What you wear says more than you think, and midlife is the right time to let your style catch up to who you’ve become. In this episode, Scott Asmar is joined by fashion expert AJ of Beverly Hills to talk personal style, quiet luxury, and how fashion can be both expressive and practical, especially in midlife. From the impact of a well-cut bomber jacket to the psychology behind subtle prints and quality fabrics, AJ shares insights shaped by years in the luxury fashion world, including his start at Cartier and his current work as an image consultant and stylist.
Their conversation moves from fashion weeks in Milan and Paris to everyday style choices that make people feel more like themselves. AJ offers advice for men and women who want to feel current without chasing trends, and explains why mixing vintage with new, or designer with basic, can still look intentional. He also opens up about the role of jewelry in personal style and why some pieces are worth the investment, while others are better customized.
For anyone reevaluating their image at midlife, Scott and AJ’s conversation is a reminder that style isn’t about impressing others, but about expressing yourself.
Quotes
- “Fashion is a lot more important than people think. I mean, you’re in the courtroom, and you’re a lawyer—the way you dress is so important.” (03:32 | AJ of Beverly Hills)
- “It’s not about being loud. It’s about the luxury being for you.” (10:36 | AJ of Beverly Hills)
- “We forget that sometimes we dress for everyone else, but it’s also for ourselves. Dressing for yourself.” (10:57 | AJ of Beverly Hills)
- “You don’t want to dress yourself to the point where you’re aging yourself, and then you don’t want to dress yourself to the point where you look like you’re 18 and it doesn’t work.” (27:21 | AJ of Beverly Hills)
- “There’s a lot of ways you can subtly change the type of piece that you’re wearing that will change the way you look, the way you feel, and you’ll just look very fresh and feel great.” (28:46 | AJ of Beverly Hills)
Links
Lotus Beverly Hills:
https://www.instagram.com/lotusbeverlyhills/
Connect with Scott Asmar:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/scottasmar5/
Popular Podcasts
Dateline NBC
Current and classic episodes, featuring compelling true-crime mysteries, powerful documentaries and in-depth investigations. Follow now to get the latest episodes of Dateline NBC completely free, or subscribe to Dateline Premium for ad-free listening and exclusive bonus content: DatelinePremium.com
Are You A Charlotte?
In 1997, actress Kristin Davis’ life was forever changed when she took on the role of Charlotte York in Sex and the City. As we watched Carrie, Samantha, Miranda and Charlotte navigate relationships in NYC, the show helped push once unacceptable conversation topics out of the shadows and altered the narrative around women and sex. We all saw ourselves in them as they searched for fulfillment in life, sex and friendships. Now, Kristin Davis wants to connect with you, the fans, and share untold stories and all the behind the scenes. Together, with Kristin and special guests, what will begin with Sex and the City will evolve into talks about themes that are still so relevant today. "Are you a Charlotte?" is much more than just rewatching this beloved show, it brings the past and the present together as we talk with heart, humor and of course some optimism.
Stuff You Should Know
If you've ever wanted to know about champagne, satanism, the Stonewall Uprising, chaos theory, LSD, El Nino, true crime and Rosa Parks, then look no further. Josh and Chuck have you covered.