When you quit drinking, you go through periods of learning how to parent yourself on your alcohol-free journey. Whether you're a parent, child-free, or somewhere in between, Sara and Heather dive deep into the power of becoming your own inner caregiver—your inner mother, father, or adult—and how sobriety makes space for that transformation. Quitting alcohol isn’t just about removing something toxic. It’s about rebuilding your life, one foundational brick at a time. In this conversation, we explore what it looks like to truly take care of yourself with the same love, structure, and consistency you’d offer a child. Inside the episode:
- Why learning to "adult" again is a key part of early sobriety
- The power of reclaiming routines like brushing your teeth and feeding yourself regularly
- Shifting from external validation to inner trust and rest
- Managing money, clutter, and time without avoidance or overwhelm
- Reconnecting with your purpose and relationships—starting with you
- Why small goals build big confidence
- How to know when your life needs “mothering” and what to do about it
The 8 Pillars of Self-Parenting These are the daily acts and deeper commitments that help you build a secure, alcohol-free foundation:
- Self-Care – From sleep and skincare to hydration and medical appointments
- Feeding Yourself Well – Cooking (or assembling!) meals regularly and planning ahead
- Goal Setting – Starting with small wins to build self-trust
- Keeping a Clean Space – Creating visual calm and organizing in a way that works for you
- Money Management – Moving from avoidance to awareness and setting up systems that support your growth
- Healthy Relationships – Cultivating connection, patience, and presence with others
- Time Management – Saying no to overbooking and learning to slow down
- Purpose & Work – Letting go of old identities and tuning into what lights you up
If you’re feeling off in any area of life, these eight pillars—and their four overarching themes (Health, Home, Purpose, and Community)—can help you pinpoint where your inner parent needs to step in.
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Resources Mentioned:
- Daymakers Community: Weekly coaching calls, private messaging threads, and a supportive community. Learn more here.
- Heather’s 1-on-1 Coaching: Tailored support to help you navigate your alcohol-free life.
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