How to Date Yourself: The Secret to Confidence, Self-Love, and Joy

Have you ever felt uncomfortable doing things alone? Or maybe the idea of taking yourself out on a “solo date” feels awkward, intimidating, or even a little scary?

In this week’s episode of The Becoming You Podcast, we’re talking all about what it really means to date yourself and why it just might be the most life-changing relationship you’ll ever have.

Lisa shares her own journey of learning how to spend intentional time alone, how she moved past the fear of judgment, and what she discovered on the other side: confidence, peace, and a deeper sense of self-love than she ever thought possible.

💬 In this episode, you’ll hear:

• What “dating yourself” actually means (and what it’s not)

• Why it feels so uncomfortable and scary at first

• The science-backed benefits of solitude and self-connection

• Practical ideas for planning your first solo date

• The emotional and personal growth that comes from learning to enjoy your own company

Lisa also shares key studies showing how intentional alone time improves emotional regulation, reduces stress, and builds confidence—reminding us that spending time with ourselves isn’t selfish, it’s essential.

💡 Your Takeaway

This week, plan one solo date. It doesn’t have to be elaborate—just something that lets you reconnect with yourself. Notice what comes up, how it feels, and what parts of you you start to rediscover.

🔗 Episode Resources

• 10 Ways to Date Yourself Workbook – Download coming soon at selflovecoachingco.com

• Follow Lisa on Instagram @selflovecoachingco and TikTok @thelisahardie

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