Divorced & Drowning: Why Men Hide Their Pain, EP 62

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In this raw and revealing episode, two divorced dads—Josh and guest Mike Huber—have a no-BS conversation about what it's like to navigate fatherhood, vulnerability, and identity after divorce.

From toxic silence to emotional recovery, they expose the invisible weight many men carry, and why so many suffer alone. Mike also opens up about his past struggles with addiction, building a new life, and becoming the kind of support he never had as a kid.

This isn’t just a talk about divorce—it’s about self-worth, masculine identity, and showing up when it counts.

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5 Key Takeaways:

1️⃣ Most Men Suffer in SilenceWhether it's fatherhood, divorce, or mental health, many men avoid vulnerability out of fear of being judged—especially by those closest to them.

2️⃣ Youth Sports Are a Pressure CookerToday’s young athletes face intense performance pressure, both internally and from parents. Many don’t have the emotional tools to cope—and that's where mentorship matters.

3️⃣ Strangers Feel Safer Than FriendsIt’s often easier for men to open up to strangers (like in recovery rooms or on podcasts) than with their own friends or family, where fear of rejection runs deep.

4️⃣ Divorce Isn’t Just a Breakup—It’s Identity CollapseDivorce can unravel a man’s identity, self-worth, and community. Healing requires more than time—it requires presence, ownership, and grace.

5️⃣ Be Kind to YourselfThe biggest shift begins with self-compassion. Without it, the healing process stalls. Being kind to yourself is not weakness—it’s emotional strength in action.

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📌 Timestamps

00:00 – 03:30Introduction, fatherhood pressures, and sports culture

03:30 – 10:00Mike’s childhood: lack of fatherly support and inner struggles

10:00 – 18:00Why today’s youth athletes are under more pressure than ever

18:00 – 27:00The cost of emotional isolation for men and kids

27:00 – 38:00Vulnerability with strangers vs. inner circle discomfort

38:00 – 47:00Divorce during COVID and the silent suffering of men

47:00 – 55:00

Being judged vs. being seen, and redefining masculinity

55:00 – 1:01:00Final thoughts: self-compassion, showing up, and building the support you never had