then a thirteenth guest,
Loki, the trickster god, arrived uninvited.
Loki's presence led to chaos and ultimately resulted in the death of the beloved god Baldur.
This story gave rise to the idea
that 13 was an unlucky number because it disrupted balance and harmony.
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Another possible origin of the superstition comes from Christianity.
At the Last Supper, Jesus sat with 12 disciples, making them 13 in total.
According to the Bible, Judas, the disciple who betrayed Jesus,
was the 13th person to sit at the table.
The association of Judas with the number 13 led to belief that this number was
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cursed or unlucky, particularly when it connected the betrayal and death.
These religious and mythological stories have deeply influenced Western views of the number 13.
But it's important to note that this fear of 13 isn't universal.
In fact, some cultures revere the number.
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Now, we can't talk about the number 13 without mentioning Friday the 13th,
a day that has become synonymous with bad luck.
The combination of the unlucky number 13 and Friday, a day considered inauspicious
in some cultures, creates a double whammy of bad fortune in minds of many.
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But why Friday? Some scholars believe this goes back to the crucification of
Jesus, which is traditionally thought to have taken place on a Friday.
Coupled with the number 13, the 13th guest at the Last Supper,
Friday the 13th has become a date that people were naturally inclined to avoid.
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Another popular theory connects Friday the 13th to the Knights Templar,
a medieval Christian military order.
On Friday, October 13th, 1307, many members of the Templar order were arrested
by the French king, and many of them were executed.
Some believe that this event cemented Friday the 13th as a day of misfortune.
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And yet, despite the bad press, Friday the 13th isn't all doom and gloom.
Some people believe that it's the perfect day for good luck,
especially those who embrace the number 13 as a source of power or uniqueness.
In fact, many people look forward to Friday the 13th as a day to buck the trends
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and embrace their own forms of luck.
While 13 is often seen as unlucky in Western cultures, it's revered in many others.
In ancient Egypt, for example, 13 was considered a lucky number,
associated with the concept of rebirth.
Egyptians believed that life unfolded in 12 stages, and the 13th stage representing
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the afterlife and spiritual transformation.
Rather than fear 13, they embraced it as a symbol of eternity and immortality.
In numerology, the number 13 isn't inherently unlucky either.
In fact, numerologists believe that 13 holds the potential for great transformation.
It combines the energy of number 1, which symbolizes new beginnings and leadership,
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with the number 3, which represents creativity and communication.
When these energies come together in 13, they suggest that overcoming obstacles
or challenges can lead to personal growth and renewal.
Interestingly, in Judaism, 13 holds a significant and positive meaning.
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Jewish boys celebrate their bar mitzvah at the age of 13, marking their passage into adulthood.
The number is also associated with responsibility, maturity, and spiritual growth.
And in Tarot, the 13th card in the Major Arcana is the Death card.
While this might sound ominous, the card actually symbolizes transformation
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and new beginnings, much like the number 13 itself.
It's less likely about physical death and more about the end of one cycle and
start of another. other.
In Sikhism, the number 13 holds a special and significant meaning,
especially due to its pronunciation.
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In Punjabi, the primary language of the Sikh scriptures, the number 13 is pronounced as Tera.
In Punjabi, which also means yours or I am yours, referring to God.
This concept of Tera Syra symbolizes a profound sense of devotion and surrender to the divine.
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Here are a few key aspects of the significance of the number 13 in Sikhism.
In Sikhism, the idea of surrendering to God's will, known as Hakam, is a central theme.
The word Thera, as I am yours, is a constant reminder of humility,
servitude, and the individual's relationship with the divine.
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The concept of everything belonging to God is deeply ingrained in Sikh philosophy,
and the number 13 becomes a symbolic representation of that relationship.
A famous story from the life of Guru Nanak Devji, the founder of Sikhism, involves the number 13.
According to tradition, Guru Nanak worked as a storekeeper.
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He was responsible for distributing food to the needy.
When counting out items for distribution, Guru Nanak reached the number 13, or Tehran.
At that point, Guru Granth stopped counting and began giving away food freely,
repeatedly saying, Dera, Dera, meaning, I am yours, I am yours.
This story highlights Guru Nanak's complete submission to God's will and his
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deep compassion for humanity.
In daily Sikh prayers and hymns from the Guru Granth Sahib, the central scripture
of Sikhism, the idea of surrendering oneself to God is frequently emphasized.
The use of the word Dera becomes a spiritual practice for Sikhs,
reminding them that everything they have and do is ultimately in God's service
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and belongs to the Divine.
The number 13 also symbolizes the spirit of seva and generosity in Sikhism as
demonstrated by Guru Nanak's actions.
This idea continues to be reflected in the practice of Langar,
the communal kitchen where Sikhs freely serve food to all without distinction,
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reinforcing the idea that resources belong to God and should be shared with the community.
Despite the positive associations, the fear of 13 remains strong in many places today.
Take a look at the modern world. How often do you find a building with a 13th floor?
How many hotels and high-rise buildings simply skip over the number,
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going straight from 12 to 14?
Airlines often omit row 13 interceding arrangements.
This avoidance is known as dry sky damp phobia. I totally slaughtered that.
Interestingly, some believe this fear creates an opportunity for those who aren't afraid of 13.
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Because the number is so widely avoided, properties or items associated with
13 can sometimes be sold at a discount.
So for those who see 13 as lucky, this number could represent a unique form of good fortune.
And let's not forget about sports, where athletes have embraced the number 13
as a personal symbol of defiance against superstition.
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For instance, legendary basketball player Wilt Chamberlain wore the number 13
throughout his career, and it certainly didn't bring him any bad luck.
He's still regarded as one of the greatest players in NBA history.
Similarly, soccer players like Alfredo de Stefano wore 13 with pride,
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often using it as a badge of courage.
For many, embracing the number 13 is a way to challenge the status quo.
It's a number that stands out, one that represents rebellion and nonconformity.
If society tells us that 13 is unlucky, there are those who will embrace it
precisely because it goes against the grain.
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In recent years this attitude has been embraced by the witchcraft community
and other spiritual groups that see 13 as a number of strength and empowerment.
Witches in particular have reclaimed the number seeing it as a symbol of their
gathering as covens are traditionally said to have 13 members.
The number has become a symbol of both rebellion and mystical power,
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transcending the fear and superstition that has surrounded it for centuries.
Another often overlooked fact about the number 13 is its connection to the lunar cycle.
In many ancient cultures, the moon was revered as a powerful symbol of femininity,
magic, and transformation.
The lunar calendar has 13 cycles in a year, meaning that many ancient cultures
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viewed 13 as a natural, sacred number.
In fact, this connection to the moon might explain why 13 was viewed positively
in earlier times, particularly in societies that honoured the moon and divine feminine.
It wasn't until later that the number took a more sinister connotation in Western cultures.
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So, is the number 13 really unlucky? It depends on who you ask.
For some, 13 carries a weight of superstition, connected with stories of betrayal, chaos, and death.
For others, it's a number of power, transformation, and even luck.
What is clear is that 13 holds a unique place in our collective consciousness,
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representing both fear and potential.
Whether you're someone who avoids the number at all costs, or someone who embraces
it as a symbol of defiance, 13 is a number that will continue to intrigue,
inspire, and spook people for years to come.
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I'll see you next time.
Whether it's the fear of the unknown or the fear of failure,
We all know what it's like to face something that feels larger than life and
think, there is no way I can do this.
Today, we're going to talk about a topic that touches us all at one point or another.
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How to approach a goal that seems too big, too scary, or too far away,
and why the most important thing is to simply start.
Before we dive into this, let's take a moment to acknowledge something.
Fear is a natural response.
When we have big dreams or set out to achieve something meaningful,
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the sheer size of the task can be overwhelming.
But here's the catch. Every journey, no matter how long, starts with a single step.
Let's break it down, and by the end of this episode, I hope you'll walk away
with the courage to take that first, all-important step towards your intimidating goal.
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Let's start by talking about why certain goals intimidate us.
Why do we freeze in the face of some challenges while others seem so easy?
Well, it's all about perception. The human brain is wired to keep us safe. Thank you, evolution.
When something feels new, unknown, or too big to handle, our brain's immediate
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reaction is often to say, nope, too much, better stay safe.
And for some of us that voice of
doubt is really loud let's consider
what happens when you face an intimidating goal say
writing a book a hundred thousand words
that's enormous the sheer scope of
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it might make you feel unqualified unprepared or even paralyzed the same goes
for running a marathon starting a new business or even pursuing a new relationship
the end goal seems seems so far off that we feel trapped by the enormity of it all.
However, here's the reality. The goal itself isn't really what's scary.
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What's truly frightening is the process of getting there.
The unknown steps between where you are now and where you want to be.
You see, it's not the mountain that
intimidates you. It's the fear of not knowing if you can reach the top.
But here's Here's the thing, no one climbs a mountain in a single leap.
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They take it one step at a time.
So let's break it down.
Step 1. Reframe your goal.
The first thing you can do when faced with an intimidating goal is to reframe it.
Don't look at it as a massive mountain to climb. Instead, see it as a series of smaller hills.
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This shift in mindset can change everything. For example, instead of saying,
I want to lose 50 pounds, say, I want to lose 5 pounds.
Or instead of saying, I want to launch a successful business,
Say, I want to create my first product idea.
Breaking the goal into smaller bite-sized pieces makes it more digestible and
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more importantly, less terrifying.
Let's use an analogy here. If you were handed a 500-page book and told to memorize
it, you'd likely laugh and think, that's impossible.
But what if you were told to read and review one page a day?
Suddenly the task doesn't seem so impossible anymore.
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Sure it'll take a while but page by page you'll get through it.
When you break a goal down into smaller steps each step feels achievable and
that's where confidence begins to grow.
When you achieve that first step no matter how small you start to prove to yourself
that progress is possible.
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This is the fuel that keeps you going.
Step two, focus on progress, not perfection.
A lot of times we stop ourselves from even starting because we're afraid that it won't be perfect.
We think, if I can't do it exactly right, why bother?
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Perfectionism is one of the biggest barriers to progress.
And the truth is, you're not going to be perfect when you start. No one is.
Think about your favorite athletes, writers, or business leaders.
Every one of them started somewhere and every one of them stumbled at some point.
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Michael Jordan didn't make every shot when he first picked up a basketball.
J.K. Rowling didn't write Harry Potter in one flawless draft.
What made them successful was the fact that but they kept moving forward,
learning from each mistake and improving over time.
So when you set out to achieve your goal, allow yourself to be imperfect.
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Take messy action. Even if your first step is small and not exactly what you
envisioned, it's still progress.
Forward is forward, even if it's not in a straight line.
Let me put this in practical terms. If you want to run a marathon but haven't
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run a mile in years, perfection would look like running five miles on your first try.
That's unrealistic and likely to leave you feeling defeated.
Progress, however, might look like walking one mile today, jogging the next,
and building up from there.
Focus on progress. Perfection can wait. Forever, if necessary.
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Step 3. Build Momentum Through Action.
Momentum is one of the most powerful forces when it comes to achieving any goal.
And the best way to build momentum is to take action, no matter how small.
When you take even the tiniest step towards your goal, you're creating forward
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movement, and that movement is what starts to dissolve the fear and intimidation.
Here's a little secret. Starting is often the hardest part. Once you take that
first step, the next one becomes easier.
Action creates confidence, and confidence creates more action.
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Think of it like a snowball rolling down a hill. It starts small,
but with each turn it grows in size and speed.
That's how momentum works. But in order for it to build, you have to get that snowball rolling.
So if your goal is to launch a podcast, don't start by worrying about how you'll
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record a perfect episode.
Instead, start by writing down
your first episode idea. Maybe the next day you look into microphones.
Then you write your script. Before you know it, you've built momentum,
and suddenly the goal that once felt intimidating is within reach.
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Step 4. Embrace the process. One of the reasons we get stuck is because we want results now.
We live in a world that glorifies instant gratification.
But real meaningful goals take time. Instead of rushing towards the finish line,
learn to embrace the process.
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There's beauty in the journey, even when it's tough.
It's in the daily practice, the grind, the small victories that lead you towards something bigger.
Let's talk about a classic story.
The tortoise and the hare. The hare was fast, sure, but he got cocky and didn't respect the process.
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The tortoise, slow but steady, won the race because he kept moving, one step at a time.
You're the tortoise in this story. Your goal might take time,
but if you keep going, you'll get there.
Step 5. Overcoming setbacks. Setbacks are inevitable.
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You're going to encounter obstacles along the way, whether it's a lack of time,
resources, or motivation.
The key is to expect setbacks and know they are a part of the process.
What matters most is how you respond to them.
When a setback happens, don't see it as a sign to give up. Instead, see it as feedback.
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It's It's an opportunity to adjust, pivot, and keep going.
Resilience is the name of the game, and you're chasing a big goal.
You're going to get knocked down, but that doesn't mean you've failed.
The only real failure is quitting.
Step 6. Celebrate small wins.
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Finally, celebrate the small wins. Every time you achieve even the smallest
part of your goal, acknowledge it.
Did you run that first mile? Celebrate. Did you finish the first draft of your book?
Celebrate. These small victories will keep you motivated and remind you that
you're making progress, even when the end goal still feels far away.
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Remember, success is a series of small wins, not one big finish line.
So, to wrap this up, when you're faced with a goal that feels too big,
too scary or too far away, remember this, you don't have to see the whole path
right now, you just have to see the next step.
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And that step is the key. It doesn't have to be perfect, it doesn't have to
be huge, it just has to happen.
Once you take that first step, momentum will build, fear will fade,
and before you know it, you'll be further along than you ever thought possible.
As the famous quote goes, the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.
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If today's topic resonated with you, I encourage you to take that first step
towards whatever goal has been looming over you.
It's scary, sure, but it's also exciting. And most importantly, you can do it.
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As we wrap up today's episode of Scary But Not Scary, we have explored some
fascinating topics that remind us just how connected everything can be.
Whether it's the grounding power of hematite, the idea of taking that first
step towards our goals, or even the superstition and mystery surrounding the number 13.
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Hematite, with its ability to keep us grounded and clear-headed,
reminds us that stability starts within.
When we face challenges or doubts, We need something to help us stay balanced,
and hematite can serve as that anchor in our lives.
We also touched on the number 13. Feared by some, revered by others.
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It's a number that challenges us to rethink what we've been told and to look
deeper into what truly holds power in our lives.
Whether it's luck or bad omens, the truth is, what we believe shapes our reality.
Finally we talked about the importance of starting
somewhere no matter how daunting a task
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might seem everything begins with that
first step like I said before perfection
doesn't come on day one it's the
willingness to begin even imperfectly that sets us on a path to success so if
there's one thing to take away from this episode it's that life's mysteries
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whether in stones numbers Numbers
or new beginnings are all about how we choose to interact with them.
Embrace what grounds you. Take that first step and maybe give the number 13 a second chance.
It might not be so scary after all.
If you liked today's episode, please rate, review and follow this podcast.
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It'll really help to grow this podcast and help it reach as many listeners as possible.
Thank you for tuning in today. Until next time, stay inspired,
stay resilient, and don't fear the darkness.
This is Sony, signing off.
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