The Anxious To Secure PODCAST

Why do affirmations sometimes make you MORE anxious instead of calm? 🌪 Why do they feel fake… forced… or even triggering? 🧨 And why do you end up overthinking MORE after saying them? 🧠💭

If you’ve ever thought: ➞ “Affirmations don’t work for me.” ➞ “I feel worse after saying them.” ➞ “They just make me more aware of my fears.”

You’re not broken 🫂 You’re not doing it wrong 🖤 Your brain is just doing EXACTLY what it’s designed t...

Your Trust Issues Will Make Him Break Your Trust in your anxious-avoidant relationship

Have you ever thought:

• “I trust my boyfriend when he’s done nothing wrong… so why am I still anxious?”

• “Why do I always worry my partner might leave me?”

• “Why do trust issues show up even in healthy relationships?”

 

This episode is for women with trust issues, relationship anxiety, and fear of abandonment who feel ...

Have you been wondering: “Why isn’t my partner saying ‘I love you’ more?”

Or maybe it’s more like:

• Why does my boyfriend not say “I love you” first?

• Why does my husband not say “I love you” back sometimes?

• Why does he just say “love you” or “me too” instead of the words I need? 🌪

 

7 Truths you’re MISSING about love, words, and attachment

Hey love… if your chest tightens when he says “love you” inste...

10 Hard Truths to STOP Chasing (Anxious Attachment & Dating Advice)

If you’re an anxiously attached woman who keeps overthinking texts, overgiving in dating, and chasing emotionally unavailable men, this episode is for you 🖤✨

This is what I wish I knew in my 20s about men and relationships — before I burned myself out trying to be chosen, trying to be “easy to love,” and trying to make men stay.

In this podcast episode, I shar...

➞ Take the 3min FREE Attachment Quiz (3.7K others did before you)  https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz

 

What I wish I knew when I was 20 about men. Truly. What would I wish I had known when I was 20? 🫂✨

These are the REAL truths about men I learned the hard way. As an ex–anxious attachment girl. Heartbroken. Overthinking every text 📱 Feeling insecure WAY too often 🥶⛈

If you have anxious attachment, this ep...

 

If you’re stuck chasing crumbs… overthinking every text… or getting attached to guys who give the BARE minimum — this episode is your wake-up call. 

 

I’m breaking down why your anxious attachment makes you want the most unavailable guy… why your brain obsesses over mixed signals… and why you keep replaying his “hey” like it’s a love letter.

 

You’ll learn the 10 TRUTHS that flip the script — the ones that make HIM chase YOU.

No...

💎 (ON SALE)Courses

✨ Stop *FINALLY* Obsessing Over Texts  (because YOU're BRIAN is the one creating YOUR anxiety,

NOT how they communicate with you)

➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

 

✨ How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in  only 4 Steps

(With Your Avoidant Partner...because every minute you're imagining HIM leaving, you're manifesting it, as you're brain can't tell the difference between imag...

જ⁀➴  (join 3K OTHERS!) 

➞ Take the 3min FREE Quiz:  https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz

(Know your type so you do the right work)

 

10+ MICRO-HABITS That Increase Your Relationship Anxiety (Even When They Have NOTHING To Do With Your Relationship) 

If you’re trying to go from anxious to secure, but you keep feeling on-edge for “no reason”… this episode is going to BLOW your mind. ★

These are the sneaky little...

💛 Free Stuff

Free Attachment Library (30+ worksheets, downloads, guides, flow-charts, prompts, videos, etc)

➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop

Like the 💭 CHALLENGE 🔍 Your Thoughts - CHEAT SHEET

To Stop Running On Autopilot

  💎 Courses

ON SALE: 

✨ Stop *FINALLY* Obsessing Over Texts  (because YOU're BRIAN is the one creating YOUR anxiety,

NOT how they communicate with you)

➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-ma...

✨ Imagine you’re done waiting for someone else to decide your mood, your worth, or your story. You’re ready to step fully into Main Character Energy and lead your life with confidence, joy, and magic 🦄

In this episode, we break down how anxious attachment quietly pulls you into side-character mode

and exactly how to flip the script

💛 Learn practical, everyday ways to own your energy, your choices, and your story...so you can fee...

💛 Free Stuff

Quick 3-min Attachment Quiz (Know your type so you do the right work)

➞ Take Quiz: https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz

Free Attachment Library (30+ worksheets, downloads, guides, flow-charts, prompts, videos, etc)

➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop

  💎 Courses

ON SALE: ✨ Stop *FINALLY* Obsessing Over Texts  (because YOU're BRIAN is the one creating YOUR anxiety,

NOT how they c...

…and the last one will shock you

7 Things I’d Do Differently If I Dated Now As a Secure Woman

 

How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text ❤️‍🩹📱

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

 

If you’ve ever met one guy on a dating app and your brain immediately built a whole 10-year love story in 48 hours… this episode is your new medicine.

I’m breaking down the 7 things I would do completely differently if I dated again...

🖤  ON SALE: How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

(because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.)

 

This episode might break your heart a little…

but YOU need this little wake up call (because I would have THANKED anyone at least later realising this...)

Because today I’m finally saying t...

🖤 ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps

(With Your Avoidant Partner)

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse

 

🖤  ON SALE: How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text

(because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.)

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

 

Ever feel like the SECOND your partner p...

Free: Anxious to Secure Checklist

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/anxioustosecurechecklist

Feeling anxious in your relationship? Always worried about texts, attention, or being enough? You’re not alone. 😬

In this episode, I share 5 skills my clients used to go from anxious attachment to secure attachment style, feeling calm, confident, and safe in themselves and their relationships. ✨

 

Here’s a sneak peek: ➞ H...

🖤 FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ 

https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz

 

Have you ever felt confused, frustrated, or even hurt because your partner seems distant, cancels plans, or shuts down emotionally — even when you know they care? 🖤✨

In this episode, we dive into what really drives avoidant behavior. Why do some people pull away the moment things feel too close? Why do they seem to love you but still ke...

🖤 FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ 

https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz

Do you catch yourself panicking when your partner doesn’t text back, rearranging your life to stay close, or feeling like love is a game you have to earn? 🖤✨

This episode uncovers why your mind goes into overdrive in relationships, replaying fears, doubts, and “what ifs.” Why does a simple text delay feel like abandonment?

Why do you over...

⚠️ Warning: After this episode, you might 01 fall in love with an avoidant or 02 see them through a completely different lens. Because what I’m about to share may change how you see avoidants forever 🤍🧠

🖤 FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ 

https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz

 

If you’ve ever felt like the avoidant in your life is cold, distant, confusing, or hard to love… this episode will soften something in...

🖤 FREE Attachment LIBRARY (30+worksheets, prompts, quizzes and more)

https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach

 

🖤 FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ 

https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz

 

I’m spilling a secret today… 🖤

Recently, I filled out a survey for people who’ve earned a secure attachment, and it asked questions that cut straight to the heart of how we actually get there.

What changed, what worked, ...