The Anxious To Secure PODCAST
Welcome to Anxious to Secure - the podcast for anyone who feels anxious in love and wants to feel calm, confident, and connected. If you’re chasing an emotionally unavailable (Avoidant) partner… If you’re attaching out of fear, not love… Your relationship is running on survival mode. (I’ve been there - and it can change.) 🤍 I’m Jula: an anxious attachment coach + certified life coach. In just 6 months, I became a more secure version of myself 🫳🏻🎤 Now I help you stop overthinking every text and feel safe, even when your partner pulls away. If you’re tired of the doubt, panic, and never feeling enough: this is for you. Let’s get you into your Secure Era. 🖤
Episodes
🖤 FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
Have you ever felt confused, frustrated, or even hurt because your partner seems distant, cancels plans, or shuts down emotionally — even when you know they care? 🖤✨
In this episode, we dive into what really drives avoidant behavior. Why do some people pull away the moment things feel too close? Why do they seem to love you but still ke...
🖤 FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
Do you catch yourself panicking when your partner doesn’t text back, rearranging your life to stay close, or feeling like love is a game you have to earn? 🖤✨
This episode uncovers why your mind goes into overdrive in relationships, replaying fears, doubts, and “what ifs.” Why does a simple text delay feel like abandonment?
Why do you over...
⚠️ Warning: After this episode, you might 01 fall in love with an avoidant or 02 see them through a completely different lens. Because what I’m about to share may change how you see avoidants forever 🤍🧠
🖤 FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
If you’ve ever felt like the avoidant in your life is cold, distant, confusing, or hard to love… this episode will soften something in...
🖤 FREE Attachment LIBRARY (30+worksheets, prompts, quizzes and more)
https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach
🖤 FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
I’m spilling a secret today… 🖤
Recently, I filled out a survey for people who’ve earned a secure attachment, and it asked questions that cut straight to the heart of how we actually get there.
What changed, what worked, ...
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Do you ever check your phone twice just to make sure they didn’t ignore your last text? Over-plan a date, then feel stressed when it doesn’t go perfectly? Rehearse what to say next instead of actually being in the moment?
There’s nothing wrong with you. 🖤 Your nervous system has just learned to protect you — and right now, it’s overworking.
In this episode, I share tiny daily habits that help you step out ...
If you’ve ever felt like no matter how much “inner work” you do… your anxiety still runs the show.. this episode is going to change how you see healing 🖤
In this episode, I share 6 tiny feminine micro habits that helped me rewire my anxious brain and finally feel SAFE in love. No huge routines. No big life changes. Just small, daily shifts in how you do things, not what you do.
Because anxious attachment is actually stuck masc...
Ever wondered how to SPOT an avoidant early on, or what a securely attached partner actually looks like?
Dating can feel like a minefield when you have an anxious attachment, right? 🧠
You meet someone, start to get attached, and only later realize they’re emotionally unavailable. They pull away. You overthink.
Suddenly, you’re stuck in the same anxious spiral, replaying the same patterns again and again.
In this episode, I’m show...
Free Quiz: Find your top 2 Relationship needs (before your subconscious will sabotage you by meeting it in unhealthy ways, through like overthinking, clinging too hard to chasing)
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/needs
Too Much Masculine Energy? The Hidden Link to Your ANXIOUS Attachment
You chase, they pull away.
You panic, they withdraw. It’s exhausting. 🧨
Ever catch yourself texting again even though you already asked if t...
Attachment Style QUIZ 3 min FREE
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
Breakups with avoidant partners can leave you feeling confused, anxious, and stuck wondering: Will my avoidant ex ever come back? 🖤
In this episode, I dive deep into what avoidant partners do after a breakup, including the 3 stages avoidan...
How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship 🚫 🌀
(EVEN with your Avoidant Partner)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse
Attachment Style QUIZ 3 min FREE
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
Think it’s the world… your partner… the people you date… making you feel unsafe in love? 🖤
What if I told you most of that emotional unsafety actually starts with your own thoughts the ones you barely n...
ow to Stop OVERTHINKING🚫 🌀Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)
Take the 3-min quiz to be 100% sure you're Anxiously Attached:
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
Do you ever meet someone new and suddenly feel like he’s the one just because he’s nice, attractive, or gives you a few compliments?
🖤✨ If you’ve noticed yourself rushing into relationships like thi...
How to Stop OVERTHINKING🚫 🌀Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)
"What happens when a dismissive avoidant realizes they lost me?” 🖤✨ A question I get asked as relationship coach a bunch of times.
If you’ve ever found yourself replaying the breakup in your head, wondering: “Is he thinking about me? Does he even care? Will he ever come back?” this episode is for you.
I’ll walk you through the hidden emotional t...
➞ FREE Attachment RESOURCES
https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop
You know that gut-wrenching feeling when he’s into you one moment and distant the next?
When you’re left wondering why he won’t open up, or why your stomach drops every time he pulls away?
That’s what happens when you’re dealing with someone who’s emotionally unavailable.
In this episode of the Anxious to Secure Podcast, we’ll break down 10 clear signs...
☁️ Grab your The Worry-Free ☁️ Flow-Chart for Relationship Anxiety
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/worryfree
Have you ever dated someone who felt close one moment and distant the next? Or maybe you’ve wondered if your partner is emotionally unavailable, avoidant attached, or simply not interested at all. 🖤
This episode untangles one of the most confusing parts of modern dating and relationships: the difference between emotio...
Take the 3-min quiz to be 100% sure you're Anxiously Attached:
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
Ever catch yourself panicking when someone pulls away… overthinking every text… or feeling like no matter how much love you get, it’s never enough?
If that sounds like you, this episode is MADE for you. We’re diving into attachment styles
secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized so ...
Stop letting THEIR slow replies ruin YOUR day. Take back your calm in 21 Days or less because your anxiety is about YOU, not them.
ON SALE: the📱💬 TEXT ANXIETY Mini Course
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety
Gilmore Girls Attachment Style Breakdown (Part 2): Rory & Her Relationships
Welcome back to part two of the Gilmore Girls Attachment Style Breakdown! Today we’re diving deep into Ro...
✨ Are you rewatching Gilmore Girls (again 😅) and secretly analyzing every relationship? In this episode of the Anxious to Secure Podcast, I (Jula, relationship coach) break down the attachment styles of Lorelai, Luke, Christopher, and Emily through the lens of attachment theory.
You’ll hear: ★ Why Lorelai shows so many signs of disorganized attachment (fearful avoidant). ★ Why Luke might not be fully avoidant after all… and how he...
my personal deep dive into Netflix’s Unknown Number:
The High School Catfish. 🖤 I’ve been following the comments, the social media conversations, and the shock around Kendra Licari’s story — and I want to take this beyond what the documentary shows.
Netflix gave us the facts. But what about the IMPACT?
The emotional abuse. The grooming. The way a disorganized attachment style can trap someone in fear, shame, and confusion.
That’s ...
Grab the📱 ↘"He doesn't reply" Flow Chart (free):
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/flow
It only takes eight seconds… or does it? ⏰
Remember scrolling Instagram, seeing that reel, and thinking,
“Why isn’t he replying? It’s just eight seconds!”
That’s exactly how anxious attachment tricks us making us chase validation, obsess over texts, and feel like every delayed reply is rejection.
In this episode, I unpack why this “eigh...
Remember those red flats from my 20s (that probably STILL get overthought if not addressed…)?
The ones I wore on a first date, nervously texting back and overthinking every move?
That was me before I started healing my anxious attachment. In this episode, I share 5 things I would NEVER do again as my securely attached self and the lessons that came from years of dating, heartbreak, and self-discovery.
I dive into letting go of pe...
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