From SEAL Life to Real Life: Discipline, Identity & Growth After the Military

In this special episode, I sit down with my other half, Ian, for one of the most personal and powerful conversations we’ve had on the podcast to date. Ian opens up about his journey to becoming a Navy SEAL, what it actually took to survive Hell Week and BUD/S, and how the mental and physical demands of that lifestyle shaped who he is today. But this isn’t just about military life. It’s about what happens after. We talk about the emotional cost of high performance, how he learned to push through when everything in him wanted to quit, and what it looked like to rediscover identity, purpose, and presence in life beyond the uniform. We also dive into our relationship- how we’ve grown through the challenges, what it’s like being in a partnership where both people have strong, driven energy, and how we’ve navigated family, vulnerability, and love through some very real life transitions. This conversation is honest, raw, and filled with perspective- for anyone working through change, chasing personal growth, or learning how to do hard things without losing themselves in the process. If you’ve ever questioned your own resilience, struggled to find balance, or just needed a reminder that transformation is possible no matter where you start, this episode is for you. ____________________ 00:00:00: Intro 00:00:20: Welcome  00:02:27: The mental toughness and physical capabilities of being a Navy SEAL 00:04:37: How do you know you want to be a SEAL?  00:07:18: SEAL training  00:14:02: Are you born with mental toughness or is it built? 00:18:34: Moments of wanting to quit during SEAL training 00:24:56: Shifting mindset   00:29:20: Deployment is tough on family life 00:34:26: Advice for a SEAL wanting a family 00:40:26: Emotional tolls  00:42:53: Transitioning from being a SEAL to becoming a civilian  00:45:45: Divorce  00:47:24: PTSD  00:48:32: Working out as an outlet  00:51:35: Mental toughness SHOWNOTES: Dream Recovery | code: SAM15 https://dreamrecovery.io/ Blokes + Joi Wellness | code: SAMCFITPOD *50% off all labs on both sites* https://blokes.co/samcfitpod https://choosejoi.co/samcfitpod   Promix Supplements | code: SAM https://promixnutrition.com/?dt_id=1140742 EMPWR by Sam App | *free 7-day trial* https://www.empwrbysam.com/My Macro Guide:https://samcfit.com/macro-guide-only Running Programs: https://www.samcfit.com/running-programs   Follow SamInsta: @samcfit_ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Samantha_Christine Follow IanInsta: @ianschinelliYouTube: https://www.instagram.com/ianschinelli/