Parenting doesn’t end when kids grow up, but letting go of the “little kid” lens can open the door to a stronger, more empowering relationship. As a parent, how do you support your kid’s independence while holding onto the close connection you’ve built?
In this episode, Scott reflects on the ways old habits resurface when adult children come home, from driving them to appointments to managing their schedules, and how these actions, though loving, can unintentionally hold them back. Joined by his daughter Alexa, they unpack how these dynamics feel from both sides: Alexa’s need for autonomy and Scott’s struggle to let go of the “little kid” lens.
Through their conversation, they navigate the challenges of redefining the parent-child relationship and reflect on the lessons that come with this transition. If you’d like to learn how to let go while staying present, this episode offers insights and inspiration for parents and children alike.
Quotes
- “I think both you and I need to work on this, especially me, to work on, again, changing the lens in which I see you, because you are a young woman who is self-sufficient. And that was my goal in raising you, along with your mother. We want to make you autonomous, and know that we support you in everything that you do, and that you can come to us for anything, but you need to make those decisions… I think the guidance changes.” (09:41 | Scott Asmar)
- “I’m going through a big transition in my life from being a college student to postgrad. And it’s been hard finding a job and networking with people. And sometimes I just want to vent. In some cases, you’ll just be like, ‘Oh, well, you should do this and blah, blah, blah.’ And it's like, well, don't you think I'm already doing that? …I just need you to listen.” (11:34 | Alexa Asmar)
- “The first man in a daughter’s life is her father. And so, as a father, I want to make a good example. We’re not all perfect.” (12:42 | Scott Asmar)
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