Toxic Relationships, Burnout, Boundaries, and Breaking Free: The ABA Way Out!

In this powerful episode of Everyday ABA, the hosts are joined by Maty, the Burnout Coach, for an honest and eye-opening conversation. Together, they unpack the psychology of burnout, diving deep into how societal expectations, perfectionism, and emotional labor contribute to chronic stress, disconnection, and loss of identity. Maty shares her personal journey through burnout and offers actionable strategies rooted in both behavioral science and self-development for setting boundaries, redefining relationship roles, and learning through natural consequences. The conversation explores toxic relationship patterns, codependency, and the importance of building partnerships over caretaking dynamics. Listeners will walk away with insights on how to reprogram their mindset, seek professional help, and take behavioral steps to reclaim joy, autonomy, and purpose. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, emotionally exhausted, or stuck in survival mode, this episode is for you.

 

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After listening to the episode, participants will be able to:

• • Define burnout from both a psychological and behavioral lens, including its differentiation from acute stress and its potential developmental origins. 
  • Identify covert and overt behavioral signs of burnout, particularly in female caregivers and clinicians, and explain how these behaviors are socially reinforced over time.
  • Explain the role of rule-governed behavior and self-imposed contingencies in the maintenance of burnout-related patterns, including over-responsibility, people-pleasing, and overachievement.
  • Evaluate the impact of codependency and overhelping on client and family outcomes, and propose strategies for redefining “support” through behavior skills training and shaping independence.

 

References: 

Gilligan, C. (1982). In a different voice: Psychological theory and women’s development. Harvard University Press.

Hochschild, A. R. (1983). The managed heart: Commercialization of human feeling. University of California Press.

Maslach, C., & Leiter, M. P. (2016). Understanding the burnout experience: Recent research and its implications for psychiatry. World Psychiatry, 15(2), 103–111.

Neff, K. D., & Germer, C. K. (2013). A pilot study and randomized controlled trial of the Mindful Self‐Compassion program. Journal of Clinical Psychology, 69(1), 28–44.

 

👤 Guest Expert:

Maty Mariko "The BurnOut Coach" 

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