What happens when being “nice” becomes a survival strategy that slowly erodes your sense of self? In this episode of The Mindful Living, host Sana is joined by CBT therapist and confidence coach Ludovica Colella to unpack the truth behind chronic niceness, people-pleasing, and perfectionism. They explore how women are socialized to prioritize approval over authenticity—and what it takes to break free. From emotional burnout to assertive communication, Ludovica shares real-world strategies to reclaim your energy, speak your truth, and stop over-functioning. This isn’t about being rude—it’s about being real.
About the Guest: Ludovica Colella is a CBT therapist and confidence coach with over a decade of experience helping millennial women heal from anxiety, low self-esteem, and people-pleasing patterns. Her signature program, The Confident Communication Lab, empowers clients to set boundaries with clarity and compassion. She combines clinical psychology with coaching tools to guide women from self-abandonment to self-alignment.
Key Takeaways:
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People-pleasing is not kindness—it’s often self-abandonment rooted in fear of rejection.
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Burnout is a signal, not a weakness. Chronic “yes” habits often hide deeper beliefs of unworthiness.
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Assertive communication isn’t aggression—it’s honesty without apology.
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Saying no, setting limits, and honoring your needs can actually strengthen relationships.
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To truly lead or love, you have to stop managing others' emotions and start expressing your own.
Connect with Ludovica Colella: Website: https://lu-cole.com Instagram: @ludovica_colella_coaching
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