Episode #65: When Healing Gets Hijacked: How Self-Abandonment Hurts Us (and Others)

What happens when your ego hijacks your healing? That’s exactly what this week’s episode dives into—with real, raw stories that reveal how emotional growth can get derailed by the very part of us that’s trying to protect our wounds: the Ego. I open up about how not wanting to feel like a burden led me to ignore my body’s needs—and ultimately abandon my Inner Child. The result? A full-blown crash…and a gut-level wake-up call I couldn’t ignore.

I also reflect on moments when my ego took the wheel—deflecting blame, taking things personally, and unintentionally hurting people I care about. This is what it looks like when healing gets hijacked.

But more importantly, this episode is a call to step up as the adult in your Inner Child’s life, especially when the ego wants to run the show. That may mean reaching for tools, support, or resources that were never modeled for you—and choosing to respond in new, grounded ways.

Healing isn’t about perfection. It’s about recognizing when old patterns are in charge, pausing, and making a conscious choice to do things differently—even when it’s hard.

🔗 Join the Roots & Wings Inner Child Program (starts June 5th)

🧁 Shoutout to Sweet Magpie’s Bakery—go treat your inner child!

Show Notes:

• 6:07 Feeling like a burden as a child
• 7:49 Roots & Wings: Inner Child Healing program starts June 5th
• 10:36 Sweet Magpie’s Bakery shoutout
• 14:58 Stone of the Episode: Larimar - Throat Chakra Activation
• 17:09 Calling out the Ego
• 20:28 Suppressed emotions & gut health
• 30:00 How ego hijacks logic during emotional triggers
• 33:45 Low blood sugar = body & inner child screaming for care
• 40:17 Inner child tantrum vs ego deflecting blame
• 50:18 Ego taking things personally & hurting others
• 59:30 The importance of asking twice: “How are you really doing?”
• 1:04:00 Why asking for help is hard and holding space is harder
• 1:07:50 Knowledge vs emotional maturity
• 1:11:21 Why we need “training wheels” on the healing journey

Episodes Mentioned: 

• #64: When Love Triggers
• #63: Unlocking Relationship Dynamics with Christie Bemis
• #30: Healing Through Darkness with Erika from Sweet Magpie's Bakery