Episode #61: Learning to Love Your Mess: Between Breakdowns and Breakthroughs

If you’re somewhere between breaking down and breaking through—this episode is for you!

In this episode of Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing, Tami sits down with her Bestie and Soul Sister, Brittany, to explore the raw, unfiltered journey of emotional growth, midlife transitions, and learning to love our mess. From a dietitian who needed to reset her own health to a counselor who realized she needed therapy, this episode dives into the heart of what it means to release guilt and shame around our stories. Together, Tami and Brittany unpack the emotional layers of midlife "crisis" (or awakening), the freedom in vulnerability, and how true healing begins when we stop trying to fix everything and start feeling everything.

They discuss how to process anger, redefine success, support other women without feeling like a burden, and hold space without becoming the “fixer.” The episode also explores spiritual signs, intuitive nudges, and the importance of safe spaces where hard conversations aren’t just normalized—they’re necessary.

Show Notes:

• 00:00 Introduction and Connection
• 07:03 The Importance of Safe Spaces in Relationships
• 11:05 Releasing guilt + shame around our stories
• 12:57 The Journey of Self-Discovery and Acceptance
• 15:53 Anger, midlife crisis & redirecting your life
• 18:58 Finding Joy Beyond Caregiving
• 19:24 Redefining success & embracing your own timeline
• 24:47 Breaking the Cycle of Shame and Abandonment
• 30:45 Spiritual Connections and Normalizing Vulnerability
• 36:54 Navigating Emotions and Intuition
• 44:32 Understanding Triggers and Communication
• 47:09 Holding space vs. Fixing
• 52:25 Learning from Missteps and Guilt
• 55:03 Breaking shame cycles around our bodies
• 57:49 Embracing the Messiness of Life

Whether you're deep in self-discovery, holding heavy emotions, or just trying to figure things out—this one's for you.

Episodes Mentioned:

• Jamie & Kevin: Episode #57
• Andrew Episode: Episode #42