Ever feel like if you’re not doing something perfectly, it’s not worth doing at all? That’s all-or-nothing thinking, and it can sabotage your progress—not just in sobriety, but in every area of life. In this episode of No More Wasted Days, Heather and Sara dive into why this mindset is so harmful, how it keeps you stuck, and what to do instead.
Whether you’ve struggled with feeling like one drink means total failure, or you tend to abandon goals the second they don’t go perfectly, this episode will help you shift your thinking, embrace progress over perfection, and build the resilience you need for long-term success.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode: ✅ What all-or-nothing thinking is and why it’s so common in sobriety. ✅ How perfectionism keeps you stuck and leads to self-sabotage. ✅ Why setbacks don’t erase your progress (and how to reframe them). ✅ The difference between a pressure-driven mindset vs. a growth mindset. ✅ Strategies to challenge all-or-nothing thinking and stay consistent.
Key Takeaways:
- Progress is Cumulative – One setback doesn’t erase everything you’ve achieved.
- Perfection is a Trap – Success is a spectrum, not an all-or-nothing game.
- Reframe Setbacks as Data, Not Drama – Every misstep is a learning opportunity.
- Identity Shift is Key – Instead of saying “I’m trying to quit drinking,” say “I’m someone who prioritizes my health.”
- Small Steps Lead to Big Wins – The 1% Rule: Just get 1% better each day.
Memorable Quotes:
- “You don’t have to be perfect to be making progress.”
- “One drink doesn’t erase all the work you’ve done. It’s a moment, not the whole story.”
- “Your alcohol-free journey isn’t an on/off switch—it’s a process of growth and self-discovery.”
- “Instead of waiting for the ‘perfect’ time, start where you are and adjust along the way.”
Call to Action: 💡 Your Challenge This Week: Identify one way you tend to fall into all-or-nothing thinking. How can you reframe it and focus on progress over perfection?
📌 Need support? Join the Daymakers Community or work with Heather 1-on-1 for personalized coaching. Learn more here.
Resources Mentioned:
- Daymakers Community: Weekly coaching calls, private messaging threads, and a supportive community. Learn more here.
- Heather’s 1-on-1 Coaching: Tailored support to help you navigate your alcohol-free life.
If this episode resonated with you, share it with a fellow caregiver and leave a comment on Spotify or YouTube. Let’s break free from the guilt trap together! 💛
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