20 | How People Pleasing Is Preventing Genuine Connection

How often do you let other people decide how your time together will unfold — what you’ll do, when you’ll do it, even what you’ll talk about? You show up, but you leave feeling empty, unfulfilled, and disconnected — like you can’t fully be yourself. Today, I’m pulling back the curtain on how this subtle form of people-pleasing keeps you from building the deep, meaningful connections you truly crave — and what to do instead.

In this episode, we’re diving into one of the most overlooked ways people-pleasing shows up — by constantly deferring to what others want, especially in your relationships. Whether it’s family, friends, or romantic partners, this pattern of keeping your desires hidden prevents others from truly knowing — and accepting — the real you.

 

I’ll share a personal story of how I broke that cycle with an incredibly vulnerable conversation, how I prepared for it, and how even when it didn’t go perfectly, it was still completely worth it. Because when you plant seeds of authenticity, that’s when real connection begins.

 

If You’ve Ever… ✔️ Felt unseen or unfulfilled after spending time with someone ✔️ Struggled to express your wants, needs, or preferences ✔️ Worried that speaking up might rock the boat or cause rejection

…this episode is for you.

 

Let’s Connect: If today’s conversation resonated with you, I’d love to hear your thoughts or experiences. Reach out on Facebook: Life Coaching with Allyssya, Instagram: @lifecoach_allyssya, or [e-mail] and let me know how you’re creating more authentic connections in your life.