Consent, Communication, and the Core of Intimacy
In this powerful and essential episode of The Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis dive into the nuanced and often misunderstood topic of sexual consent within committed relationships. Drawing from years of clinical experience and recent conversations with clients, they explore what true consent looks like—voluntary, informed, and mutually respectful—and contrast it with coercion, obligation, and self-betrayal.
They examine how past trauma, cultural expectations, sexual addiction, and desire discrepancies can distort intimacy, leaving one or both partners feeling used, unsafe, or unheard. With honesty and compassion, Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn emphasize the importance of open communication, healthy boundaries, and attunement between partners.
Listeners are encouraged to assess their current sexual dynamics, initiate mature conversations about their needs, and repair harm where consent may have been ignored or unclear. Whether you're in recovery from betrayal or simply looking to build deeper intimacy, this episode offers a vital framework for healing and connection.
Resources Mentioned in the Episode:
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"Talking to Strangers" by Malcolm Gladwell – Particularly the chapter on consent, alcohol, and impaired decision-making
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"Tea and Consent" YouTube video (British version) – A visual and accessible explanation of consent
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Research on Sexual Desire Discrepancies – Highlighting how mismatched sexual desire impacts relational satisfaction
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Brett Williams' "Same Team" Framework – A tool for shifting relational conflict toward shared problem-solving
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Concepts from betrayal trauma therapy – Including the importance of informed, voluntary participation and boundaries during sexual reintegration
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