21: You shouldn't have to 'break the rules' to feel safe at home

Today’s guest, Bobbie Loughlin, is a neurodevelopmental screener who works with families to build safety, understanding, and support at home. She’s also a parent with lived experience of ADHD and autism - and her journey is full of the kind of messy, real-life insight that you rarely find in the glossy parenting books.

If you’re parenting a neurodivergent child (or navigating your own neurodivergence while raising little humans) today’s episode could offer exactly the reassurance and and deep permission you’re longing for in your home life.

We talk about:

• What it means to create a port of safety in your home, especially when the outside world feels chaotic or unkind
• The pressure to follow the “rules” of parenting and how those rules often don’t serve us or our children
• Why connection (not compliance) is the key to co-regulation and emotional wellbeing within the family
• How to navigate basic needs like sleep, food and hygiene when demand avoidance or sensory overwhelm are in the mix
• Why you don’t need a formal diagnosis to start seeking community and support
• How to start letting yourself (and your family) be messy, flexible and gloriously unconventional

Whether you’re deep in the process of supporting a child through assessments, or just feeling the pressure of being “the different family” on the block, Bobbie’s words are a powerful reminder: you are not alone.

And you don’t have to feel like you’re breaking the rules just to create safety, peace and comfort in your own home.

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