Episode #66: Words F*cking Matter: Change One Word - Change Your Life

This episode of "Words F*cking Matter," is a masterclass in conscious language, radical responsibility, and what it really means to heal and grow one word at a time.

In this bold and unscripted episode, Army Veteran and author Andy Weins drops truth bombs that will challenge everything you think you know about language, healing, and accountability. Andy doesn’t tiptoe around transformation—mid‑show, he flips the script and calls ME out for using his so‑called “sh*t words,” exposing how my language was quietly sabotaging my own growth.

He believes (and proves) that words f*cking matter—words like “if," "but,” “should,” “easy,” “can’t." These might sound harmless, but they carry weight. They limit our choices, muddy our intentions, and keep us stuck in cycles of blame, avoidance, and ego.

If you’ve ever said “I just don’t know how” or “It’s too hard”—this episode is your mirror and your medicine. Bring your notebook, bring your humility, and bring your willingness to grow so you can rewrite your story—one word at a time.

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Show Notes:

• 00:44 – When my guest flips the script and calls me out on my language
• 03:21 – Grab your pen and paper—you’re going to want to take notes
• 04:09 – Quick favor: Vote for Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing for Best of Madison - Local Podcast
• 05:48 – Meet today’s guest: Andy Weins—speaker, author, entrepreneur, podcaster, and Army Veteran
• 10:47 – Why Andy makes decisions quickly (and how failing fast leads to better choices)
• 11:51 – How one word can shift everything + the “Start - Stop - Continue” method for growth
• 13:54 – Three practical ways to eliminate the word “but” from your vocabulary
• 17:34 – What “truthful adjustment” means and how to apply it when you fall short
• 21:02 – Boundaries vs. expectations—and the quote Andy has tattooed on his arm
• 27:48 – How lack of confidence is often rooted in a wounded inner child
• 30:35 – The difference between “simple” and “complicated”
• 31:00 – The OODA Loop: Observe, Orient, Decide, Act + Reflect, Realize, Regulate
• 35:10 – Breaking down the Savior Complex—how it helps (and hurts)
• 41:48 – The OAR Model: Ownership, Accountability, Responsibility vs. Blame, Excuses, Denial
• 48:35 – Why Andy says “truth” is just another sht word—and why “perspective” is more powerful
• 50:20 – That time I completely froze…on my own podcast
• 54:10 – Why self-talk matters + the Harvard research to back it up
• 59:43 – “Sometimes, Always, Never” people—and how to protect your energy
• 1:02:44 – Specifics vs. details—what’s the difference, and why it matter
• 1:06:37 – The HALT Method: Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired
• 1:11:03 – The 5-5-5 Principle: 5 minutes in the morning, after work, and before bed
• 1:12:34 – The six most powerful ways to start a sentence
• 1:14:09 – Helping others label their feelings by mislabeling (yes, you read that right)
• 1:19:13 – The ultimate “sht word” revealed