He Lost His Wife, Career & Son — Then Everything Changed, EP 70

💔 What happens when a man loses everything—his marriage, his career, and even his child?In this brutally honest episode, Josh sits down with Jonathon Aslay, dating and relationship coach, to talk about addiction, heartbreak, online dating as a coping mechanism, and the long, messy road to self-love.From numbing with drugs and validation to doing the real work of healing, Jonathon shares the truth about how men suffer in silence and how they can finally break free.Whether you're a divorced dad, a man stuck in the cycle of "overthinking and under feeling", or just someone looking for hope after loss — this episode is for you.🧠 What You’ll Learn:Why most men use dating for validation, not connectionHow trauma bonding can disguise itself as loveThe dark side of online dating for divorced menWhy your pain isn’t your fault—but healing is your jobThe real path to rebuilding after a complete life collapse▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬👇 SUBSCRIBE HERE:https://www.youtube.com/@JoshTheDerelict𝐖𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬...?▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬👍 Like the video (it helps a ton!)💬 Comment below to share your opinion!🔗 Share the video with anyone you think might help :)▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬📧 For Business Inquiries: [e-mail]▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬Follow us on social media:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JoshTheDerelictTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@JoshTheDerelictInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/JoshTheDerelictLinkedin: /**Josh Tomeoni, CFP®, ChFC®, CLU®, RICP®**https://www.linkedin.com/in/joshuatomeoni/▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬And also our website:https://www.thederelict.biz/podcast▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬📌 Key Takeaways:1️⃣ Online Dating Wasn’t Fun—It Was TherapyJonathon reveals how he used dating as a way to dump emotional pain and avoid real healing.2️⃣ Most Men Don’t Heal—They NumbFrom cocaine to casual hookups, many men avoid therapy and instead chase validation to escape their wounds.3️⃣ Overthinking Isn’t the Problem—Avoiding Action IsJosh and Jonathon break down how getting stuck in thoughts blocks growth, while taking messy action opens healing.4️⃣ Relationships Fail Because We’re Unhealed, Not UnluckyThe patterns we repeat in love are often trauma reenactments—until we choose to face ourselves.5️⃣ Healing Starts When You Say: ‘Maybe It’s Me’Change begins not when life falls apart, but when we stop blaming others and ask, “How am I contributing to this pain?”⏱️Timestamps:00:00 – 03:00Intro: Jonathon’s journey & Josh's praise of his book03:00 – 09:00Self-love, overthinking, and nurturing your inner child09:00 – 15:00Writing the book after divorce, job loss & emotional collapse15:00 – 22:00Cocaine, alcohol, online dating as coping mechanisms22:00 – 28:00Addicted to validation: emotional dumps as fake therapy28:00 – 34:00Why men ghost: shame, sabotage & the dysfunctional moonwalk34:00 – 41:00Hookup culture, marriage burnout & emotional exhaustion41:00 – 47:00The collapse of commitment & why men are checking out47:00 – 53:00What men really want post-divorce (but are afraid to say)53:00 – 59:00The epidemic of emotional immaturity in modern dating59:00 – 1:05:00How to start healing: therapy, reflection & emotional honesty1:05:00 – 1:13:00Final truth: You're the problem — and the solution