March 10, 2025 • 12 mins
Feeling like you’re not a ‘good enough’ homeschool mom?** You’re not alone. Every homeschool mom struggles with self-doubt at some point. But today, I want to help you overcome that fear and homeschool with confidence even on the days when you feel like you’re not enough.
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(01:48):
Hey, friend.
Let me ask you something.
Have you ever felt that you are not good enough as a homeschool mom? Maybe you are constantly second guessing yourself.
Or maybe you're wondering if you're doing this whole homeschooling thing right.
Or maybe you have even thought, What if I ruin my kids? What if I don't teach them everything they need to know? If that's you, I want to just say, you are not alone.
(02:13):
I have been there.
.001Every homeschool mom struggles with self doubt at some point. 8 00:02:21,300.001 --> 00:02:30,360.001 But today I want to help you overcome that fear and homeschool with confidence, even on the days when you feel like you are not enough and you have not done enough. 9 00:02:31,360.001 --> 00:02:36,410.001 In this video, we're going to talk about the biggest homeschool confidence killers and how to overcome them. 10 00:02:37,195.001 --> 00:02:46,335.001 We're going to talk about five powerful mindset shifts that will help you trust yourself more and practical ways to build confidence in your homeschool journey. 11 00:02:46,685.001 --> 00:02:53,205.001 So grab a cup of tea, take a deep breath and let's talk about how to homeschool with confidence. 12 00:02:54,205.001 --> 00:03:05,605.002 Before we build confidence, let's talk about what steals our confidence in the first place because if we can identify the real problem, we can stop letting it control us. 13 00:03:06,605.002 --> 00:03:10,645.002 I would say the number one thing is comparison to other homeschool moms. 14 00:03:11,15.002 --> 00:03:23,635.001 We see other homeschool moms on Instagram with a perfectly organized homeschool room, kids working happily in color coded schedules, and we immediately feel like we're doing it all wrong. 15 00:03:24,215.001 --> 00:03:25,65.002 But here's the truth. 16 00:03:25,655.002 --> 00:03:29,345.002 You're only seeing their highlight reel, and not their hard days. 17 00:03:29,345.102 --> 00:03:32,35.002 No homeschool is perfect. 18 00:03:32,775.002 --> 00:03:34,515.002 So the solution to that is easy. 19 00:03:34,885.002 --> 00:03:39,815.002 Stop comparing your behind the scenes to someone else's highlight reel. 20 00:03:40,195.002 --> 00:03:44,475.002 Instead, focus on what's working with your unique family. 21 00:03:45,475.002 --> 00:03:49,855.003 The next thing could be fear of failing our kids, and this is a big one. 22 00:03:50,445.002 --> 00:03:54,655.003 We carry this enormous responsibility, thinking we have to do it all. 23 00:03:55,355.003 --> 00:03:57,485.003 Teach every subject perfectly. 24 00:03:57,785.003 --> 00:04:01,885.003 Meet every need and make sure that our kids turn out right. 25 00:04:02,745.003 --> 00:04:06,565.003 But God never called you to be the perfect homeschool mom. 26 00:04:06,815.003 --> 00:04:09,85.003 He called you to be a faithful one. 27 00:04:10,85.003 --> 00:04:18,615.003 So what's the solution to that problem? Trust that God is leading your homeschool and that progress matters more than perfection. 28 00:04:19,615.003 --> 00:04:24,175.003 The next problem can be teaching, thinking that we need to teach everything. 29 00:04:24,565.003 --> 00:04:27,655.003 And let me set you free from this one right now. 30 00:04:28,605.002 --> 00:04:31,205.003 It is impossible to teach your kids everything. 31 00:04:31,665.003 --> 00:04:35,315.003 No school, no teacher, no curriculum can do that. 32 00:04:36,315.003 --> 00:04:40,405.003 Our real job as a homeschool mom isn't to teach every fact. 33 00:04:40,885.003 --> 00:04:43,135.003 It's to teach our kids how to love learning. 34 00:04:43,950.003 --> 00:04:47,80.003 Think critically and find information when they need it. 35 00:04:47,930.003 --> 00:05:01,594.905 The solution to that one is instead of focusing on teaching everything, teach your children to love learning and become lifetime learners so that they want to learn their entire life. 36 00:05:02,594.905 --> 00:05:07,454.905 Number four can be believing our kids need to learn like a traditional school. 37 00:05:08,194.905 --> 00:05:15,424.904 Sometimes we lack confidence because we're trying to fit our homeschool into a traditional school learning model. 38 00:05:16,244.905 --> 00:05:19,494.905 But homeschooling doesn't look like a classroom. 39 00:05:20,114.904 --> 00:05:23,144.905 It's supposed to look like real life learning. 40 00:05:23,619.905 --> 00:05:32,829.905 Stop worrying about keeping up with schools and instead focus on creating a rich learning environment that fits your family rhythm. 41 00:05:33,829.905 --> 00:05:38,859.905 Now that we know what's stealing your confidence, let's talk about how to get that back. 42 00:05:39,659.904 --> 00:05:45,19.904 Here are five powerful mindset shifts that will help you homeschool with confidence. 43 00:05:46,19.904 --> 00:05:48,119.904 Number one is progress over perfection. 44 00:05:48,279.904 --> 00:05:49,799.904 You don't have to be perfect. 45 00:05:50,799.904 --> 00:05:56,99.904 To be successful and your homeschool days don't have to be perfect to be successful. 46 00:07:56,559.904 --> 00:07:58,329.904 Some days will be super messy. 47 00:07:58,859.904 --> 00:08:04,289.904 Some lessons will not go as planned and that's very normal and maybe a lot more than some. 48 00:08:04,449.903 --> 00:08:10,269.904 Maybe many lessons will not go as planned and maybe many homeschool days will not go as planned. 49 00:08:11,269.904 --> 00:08:15,609.904 But are you making progress? Measure your success by progress. 50 00:08:16,609.904 --> 00:08:21,269.904 It's not perfection, because even small wins count. 51 00:08:22,269.904 --> 00:08:26,59.904 Number two, I would say trust that God chose you for this job. 52 00:08:26,679.904 --> 00:08:29,419.904 You are the mom God handpicked for your children. 53 00:08:30,299.904 --> 00:08:33,229.904 He didn't make a mistake when he gave them to you. 54 00:08:34,49.904 --> 00:08:41,289.904 When you feel unqualified, remember God doesn't call the qualified, but he qualifies those who he calls. 55 00:08:41,559.904 --> 00:08:43,69.904 Think of Moses. 56 00:08:43,779.904 --> 00:08:51,549.904 And, the Bible verse that I'm thinking of now is Philippians 1 verse 6, He who began a good work in you will carry it to completion. 57 00:08:52,549.904 --> 00:08:57,119.903 For number three, you need to embrace your unique homeschool style. 58 00:08:57,929.904 --> 00:09:00,269.903 Not every homeschool family looks the same. 59 00:09:00,689.904 --> 00:09:07,779.904 Some families love structured schedules, others thrive on a more relaxed learning situation. 60 00:09:08,639.904 --> 00:09:12,119.904 Let your homeschool fit you, mom, and your family. 61 00:09:12,959.904 --> 00:09:19,289.904 Give yourself permission to do what works for you, even if it doesn't look like anybody else's homeschool. 62 00:09:20,289.904 --> 00:09:23,649.903 For number four, I would say let your kids be a part of the learning process. 63 00:09:23,979.903 --> 00:09:26,249.904 You do not have to do all the teaching. 64 00:09:26,739.903 --> 00:09:30,249.904 Your kids can take practical ownership for their learning. 65 00:09:31,249.904 --> 00:09:33,39.904 Give them choices in their curriculum. 66 00:09:33,229.904 --> 00:09:37,319.904 Let them explore topics they love and encourage independent learning. 67 00:09:38,319.904 --> 00:09:40,859.904 For number five, I would say build a support system. 68 00:09:41,549.904 --> 00:09:45,309.904 Homeschooling can feel isolating if we try to do it all by yourself. 69 00:09:46,259.904 --> 00:09:48,889.904 Find other homeschool moms that can support you. 70 00:09:49,889.904 --> 00:10:00,199.904 The ways you can find support are through joining a local homeschool group, connecting with other moms online, find yourself a homeschool mentor or coach like me. 71 00:10:01,199.904 --> 00:10:02,639.804 If you need the extra support, call me. 72 00:10:02,899.904 --> 00:10:04,9.904 You can reach out to me. 73 00:10:04,289.904 --> 00:10:06,749.904 I love encouraging homeschool moms. 74 00:10:07,749.904 --> 00:10:12,729.903 Mindset shifts are powerful, but confidence grows when we take consistent action. 75 00:10:13,339.903 --> 00:10:18,639.903 Here's a few practical ways that you can do every day to build your homeschool confidence. 76 00:10:19,429.903 --> 00:10:22,999.903 Number one would be to start your day with prayer and gratitude. 77 00:10:23,179.903 --> 00:10:25,879.903 Before you jump into lessons, take a moment to pray. 78 00:10:26,379.903 --> 00:10:29,459.903 Ask God for wisdom, patience, and joy. 79 00:10:30,264.903 --> 00:10:33,504.903 Then write down one thing you're grateful for in your homeschool. 80 00:10:33,924.903 --> 00:10:40,84.903 It helps shift your focus to do the good for mind, shift two. 81 00:10:40,84.903 --> 00:10:43,600.903 I would say keep a wind journal at the end of the day. 82 00:10:44,549.903 --> 00:10:46,979.903 Write down one small success. 83 00:10:47,579.903 --> 00:10:53,729.903 Maybe your child finally grasped a math concept, or maybe you just had a great conversation over lunch. 84 00:10:54,339.902 --> 00:10:58,949.903 I found we had most of our good conversations in the vehicle when we were driving somewhere. 85 00:10:59,819.903 --> 00:11:03,649.903 Seeing those little wins will remind you that you are doing a great job. 86 00:11:04,649.903 --> 00:11:06,749.903 For shift number three, I would. 87 00:11:07,749.903 --> 00:11:10,329.903 Recommend that you take breaks when you need them. 88 00:11:10,819.903 --> 00:11:14,429.903 Confidence grows when we don't run ourselves into the ground. 89 00:11:15,79.903 --> 00:11:20,149.903 If you're feeling frustrated, take a break, go outside, read together, or just pause for a minute. 90 00:11:21,149.903 --> 00:11:25,239.904 For number four, I want you to remind yourself that it's okay to adjust. 91 00:11:25,729.904 --> 00:11:30,979.904 If something isn't working, it's not a failure, it's a feedback, and you can change it. 92 00:11:31,924.904 --> 00:11:35,924.904 And, you have the freedom to change things up as you need to change them. 93 00:11:36,394.904 --> 00:11:37,974.904 You have to answer to no one, really. 94 00:11:38,284.904 --> 00:11:41,584.904 You have to answer to your family and to what works for you. 95 00:11:42,584.904 --> 00:11:47,694.903 Friend, I just want you to know, you are enough, right now, as you are. 96 00:11:48,204.903 --> 00:11:54,214.904 You don't have to be the perfect teacher, you don't have to have the perfect curriculum, and you do not have to have everything figured out. 97 00:11:54,904.904 --> 00:12:00,74.904 Your love, your faithfulness, and your willingness to show up for your kids is what truly matters. 98 00:12:00,739.904 --> 00:12:02,269.904 Today I want you to do one thing. 99 00:12:03,259.904 --> 00:12:07,169.904 Write down one reason why you are the perfect mom for your children. 100 00:12:07,879.904 --> 00:12:15,519.904 And if this has encouraged you, and tell me what's one area you want to grow in homeschool confidence.
Hey, friend.
Let me ask you something.
Have you ever felt that you are not good enough as a homeschool mom? Maybe you are constantly second guessing yourself.
Or maybe you're wondering if you're doing this whole homeschooling thing right.
Or maybe you have even thought, What if I ruin my kids? What if I don't teach them everything they need to know? If that's you, I want to just say, you are not alone.
(02:13):
I have been there.
.001Every homeschool mom struggles with self doubt at some point. 8 00:02:21,300.001 --> 00:02:30,360.001 But today I want to help you overcome that fear and homeschool with confidence, even on the days when you feel like you are not enough and you have not done enough. 9 00:02:31,360.001 --> 00:02:36,410.001 In this video, we're going to talk about the biggest homeschool confidence killers and how to overcome them. 10 00:02:37,195.001 --> 00:02:46,335.001 We're going to talk about five powerful mindset shifts that will help you trust yourself more and practical ways to build confidence in your homeschool journey. 11 00:02:46,685.001 --> 00:02:53,205.001 So grab a cup of tea, take a deep breath and let's talk about how to homeschool with confidence. 12 00:02:54,205.001 --> 00:03:05,605.002 Before we build confidence, let's talk about what steals our confidence in the first place because if we can identify the real problem, we can stop letting it control us. 13 00:03:06,605.002 --> 00:03:10,645.002 I would say the number one thing is comparison to other homeschool moms. 14 00:03:11,15.002 --> 00:03:23,635.001 We see other homeschool moms on Instagram with a perfectly organized homeschool room, kids working happily in color coded schedules, and we immediately feel like we're doing it all wrong. 15 00:03:24,215.001 --> 00:03:25,65.002 But here's the truth. 16 00:03:25,655.002 --> 00:03:29,345.002 You're only seeing their highlight reel, and not their hard days. 17 00:03:29,345.102 --> 00:03:32,35.002 No homeschool is perfect. 18 00:03:32,775.002 --> 00:03:34,515.002 So the solution to that is easy. 19 00:03:34,885.002 --> 00:03:39,815.002 Stop comparing your behind the scenes to someone else's highlight reel. 20 00:03:40,195.002 --> 00:03:44,475.002 Instead, focus on what's working with your unique family. 21 00:03:45,475.002 --> 00:03:49,855.003 The next thing could be fear of failing our kids, and this is a big one. 22 00:03:50,445.002 --> 00:03:54,655.003 We carry this enormous responsibility, thinking we have to do it all. 23 00:03:55,355.003 --> 00:03:57,485.003 Teach every subject perfectly. 24 00:03:57,785.003 --> 00:04:01,885.003 Meet every need and make sure that our kids turn out right. 25 00:04:02,745.003 --> 00:04:06,565.003 But God never called you to be the perfect homeschool mom. 26 00:04:06,815.003 --> 00:04:09,85.003 He called you to be a faithful one. 27 00:04:10,85.003 --> 00:04:18,615.003 So what's the solution to that problem? Trust that God is leading your homeschool and that progress matters more than perfection. 28 00:04:19,615.003 --> 00:04:24,175.003 The next problem can be teaching, thinking that we need to teach everything. 29 00:04:24,565.003 --> 00:04:27,655.003 And let me set you free from this one right now. 30 00:04:28,605.002 --> 00:04:31,205.003 It is impossible to teach your kids everything. 31 00:04:31,665.003 --> 00:04:35,315.003 No school, no teacher, no curriculum can do that. 32 00:04:36,315.003 --> 00:04:40,405.003 Our real job as a homeschool mom isn't to teach every fact. 33 00:04:40,885.003 --> 00:04:43,135.003 It's to teach our kids how to love learning. 34 00:04:43,950.003 --> 00:04:47,80.003 Think critically and find information when they need it. 35 00:04:47,930.003 --> 00:05:01,594.905 The solution to that one is instead of focusing on teaching everything, teach your children to love learning and become lifetime learners so that they want to learn their entire life. 36 00:05:02,594.905 --> 00:05:07,454.905 Number four can be believing our kids need to learn like a traditional school. 37 00:05:08,194.905 --> 00:05:15,424.904 Sometimes we lack confidence because we're trying to fit our homeschool into a traditional school learning model. 38 00:05:16,244.905 --> 00:05:19,494.905 But homeschooling doesn't look like a classroom. 39 00:05:20,114.904 --> 00:05:23,144.905 It's supposed to look like real life learning. 40 00:05:23,619.905 --> 00:05:32,829.905 Stop worrying about keeping up with schools and instead focus on creating a rich learning environment that fits your family rhythm. 41 00:05:33,829.905 --> 00:05:38,859.905 Now that we know what's stealing your confidence, let's talk about how to get that back. 42 00:05:39,659.904 --> 00:05:45,19.904 Here are five powerful mindset shifts that will help you homeschool with confidence. 43 00:05:46,19.904 --> 00:05:48,119.904 Number one is progress over perfection. 44 00:05:48,279.904 --> 00:05:49,799.904 You don't have to be perfect. 45 00:05:50,799.904 --> 00:05:56,99.904 To be successful and your homeschool days don't have to be perfect to be successful. 46 00:07:56,559.904 --> 00:07:58,329.904 Some days will be super messy. 47 00:07:58,859.904 --> 00:08:04,289.904 Some lessons will not go as planned and that's very normal and maybe a lot more than some. 48 00:08:04,449.903 --> 00:08:10,269.904 Maybe many lessons will not go as planned and maybe many homeschool days will not go as planned. 49 00:08:11,269.904 --> 00:08:15,609.904 But are you making progress? Measure your success by progress. 50 00:08:16,609.904 --> 00:08:21,269.904 It's not perfection, because even small wins count. 51 00:08:22,269.904 --> 00:08:26,59.904 Number two, I would say trust that God chose you for this job. 52 00:08:26,679.904 --> 00:08:29,419.904 You are the mom God handpicked for your children. 53 00:08:30,299.904 --> 00:08:33,229.904 He didn't make a mistake when he gave them to you. 54 00:08:34,49.904 --> 00:08:41,289.904 When you feel unqualified, remember God doesn't call the qualified, but he qualifies those who he calls. 55 00:08:41,559.904 --> 00:08:43,69.904 Think of Moses. 56 00:08:43,779.904 --> 00:08:51,549.904 And, the Bible verse that I'm thinking of now is Philippians 1 verse 6, He who began a good work in you will carry it to completion. 57 00:08:52,549.904 --> 00:08:57,119.903 For number three, you need to embrace your unique homeschool style. 58 00:08:57,929.904 --> 00:09:00,269.903 Not every homeschool family looks the same. 59 00:09:00,689.904 --> 00:09:07,779.904 Some families love structured schedules, others thrive on a more relaxed learning situation. 60 00:09:08,639.904 --> 00:09:12,119.904 Let your homeschool fit you, mom, and your family. 61 00:09:12,959.904 --> 00:09:19,289.904 Give yourself permission to do what works for you, even if it doesn't look like anybody else's homeschool. 62 00:09:20,289.904 --> 00:09:23,649.903 For number four, I would say let your kids be a part of the learning process. 63 00:09:23,979.903 --> 00:09:26,249.904 You do not have to do all the teaching. 64 00:09:26,739.903 --> 00:09:30,249.904 Your kids can take practical ownership for their learning. 65 00:09:31,249.904 --> 00:09:33,39.904 Give them choices in their curriculum. 66 00:09:33,229.904 --> 00:09:37,319.904 Let them explore topics they love and encourage independent learning. 67 00:09:38,319.904 --> 00:09:40,859.904 For number five, I would say build a support system. 68 00:09:41,549.904 --> 00:09:45,309.904 Homeschooling can feel isolating if we try to do it all by yourself. 69 00:09:46,259.904 --> 00:09:48,889.904 Find other homeschool moms that can support you. 70 00:09:49,889.904 --> 00:10:00,199.904 The ways you can find support are through joining a local homeschool group, connecting with other moms online, find yourself a homeschool mentor or coach like me. 71 00:10:01,199.904 --> 00:10:02,639.804 If you need the extra support, call me. 72 00:10:02,899.904 --> 00:10:04,9.904 You can reach out to me. 73 00:10:04,289.904 --> 00:10:06,749.904 I love encouraging homeschool moms. 74 00:10:07,749.904 --> 00:10:12,729.903 Mindset shifts are powerful, but confidence grows when we take consistent action. 75 00:10:13,339.903 --> 00:10:18,639.903 Here's a few practical ways that you can do every day to build your homeschool confidence. 76 00:10:19,429.903 --> 00:10:22,999.903 Number one would be to start your day with prayer and gratitude. 77 00:10:23,179.903 --> 00:10:25,879.903 Before you jump into lessons, take a moment to pray. 78 00:10:26,379.903 --> 00:10:29,459.903 Ask God for wisdom, patience, and joy. 79 00:10:30,264.903 --> 00:10:33,504.903 Then write down one thing you're grateful for in your homeschool. 80 00:10:33,924.903 --> 00:10:40,84.903 It helps shift your focus to do the good for mind, shift two. 81 00:10:40,84.903 --> 00:10:43,600.903 I would say keep a wind journal at the end of the day. 82 00:10:44,549.903 --> 00:10:46,979.903 Write down one small success. 83 00:10:47,579.903 --> 00:10:53,729.903 Maybe your child finally grasped a math concept, or maybe you just had a great conversation over lunch. 84 00:10:54,339.902 --> 00:10:58,949.903 I found we had most of our good conversations in the vehicle when we were driving somewhere. 85 00:10:59,819.903 --> 00:11:03,649.903 Seeing those little wins will remind you that you are doing a great job. 86 00:11:04,649.903 --> 00:11:06,749.903 For shift number three, I would. 87 00:11:07,749.903 --> 00:11:10,329.903 Recommend that you take breaks when you need them. 88 00:11:10,819.903 --> 00:11:14,429.903 Confidence grows when we don't run ourselves into the ground. 89 00:11:15,79.903 --> 00:11:20,149.903 If you're feeling frustrated, take a break, go outside, read together, or just pause for a minute. 90 00:11:21,149.903 --> 00:11:25,239.904 For number four, I want you to remind yourself that it's okay to adjust. 91 00:11:25,729.904 --> 00:11:30,979.904 If something isn't working, it's not a failure, it's a feedback, and you can change it. 92 00:11:31,924.904 --> 00:11:35,924.904 And, you have the freedom to change things up as you need to change them. 93 00:11:36,394.904 --> 00:11:37,974.904 You have to answer to no one, really. 94 00:11:38,284.904 --> 00:11:41,584.904 You have to answer to your family and to what works for you. 95 00:11:42,584.904 --> 00:11:47,694.903 Friend, I just want you to know, you are enough, right now, as you are. 96 00:11:48,204.903 --> 00:11:54,214.904 You don't have to be the perfect teacher, you don't have to have the perfect curriculum, and you do not have to have everything figured out. 97 00:11:54,904.904 --> 00:12:00,74.904 Your love, your faithfulness, and your willingness to show up for your kids is what truly matters. 98 00:12:00,739.904 --> 00:12:02,269.904 Today I want you to do one thing. 99 00:12:03,259.904 --> 00:12:07,169.904 Write down one reason why you are the perfect mom for your children. 100 00:12:07,879.904 --> 00:12:15,519.904 And if this has encouraged you, and tell me what's one area you want to grow in homeschool confidence.
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