49. Breaking Free from the Bossy Helper Role – Stop Over-Controlling & Trust God (Unhappy Kid Triangle Part 3

🔥 Do you feel like the glue holding everything together—but inside, you're exhausted, unseen, and maybe even resentful?

You give, give, give—because you believe it's the right thing to do. You take care of everyone else’s needs, sacrificing your own, because deep down, you hope that if you just love hard enough, serve well enough, fix enough… someone will finally see you. Someone will appreciate you. Someone will tell you you matter.

But no matter how much you do, it never feels like enough. And if you're honest, you're starting to wonder… when is it your turn?

💔 This is the trap of the Bossy Helper Role.

In Part 3 of our Unhappy Kid Triangle Mini-Series, we’re pulling back the curtain on the hidden wounds and unmet needs that keep you stuck in this cycle of over-helping, over-functioning, and over-controlling. More importantly, you’ll learn why this exhausting way of living is not the life God has for you—and how to finally step into freedom.

In This Episode, We’ll Unpack:

✅ Why your worth is NOT based on what you do for others ✅ The lie that if you help long enough, hard enough, they’ll finally see you ✅ The 4 warning signs that you’re giving from an empty place ✅ Why “helping” can actually be hurting your relationships and keeping you from real connection ✅ The root fear driving your need to fix, manage, and control everything ✅ How to shift from Bossy Helper to Caring Friend—someone who trusts, supports, and loves without losing themselves ✅ God’s heart for YOU—not just for what you do, but for who you are

🚨 If you feel invisible, exhausted, and unappreciated for all you do… this episode is for you. It’s time to release the weight of being the fixer and step into the peace of knowing you are already enough.

🎧 Listen now, and take your next step toward freedom.

👉 Don’t miss the rest of this series!

• Part 1: The Helpless Baby Role – Breaking Free from Victim Mindset
• Part 2: The Blaming Bully Role – Overcoming Anger & Control

🔥 This episode might be the breakthrough you’ve been waiting for. Don’t keep carrying this alone—hit play now.

 

May the Lord bless you.

xoxo,

Danielle

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