The Self-Hype Podcast
Welcome to ”The Self-Hype Podcast,” hosted by Eli Vazquez – your ultimate destination for unfiltered discussions on dating, love, personal development, and relationships. Get ready for Eli’s No-BS advice, raw talk on love, and empowering insights from expert guests in the dating and personal development sphere. Join us as Eli cuts through the noise, providing practical tips, relatable stories, and transformative wisdom to navigate the modern landscape of love and self-improvement.
Episodes
Eli breaks format and goes straight from the heart — reflecting on the fears he faced this year, the wounds that still sting, and what it really looks like to keep going when life isn’t cute. Because healing isn’t a movie. Sometimes it’s tears, shutdown, and still showing up anyway.
This episode is built like a personal wellness coaching session. Eli gives you a step-by-step “think day” framework to close out the year: write down y...
In this episode, Eli and Meg Reynolds break down why modern dating feels harder than ever — and why so many people stay stuck in relationships that drain them. Meg introduces the idea of the “ambition gap,” explains why emotional availability matters more than money, and shares how she learned to walk away sooner instead of negotiating her needs. They talk low-effort dating, inconsistent communication, why “he’s just busy” is usual...
If the holidays make you feel like the only single person in a sea of matching pajama sets and forehead kisses, this episode will feel like a warm hug. Eli yaps, rants, and gets real about what it means to feel lonely during the “happiest time of the year” — even when you’re in a relationship. He breaks down how comparison steals your joy, why every emotion that surfaces right now is a teacher, and how to treat this season like a l...
What happens when the life you built collapses overnight? Sahara Rose joins Eli for a profound conversation about feminine healing, spiritual awakening, and reclaiming your identity after betrayal. She shares how one devastating confession shattered her marriage—and how it initiated her into a deeper version of herself she didn’t even know existed. Sahara breaks down the truth about spiritual healing (hint: it’s messy, ugly, and a...
If you’re exhausted by ghosting, low-effort conversations, and another “promising” match that fizzles out, this episode is your deep breath. Eli breaks down what dating burnout actually does to your nervous system, why you don’t have to be a “super dater” 24/7, and how to see your love life in seasons instead of a constant grind. He walks you through taking a real break (yes, deleting the apps), negotiating with your anxiety, and h...
If you’ve ever stayed in a relationship that looked great on paper but felt terrible in your body, this one’s for you. Eli shares a recent experience witnessing an ICE raid in Chicago — and connects it to why so many of us normalize anxiety in our love lives. He dives into anxious attachment, “cool girl” behavior, and the kind of partners who leave you scared to speak up. Together, you’ll unpack what emotional safety actually looks...
When Jenny lost her husband in a tragic plane crash, she didn’t just face grief—she faced herself. In this powerful episode, Eli and Jenny explore the full spectrum of healing: from shock and survival to rediscovering purpose, love, and joy. Jenny shares how she learned to care for herself while caring for her husband, the moment she decided to live again, and how listening to her intuition guided her toward a second soulmate. This...
Love Is Blind! I’m ranting, reflecting, and dropping some truth bombs about what went wrong this season of the popular Netflix series. I'm unpacking the messy dynamics and explaining how you can avoid making the same mistakes. The season proved that love isn’t blind, but your standards don’t have to be—if you’re willing to do the work. We’re diving deep into why “love will grow” outside of attraction is just a fairy tale in most ca...
Eli sits down with Hily Dating App's sexologist and sexuality educator Dr. Mindy DeSeta to flip the script on consent. This episode turns “awkward talks” into real-time foreplay—how to ask with finesse, lead with vulnerability, and keep things safe without killing the vibe. They break down why so many daters freeze from performance anxiety, how to start a spicy convo the right way, and why safety actually makes intimacy hotter. Plu...
What do men want in relationships today? It’s more than just chemistry or physical attraction. Eli breaks down the key qualities men look for in long-term partnerships, focusing on emotional maturity, accountability, and how well you manage your emotions. In this episode, Eli discusses why emotional regulation is one of the most underrated yet crucial aspects of a successful relationship and how men are drawn to women who can be bo...
Your circle isn’t just there to nod and say “girl, same.” Eli shows you how to transform friends into an accountability squad: ask permission before you vent, set the lane (listen vs. advice), and leave with one next step plus a date to report back. This is how support stops being emotional clutter—and starts becoming your healing engine. We unpack this and so much in stepping into your own power by stepping into your own vulnerabi...
Ever been blindsided by a breakup, replaying every what-if, asking “Was it me?” Eli gets it. This week, he dives into the messy, uncomfortable, and sometimes hilarious reality of closure. Why it’s not always about answers, why secure people get triggered too, and why the “closure you want” isn’t always the closure you get. Through this episode, you’ll learn to parent your inner child, recognize avoidance, and understand that his li...
That instant spark, the butterflies, the “oh my God he’s hot” moment—it’s thrilling, it’s intoxicating… and it can make you blind. In this episode, Eli dismantles the myth that chemistry equals compatibility. He shares raw insights from years of coaching, personal experience as a former avoidant, and real stories from clients who got caught chasing sparks instead of substance. Learn how to pump the brakes, ask the right questions, ...
Self-care isn’t spa days and margaritas. It’s facing yourself with intention so you can raise the standard for your whole life. In this episode, Eli breaks down why real self-care is actually selfless, how “survival mode” keeps you burned out, and a simple intention-first system you can use today. He shares the BuzzFeed solo-date story, the backyard picnic that changed everything, and practical prompts to turn any activity into hea...
You asked, and Eli answered. In this special community-driven episode, host Eli Vazquez dives headfirst into your most burning questions about dating and heartbreak. Wondering what he’s really thinking in that rebound relationship? Confused about the difference between boundaries and rules? This is the episode for you. With his signature mix of tough love, relatable humor, and actionable advice, Eli tackles everything from avoidant...
You don’t need six months to see the truth—you need a process. In this episode, Eli gives you a three-date blueprint to identify avoidant patterns early: intentional check-ins, direct values alignment (marriage, kids, faith, location), and real talk about conflict and repair. You’ll learn how to calm an anxious attachment by building self-trust, practice reparenting with curiosity and compassion, and...
In a refreshing and honest conversation on the Selfhype Podcast, Eli Vasquez welcomes the infectiously positive Suzi Jalowsky to share the story behind her viral fitness fame. What began with workout DVDs in her garage after putting the kids to bed has blossomed into a million-follower community inspired by her simple and effective approach to health. Together, Eli and Suzi explore the power of starting small, the men...
Why does dating feel like a never-ending cycle of disappointment? Eli dives into the sneaky ways social media rewires our brains to expect heartbreak, distrust, and division in love. From heartbreak content loops that keep wounds open, to confusing growth with potential in relationships, he exposes the traps that leave so many burnt out in the digital streets. But it’s not all bad news—Eli shares how to break free fro...
Episode Introduction: Erin Valente is a compassionate therapist and content creator whose deep curiosity about people and their stories fuels her mission to make mental health more approachable and relatable. On this episode of the Selfhype Podcast, Erin joins Eli Vasquez to unpack the realities of trauma, healing, and the human experience. With years of experience supporting clients through diverse challenges, Erin...
In this raw and real episode of the Self Hype Podcast, Eli Vazquez delivers a no-nonsense wake-up call about the trap of falling for "potential" in relationships. With his signature wit and straight talk, Eli breaks down why chasing someone’s unrealized potential is a recipe for heartbreak and how to shift your focus to reality. He gets candid about his own journey, from his "dusty" days to becoming "Mr. Clean with good ass hair," ...
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