The Brutal Truth About Breakups: Why Men Struggle to Move On, EP 51

Going through a breakup, divorce, or major life transition? Most men suffer in silence, refusing to ask for help. In this episode of The Derelict Podcast, Josh sits down with Neil Murphy to break down why men struggle with breakups, how unprocessed emotions destroy our future, and the simple mindset shifts that lead to transformation.We’re talking about the raw, unfiltered truth of heartbreak, self-reflection, and what it really takes to come out stronger. If you’ve ever felt stuck in the cycle of failed relationships, this conversation is for you.🔹 Why do men avoid seeking help after a breakup?🔹 The #1 mistake that keeps you stuck in heartbreak🔹 How to transform into the 2.0 version of yourself🔹 The toxic cycle of self-destruction after a breakup🔹 How to attract the RIGHT relationshipsDon't waste years repeating the same mistakes. Listen now and take back control.🔔 Subscribe for more real, unfiltered conversations on growth, failure, and self-mastery.Key Takeaways from the Episode:1️⃣ Self-Reflection is Key – If you keep experiencing the same relationship issues, it’s time to look inward. Instead of blaming others, recognize your patterns and take responsibility for your growth.2️⃣ Men Struggle to Ask for Help – Most men don’t seek support after a breakup, leading to destructive coping mechanisms. Getting guidance from a coach or mentor can fast-track emotional healing.3️⃣ Distractions Won’t Heal You – Diving into work, dating, or unhealthy habits won’t make the pain disappear. True healing requires sitting with your emotions, processing them, and making intentional changes.4️⃣ Small Adjustments Lead to Big Changes – Just like in sports, minor tweaks in mindset and behavior can completely transform your future relationships. The right guidance can help you course-correct before repeating past mistakes.5️⃣ Version 2.0 of You is Waiting – A breakup or divorce isn’t the end—it’s a chance to rebuild and become a stronger, healthier version of yourself. The goal isn’t just to move on but to evolve.▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬Follow Neil Murphy on Instagram👇:https://www.instagram.com/neil_a_murphy/Subscribe to Neil Murphy on Youtube👇:www.youtube.com/@NeilMurphy-thedynamicman▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬🔗 Join the discussion and gain insights into self-growth, boundaries, and the art of recovery.👇 SUBSCRIBE HERE:https://www.youtube.com/@JoshTheDerelict𝐖𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬...?▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬👍 Like the video (it helps a ton!)💬 Comment below to share your opinion!🔗 Share the video with anyone you think might help :)▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬📧 For Business Inquiries: [e-mail]▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬Follow us on social media:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JoshTheDerelictTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@JoshTheDerelictInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/JoshTheDerelictLinkedin: /**Josh Tomeoni, CFP®, ChFC®, CLU®, RICP®**https://www.linkedin.com/in/joshuatomeoni/▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬And also our website:https://www.thederelict.biz/podcast▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬Chapters:00:00 - Welcome to The Derelict Podcast02:00 - Why do men struggle with breakups?06:45 - The destructive cycle after a breakup11:30 - “Maybe you’re the problem” – Facing self-reflection16:20 - The right way to move on (without destroying yourself)22:15 - Why working harder won’t fix your heartbreak28:45 - The toxic habits that make breakups even worse34:10 - The moment Neil realized he needed to change41:00 - How to reinvent yourself after a breakup48:20 - What’s holding you back from Version 2.0 of yourself?53:30 - Final advice for men in transition