September 24, 2025 • 12 mins
In episode 37 of The Hood Debutante, I sit down with one of life’s hardest questions: why do bad things happen? I’m not handing out clichés or easy answers. Instead, I walk through the layers nature’s indifference, the choices humans make, the pain that sometimes teaches, the way perception reshapes our stories, and the mystery that refuses explanation.
I talk about how light can exist without darkness, how shadows are born when something interrupts the light, and how the universe itself doesn’t know right from wrong only we do. This isn’t a conversation about romanticizing pain it’s about holding truth, refusing cheap comforts, and learning how to carry our light even when the shadow falls across our path.
Episode 37: Why Bad Things Happen. Press play, and let’s wrestle with it together.
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(00:13):
Let's roll up is a new high good laughs.
Some good vibes Is a safe space to talk about are the dope things that's on our mind from world travel philosophies.
We stay stylish.
Come Rock with me is a good time.
Sauce to make champagne, which is reality.
Um, we do it for the culture.
Gotta show him what we can't be.
This is the high life.
Yeah.
We also fancy keep it a g cus we are family.
(00:38):
It's the debutante with London Bambi.
Ah, the.
Yo.
Yo.
Yo yo.
What's up? Rock stars.
Welcome to another episode of the Hood W Hunt Podcast with me your host, London Bambi, and today's episode is episode.
(01:08):
37 and it was inspired by the Kerm climate I'm living in here in America.
If you haven't been paying attention to the news, there have been highlighted violence that's been happening.
That tends to lean more on the racial end.
And on top of that, our freedom of speech.
It seems to also be under attack.
(01:29):
All right? And I'm just gonna say, seem to be.
And so it made me start thinking, I start thinking about tackling that question that shadows every life.
And that question is general why bad things happen.
And I mean, if you've seen the, my Instagram of me.
(01:49):
Marketing this podcast episode.
You already knew the title, but yes, we're gonna type,, tackle that question why I believe bad things happen.
Now, I know you've heard the cliches.
Everything happens for a reason.
God's plan, what doesn't kills you, make you stronger.
Let me tell you right now, we're not doing that tonight.
That's lazy talk.
I feel people throw around when they can't face the truth of the pain.
(02:12):
I want us to sit in the real like we always do.
I want us to walk through the actual layers of this question because I believe it's a layered question, and I think I want us to go through the, the nature of the world, the choices of humans, the way suffering sometime teaches the mirror perception and finally the mystery.
We not gonna take any shortcuts, no cheek comforts.
(02:35):
We're gonna just be real and honest here.
So this is the time I want you to settle in.
I don't know what time of day you're listening to this.
But if you can settle in, light your candles, pour yourself a drink regardless of what it is, if you're commuting somewhere, just lean into this question with me.
Tonight is not about the, answers that makes you comfortable tonight is about staring at that question and asking what does it really mean when bad things happen? Alright.
(03:04):
Alright.
I broke it down.
Into five layers, and I wanna start with the natural order.
So I believe some bad things happen simply because the world is not built for our comfort.
I know.
Shocking.
The first time I found out the world didn't revolve around me, I was totally devastated.
What do you mean the world doesn't revolve around me? The world is built for balance, earthquake, storms, diseases.
(03:29):
These are not punishments.
They are the movement of a living system.
We are not gonna talk about that.
That's a whole nother podcast episode though.
It's a Livy system that does not check in to see if we're ready.
Nature is indifferent.
That indifference can fear cruel, but it's the same force that also makes beauty.
I do realize, think about it, the same ocean that drowns is the same ocean that feeds the same fire.
(03:53):
That burns is the same fire that clears the land for new growth.
The same brain that floods is the same brain that water our crops in differences doesn't mean.
Hostility.
It means the world is moving whether we are ready or not.
But here's the thing.
Here's the real sting.
When disaster hits, it doesn't hit all people equally.
(04:15):
All right? A hurricane is natural, but who gets to rebuild? Who had flood insurance? Who had nowhere to go when the levees broke? That's not nature.
That's us.
The line between natural order and human systems is where fairness collapse.
I want you to think about a time when something natural happened in your life.
(04:35):
It could be anything, an illness, a loss, an accident.
Ask yourself, was it truly the indifference of the world or was part of the pain made worsen by the structures around you? Sit with that for a second.
All right.
The world doesn't target you, but it doesn't protect you either.
It just moves.
And now the question is how do we move inside of it? Okay? But reality is not everything can be blamed on nature.
(05:03):
A lot of the suffering in this world, that's on us.
That's the second lens I want to look through.
Alright? So bad things happen because human makes them happen.
I'm gonna say it again.
Bad things happen because humans make them happen.
Wars doesn't start themselves.
Prison don't build themselves.
Systems of oppression don't fall from the sky.
(05:26):
They are designed, maintained, and defended by people.
Greed, hate, envy, neglect.
These are all the engines behind much of the suffering we see.
Think of slavery, think of genocide.
Think of policies that let poor people starve while billionaires count their coins.
These are not accidents of the natural world.
They are deliberate human choices.
(05:47):
Okay, so now the question becomes who benefits when bad things happen? Who profit from your pain if, ugh.
I'll say this, if humans can choose harm, then humans, we can also choose repair.
The tragedy is not just that bad things happen, it's that we often let them keep happening when we could stop them.
(06:10):
All right, so I want to now step into the third lens or layer that I'm looking at this through, because not all bad things are created by nature and human cruelty.
Okay? Some of them enter our lives and reshapes us, rather we wanted or not, and that's where the hidden teacher lives.
There's an old saying, pain strip solution loss reveals value.
(06:32):
Hardship builds resilience.
Sometimes the suffering we endure becomes the verifier that forge who we are.
It doesn't erase the hurt, but it reframes it.
It gives us a new kind of wisdom And ask yourself, did the wound teach me or did I teach myself through the wound? Alright, now.
I'm also gonna be real.
Not every wound baptize you.
(06:53):
Some wounds are just scars.
The lesson is not in a pain itself.
It's in what do you do with it after? Which takes us to the fourth lens.
How much of that is real and how much of it is our perception? Now check, hear me out.
Hear me out here.
I don't wanna lose you.
Right? Not every bad thing is truly bad.
(07:14):
Not in the long run.
At least perception gives shape to our suffering.
The breakup, the failure, the betrayal.
In that moment, it feels catastrophic, but years later, many people look back and realize those moments were turning points.
Even gifts in disguise as grief, pain that looks like destruction might secretly be transformation.
Still in progress.
What we call bad may just be unfinished truth.
(07:37):
I'll give you an example.
There was a time when I lost something I thought I couldn't live without.
I called it the worst day of my life, but years later, I saw that it was a doorway to my freedom, my language shift.
After that, what I once cursed, I later blessed.
Not because it wasn't painful, but because it was unfinished when I first judged it.
(07:58):
Okay.
That's the, that's the easiest, best way I could describe, the way I've dealt with pain I now want you to think about a thing you called your worst moment.
What if that story isn't finished yet? What if that chapter is still writing you into a new form? Alright.
Sometimes the bad thing isn't bad, it's just not done speaking.
(08:19):
And yet, even with nature, human choice, hidden teachers and shifting perceptions, there are still wounds that defy all explanations.
That's where we meet the last lens, the mystery.
Some bad things happen and there is no clean reason.
Not everything can be explained away unfortunately.
A child dies, a plane falls from the sky.
(08:41):
A random act of violence shattered a community.
There are moments where no philosophy, no psychology, no spirituality can feel that silence.
The mystery of suffering is a part of our existence, I believe, to demanding tight answer is to deny a depth of life itself.
Sometimes the only answer is to sit with the unanswerable, to hold silence, to grieve, to admit.
(09:03):
I don't know.
Okay.
I don't know.
I want you to breathe and let yourself, say these words out loud.
I don't know, notice how heavy, but also friend that could possibly feel for you to not have to know everything.
I always say the one thing I know is I know nothing at all.
That is one of my personal saying, one of my personal mantras.
(09:26):
Alright,, and I think it's okay not to know.
Sometimes the most sacred act is to hold the question without cheaping it with a false answer.
Now, let's go deeper.
People love to say without darkness there is no light.
But let me tell you.
Light can exist without darkness.
The sun burned before shadows had a surface to fall on.
(09:47):
Darkness is not the parent of light.
It's the byproduct.
A shadow only appears when something interrupts the light.
That means most of the bad things we experience are shadows, interruptions.
They don't prove that darkness is necessary.
They prove that light is real.
Shadow exists because light is striking something.
Thing in its path.
(10:08):
And here's the truth.
The universe itself doesn't know right from wrong.
Gravity doesn't care if it pulls a seed into the soil or a body into the river.
Physics doesn't blush, energy doesn't apologize.
Right and wrong are human stories.
The universe is raw law, not moral law.
.33333333So when you ask why bad things happen, ask yourself, am I angry at the universe or am I angry that my story of justice doesn't line up with its laws? The shadow is not proof of darkness. 164 00:10:36,163.33333333 --> 00:10:38,443.33333333 It's proof that something is blocking the light. 165 00:10:38,473.33333333 --> 00:10:43,93.33333333 Okay? Your job is not to worship the shadow, but to move what's in its way. 166 00:10:44,173.33333333 --> 00:10:52,453.33333333 So if I had to distill all of this into one truth, it would be this bad things happen because life is not a straight line of fairness. 167 00:10:52,843.33333333 --> 00:10:59,613.33333333 It is labyrinth of nature, human choice, hidden lessons, shifting perceptions, and unspeakable mysteries. 168 00:11:00,393.33333333 --> 00:11:02,913.33333333 In that labyrinth, you are not perilous. 169 00:11:02,913.33333333 --> 00:11:05,973.33333333 You may not control the storm, but you decide how to rebuild. 170 00:11:05,973.33333333 --> 00:11:09,3.33333333 You may not erase cruelty, but you decide how to resist. 171 00:11:09,213.33333333 --> 00:11:12,573.33333333 You may not end mystery, but you decide how to carry it. 172 00:11:12,933.33333333 --> 00:11:15,723.33333333 The work is not to make the bad good. 173 00:11:15,723.33333333 --> 00:11:21,78.33333333 The work is to repair, resist, and reframe, and to shine the light stronger than the shadow. 174 00:11:22,38.33333333 --> 00:11:23,928.33333333 So rock stars, I'll leave you with this. 175 00:11:23,928.33333333 --> 00:11:31,518.33333333 The universe may not know right from wrong, but you do carry the wisdom like a torch, and don't let the shadow convince you it was ever necessary. 176 00:11:31,848.33333333 --> 00:11:36,258.33333333 This has been episode 37 of the Hood Debutante Podcast. 177 00:11:36,258.33333333 --> 00:11:37,728.33333333 Why Bad Things Happen. 178 00:11:37,998.33333333 --> 00:11:50,268.33333333 I hope I was able to shine some light on this question, or maybe you can come in and give it, get write Me, DM me, tell me why you think bad things happen from your POV. 179 00:11:50,268.33333333 --> 00:11:50,658.33333333 All right. 180 00:11:51,68.33333333 --> 00:11:55,958.33333333 Yeah, I'm your host, London Bambi, and until next time, no, I love you. 181 00:11:56,318.33333333 --> 00:11:57,578.33333333 Stay strong. 182 00:11:57,998.33333333 --> 00:11:59,798.33333333 Stay you and stay beautiful. 183 00:11:59,948.33333333 --> 00:12:00,788.33333333 Bye.
Let's roll up is a new high good laughs.
Some good vibes Is a safe space to talk about are the dope things that's on our mind from world travel philosophies.
We stay stylish.
Come Rock with me is a good time.
Sauce to make champagne, which is reality.
Um, we do it for the culture.
Gotta show him what we can't be.
This is the high life.
Yeah.
We also fancy keep it a g cus we are family.
(00:38):
It's the debutante with London Bambi.
Ah, the.
Yo.
Yo.
Yo yo.
What's up? Rock stars.
Welcome to another episode of the Hood W Hunt Podcast with me your host, London Bambi, and today's episode is episode.
(01:08):
37 and it was inspired by the Kerm climate I'm living in here in America.
If you haven't been paying attention to the news, there have been highlighted violence that's been happening.
That tends to lean more on the racial end.
And on top of that, our freedom of speech.
It seems to also be under attack.
(01:29):
All right? And I'm just gonna say, seem to be.
And so it made me start thinking, I start thinking about tackling that question that shadows every life.
And that question is general why bad things happen.
And I mean, if you've seen the, my Instagram of me.
(01:49):
Marketing this podcast episode.
You already knew the title, but yes, we're gonna type,, tackle that question why I believe bad things happen.
Now, I know you've heard the cliches.
Everything happens for a reason.
God's plan, what doesn't kills you, make you stronger.
Let me tell you right now, we're not doing that tonight.
That's lazy talk.
I feel people throw around when they can't face the truth of the pain.
(02:12):
I want us to sit in the real like we always do.
I want us to walk through the actual layers of this question because I believe it's a layered question, and I think I want us to go through the, the nature of the world, the choices of humans, the way suffering sometime teaches the mirror perception and finally the mystery.
We not gonna take any shortcuts, no cheek comforts.
(02:35):
We're gonna just be real and honest here.
So this is the time I want you to settle in.
I don't know what time of day you're listening to this.
But if you can settle in, light your candles, pour yourself a drink regardless of what it is, if you're commuting somewhere, just lean into this question with me.
Tonight is not about the, answers that makes you comfortable tonight is about staring at that question and asking what does it really mean when bad things happen? Alright.
(03:04):
Alright.
I broke it down.
Into five layers, and I wanna start with the natural order.
So I believe some bad things happen simply because the world is not built for our comfort.
I know.
Shocking.
The first time I found out the world didn't revolve around me, I was totally devastated.
What do you mean the world doesn't revolve around me? The world is built for balance, earthquake, storms, diseases.
(03:29):
These are not punishments.
They are the movement of a living system.
We are not gonna talk about that.
That's a whole nother podcast episode though.
It's a Livy system that does not check in to see if we're ready.
Nature is indifferent.
That indifference can fear cruel, but it's the same force that also makes beauty.
I do realize, think about it, the same ocean that drowns is the same ocean that feeds the same fire.
(03:53):
That burns is the same fire that clears the land for new growth.
The same brain that floods is the same brain that water our crops in differences doesn't mean.
Hostility.
It means the world is moving whether we are ready or not.
But here's the thing.
Here's the real sting.
When disaster hits, it doesn't hit all people equally.
(04:15):
All right? A hurricane is natural, but who gets to rebuild? Who had flood insurance? Who had nowhere to go when the levees broke? That's not nature.
That's us.
The line between natural order and human systems is where fairness collapse.
I want you to think about a time when something natural happened in your life.
(04:35):
It could be anything, an illness, a loss, an accident.
Ask yourself, was it truly the indifference of the world or was part of the pain made worsen by the structures around you? Sit with that for a second.
All right.
The world doesn't target you, but it doesn't protect you either.
It just moves.
And now the question is how do we move inside of it? Okay? But reality is not everything can be blamed on nature.
(05:03):
A lot of the suffering in this world, that's on us.
That's the second lens I want to look through.
Alright? So bad things happen because human makes them happen.
I'm gonna say it again.
Bad things happen because humans make them happen.
Wars doesn't start themselves.
Prison don't build themselves.
Systems of oppression don't fall from the sky.
(05:26):
They are designed, maintained, and defended by people.
Greed, hate, envy, neglect.
These are all the engines behind much of the suffering we see.
Think of slavery, think of genocide.
Think of policies that let poor people starve while billionaires count their coins.
These are not accidents of the natural world.
They are deliberate human choices.
(05:47):
Okay, so now the question becomes who benefits when bad things happen? Who profit from your pain if, ugh.
I'll say this, if humans can choose harm, then humans, we can also choose repair.
The tragedy is not just that bad things happen, it's that we often let them keep happening when we could stop them.
(06:10):
All right, so I want to now step into the third lens or layer that I'm looking at this through, because not all bad things are created by nature and human cruelty.
Okay? Some of them enter our lives and reshapes us, rather we wanted or not, and that's where the hidden teacher lives.
There's an old saying, pain strip solution loss reveals value.
(06:32):
Hardship builds resilience.
Sometimes the suffering we endure becomes the verifier that forge who we are.
It doesn't erase the hurt, but it reframes it.
It gives us a new kind of wisdom And ask yourself, did the wound teach me or did I teach myself through the wound? Alright, now.
I'm also gonna be real.
Not every wound baptize you.
(06:53):
Some wounds are just scars.
The lesson is not in a pain itself.
It's in what do you do with it after? Which takes us to the fourth lens.
How much of that is real and how much of it is our perception? Now check, hear me out.
Hear me out here.
I don't wanna lose you.
Right? Not every bad thing is truly bad.
(07:14):
Not in the long run.
At least perception gives shape to our suffering.
The breakup, the failure, the betrayal.
In that moment, it feels catastrophic, but years later, many people look back and realize those moments were turning points.
Even gifts in disguise as grief, pain that looks like destruction might secretly be transformation.
Still in progress.
What we call bad may just be unfinished truth.
(07:37):
I'll give you an example.
There was a time when I lost something I thought I couldn't live without.
I called it the worst day of my life, but years later, I saw that it was a doorway to my freedom, my language shift.
After that, what I once cursed, I later blessed.
Not because it wasn't painful, but because it was unfinished when I first judged it.
(07:58):
Okay.
That's the, that's the easiest, best way I could describe, the way I've dealt with pain I now want you to think about a thing you called your worst moment.
What if that story isn't finished yet? What if that chapter is still writing you into a new form? Alright.
Sometimes the bad thing isn't bad, it's just not done speaking.
(08:19):
And yet, even with nature, human choice, hidden teachers and shifting perceptions, there are still wounds that defy all explanations.
That's where we meet the last lens, the mystery.
Some bad things happen and there is no clean reason.
Not everything can be explained away unfortunately.
A child dies, a plane falls from the sky.
(08:41):
A random act of violence shattered a community.
There are moments where no philosophy, no psychology, no spirituality can feel that silence.
The mystery of suffering is a part of our existence, I believe, to demanding tight answer is to deny a depth of life itself.
Sometimes the only answer is to sit with the unanswerable, to hold silence, to grieve, to admit.
(09:03):
I don't know.
Okay.
I don't know.
I want you to breathe and let yourself, say these words out loud.
I don't know, notice how heavy, but also friend that could possibly feel for you to not have to know everything.
I always say the one thing I know is I know nothing at all.
That is one of my personal saying, one of my personal mantras.
(09:26):
Alright,, and I think it's okay not to know.
Sometimes the most sacred act is to hold the question without cheaping it with a false answer.
Now, let's go deeper.
People love to say without darkness there is no light.
But let me tell you.
Light can exist without darkness.
The sun burned before shadows had a surface to fall on.
(09:47):
Darkness is not the parent of light.
It's the byproduct.
A shadow only appears when something interrupts the light.
That means most of the bad things we experience are shadows, interruptions.
They don't prove that darkness is necessary.
They prove that light is real.
Shadow exists because light is striking something.
Thing in its path.
(10:08):
And here's the truth.
The universe itself doesn't know right from wrong.
Gravity doesn't care if it pulls a seed into the soil or a body into the river.
Physics doesn't blush, energy doesn't apologize.
Right and wrong are human stories.
The universe is raw law, not moral law.
.33333333So when you ask why bad things happen, ask yourself, am I angry at the universe or am I angry that my story of justice doesn't line up with its laws? The shadow is not proof of darkness. 164 00:10:36,163.33333333 --> 00:10:38,443.33333333 It's proof that something is blocking the light. 165 00:10:38,473.33333333 --> 00:10:43,93.33333333 Okay? Your job is not to worship the shadow, but to move what's in its way. 166 00:10:44,173.33333333 --> 00:10:52,453.33333333 So if I had to distill all of this into one truth, it would be this bad things happen because life is not a straight line of fairness. 167 00:10:52,843.33333333 --> 00:10:59,613.33333333 It is labyrinth of nature, human choice, hidden lessons, shifting perceptions, and unspeakable mysteries. 168 00:11:00,393.33333333 --> 00:11:02,913.33333333 In that labyrinth, you are not perilous. 169 00:11:02,913.33333333 --> 00:11:05,973.33333333 You may not control the storm, but you decide how to rebuild. 170 00:11:05,973.33333333 --> 00:11:09,3.33333333 You may not erase cruelty, but you decide how to resist. 171 00:11:09,213.33333333 --> 00:11:12,573.33333333 You may not end mystery, but you decide how to carry it. 172 00:11:12,933.33333333 --> 00:11:15,723.33333333 The work is not to make the bad good. 173 00:11:15,723.33333333 --> 00:11:21,78.33333333 The work is to repair, resist, and reframe, and to shine the light stronger than the shadow. 174 00:11:22,38.33333333 --> 00:11:23,928.33333333 So rock stars, I'll leave you with this. 175 00:11:23,928.33333333 --> 00:11:31,518.33333333 The universe may not know right from wrong, but you do carry the wisdom like a torch, and don't let the shadow convince you it was ever necessary. 176 00:11:31,848.33333333 --> 00:11:36,258.33333333 This has been episode 37 of the Hood Debutante Podcast. 177 00:11:36,258.33333333 --> 00:11:37,728.33333333 Why Bad Things Happen. 178 00:11:37,998.33333333 --> 00:11:50,268.33333333 I hope I was able to shine some light on this question, or maybe you can come in and give it, get write Me, DM me, tell me why you think bad things happen from your POV. 179 00:11:50,268.33333333 --> 00:11:50,658.33333333 All right. 180 00:11:51,68.33333333 --> 00:11:55,958.33333333 Yeah, I'm your host, London Bambi, and until next time, no, I love you. 181 00:11:56,318.33333333 --> 00:11:57,578.33333333 Stay strong. 182 00:11:57,998.33333333 --> 00:11:59,798.33333333 Stay you and stay beautiful. 183 00:11:59,948.33333333 --> 00:12:00,788.33333333 Bye.
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