Episode #56: Why We Sabotage A Good Thing - A Hidden Need For Control

Have you ever caught yourself sabotaging a good thing—whether it’s a relationship, opportunity, weight loss efforts, gym streak, or personal success—without really knowing why?

You're not alone. In this deeply personal episode of Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing, I open up about my own experiences with self-sabotage and why we often push away the very things we desire. It’s not because we don’t want health, happiness, or wealth—it’s because if you have unhealed childhood wounds, your nervous system is still wired for chaos and control, not peace and safety.

*Trigger Warning for anyone who has experienced a miscarriage or loss of a child. I talk about it only regarding the lack of support women receive - and send anyone who has experienced either so much love and healing. 

This journey of healing is messy, ongoing, and beautifully unscripted—but the more we understand ourselves, the more we can step into the love, joy, and success we truly deserve.

Show Notes:

• 00:00 Introduction and Exciting Announcements
• 07:35 Understanding Self-Sabotage
• 16:19 The Craving for Control and Its Roots
• 26:57 Recalibrating to Peace and Stability
• 27:45 The Journey to Worthiness 30:45 Investing in Self-Care
• 33:11 Navigating Guilt and Shame 35:32 Overcoming Self-Sabotage
• 38:24 Embracing Success and Authenticity
• 41:40 Rewriting Internal Narratives
• 44:16 Creating Safety Within
• 48:52 Breaking Free from Self-Sabotage
• 54:32 Seeking Support and Healing

Episodes Mentioned:

• Episode #17: Lies & Loss (Colleen)
• Episode #8: What Self-Sabotage Really Is