August 29, 2024 • 34 mins
In this episode of The Two Charlottes Spill the Tea, we dive deep into the topic of getting older. Join us as we reflect on our youthful misconceptions about aging and discuss how our perspectives have evolved. We share personal stories, laugh at our past insecurities, and celebrate the freedom and self-acceptance that comes with age.
We explore the societal pressures around anti-aging, the impact of marketing, and the beauty of embracing who we truly are. Whether you're in your twenties, thirties, or beyond, this episode offers a refreshing and positive outlook on aging gracefully—or disgracefully! Tune in for an honest conversation about the joys of growing older and finding peace within ourselves.
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Thanks. Hello and welcome to another episode of The Two Charlottes Spill the Tea.
This week we have decided we're going to talk about
getting older and I want to say getting older gracefully
but I think it might be a bit like disgracefully but
in more in a sense that you know we're getting older and
we don't really care about it and obviously you
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know neither of us are really old like
I'm only 35 Charlotte's 42
in a couple of days like we're not old old you
know like we're not like oh my god like 90 but I remember when I was you know
like 14 15 someone being in their mid-30s was old like yeah you know mid-30s
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was old 40s and 50s as far as I was concerned you were ancient,
you'd given up work, you'd retired.
You were planning a funeral, you know, you were so old.
So when I was younger, yeah, you looked at older people and you were like,
oh my God, like they're just so much older.
And you were kind of scared of getting old and worried about what that would
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mean for you and your life and all this kind of stuff.
But actually now that we are those ages I think
both of us can agree that well one we're not
old even though sometimes I do look at the wrinkles on my forehead and think
yeah you're quite old but you know actually it's not as bad as we thought it
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was when we were younger yeah couldn't agree more like when when I was younger
I remember looking at my mum and dad and just thinking like.
You know how like together they had their lives
and like I used to think god when I'm old I'm
gonna have you know a house and be married and have
my own car and have like 2.5 children and be
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super successful in my career and blah blah blah because I
thought that's what like they were probably in their like early
30s maybe late 20s early 30s when I was
thinking that and I thought they had it all together and now I'm past
that age now I know that they did not have it all together at
all they were just winging it the same but I just used
to look at that kind of age and think it was like middle-aged yeah
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middle-aged people and I used to think you
know like they're the same as what you said like you
have to make a will and you have to be prepared for the future and
it was I remember my mum saying things like oh it's all downhill
from now you know and oh like I was
saying to you earlier on oh look at so-and-so she's like mutton dressed
as lamb and people our age shouldn't be going out dressed
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like that and it was just this there was like this
big thing and there still is this big thing now like
if you look in in terms of business like the
anti-aging um the anti-aging.
Like a business or whatever is highly profitable
uh particularly marketed at women like
anti-aging creams don't want to look old you want to
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stay looking young and then you've got like the whole kind of
health and fitness industry trying to keep you looking young
and in good shape and and it's just
it's just this huge thing about oh gosh we don't want to look our age but I
even think you know and I don't mean to offend anybody who is like in my mom's
kind of age bracket but like when I look at pictures of people kind of in there like
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your mid to late 30s and early 40s, right,
from their generation.
They look like people now that are in their 60s to 70s look. They look back then.
Back then, they seemed to look so much older. Like if you look back on pictures
from the 80s of people that were in their 30s and 40s, they look like they're
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in their 60s. They're like old-fashioned haircuts.
I don't know. I think people these days do seem to look younger as they get older.
But that could just be, you know, better education into, you know,
how we're looking after ourselves and stuff like that.
But, yeah, for me, there was this whole thing about getting older and it was a big kind of taboo.
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I never heard anyone speak about it in a positive tone.
It was always spoken about in like, you know, bad tones like,
oh, you know, they're getting old. Oh, they're getting old.
Oh, they can't do that anymore because they're getting old. So-and-so is getting old now.
They can't look after themselves as well. and I just used to
associate being old with being frail
feeble not really knowing what's going on and looking like
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crap and probably feeling like crap most of the
time as well I mean I'm not gonna lie to you yeah I am
42 in a couple of days and some days I feel like
I imagine I would feel if I was in my 80s my body hurts
it's stiff and sore like but give
me 20 minutes once I get up and I'm not so stiff
and sore so you know 20 years ago I used to spring
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out of bed like boing it's a new day
and stiffness and so on this was not a thing I complained of but
these days there is that but the way I feel now like I I want people who are
in their like late teens and their 20s to know that getting older is actually
bloody awesome oh yeah I mean it's so
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good it's like the level of chill
that I have within myself these days compared to
when I was in my late teens and 20s is off
the chart like I wish I
had this mind inside my 20 year old body because I'd be bloody unstoppable oh
my god I'd have been dangerous I was just gonna say that I also could be dangerous
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so maybe it's a good thing I don't yeah but but yeah like when I was younger
and we were saying this earlier, when I was younger.
I was desperately insecure. I really felt like, you know, whenever I was with
anyone, I had to try and be this idea of what I thought they thought I was,
if you can even understand that.
Like, I was always thinking, does that person like me? Do these people like
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me? How can I be more cool in that person's eyes?
How can I like, you know, and I didn't, like, I've always been me,
but I was less of myself because I was more concerned about what other people thought,
you know so I would bend myself to make
other people happy I was definitely people pleasing far
too much and then getting far too paranoid and
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worried about whether they liked me enough even though I was not doing all the
things I wanted to do and I was doing stuff that I thought other people would
prefer me to do if that even makes sense do you know that does make sense I
was exactly the same as a teenager you like you want to be like oh does that person think I'm
like cool have I done the right thing it just
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might is my hair thing am I wearing the right clothes have
I got the right shit on like you know did
I say the right thing yeah and you're over analyzing every
single detail like I even remember
there were times that I'd be like out at
parties and stuff as a teenager and I'd be analyzing how
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I was sat on the like yeah sofa like
was I sat in the right position did I look like I
was being like did I look bored at what this person's saying like was I sat
attentively enough like was I talking enough was I talking too much like yeah
was I too interested or not interested enough in what these people were saying
and I think now like I'm like no wonder I'm exhausted at 35 because I spent my whole.
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Teenage years in this constant state of anxiety
and overthinking my brain 105 the
amount of work to do oh my
god stop like and I'd go like say we'd
been out at the club or whatever and we go to an after party afterwards
and I'd walk into a room and people would be chatting
and you know when someone walks into a room everyone looks to see
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who oh who's that coming but like in my late teen
early 20s brain I'd be like oh no they're all looking because they're
thinking oh god it's her yeah oh no i'm
not wearing the right thing i look yeah oh and
i'd be like who could i go and sit next to will they mind if
i sit next to them maybe they don't want me listening to their conversation like
oh my god i literally second guessed every single
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thing i thought said did i remember getting stressed out
when i'd i'd laugh at something and then i'd hear myself laugh
and think oh god what a horrible laugh i used to
try and change my laugh
like what the hell what the hell is Charlotte you poor girl like no wonder my
brain was fried all the time and I just didn't know if I was coming or going
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and these days man these days it's so different like I was so worried about
everyone liking me when I was younger that was like.
It was like the beginning and end of everything. Oh, all my friends,
all my many friends, I had to have lots of friends and I had to be liked by everyone.
And these days I couldn't give a shit. Like if you like me or you don't,
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I ain't going to change to make you happy.
And I'm not going to say or do anything to try and please you because I am me
and you're going to like it or you're going to hate it, but this is, this is it.
And I'm, you know, I'm that, and that's
not not going to change and before where that
would have terrified me to just be me and not
worry about upsetting someone like these days it's the total opposite
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I'm like I don't even think about it I
don't care if I go out the house without makeup on I don't care if I go
out the house with Mike's pajama pants on and a t-shirt because I'm
going to Aldi's you know I don't care if
so and so down the road looks at me and thinks oh how scruffy
I couldn't give a flying fuck what so-and-so down the road thing to
me to be quite honest whereas 20 years ago I
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would have wanted the ground to come and swallow me
up if I did something like that I'd be so embarrassed stepping
out the house without makeup on or in like scruffy clothes or what I thought
was scruffy clothes because my fashion sense was crazy back then anyway but
like it would have been mortifying and and to say something and not like worry
about what anyone else thought of what I said I mean You can't really understand
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until you get there what a level of true,
absolute freeingness it is to just be you and to not care about it.
And I know that all kids go through that phase. All kids.
Our kids now, they're worried about what they're... Max was worried earlier
on about trying on his school uniform and standing in the living room in case
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people in his year that were outside on the green came and looked in our living room window.
Yeah and I said when have you ever seen anyone come
and look in our living room window he's like yeah but if they just look over they
might see I was like Max you cannot see in our living room windows
unless you are literally like up peering through the windows you can't see if
you go and stand out by the car you cannot see in the living room the the glare
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reflects off the windows and you can't see but he and I was like what does it
matter anyway if they see you trying on your school uniform he's like I just
don't want them to see mum I just don't want people to know it's It's mad.
All the people that are going up to secondary school with you,
you don't want them to know that you're chatting on your school uniform.
Yeah. You don't want them to know you've bought uniform. Well,
guess what? You're going to have to wear it for a couple of weeks.
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Yeah. How dare they? And like, and then, then Lexi the other day was like,
oh, we were talking about like embarrassing things or whatever. And then I took my.
Fitbit like watch thing off and she was like oh you
see that mark that it's left on your arm and I said yeah she said
I hate it when I take my watch off and then like if
I forget to put it back on and I go outside and I'm in
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a t-shirt and other people outside can see the red mark it's left
on my arm and I get really embarrassed that they'll see that because I
don't know what they might think that mark is from like so
I just be really embarrassed if they see that and I turn around to
Mike and I said that's it now that's the start of it she's nine
years old and then she's starting to get worried about what her friends think
like that's that's the start of the you know
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the teen years and all of that sort of stuff that's the
priest i was like god i remember that time when i was
that concerned about what might like i don't
miss it that's for sure no do you know what i don't
miss it and it was only when we
started talking about this being a topic we were going going to talk about like
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that I'm actually realized just how freeing it is getting older and now I understand
why my mum always used to tell me I was being dramatic yeah overreacting.
When I would have and I'm pretty sure because
Grace is awake and she can hear what I'm about to say and she'll be
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like will you do that now because I tell her that she's being
over dramatic erratic sometimes when my hair wouldn't go
the right way or my clothes wouldn't sit properly or
my makeup wouldn't go the right way and I'd have a complete slow meltdown about
it and now I can understand why my mum used to always tell me that I'm being
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dramatic because she was at the age where she got to that point of freedom where
she didn't care about it because yeah like Like,
people don't care what you look like. People aren't looking down the street.
And I'm sure we spoke about this actually on a previous podcast.
Like, they're so worried about what they look like that they're not worried
about what you look like.
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It's so true. You can't get to that point where that becomes a solid fact in
your head until you get older.
And that's something I never realized with getting older, you know.
And do you know what that is something that I say to the kids here
all the time I'm like I promise you that your
friends are so concerned about how
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they look that they are not paying that much attention to you and literally
unless you go out dressed like Sideshow Barb or something crazy they're not
gonna notice because they're too concerned about themselves I remember I keep
saying it to them I remember being your age so vividly I remember like.
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Being so stressed and worried about like my skin you
know flare-ups my shiny patches now
I like my skin to have a bit of shine to it yeah it looks a bit dewy and glowy
nice healthy glow whereas when I was younger I was like oh my god I'll cover
my face in talcum powder before I go out for any bit of shine on me oh yeah
100% talcum powder and hairspray that was it yeah,
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yeah combo and like it's
just like it's you just don't
realize when you're that young and then like you
know obviously then I was thinking like this is it this is the this is the prime
of my life this is the part of my life I'm going to enjoy because once I'm old
it's all downhill I'll be on the shelf and no one no one will care no one will
want you I won't be able to do anything all my bones will be broken I won't
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be able to live like crap and blah blah blah and And yet, actually,
now I've hit this stage of my life, I feel like I'm in the best part of my life
that I could possibly be in. Yeah.
And I agree. Like, you know, like you said before, don't get me wrong,
sometimes I do have moments where my back tells me that I'm 95, not 35.
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Yeah. But, you know, that's what years of abuse to your body does to you.
Long but other than that I feel like I
don't feel like an old maid or shriveled up at in my middle age years but back
when I was a teenager that's what you would think about people led to believe
yeah and you were led to believe that as well and I do think yeah you know this has a lot to do with.
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Like marketing agencies for the anti-aging industry and the skincare industry,
everyone tells you, as soon as you hit 30, your body stops producing collagen,
you're going to get wrinkles, you're going to get saggy skin,
you're going to get this, this, this, this, and this, and it's all downhill
until you get older, unless you get Botox and fillers and use all these,
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you know, fancy miracle creams.
And don't get me wrong, skincare is really important.
And I do think the reason that, you know, I do have pretty good skin for a 35
year old, even if my mother did politely tell me I needed Botox in my forehead. Thanks, mom.
I know. Love you so much. I do think it's down to good skincare and I'm not
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saying, you know, it's all mumbo jumbo and you shouldn't use any of it.
But I think it was definitely like maybe not
so much now because we're a lot more
educated now but when I was younger it was definitely
anti-aging you had to start
using a night cream as soon as you hit 30 that was it and it was all oil of
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ole before it was whatever it changed its name to can't even remember I think
it's just ole now ole yeah ole of ule was that what it was oil of ule yeah oil
of ule and then it changed to just Olay.
But that's what you had to use, all that Nivea.
Nivea, yeah, Visage, whatever. Yeah. And Clinique.
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Yes, that was it. And you had to use them. And it was marketed that as soon
as you hit 30, you need an anti-wrinkle cream.
Yeah. So I think that's what I got. And you were expected to dress a certain way.
Yeah, you all of a sudden had to become really grown up and mature.
Chore but then I also remember like watching
films and stuff as a kid like do you remember do
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you remember the mum in the first Home
Alone film yeah right with her short
hair and she'd always had those like cardigan jumpers over a shirt she was only
meant to be like 40 but she was dressing like an 80 year old woman so no one
thought as soon as you got to like adulthood that That was it. That was the fashion.
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That, you know, had to dress like a grandma. But, you know, it's so weird that
now I'm at the age that I thought was ancient.
And I actually think I feel younger now than I did back then.
Other than getting up. Yeah, other than the body aches and pains.
I definitely feel like, I definitely feel wiser. and like obviously as we were
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talking about earlier on we've both gone through like a lot.
Of stuff to get to where we are today but like I
have watched older women stress out about getting
old like my entire life and I never had anyone
talk positively about it and it
made me feel like you know getting old
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was something really bad
yeah like really really bad yeah I never
heard it spoke about in a positive light but the
older I've got the more I've fallen
in love with the person I am like the more
happy I am the more
settled I am inside myself and yeah I mean if I could lose I don't know a bit
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of weight if I didn't wake up with aches and pains I'd love to you know I'd
change that for sure but I would not change a single thing about me you know I am so.
So this is gonna sound really like maybe
a bit big-headed but I am so in love with the person that I've become and I'm
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so like chilled with myself and I'm so happy to like just sink into more and
more of being me and no airs and graces like what you see is what you get this is me,
like it or or hate it like this is who
I am now and it's so like you
said it's so freeing to just be
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that content with who you are and that
happy with who you are that it's it's like this point
of honestly before it would
have absolutely broke me if I found out someone didn't
like me yeah but I have so
much love for who I am now and you know the the person that is me that the mind
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inside this body I love it so much that I really don't need acceptance from
anyone else because I'm so happy with who I am and I don't need anyone's approval to be me.
And that has been something that has been...
It's just been the best feeling like each year I'd say
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probably since when I started turn when I turned 30 I
suppose each year I felt like that
a little bit more at ease within myself and
then in the last couple of years I've just been like 100% like happy with who
I am and not like not not once felt phased about what someone else might think
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about me and just that like Like that level of awesomeness that comes with age is like,
I think age is the only thing that can bring that because you have to go through
a good bit of life to realize who you actually are, what you want,
where you're going in life.
And, you know, to mold your personality and your character and to really become you.
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So yeah, that is something that only comes with age. And it is such a blessing.
Like it's worth a few, it's worth a few achy bones.
You know and it really is just to just to
have that mind and now I understand
why people used to say if I could have my mind
now in my 20 year old body like I totally get it
and I get like what you're saying I get all the things that
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like you know our parents used to say to us but at
the same time you have to go
through that I think it's a part of life isn't it going through that
like that level of insecurity and trying to
find yourself and and grow up i
suppose yeah but i also think
i have a feeling that the reason because there
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are people that are my age and your age that don't feel the same way that we
do but i think i have a feeling because we went through like our healing journeys
i think that's why we've got to that level of like like,
as kind of cliche as it's going to sound.
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And obviously there's still loads of things that I need, you know,
to work on and you never stop doing work.
You have to do the work every day. It just, you know, but I do think that if
you, if we hadn't, if I hadn't gone through the whole like inner healing journey.
I don't know if I would still feel the same way about
myself as I did as a teenager because
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a lot of the work that I did was internal was on my own insecurities my own
you know anxieties because the self-destructive behavior that I used to keep
repeating was because of personal insecurities and personal like anxieties so maybe that's why
we do feel as kind of relaxed and,
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you know, peaceful as we've done the work.
We've had to do a lot of work as well.
That's a really good point. And, and something you said there reminded me of
like, if this is where we're at now, um.
Like imagine how much better it's going to be with each like passing decade.
Yeah. Do you know, and that's one of the things I wanted to say to people is
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that when I was younger, growing old was something that was feared and it wasn't
talked about in a positive light.
But I want to say to people, for me, and I'm not even really old,
I'm in my midlife right now, and it's getting better and better.
And I just I'm so I don't want to wish
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my time away but at the same time I'm so excited at
the prospect of how I'm going
to develop as I hit each era of my
life with this being how I already feel right
now yeah yeah 100% it's it's
exciting to me because when I was younger I would have never
thought it was possible to feel so secure in yourself as
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a person yeah because I never did like I
felt secure in myself so I
always thought that this is what it was
going to be like and growing older something that you
know anyone wanted to do and you wanted you know you had
to live it up in your teens and 20s because
that's the best time of your life and then you know
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after that is all downhill from that
and I was scared of getting older but
I was also scared of being who I was because I didn't
actually know who I was I was whoever I was hanging around with rather than
being me so yeah like I'm with you on that that I want I want the younger generation
now like our kids generations to be growing up thinking it just gets better with age like it's.
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It's not because people used to say like, oh, I still feel like I remember my
grandma saying, oh, I still feel in my head the same as when I was like 17, 18. Right.
But I've just got this old body. So in my young brain, that was like,
right. So her head is still the same.
So she still thinks all these same things. But now, you know, she's old.
She can't do so much and she's gained a bit of weight. So, yeah,
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whereas I'm I'm young and I'm good looking and I'm, you know, slim.
Slim so I'm like god can you imagine you know
I'm worrying yeah worrying if everyone
likes you now you're doing the right thing and are you this that and the other and also
on top of that your body's giving up on you and
you can't stop gaining weight and you've got no energy to go and do stuff
and I was thinking yeah it must be really bad but actually
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it's completely different like yes I still feel young
and so I don't feel like I'm old at all
but my brain is not the same as
it was when I was 1920 not the
same person that I was back then I am I am
I've gone through so many levels and so
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many layers of myself to get to the real
me like the core of who I am yeah like peeled back an onion my entire life yeah
peel back my layers until I got to the core and now I know who I am and and
that's amazing like yeah and that's that's the good thing and I'm sure a lot
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of this This comes from the fact that,
you know, we decided to go down the path of healing all of those parts.
And, you know, that's why I preach about it to anyone and everyone that going
on a self-healing journey is going to be the saviour.
It's going to be the only thing that's going to save you is to work on yourself
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as much as you physically can.
Because I couldn't imagine putting my 16-year-old brain...
In my 35 year old body that's had
two kids that is falling apart I
would be having a nervous breakdown on
a daily like yeah same there is
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no way that 16 year old Charlotte could handle 35 year old Charlotte oh my god
and I couldn't agree more like definitely doing some deep soul Soul searching
and self-healing is something that is just,
I've said it before and I'll say it again, it should be, kids should be taught
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this in secondary school.
Oh, I will get on the soapbox about that. Oh God, me too.
They should be taught how to self-regulate and self-heal and how to look after
their mental health and how to, you know, work out what they want, what they need,
how to look after themselves properly because learning those things is definitely.
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One of the most important things I ever did in my life yeah
100% 100% yeah getting
to know you and what you want on a
really deeper spiritual level level
yeah is invaluable I think
you know all all people all children
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should be taught about that like yeah and I
do think and it's like I don't
know like I know this is a topic we're going to talk about but I think
it needs to be spoken about in a way
that stops children becoming selfish and
self-centered because we have this whole oh we can be open about our emotions
and this is how I feel and I'm allowed to feel this way and I'm validated but
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I'm also going to be a bitch and tell you that you can't feel that way because
I feel this way and I know we're going to go into a bit more in another episode about
that kind of entitlement, but I feel like the taught.
In a way that makes people understand that
loving yourself and being really
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confident in your own skin doesn't mean you need to be
horrible to people around you yeah there's a
difference between confidence and arrogance exactly like
being confident in who you are yeah still means
you get to be a nice person you still are good to.
Your friends you still care about your family it's very similar to
learning to be a nice person but still having
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boundaries yeah and you
know it's it's a there's a fine line
and I do think it needs to be like taught slightly differently
because I know you know and again
I don't want to go too much into it because it is on our
list of topics about how like teenagers
and stuff are that these days when it comes to
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they're like they become quite selfish in yeah
you know how they are because
it's all about well this is how I feel so it doesn't matter
how you feel and I'm allowed to be who I want to be and
you can't see anything because I'm allowed
to be like this because society says we can
be and do and be whatever we want to be and
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I'm like that's all 100% true but just don't be a dick about life yeah yeah
i would love to have a job as teaching self-healing in secondary schools oh
my god i would but i think i'd get things thrown at me like.
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I think I don't know if my tough love would be
a bit too much or I'd just be like I get it just don't.
Be nice to people lots people would really good.
I have a really good thing that always blows everyone's
mind when I show it to them right and it's talking about
it's about energy and it's how energy affects
you even when you don't realize it is
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so if you get someone to stand up right and hold
their arm out straight and you push down on their arm and
they have to to push up against you so they can see how
much force they have to use to stop you from
pushing their arm down then you get them
to hold like a cigarette or alcohol
in their other hand obviously doesn't have to
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be a lit cigarette or anything like that but like something like a cigarette
is really good so just get them to hold a cigarette in their other hand do
the same thing and their hand will drop to they they won't
have the strength to push against you but then
you give them like a really nice charged piece of like selenite
or quartz or something like that right and they'll
barely need to use any strength and it works every time
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it just shows how energy can weaken or strengthen
you and whenever i show kids that it
blows their minds right open and they're always like oh
my god teach me more about this yeah how do
i make energy work for me like what's what's the harm like yeah like you should
try it with grace and show her I think I might do actually I've got yeah I have
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a really big quartz necklace that I will yeah you just need to find something
that's like really bad for you that you can get her to hold in her other hand yeah.
And and uh and it'll it'll it'll blow
your mind and like I love doing that with like
showing the kids things like that because we're not
taught about things like energy and how you can use it
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like for your advantage or disadvantage and when it comes to
a healing journey it's vital yeah it
really is and you you don't realize how much different
energies around you can affect you even yeah but
I went way off topic with that I think no but you know
what that's actually giving me another idea for another
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podcast is to talk
about energy and how energy affects
you because again something I've learned going through
the whole healing journey is how to spot
like energy vampires people will
suck the living life out of
you yeah so energy vampires
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is definitely a topic pick for another day before we get on our soapbox about
that because I can definitely talk about that kind of thing for a long time
but yeah so I really enjoy talking about this kind of thing like growing older
grace or disgracefully is it's just been something that.
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For me, I will talk about this to anyone younger that wants to listen,
that it's actually something to really be excited about and look forward to
because things do get easier and things do get better as you get older.
Yeah, your body might hurt a little bit more and you might not be as interested
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in going out all weekend long as what you used to be when you were younger,
but life is just another level altogether and it's
definitely something that when I
was younger I did not expect so let me
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man young or old would view getting older so that would also
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Thanks. Hello and welcome to another episode of The Two Charlottes Spill the Tea.
This week we have decided we're going to talk about
getting older and I want to say getting older gracefully
but I think it might be a bit like disgracefully but
in more in a sense that you know we're getting older and
we don't really care about it and obviously you
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know neither of us are really old like
I'm only 35 Charlotte's 42
in a couple of days like we're not old old you
know like we're not like oh my god like 90 but I remember when I was you know
like 14 15 someone being in their mid-30s was old like yeah you know mid-30s
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was old 40s and 50s as far as I was concerned you were ancient,
you'd given up work, you'd retired.
You were planning a funeral, you know, you were so old.
So when I was younger, yeah, you looked at older people and you were like,
oh my God, like they're just so much older.
And you were kind of scared of getting old and worried about what that would
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mean for you and your life and all this kind of stuff.
But actually now that we are those ages I think
both of us can agree that well one we're not
old even though sometimes I do look at the wrinkles on my forehead and think
yeah you're quite old but you know actually it's not as bad as we thought it
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was when we were younger yeah couldn't agree more like when when I was younger
I remember looking at my mum and dad and just thinking like.
You know how like together they had their lives
and like I used to think god when I'm old I'm
gonna have you know a house and be married and have
my own car and have like 2.5 children and be
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super successful in my career and blah blah blah because I
thought that's what like they were probably in their like early
30s maybe late 20s early 30s when I was
thinking that and I thought they had it all together and now I'm past
that age now I know that they did not have it all together at
all they were just winging it the same but I just used
to look at that kind of age and think it was like middle-aged yeah
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middle-aged people and I used to think you
know like they're the same as what you said like you
have to make a will and you have to be prepared for the future and
it was I remember my mum saying things like oh it's all downhill
from now you know and oh like I was
saying to you earlier on oh look at so-and-so she's like mutton dressed
as lamb and people our age shouldn't be going out dressed
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like that and it was just this there was like this
big thing and there still is this big thing now like
if you look in in terms of business like the
anti-aging um the anti-aging.
Like a business or whatever is highly profitable
uh particularly marketed at women like
anti-aging creams don't want to look old you want to
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stay looking young and then you've got like the whole kind of
health and fitness industry trying to keep you looking young
and in good shape and and it's just
it's just this huge thing about oh gosh we don't want to look our age but I
even think you know and I don't mean to offend anybody who is like in my mom's
kind of age bracket but like when I look at pictures of people kind of in there like
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your mid to late 30s and early 40s, right,
from their generation.
They look like people now that are in their 60s to 70s look. They look back then.
Back then, they seemed to look so much older. Like if you look back on pictures
from the 80s of people that were in their 30s and 40s, they look like they're
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in their 60s. They're like old-fashioned haircuts.
I don't know. I think people these days do seem to look younger as they get older.
But that could just be, you know, better education into, you know,
how we're looking after ourselves and stuff like that.
But, yeah, for me, there was this whole thing about getting older and it was a big kind of taboo.
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I never heard anyone speak about it in a positive tone.
It was always spoken about in like, you know, bad tones like,
oh, you know, they're getting old. Oh, they're getting old.
Oh, they can't do that anymore because they're getting old. So-and-so is getting old now.
They can't look after themselves as well. and I just used to
associate being old with being frail
feeble not really knowing what's going on and looking like
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crap and probably feeling like crap most of the
time as well I mean I'm not gonna lie to you yeah I am
42 in a couple of days and some days I feel like
I imagine I would feel if I was in my 80s my body hurts
it's stiff and sore like but give
me 20 minutes once I get up and I'm not so stiff
and sore so you know 20 years ago I used to spring
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out of bed like boing it's a new day
and stiffness and so on this was not a thing I complained of but
these days there is that but the way I feel now like I I want people who are
in their like late teens and their 20s to know that getting older is actually
bloody awesome oh yeah I mean it's so
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good it's like the level of chill
that I have within myself these days compared to
when I was in my late teens and 20s is off
the chart like I wish I
had this mind inside my 20 year old body because I'd be bloody unstoppable oh
my god I'd have been dangerous I was just gonna say that I also could be dangerous
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so maybe it's a good thing I don't yeah but but yeah like when I was younger
and we were saying this earlier, when I was younger.
I was desperately insecure. I really felt like, you know, whenever I was with
anyone, I had to try and be this idea of what I thought they thought I was,
if you can even understand that.
Like, I was always thinking, does that person like me? Do these people like
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me? How can I be more cool in that person's eyes?
How can I like, you know, and I didn't, like, I've always been me,
but I was less of myself because I was more concerned about what other people thought,
you know so I would bend myself to make
other people happy I was definitely people pleasing far
too much and then getting far too paranoid and
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worried about whether they liked me enough even though I was not doing all the
things I wanted to do and I was doing stuff that I thought other people would
prefer me to do if that even makes sense do you know that does make sense I
was exactly the same as a teenager you like you want to be like oh does that person think I'm
like cool have I done the right thing it just
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might is my hair thing am I wearing the right clothes have
I got the right shit on like you know did
I say the right thing yeah and you're over analyzing every
single detail like I even remember
there were times that I'd be like out at
parties and stuff as a teenager and I'd be analyzing how
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I was sat on the like yeah sofa like
was I sat in the right position did I look like I
was being like did I look bored at what this person's saying like was I sat
attentively enough like was I talking enough was I talking too much like yeah
was I too interested or not interested enough in what these people were saying
and I think now like I'm like no wonder I'm exhausted at 35 because I spent my whole.
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Teenage years in this constant state of anxiety
and overthinking my brain 105 the
amount of work to do oh my
god stop like and I'd go like say we'd
been out at the club or whatever and we go to an after party afterwards
and I'd walk into a room and people would be chatting
and you know when someone walks into a room everyone looks to see
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who oh who's that coming but like in my late teen
early 20s brain I'd be like oh no they're all looking because they're
thinking oh god it's her yeah oh no i'm
not wearing the right thing i look yeah oh and
i'd be like who could i go and sit next to will they mind if
i sit next to them maybe they don't want me listening to their conversation like
oh my god i literally second guessed every single
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thing i thought said did i remember getting stressed out
when i'd i'd laugh at something and then i'd hear myself laugh
and think oh god what a horrible laugh i used to
try and change my laugh
like what the hell what the hell is Charlotte you poor girl like no wonder my
brain was fried all the time and I just didn't know if I was coming or going
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and these days man these days it's so different like I was so worried about
everyone liking me when I was younger that was like.
It was like the beginning and end of everything. Oh, all my friends,
all my many friends, I had to have lots of friends and I had to be liked by everyone.
And these days I couldn't give a shit. Like if you like me or you don't,
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I ain't going to change to make you happy.
And I'm not going to say or do anything to try and please you because I am me
and you're going to like it or you're going to hate it, but this is, this is it.
And I'm, you know, I'm that, and that's
not not going to change and before where that
would have terrified me to just be me and not
worry about upsetting someone like these days it's the total opposite
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I'm like I don't even think about it I
don't care if I go out the house without makeup on I don't care if I go
out the house with Mike's pajama pants on and a t-shirt because I'm
going to Aldi's you know I don't care if
so and so down the road looks at me and thinks oh how scruffy
I couldn't give a flying fuck what so-and-so down the road thing to
me to be quite honest whereas 20 years ago I
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would have wanted the ground to come and swallow me
up if I did something like that I'd be so embarrassed stepping
out the house without makeup on or in like scruffy clothes or what I thought
was scruffy clothes because my fashion sense was crazy back then anyway but
like it would have been mortifying and and to say something and not like worry
about what anyone else thought of what I said I mean You can't really understand
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until you get there what a level of true,
absolute freeingness it is to just be you and to not care about it.
And I know that all kids go through that phase. All kids.
Our kids now, they're worried about what they're... Max was worried earlier
on about trying on his school uniform and standing in the living room in case
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people in his year that were outside on the green came and looked in our living room window.
Yeah and I said when have you ever seen anyone come
and look in our living room window he's like yeah but if they just look over they
might see I was like Max you cannot see in our living room windows
unless you are literally like up peering through the windows you can't see if
you go and stand out by the car you cannot see in the living room the the glare
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reflects off the windows and you can't see but he and I was like what does it
matter anyway if they see you trying on your school uniform he's like I just
don't want them to see mum I just don't want people to know it's It's mad.
All the people that are going up to secondary school with you,
you don't want them to know that you're chatting on your school uniform.
Yeah. You don't want them to know you've bought uniform. Well,
guess what? You're going to have to wear it for a couple of weeks.
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Yeah. How dare they? And like, and then, then Lexi the other day was like,
oh, we were talking about like embarrassing things or whatever. And then I took my.
Fitbit like watch thing off and she was like oh you
see that mark that it's left on your arm and I said yeah she said
I hate it when I take my watch off and then like if
I forget to put it back on and I go outside and I'm in
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a t-shirt and other people outside can see the red mark it's left
on my arm and I get really embarrassed that they'll see that because I
don't know what they might think that mark is from like so
I just be really embarrassed if they see that and I turn around to
Mike and I said that's it now that's the start of it she's nine
years old and then she's starting to get worried about what her friends think
like that's that's the start of the you know
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the teen years and all of that sort of stuff that's the
priest i was like god i remember that time when i was
that concerned about what might like i don't
miss it that's for sure no do you know what i don't
miss it and it was only when we
started talking about this being a topic we were going going to talk about like
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that I'm actually realized just how freeing it is getting older and now I understand
why my mum always used to tell me I was being dramatic yeah overreacting.
When I would have and I'm pretty sure because
Grace is awake and she can hear what I'm about to say and she'll be
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like will you do that now because I tell her that she's being
over dramatic erratic sometimes when my hair wouldn't go
the right way or my clothes wouldn't sit properly or
my makeup wouldn't go the right way and I'd have a complete slow meltdown about
it and now I can understand why my mum used to always tell me that I'm being
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dramatic because she was at the age where she got to that point of freedom where
she didn't care about it because yeah like Like,
people don't care what you look like. People aren't looking down the street.
And I'm sure we spoke about this actually on a previous podcast.
Like, they're so worried about what they look like that they're not worried
about what you look like.
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It's so true. You can't get to that point where that becomes a solid fact in
your head until you get older.
And that's something I never realized with getting older, you know.
And do you know what that is something that I say to the kids here
all the time I'm like I promise you that your
friends are so concerned about how
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they look that they are not paying that much attention to you and literally
unless you go out dressed like Sideshow Barb or something crazy they're not
gonna notice because they're too concerned about themselves I remember I keep
saying it to them I remember being your age so vividly I remember like.
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Being so stressed and worried about like my skin you
know flare-ups my shiny patches now
I like my skin to have a bit of shine to it yeah it looks a bit dewy and glowy
nice healthy glow whereas when I was younger I was like oh my god I'll cover
my face in talcum powder before I go out for any bit of shine on me oh yeah
100% talcum powder and hairspray that was it yeah,
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yeah combo and like it's
just like it's you just don't
realize when you're that young and then like you
know obviously then I was thinking like this is it this is the this is the prime
of my life this is the part of my life I'm going to enjoy because once I'm old
it's all downhill I'll be on the shelf and no one no one will care no one will
want you I won't be able to do anything all my bones will be broken I won't
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be able to live like crap and blah blah blah and And yet, actually,
now I've hit this stage of my life, I feel like I'm in the best part of my life
that I could possibly be in. Yeah.
And I agree. Like, you know, like you said before, don't get me wrong,
sometimes I do have moments where my back tells me that I'm 95, not 35.
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Yeah. But, you know, that's what years of abuse to your body does to you.
Long but other than that I feel like I
don't feel like an old maid or shriveled up at in my middle age years but back
when I was a teenager that's what you would think about people led to believe
yeah and you were led to believe that as well and I do think yeah you know this has a lot to do with.
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Like marketing agencies for the anti-aging industry and the skincare industry,
everyone tells you, as soon as you hit 30, your body stops producing collagen,
you're going to get wrinkles, you're going to get saggy skin,
you're going to get this, this, this, this, and this, and it's all downhill
until you get older, unless you get Botox and fillers and use all these,
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you know, fancy miracle creams.
And don't get me wrong, skincare is really important.
And I do think the reason that, you know, I do have pretty good skin for a 35
year old, even if my mother did politely tell me I needed Botox in my forehead. Thanks, mom.
I know. Love you so much. I do think it's down to good skincare and I'm not
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saying, you know, it's all mumbo jumbo and you shouldn't use any of it.
But I think it was definitely like maybe not
so much now because we're a lot more
educated now but when I was younger it was definitely
anti-aging you had to start
using a night cream as soon as you hit 30 that was it and it was all oil of
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ole before it was whatever it changed its name to can't even remember I think
it's just ole now ole yeah ole of ule was that what it was oil of ule yeah oil
of ule and then it changed to just Olay.
But that's what you had to use, all that Nivea.
Nivea, yeah, Visage, whatever. Yeah. And Clinique.
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Yes, that was it. And you had to use them. And it was marketed that as soon
as you hit 30, you need an anti-wrinkle cream.
Yeah. So I think that's what I got. And you were expected to dress a certain way.
Yeah, you all of a sudden had to become really grown up and mature.
Chore but then I also remember like watching
films and stuff as a kid like do you remember do
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you remember the mum in the first Home
Alone film yeah right with her short
hair and she'd always had those like cardigan jumpers over a shirt she was only
meant to be like 40 but she was dressing like an 80 year old woman so no one
thought as soon as you got to like adulthood that That was it. That was the fashion.
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That, you know, had to dress like a grandma. But, you know, it's so weird that
now I'm at the age that I thought was ancient.
And I actually think I feel younger now than I did back then.
Other than getting up. Yeah, other than the body aches and pains.
I definitely feel like, I definitely feel wiser. and like obviously as we were
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talking about earlier on we've both gone through like a lot.
Of stuff to get to where we are today but like I
have watched older women stress out about getting
old like my entire life and I never had anyone
talk positively about it and it
made me feel like you know getting old
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was something really bad
yeah like really really bad yeah I never
heard it spoke about in a positive light but the
older I've got the more I've fallen
in love with the person I am like the more
happy I am the more
settled I am inside myself and yeah I mean if I could lose I don't know a bit
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of weight if I didn't wake up with aches and pains I'd love to you know I'd
change that for sure but I would not change a single thing about me you know I am so.
So this is gonna sound really like maybe
a bit big-headed but I am so in love with the person that I've become and I'm
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so like chilled with myself and I'm so happy to like just sink into more and
more of being me and no airs and graces like what you see is what you get this is me,
like it or or hate it like this is who
I am now and it's so like you
said it's so freeing to just be
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that content with who you are and that
happy with who you are that it's it's like this point
of honestly before it would
have absolutely broke me if I found out someone didn't
like me yeah but I have so
much love for who I am now and you know the the person that is me that the mind
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inside this body I love it so much that I really don't need acceptance from
anyone else because I'm so happy with who I am and I don't need anyone's approval to be me.
And that has been something that has been...
It's just been the best feeling like each year I'd say
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probably since when I started turn when I turned 30 I
suppose each year I felt like that
a little bit more at ease within myself and
then in the last couple of years I've just been like 100% like happy with who
I am and not like not not once felt phased about what someone else might think
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about me and just that like Like that level of awesomeness that comes with age is like,
I think age is the only thing that can bring that because you have to go through
a good bit of life to realize who you actually are, what you want,
where you're going in life.
And, you know, to mold your personality and your character and to really become you.
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So yeah, that is something that only comes with age. And it is such a blessing.
Like it's worth a few, it's worth a few achy bones.
You know and it really is just to just to
have that mind and now I understand
why people used to say if I could have my mind
now in my 20 year old body like I totally get it
and I get like what you're saying I get all the things that
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like you know our parents used to say to us but at
the same time you have to go
through that I think it's a part of life isn't it going through that
like that level of insecurity and trying to
find yourself and and grow up i
suppose yeah but i also think
i have a feeling that the reason because there
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are people that are my age and your age that don't feel the same way that we
do but i think i have a feeling because we went through like our healing journeys
i think that's why we've got to that level of like like,
as kind of cliche as it's going to sound.
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And obviously there's still loads of things that I need, you know,
to work on and you never stop doing work.
You have to do the work every day. It just, you know, but I do think that if
you, if we hadn't, if I hadn't gone through the whole like inner healing journey.
I don't know if I would still feel the same way about
myself as I did as a teenager because
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a lot of the work that I did was internal was on my own insecurities my own
you know anxieties because the self-destructive behavior that I used to keep
repeating was because of personal insecurities and personal like anxieties so maybe that's why
we do feel as kind of relaxed and,
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you know, peaceful as we've done the work.
We've had to do a lot of work as well.
That's a really good point. And, and something you said there reminded me of
like, if this is where we're at now, um.
Like imagine how much better it's going to be with each like passing decade.
Yeah. Do you know, and that's one of the things I wanted to say to people is
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that when I was younger, growing old was something that was feared and it wasn't
talked about in a positive light.
But I want to say to people, for me, and I'm not even really old,
I'm in my midlife right now, and it's getting better and better.
And I just I'm so I don't want to wish
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my time away but at the same time I'm so excited at
the prospect of how I'm going
to develop as I hit each era of my
life with this being how I already feel right
now yeah yeah 100% it's it's
exciting to me because when I was younger I would have never
thought it was possible to feel so secure in yourself as
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a person yeah because I never did like I
felt secure in myself so I
always thought that this is what it was
going to be like and growing older something that you
know anyone wanted to do and you wanted you know you had
to live it up in your teens and 20s because
that's the best time of your life and then you know
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after that is all downhill from that
and I was scared of getting older but
I was also scared of being who I was because I didn't
actually know who I was I was whoever I was hanging around with rather than
being me so yeah like I'm with you on that that I want I want the younger generation
now like our kids generations to be growing up thinking it just gets better with age like it's.
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It's not because people used to say like, oh, I still feel like I remember my
grandma saying, oh, I still feel in my head the same as when I was like 17, 18. Right.
But I've just got this old body. So in my young brain, that was like,
right. So her head is still the same.
So she still thinks all these same things. But now, you know, she's old.
She can't do so much and she's gained a bit of weight. So, yeah,
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whereas I'm I'm young and I'm good looking and I'm, you know, slim.
Slim so I'm like god can you imagine you know
I'm worrying yeah worrying if everyone
likes you now you're doing the right thing and are you this that and the other and also
on top of that your body's giving up on you and
you can't stop gaining weight and you've got no energy to go and do stuff
and I was thinking yeah it must be really bad but actually
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it's completely different like yes I still feel young
and so I don't feel like I'm old at all
but my brain is not the same as
it was when I was 1920 not the
same person that I was back then I am I am
I've gone through so many levels and so
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many layers of myself to get to the real
me like the core of who I am yeah like peeled back an onion my entire life yeah
peel back my layers until I got to the core and now I know who I am and and
that's amazing like yeah and that's that's the good thing and I'm sure a lot
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of this This comes from the fact that,
you know, we decided to go down the path of healing all of those parts.
And, you know, that's why I preach about it to anyone and everyone that going
on a self-healing journey is going to be the saviour.
It's going to be the only thing that's going to save you is to work on yourself
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as much as you physically can.
Because I couldn't imagine putting my 16-year-old brain...
In my 35 year old body that's had
two kids that is falling apart I
would be having a nervous breakdown on
a daily like yeah same there is
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no way that 16 year old Charlotte could handle 35 year old Charlotte oh my god
and I couldn't agree more like definitely doing some deep soul Soul searching
and self-healing is something that is just,
I've said it before and I'll say it again, it should be, kids should be taught
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this in secondary school.
Oh, I will get on the soapbox about that. Oh God, me too.
They should be taught how to self-regulate and self-heal and how to look after
their mental health and how to, you know, work out what they want, what they need,
how to look after themselves properly because learning those things is definitely.
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One of the most important things I ever did in my life yeah
100% 100% yeah getting
to know you and what you want on a
really deeper spiritual level level
yeah is invaluable I think
you know all all people all children
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should be taught about that like yeah and I
do think and it's like I don't
know like I know this is a topic we're going to talk about but I think
it needs to be spoken about in a way
that stops children becoming selfish and
self-centered because we have this whole oh we can be open about our emotions
and this is how I feel and I'm allowed to feel this way and I'm validated but
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I'm also going to be a bitch and tell you that you can't feel that way because
I feel this way and I know we're going to go into a bit more in another episode about
that kind of entitlement, but I feel like the taught.
In a way that makes people understand that
loving yourself and being really
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confident in your own skin doesn't mean you need to be
horrible to people around you yeah there's a
difference between confidence and arrogance exactly like
being confident in who you are yeah still means
you get to be a nice person you still are good to.
Your friends you still care about your family it's very similar to
learning to be a nice person but still having
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boundaries yeah and you
know it's it's a there's a fine line
and I do think it needs to be like taught slightly differently
because I know you know and again
I don't want to go too much into it because it is on our
list of topics about how like teenagers
and stuff are that these days when it comes to
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they're like they become quite selfish in yeah
you know how they are because
it's all about well this is how I feel so it doesn't matter
how you feel and I'm allowed to be who I want to be and
you can't see anything because I'm allowed
to be like this because society says we can
be and do and be whatever we want to be and
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I'm like that's all 100% true but just don't be a dick about life yeah yeah
i would love to have a job as teaching self-healing in secondary schools oh
my god i would but i think i'd get things thrown at me like.
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I think I don't know if my tough love would be
a bit too much or I'd just be like I get it just don't.
Be nice to people lots people would really good.
I have a really good thing that always blows everyone's
mind when I show it to them right and it's talking about
it's about energy and it's how energy affects
you even when you don't realize it is
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so if you get someone to stand up right and hold
their arm out straight and you push down on their arm and
they have to to push up against you so they can see how
much force they have to use to stop you from
pushing their arm down then you get them
to hold like a cigarette or alcohol
in their other hand obviously doesn't have to
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be a lit cigarette or anything like that but like something like a cigarette
is really good so just get them to hold a cigarette in their other hand do
the same thing and their hand will drop to they they won't
have the strength to push against you but then
you give them like a really nice charged piece of like selenite
or quartz or something like that right and they'll
barely need to use any strength and it works every time
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it just shows how energy can weaken or strengthen
you and whenever i show kids that it
blows their minds right open and they're always like oh
my god teach me more about this yeah how do
i make energy work for me like what's what's the harm like yeah like you should
try it with grace and show her I think I might do actually I've got yeah I have
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a really big quartz necklace that I will yeah you just need to find something
that's like really bad for you that you can get her to hold in her other hand yeah.
And and uh and it'll it'll it'll blow
your mind and like I love doing that with like
showing the kids things like that because we're not
taught about things like energy and how you can use it
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like for your advantage or disadvantage and when it comes to
a healing journey it's vital yeah it
really is and you you don't realize how much different
energies around you can affect you even yeah but
I went way off topic with that I think no but you know
what that's actually giving me another idea for another
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podcast is to talk
about energy and how energy affects
you because again something I've learned going through
the whole healing journey is how to spot
like energy vampires people will
suck the living life out of
you yeah so energy vampires
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is definitely a topic pick for another day before we get on our soapbox about
that because I can definitely talk about that kind of thing for a long time
but yeah so I really enjoy talking about this kind of thing like growing older
grace or disgracefully is it's just been something that.
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For me, I will talk about this to anyone younger that wants to listen,
that it's actually something to really be excited about and look forward to
because things do get easier and things do get better as you get older.
Yeah, your body might hurt a little bit more and you might not be as interested
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in going out all weekend long as what you used to be when you were younger,
but life is just another level altogether and it's
definitely something that when I
was younger I did not expect so let me
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particularly for women honestly I've never spoke
really to a man about it so I don't know how a
man young or old would view getting older so that would also
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be interesting to hear from a male perspective
would like to hear that but let us know what you think
about getting older do you feel pressure to look and act a
certain way still or do you find yourself sinking more
and more deeper into a pool of of total authentic
realness and newness and are you totally here for it like we are yeah let us
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