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Welcome to the 80, 20 holistic home.
This week is a special episode.
I knew when I started the podcast, like this was one of my first episodes that I had locked into my schedule for this week specifically, this week is my son's birthday.
first birthday.
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So this is marking, now I have a one year old, my kind of last infant.
This is likely going to be your last baby.
My last infant is turning one.
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We're done with all like the month milestones and I've been postpartum now for one whole year.
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So I have a lot of thoughts and a lot to reflect on.
And I thought I would just kind of talk through that and share some things that I did differently through this You know, pregnancy, birth, the postpartum journey and reflect on some of that today.
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.999It's funny because even though as a third time mom you know, pregnancy and postpartum is such a unique journey.
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I mean, there's a lot of similarities, but there's every journey is so unique.
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And this one definitely, definitely was With my second, the first thing that kind of jumps out at me when I think back, the first thing that like was different it is, it was breastfeeding.
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I struggled with my first, we had some breastfeeding up and downs.
We saw a lot of location consultants.
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I did triple feeding.
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I was pumping, we had a hard time latching.
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She wasn't getting enough.
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She wasn't gaining weight.
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And so that was really tough.
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And we eventually got to where we were breastfeeding really well.
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But it took a while.
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It took a lot of work.
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It took a lot of time.
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It took a lot of appointment.
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Added a lot of stress.
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And that was not something that I was hoping to repeat when I was actually going into having my second, that was the biggest thing on my mind.
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That was like, I'm going to nail it this time.
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I'm going to put so much effort into breastfeeding.
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I'm going to feed that baby around the clock at the beginning.
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Anytime she's so much as looks at me sideways, I'm feeding that baby to get my supply going and to get her latching.
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And my second was just such a natural breastfeeding.
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She had a great latch right away.
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I could tell the difference and she was feeding really well.
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And she actually gained back up to her birth weight within like one week, which is can be rare for a breastfed baby.
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So we had a great journey.
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And so then with my third, I just kind of had this feeling of like, well, I figured that out.
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I know how to do that.
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Well, just beat them a lot in the beginning and it'll all work out.
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But of course, that's not really what happened.
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We had some curve balls.
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He actually was very lip and tongue tied, which I didn't even really know of those things when I had my first two, I think they've gotten a lot of popularity in more recent years.
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I mean, of course they've been a thing, right.
But I just didn't know about them.
And I actually have no idea if my girls are lip and tongue tied, but he was latching, but I could feel that it didn't feel quite as like strong.
And he, it seemed like he was getting enough from my perspective, you know, he, it felt like he was like on long enough and he was active and he wasn't sleepy.
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Like my first was when she was on.
So from my perspective, it felt like things were.
Going well, but we had our first couple of weight checks.
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And we see really natural, crunchy, holistic minded people.
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So I was I trusted their opinion here.
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I think sometimes.
A lot of the medical community could get really hung up on those weight numbers.
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But yes, the people, my providers that I've chosen for my third that I really trusted we're showing a little bit of concern.
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So we ended up doing a lot of things.
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We did some body work.
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We did craniosacral therapy.
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We were doing chiropractic.
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We did we had the lip and tongue tie evaluated.
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I was seeing an IBCLC all the stuff.
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And it was, again, it just added a lot of appointments, which when you are, Postpartum and you're trying to juggle kids and sleep schedules and a newborn and hauling them around all these appointments.
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The lactation consultant actually came to my house, which was nice, but hauling them around to all these appointments.
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It just, it felt a little bit more like my experience with my first.
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And I wasn't expecting that I was expecting things to go smoothly because I was, so much more experience now.
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And I knew so much more about breastfeeding.
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I had done it.
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I checked the box.
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I did it well with my second, we had a beautiful breastfeeding experience in the beginning.
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So.
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That was kind of tough to deal with.
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Mentally it was adding a lot of stress and we did end up having to start triple feeding again just to kind of make sure that he was getting that little extra bit and getting topped off and to make sure that it wasn't like an input issue.
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In addition to the weight, that wasn't the only metric we were looking at, right? In addition to not gaining quite as quickly as one would hope, he also was not pooping.
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He had the initial meconium poops right after birth, but then he wasn't having consistent bowel movements after that.
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So that was a bit of a concern.
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So we were doing all kinds of things also with like the body work and the chiropractic, and then also you know, stimulating the area and trying to get him to go.
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And it just it felt very much like my experience with my first and it was really stressful.
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We ended up getting the lip and tongue tie revised which that was a little, but that was more traumatic than I had been anticipating.
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I think a lot of times that as yeah, we got our ties revised or crunchy like Facebook mom groups or online or an Instagram or whatever.
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People kind of mentioned that they have that happened and it's almost like a side note or something but it was like, oh my gosh.
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I had a really hard time.
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The baby was super fussy.
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And of course I'm like a week and a half postpartum.
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So I'm crying, he's crying.
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I had to do the exercises like, Oh my gosh, you have to do them like six times a day, which basically is like moving their lip around and their tongue.
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And of course they hate it and they cry.
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So it's I was just like gearing myself up to listen to him cry six times a day.
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And it was another thing to keep track of.
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Like, did we do all the exercises today? So.
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That added a lot more stress to the beginning of my postpartum experience than I was anticipating.
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I thought that was just something we were going to nail, like, and I was open to other things being a challenge.
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I guess I knew that it's a challenging period.
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I had done it enough times to know that even when it's easy, it's not easy.
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But yeah, that just kind of rocked me a little bit and it was hard to keep up with.
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And I had put so much more.
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Stock this time into kind of planning for my postpartum period.
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So it felt like, well, my planning should have paid off and I should have had a really easy time and it didn't work out that way.
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So I think, when you have multiple kids, you know, that that's just kind of how it goes.
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Sometimes they're also different and they throw curve balls and wrenches into your plans.
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Yeah, so that was really, really stressful at the beginning.
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Another thing that.
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Surprised me about having this third baby was how I don't even, I can't even think of the right word.
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It wasn't hard to integrate back into our daily lives, but it was just, there was more moving parts and pieces in our life now, more so than even when we added our second, when we, so just the age gap between my kids, between my first and my second is about two and a half years.
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And then between the second and third, it's almost four years, closer to four years.
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So not that crazy different of an age gap, like a year, year and a half, but it felt really different.
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That age gap felt a lot bigger than the gap that we had between my first and my second.
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And I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that when I had my second, my first was still a toddler.
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She was two and a half.
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So she was still, she still had a nap for a little bit.
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She she was potty trained, but she was still did pull ups at night.
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We were just more.
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There's not as big of a difference between an infant and a toddler and kind of your daily rhythms and your schedules and how you manage those kids than there is when you have a elementary school aged, an older toddler, and then an infant.
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When we, before we had him, you know, before we had our third baby.
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We, our two girls were they were both out of diapers, out of pull ups.
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They were nighttime trained, potty trained, nobody was taking naps.
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So we didn't have a lot of, like, that just gives a lot of ease back into your life, right? When you can come and go as you please, you don't have to plan around a nap time.
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You don't have to make sure you have diapers.
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You're not changing diapers stuff like that.
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Like your kids are older.
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You can reason with them, it's just different.
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So then when you it felt more of like, I want to say a step backward, but like back into a baby phase, it felt like a bigger step back.
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And it was more of a change to our life.
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So it was harder to juggle everybody's schedules.
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It was hard to have to deal with, especially a school schedule.
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There's so much that.
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It was surprised.
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This could be a whole episode topic of itself, but it was such a surprise to me when my oldest started going to like public school, how much there is to it as a parent and how much, how many spirit days you have to keep track of and the schedules.
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And sometimes there's early release.
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Like it's just going from when you have a kid in daycare and it's kind of the same all every day.
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Going to a public school schedule is just There's a lot more to track and there's a lot more mental load that comes along with that.
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So having to do that on top of then also having a toddler in full time daycare and then also having an infant with their own unique schedule.
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It was just a lot.
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It just felt like we were all in different directions and trying to like manage.
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Everybody's stuff and make sure everybody's needs are met was a lot more challenging.
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And I also, I didn't feel this as much when I had my second, and I don't know if it's because we just, it was easier to have the baby and the toddler together, or if I just didn't notice it because she wasn't As old.
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I don't know.
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I don't know what the difference was.
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I didn't feel this as much when I had my first and my second was that I missed my older kids because now we're doing, a lot of divide and conquer.
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And my husband would take the older kids and do stuff with them.
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When I was like at home with the baby or sleeping or, doing feeding around the clock or whatever it was, it was, it was a lot harder to carve out time.
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One on one time with the older kids or even two on one time, even to have both of them with me more so than it was when I had my first and my second, I don't remember not seeing my first a lot when I had my second.
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And I don't know if maybe she was just around more, maybe it was easier to let you know, when I was feeding the baby that she would just kind of play, bring some toys in the room and play at my feet while I was, rocking in the chair and feeding baby, like maybe that's part of her age, but yeah, it was just a lot easier.
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And I very much was.
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Struck by the feeling of like, I've missed my older kids and I was kind of missing out on a lot which I just don't remember with my second.
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So that was a little bit.
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That was probably the biggest thing beside the feeding that stuck out to me as being challenging this postpartum period.
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And it's also kind of what led to maybe.
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It's definitely a factor of what led into the decision of when me and my husband are like, yeah, this is going to be our last, I think we're all set here.
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We've always said we wanted three.
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And then after we had my second, we're like, no, we're good with two.
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And we got rid of all of our baby stuff.
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And then a year after we got rid of all of our baby stuff, we're like, no, we should have three.
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So we did.
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And then when, even when we were pregnant with three and we kind of were thinking about that, I was going to stay home and some different life changes we were going to make.
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We were, Kind of like, well, maybe we should even have four.
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Maybe that's, it was on the table and kind of an idea that we were thrown around.
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But after we had baby and just kind of got pulled back into that infant life and postpartum, it was like, yeah, no, we're probably good with three.
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It's just, it's a really good balance for our house.
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And now that things are getting a little bit easier with him coming up on the one year mark he's down to one nap.
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You know this we've gotten some flexibility back and I think we're just really happy with the balance that we're striking and don't want to totally rock that boat again.
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So yeah, that was something that really, really stuck out to me is as the unique challenge in this postpartum journey was now that we have more than one kid and they're older and they can voice.
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Mommy, you know.
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Frustration, basically that they weren't getting time with me.
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That was, it weighed on me a little heavier than it did with the other, with my other postpartum journeys.
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So those are two things that were challenging.
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But I do want to talk about some things that really worked this postpartum journey time around.
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Cause I do feel like I said, I spent a lot more time planning and focusing on what my postpartum journey was going to look like.
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And I think that that paid off in a lot of ways.
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I, I had those two challenges, but a lot of times in a lot of ways, this was my easiest pregnancy and postpartum journey.
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And I think a lot of that has to do with, I am the crunchiest that I have ever been.
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I, when I had my first, I was like, I've talked about this in my beginning episode, but I had started to think about, I was always kind of crunchy about food and I started to think about the products in a home and what we were using and our personal care products and cleaning products and that kind of stuff.
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But I wasn't thinking about the way that we medically treated ourselves and the way that what I thought, The way that I parented basically, you know, I knew that I wanted to have a natural birth.
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I didn't, I ended up having an epidural.
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I knew that I wanted to breastfeed, which took a lot of work and stress, but we got there, that was kind of the end of like, what I, what my goals were and what I thought was going to be crunchy.
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And with my second, I was in that same spot.
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It really wasn't until after I had my second and we had a, her experience with febrile seizures and some other things and COVID and all that, that I really started to think.
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Change the way that I thought about health care and how I wanted to treat my family and what I wanted our health care to look like.
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So this was the first pregnancy where we did not do or, you know, baby where we didn't do shots.
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He has had no shots.
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That's a choice we made after doing a lot of research.
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This is the first baby where we saw a holistic care provider for his pediatrician versus pediatric care.
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We had a home birth with a midwife.
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We did not see, I did not see a traditional OB at all throughout my whole journey.
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I didn't do the glucose test.
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I did blood sugar monitoring with a prick.
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I did that for five days, the finger prick.
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To track that.
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I gosh, what else? Lots of stuff that we just did.
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I just did a lot differently.
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I focused a lot more on nutrition in my pregnancy Lily Nichols books.
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That was the real food for pregnancy.
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That's one of my all time favorite books.
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And I like share that with everybody that I know that's pregnant.
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And it just changed the game for me.
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I felt so much better this time around.
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I've talked about in the past how I struggled with SPD and I did a lot of things that was, creating a better and healthier experiencing for me and my little one.
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I also more intentionally slowed down postpartum.
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So that made a big difference, but.
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I made a list of kind of some bullet points of things to consider that I think are crunchier things, and that made the biggest impact for me in my pregnancy and postpartum journey.
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That anybody who's pregnant or looking at a postpartum period coming up should consider, should be on the list and you should evaluate it and see if it's a fit for you and if that fits into your 80 part of your 80 20 pregnancy and postpartum.
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The first thing that had the absolute biggest impact was chiropractic care.
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Hands down.
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I saw, I went to the chiropractor every week.
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I was going to her gosh, I started going to her about a month or two before I got pregnant.
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And I saw my chiropractor every single week besides when we were on vacation throughout my entire pregnancy and starting about.
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A week postpartum as well.
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I started going in and getting adjusted and got baby adjusted.
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We went to a, I've talked about before which again could be a whole podcast episode, but I had SPD, symphysis pubis dysfunction for all of my pregnancies.
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But basically that's when your pubic bone spreads too far apart.
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There's too much relaxant, the hormone relaxant that enters your body when you're pregnant.
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That's when you're Spreads too far apart and it becomes unaligned.
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And as you can imagine, when you have a pelvis, it's not aligned.
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You have like one hip, the tire than the other.
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It causes a lot of pain.
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My, it was the worst with my second and I could like barely walk around a lot of the time.
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So I.
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When we decided to have a third baby, I knew I needed to do something different.
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And I needed to have a different experience because it was really, really hard and impacted my health really negatively in a lot of ways.
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So we found, I found a chiropractor when you're pregnant or you're postpartum, or you're looking at a baby, you want somebody who is Webster certified.
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So that's what I did.
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I found a Webster certified chiropractor in my area.
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And it just played an absolute vital role in aligning my body and easing discomfort.
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In addition to easing conditions like SPD or sciatica pain or any of that stuff.
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I mean, it's just good overall care that really helps your body stay in alignment and it also really helps with baby's positioning.
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I was lucky that all my kids were head down.
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My middle though was like sunny side up.
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I forget if it's anterior posterior is what that's called, but she was like facing up instead of facing towards your.
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So that the contractions for that birth were just a lot different, but it can kind of really help with baby's positioning.
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And especially if you have a head up baby, chiropractic care can help flip them and just get them into ideal positioning.
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I also, with all three of my births, Which is funny.
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I ended up my water broke with all of them.
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That was my first sign of labor as I had premature rupture of membranes with all three of them.
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And then contractions didn't really start naturally.
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So, I had some interventions with each of them, of course, with my third, it was more of a natural holistic intervention, but an intervention nonetheless.
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But I went the longest with my third, which is unusual, right? You always hear that the more babies you have, like you tend to go a little bit earlier, but I went the longest with my third.
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And I think it's because my body was just more in alignment and I was able to kind of head off, push off that rupture of membranes that my body likes to do.
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Because baby was just more comfortable and things were.
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More in alignment.
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So that's, if I could like tell pregnant women, anything it's chiropractic care.
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If you're having any kind of aches and pains, or if you are really striving to have a natural birth or a home birth, and you want to avoid interventions, chiropractic care can absolutely help and support your body into getting there.
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Again, I say I focused on holistic nutrition and supplementation so much more this time around.
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I followed pretty much everything from Willie Nichols books.
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And two of the big things that I, if you've read the book, you know, that I took away from that were beef liver and bone broth.
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And those were two things that I was incorporating.
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Beef liver was daily bone broth was as much as I could, get it a couple of times, a couple of times a week, I would make my broth every week for my chicken bones and beef bones that I have.
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And I would Just sip on that.
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I also was taking magnesium, which is a big mineral that contributes to a lot of aches and pains.
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I was also taking trace minerals.
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I was adding more minerals into my diet, something that was really different to me because this was my first pregnancy where I followed midwifery, the midwifery model and was under the care of a midwife is how much more she focused on nutrition.
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So actually one of the first things I think when I entered my Gosh, I can't remember what appointment it was, but it was early on.
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It was maybe at the end of the first trimester, maybe going into the second trimester.
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I think they give you like a reprieve when they know you're nauseous and it's not your like regular quote eating pattern.
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But she did have me track my food for like three days with everything that I ate and my macros and calories.
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And then she reviewed that and like gave me notes and made suggestions.
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And a lot of the times, whenever I would kind of come in and have a complaint, like, Hey, I'm having a lot of heartburn or Hey, whatever it was, she, the first thing that we would look at was.
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Food and supplements.
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So that just like spoke right to my heart.
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I love that approach.
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We were so much more focused on nutrition and I felt like I was just had the healthiest pregnancy, like size wise and weight gain and had the biggest baby that I've have had.
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So my girls were both seven pounds and then he was nine pounds, three ounces.
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So he was the biggest baby I had, but I was not, I was not bigger with him.
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So it was, I just felt really good about the nutrition.
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Something else that's kind of like a waterfall effect from the chiropractic care is that I was much more active this pregnancy, which was amazing because I, I've talked about a little bit in my first podcast episode, my journey and how much fitness meant to me when I started getting healthy and I started just taking care of my body a little bit better post college, how much of a fitness junkie I became.
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So when I had my first and second pregnancy and I had more of that pelvic pain, it was really hard on me mentally, not to be able to work out and not to stay fit.
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I had this idea and this thought that I was going to be one of those people that had that super fit pregnancy and was out there like, I don't know, running marathons and doing CrossFit.
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I didn't do either of those things pre pregnancy.
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So I don't know why that was in my mind at all.
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I just had this like fit pregnancy.
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And then when I was in so much pain and that wasn't happening, that was kind of a hard mental hurdle to get over.
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But this time I was as active as I wanted to be.
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And it felt really, really good.
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I was doing, I did daily.
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I kept up with daily walking.
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That's something that I like to do even not pregnant.
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And there's so many benefits.
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And I was able to keep up with three plus times a week of strength training which is something that was, Tough in the past to do whenever you have SPD, one legged movements are not your friend.
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When you're balancing on one leg that can kind of exacerbate the conditions or the impact of the, how it feels.
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So being able to find like some good strength trainings that are specific for SPD really helped.
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And I found a lot of ways to modify, even if I was doing a regular strength class to modify a single leg movement and just, do the.
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Biped or whatever, double leg movement version of that is.
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So that was definitely like a cornerstone of this pregnancy and what made it such a positive experience for me.
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Cause I was still getting this as endorphins.
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My body felt better.
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I was moving around easier.
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Those gentle exercises helped keep my body moving.
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It helped foster strength and flexibility, which were, I feel like absolutely crucial in my postpartum recovery.
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And it was a complete waterfall effect, right? It not only did I feel better in my pregnancy, but I had a little, a Way easier time physically recovering postpartum.
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This was my hands down, my easiest postpartum recovery physically, I felt the best that, I would go into all these appointments that we had, where we were trying to figure out what was going on with baby and his feeding.
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And people would ask me, well, how are you feeling? I feel amazing.
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I could, I feel amazing.
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So physically it was just such a great recovery for me.
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And I think being able to stay so active made all the difference that and the chiropractic care, which of course are kind of like tied together.
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Another thing that I did differently this time around was actually like putting intentional thought and planning into my postpartum experience.
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I did a lot of work to do meal prepping ahead of time, more than I had in the past.
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That was my best friend was meal prepping.
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I was really, you know, I had two kids at this point, so I knew that I wasn't going to have.
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Time to stand in the kitchen for hours, meal prep, all these freezer meals.
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So I, for like the couple of months leading up to birth, I started just making double batches of things that I would cook for dinner.
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And that was like my meal planning, my, my trick to stock my freezer for postpartum.
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I did do a couple of intentional things outside of that.
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In addition to some different freezer meals I made soup to have for lunches.
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Cause I remember that from my first postpartum journey was like, I had some freezer meals like for dinners, but then lunchtime is, would roll around and be like, ah, what do I eat? So I specifically made things like lunches and dinners and breakfasts.
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I did a bunch of I made a bunch of egg bites cause I knew the first couple of days I was going to want something really gentle and easy and really high in protein.
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So that made a big difference.
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I also made some snacks.
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I made a bunch of like lactation balls and like snack bites, my protein bites.
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And all of those were just so amazing to have on hand.
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So the meal planning having meals like prepared for me that worked.
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I wrote out this plan and I picked meals specifically that included nutrients that new moms are typically like depleted in.
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And that's helped support like milk production and healing and, things with lots of like collagen and bone broth.
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I focused on foods that were warm, warming foods and spices.
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There's a lot in traditional Chinese medicine that talks About keeping your body warm and staying warm.
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Postpartum a lot of warming spices, like Kurt, I made a curry and cinnamon and stuff like that.
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A lot of protein a lot of animal based protein in my meals.
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Like I said, lots of collagen.
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Those were all things that I was like load pick, you know, designing this menu of meals that I wanted to make and just loading up meals that have that.
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I also made it a point to do, I had the goal to do the five, five, five, which is, if you haven't heard of it, it's like five days in bed, five days on bed, on the bed, and five days around the bed.
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I will tell you that once I started this, I was really confused about what the difference between on the bed and around the bed is, or even in bed and on bed.
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Like, am I just not supposed to have my blanket on me? But I think the takeaway is that you're just supposed to kind of stay.
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In your room, huddle up with baby and just try to move, as besides you go to the bathroom and that kind of stuff, move as little as possible.
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So I made it a point to stay in bed and rest longer.
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I had my, this required a lot of buy in and support from my husband and my mother in law who basically waited on me like hand and foot and took, you know, my mother in law took care of the other kids.
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And my husband was like fetching me food.
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Help me go to the bathroom, going to get things from downstairs when I needed it, that kind of stuff.
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So it requires a lot of help which can be hard to do.
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I know people talk about say that like, well, you need to do a five, five, five.
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And the first thing I would always think of is yeah, it's easy to say, but like when you have other kids, it's, that's not just, it's not easy to do.
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So I did kind of, and it's uncomfortable to reach out and ask people for help.
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But I did make the effort to do that this time.
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And I do feel like it made a lot of a difference, even after it didn't end up being 555.
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I didn't get away with 15 days you know, basically in and around the bed, but I, it was more like a like a four to one or something like that, but that's a lot more.
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Rest and relaxation that I had planned for and that I did with my other two postpartum journeys.
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And I feel like that really contributed to how amazing I felt and how healed my body was.
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My bleeding was better this time around, it was shorter and I didn't have recurrence, which I had, you know, where you would like stop bleeding and then it would open up again and you'd be bleeding more.
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Like I did with my first two.
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So that I feel like was That's a good sign that things were healing and that I really took care of my body.
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So all the physical recovery, that's like the success, the check Mark of this postpartum journey was my physical recovery was just so much better.
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I felt so good.
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I also used red light therapy, so that was something that was new for me this time around.
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I didn't, I bought my red light therapy device after I had my second.
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And so I was using that this time around.
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And that was like, so such a soothing practice that really, I think, enriched my healing practice process.
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I used it, I would just like put it on while baby was feeding, like making sure it was pointed to his back.
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I would put it on while I was feeding in the morning to kind of try to like help set that circadian rhythm.
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I used it on, you know, I would put it.
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Down my pants, you sit on for like wound healing down below.
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And I think that that helps speed up a lot of things.
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So love the red light therapy, use it in my postpartum journey.
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And that was awesome.
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I also I used homeopathics this time around.
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So I used Arnica only for my pain management.
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I took Arnica pellets instead of using like.
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you know, Tylenol, Advil, Motrin, whatever the case may be for pain management after birth.
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And it was, I was shocked with how effective it was.
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I, sometimes when you use things that are more natural, they're just like a little bit less effective.
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It's not that big power punch that like something that like a pharmaceutical can, Can give and sometimes you want to give that up because you don't want the side effects of that big, powerful punch.
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But I did anticipate that it wouldn't feel as good, but I felt great.
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It was, and they say that the more kids you have, the worst, like that cramping and all that can be, but.
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I felt really good.
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I used Arnica pellets.
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I took them orally and then I had an Arnica balm that I would use on my belly around when I would get like cramping.
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So those general alternatives, the homeopathics worked amazing for me and I was so happy that we went that route.
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So that's kind of the highlights and the crunchy things that I tried this time around, and that blended to such a good experience.
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I'm glad I talked about the things that were challenging for us.
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Cause now I'm like wrapping this up and just like talking about all the positive things more or fresher in my mind.
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And it just, I'm like, ah, that was such a good postpartum birth.
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It was, you know, such an experience.
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The journey taught me so much about self care and the importance of nurturing my body and my mind.
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I hope you and maybe new ideas for your own journey.
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And remember that.
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You know, the journey is yours.
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You always get to decide what your 80 is and what your 20 is.
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Nobody else knows the full, view of what your pregnancy and postpartum looks like.
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So some of this doesn't resonate with you, just leave it here and don't think about it again.
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And if it does, I hope that it's inspiring and that you find something new that's maybe going to work for you in your journey.
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Thank you for tuning into today's episode.
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I have been loving sharing my podcast here.
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This is episode number five, and I have just been loving this routine and the feedback and discussion that the podcast is warranting.
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