December 15, 2025 • 9 mins
In this episode of The Voices of Emanu El, Rabbi Pam Silk explores Parashat Vayeishev and the paradox of “settling” in a world that rarely feels settled. Drawing on the story of Joseph, we reflect on what it means to remain grounded and present even when life feels turbulent and unpredictable.
Rabbi Silk weaves together Joseph’s journey from the pit to leadership with the courage of the Maccabees, who lit the menorah in a desecrated Temple with oil that was certain to run out. Their choice to kindle light in the midst of fear and instability becomes a model for choosing presence over paralysis, hope over despair, and small, faithful actions over waiting for perfect conditions.
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(00:00):
So, this is absolutely my favorite season in Houston.
Finally gone are the blistering hot days,
and here are the crisp mornings and cozy nights.
I've already made a couple pots of soup this fall and more
than once have turned on the heating pad to warm the bed
before crawling in.
The cooler weather and shorter days are conducive to
(00:23):
nesting and prioritizing resting at home.
Amidst shopping trips and gift procurement,
errands and gatherings with friends,
there's just something so satisfying about being settled,
being home with all the bedrooms full,
flavors coming together in pots on the stove and in the
(00:45):
oven, and just feeling restful.
This week's Torah portion, Vayeshev,
begins with a seemingly simple declaration.
Vayeshev Yaakov Be'eretz Megureaviv,
Jacob settled in the land where his fathers had sojourned.
This portion's name, Vayeshev, evokes dwelling, settling,
(01:08):
and resting.
Yet, nothing in this parsha feels settled.
In fact,
Vayeshev may be one of the most turbulent sections in all
of Genesis.
Jacob hopes for calm after a lifetime of struggle,
wrestling with brothers, angels, and himself, oh my.
(01:30):
But within a few verses,
his beloved son Joseph is cast into a pit,
sold into slavery, and taken to Egypt.
And even after rising in Potiphar's house,
he will be falsely accused and thrown into prison.
So why call this portion Vayeshev?
(01:52):
He settled, when almost nothing here is settled?
Our commentators notice this tension,
and Rashi suggests that Jacob sought to dwell in peace.
But God responded,
is it not enough for the righteous what awaits them in the
world to come,
that they also seek to dwell in peace in this world?
(02:14):
It's a rough and challenging teaching,
one that we might not choose as our theological focus,
but it does highlight something real.
Life rarely stays peaceful for long.
Even our moments of rest are part of a much larger,
unfinished story.
(02:36):
Yet, I want to approach this name, Vayeshev, differently.
Rather than reading it as a failed attempt at peace,
we might understand it as a reminder of what it means to be
present, to dwell, even when life is unpredictable,
how to remain grounded even when the world feels unsteady.
(02:59):
Joseph's story illustrates this beautifully.
It would be easy to focus solely on the drama of his
brother's betrayal,
but pay attention to what Joseph does after he is thrown
into the pit.
In every place he lands, the pit, the caravan,
Potiphar's house, the prison, Joseph makes himself present.
(03:22):
He dwells.
He pays attention.
He uses his gifts.
Even in circumstances he did not choose,
he refuses to be defined solely by what happens to him.
The Torah tells us repeatedly, Adonai was with Joseph.
But perhaps the deeper truth is that Joseph remained with
(03:46):
himself.
He did not abandon his own sense of purpose even when
others abandoned him.
Every one of us lives a version of Vayeshev.
We settle into routines, families, communities,
and yet life unsettles us.
(04:07):
We hope for calm and the world brings disruption.
We hope for unity and we encounter conflict.
We hope for meaning and sometimes we feel lost.
But Vayeshev invites us to dwell anyway, to settle,
(04:27):
not in complacency, but in presence,
to live fully in the world, even the messiest parts.
Joseph reminds us that our dreams matter,
even when circumstances seem bleak.
But perhaps the most profound teaching is this.
Transformation begins in the moments we least expect it.
(04:50):
Joseph's journey towards becoming a leader begins in a pit.
We know from our own lived experience that our greatest
turning points often emerge from our most unsettled
moments.
As we approach Hanukkah,
the themes of Vayeshev take on an even deeper resonance.
(05:10):
Hanukkah is at its heart a holiday born in profoundly
unsettled times.
The Maccabees did not live in an age of tranquility.
Their world was marked by political upheaval,
cultural pressure, and spiritual disorientation.
The temple,
the very place meant to anchor the Jewish people and offer
(05:30):
them comfort, had been desecrated.
And yet, when the Maccabees entered that desecrated space,
they made a choice that echoes Joseph's own quiet courage.
They inhabited the moment fully.
They looked honestly at the world as it was, broken,
uncertain, still dangerous,
(05:51):
and still they acted from a place of presence rather than
despair.
We often declare that the miracle of Hanukkah is that the
oil lasted eight days.
But the real miracle is that in a moment when nothing felt
stable or assured,
our ancestors dared to kindle light anyway.
(06:13):
They lit the menorah, knowing the oil would run out.
They chose presence over paralysis.
They chose action over waiting for perfect circumstances.
They chose hope,
even when standing in the ruins of their sanctuary.
Just as Joseph finds purpose in the pit,
(06:34):
the Maccabees and the sages who shaped Hanukkah teach us
that spiritual life is built not on perfect conditions,
but on courageous presence and imperfect reality.
Chanukah asks us to practice this presence every time we
light a candle.
Think about this act.
(06:54):
We place tiny flames in the window, exposed to the night.
They're vulnerable, flickering, easily extinguished,
and that is precisely the point.
These lights are not about certainty.
They are about commitment.
They tell the world and ourselves,
even when life is unsettled,
even when the world feels dark, we will kindle light.
(07:19):
In this way,
Hanukkah becomes a nightly expression of Vayeshev to
settle.
It reminds us that being settled does not mean being
comfortable or restful or free from struggle.
It means choosing in each moment to show up with intention.
It means taking responsibility for what light we can offer,
knowing it will not resolve every darkness,
(07:41):
but trusting that it matters nonetheless.
And when we place those lights in the window for others to
see, we do what Joseph did at every stage in his journey.
We say, I'm here.
I will not disappear.
I will not go away into uncertainty.
(08:02):
Chanukah teaches us that presence itself is an act of
tremendous strength, courage, and resistance.
So as we move deeper into the season,
into these shortest days of the year,
may the lights of Hanukkah invite us to dwell in our own
unsettled lives with more courage, clarity, and compassion.
(08:23):
May they remind us that being unsettled does not mean that
we are lost.
It just means we are still becoming.
Tonight, as we welcome Shabbat, we pause, we dwell,
we exist, and find presence in this moment,
not because all is settled,
but because sacred rest gives us the strength to face the
(08:44):
unsettled world with clearer eyes and braver hearts.
Shabbat.
So, this is absolutely my favorite season in Houston.
Finally gone are the blistering hot days,
and here are the crisp mornings and cozy nights.
I've already made a couple pots of soup this fall and more
than once have turned on the heating pad to warm the bed
before crawling in.
The cooler weather and shorter days are conducive to
(00:23):
nesting and prioritizing resting at home.
Amidst shopping trips and gift procurement,
errands and gatherings with friends,
there's just something so satisfying about being settled,
being home with all the bedrooms full,
flavors coming together in pots on the stove and in the
(00:45):
oven, and just feeling restful.
This week's Torah portion, Vayeshev,
begins with a seemingly simple declaration.
Vayeshev Yaakov Be'eretz Megureaviv,
Jacob settled in the land where his fathers had sojourned.
This portion's name, Vayeshev, evokes dwelling, settling,
(01:08):
and resting.
Yet, nothing in this parsha feels settled.
In fact,
Vayeshev may be one of the most turbulent sections in all
of Genesis.
Jacob hopes for calm after a lifetime of struggle,
wrestling with brothers, angels, and himself, oh my.
(01:30):
But within a few verses,
his beloved son Joseph is cast into a pit,
sold into slavery, and taken to Egypt.
And even after rising in Potiphar's house,
he will be falsely accused and thrown into prison.
So why call this portion Vayeshev?
(01:52):
He settled, when almost nothing here is settled?
Our commentators notice this tension,
and Rashi suggests that Jacob sought to dwell in peace.
But God responded,
is it not enough for the righteous what awaits them in the
world to come,
that they also seek to dwell in peace in this world?
(02:14):
It's a rough and challenging teaching,
one that we might not choose as our theological focus,
but it does highlight something real.
Life rarely stays peaceful for long.
Even our moments of rest are part of a much larger,
unfinished story.
(02:36):
Yet, I want to approach this name, Vayeshev, differently.
Rather than reading it as a failed attempt at peace,
we might understand it as a reminder of what it means to be
present, to dwell, even when life is unpredictable,
how to remain grounded even when the world feels unsteady.
(02:59):
Joseph's story illustrates this beautifully.
It would be easy to focus solely on the drama of his
brother's betrayal,
but pay attention to what Joseph does after he is thrown
into the pit.
In every place he lands, the pit, the caravan,
Potiphar's house, the prison, Joseph makes himself present.
(03:22):
He dwells.
He pays attention.
He uses his gifts.
Even in circumstances he did not choose,
he refuses to be defined solely by what happens to him.
The Torah tells us repeatedly, Adonai was with Joseph.
But perhaps the deeper truth is that Joseph remained with
(03:46):
himself.
He did not abandon his own sense of purpose even when
others abandoned him.
Every one of us lives a version of Vayeshev.
We settle into routines, families, communities,
and yet life unsettles us.
(04:07):
We hope for calm and the world brings disruption.
We hope for unity and we encounter conflict.
We hope for meaning and sometimes we feel lost.
But Vayeshev invites us to dwell anyway, to settle,
(04:27):
not in complacency, but in presence,
to live fully in the world, even the messiest parts.
Joseph reminds us that our dreams matter,
even when circumstances seem bleak.
But perhaps the most profound teaching is this.
Transformation begins in the moments we least expect it.
(04:50):
Joseph's journey towards becoming a leader begins in a pit.
We know from our own lived experience that our greatest
turning points often emerge from our most unsettled
moments.
As we approach Hanukkah,
the themes of Vayeshev take on an even deeper resonance.
(05:10):
Hanukkah is at its heart a holiday born in profoundly
unsettled times.
The Maccabees did not live in an age of tranquility.
Their world was marked by political upheaval,
cultural pressure, and spiritual disorientation.
The temple,
the very place meant to anchor the Jewish people and offer
(05:30):
them comfort, had been desecrated.
And yet, when the Maccabees entered that desecrated space,
they made a choice that echoes Joseph's own quiet courage.
They inhabited the moment fully.
They looked honestly at the world as it was, broken,
uncertain, still dangerous,
(05:51):
and still they acted from a place of presence rather than
despair.
We often declare that the miracle of Hanukkah is that the
oil lasted eight days.
But the real miracle is that in a moment when nothing felt
stable or assured,
our ancestors dared to kindle light anyway.
(06:13):
They lit the menorah, knowing the oil would run out.
They chose presence over paralysis.
They chose action over waiting for perfect circumstances.
They chose hope,
even when standing in the ruins of their sanctuary.
Just as Joseph finds purpose in the pit,
(06:34):
the Maccabees and the sages who shaped Hanukkah teach us
that spiritual life is built not on perfect conditions,
but on courageous presence and imperfect reality.
Chanukah asks us to practice this presence every time we
light a candle.
Think about this act.
(06:54):
We place tiny flames in the window, exposed to the night.
They're vulnerable, flickering, easily extinguished,
and that is precisely the point.
These lights are not about certainty.
They are about commitment.
They tell the world and ourselves,
even when life is unsettled,
even when the world feels dark, we will kindle light.
(07:19):
In this way,
Hanukkah becomes a nightly expression of Vayeshev to
settle.
It reminds us that being settled does not mean being
comfortable or restful or free from struggle.
It means choosing in each moment to show up with intention.
It means taking responsibility for what light we can offer,
knowing it will not resolve every darkness,
(07:41):
but trusting that it matters nonetheless.
And when we place those lights in the window for others to
see, we do what Joseph did at every stage in his journey.
We say, I'm here.
I will not disappear.
I will not go away into uncertainty.
(08:02):
Chanukah teaches us that presence itself is an act of
tremendous strength, courage, and resistance.
So as we move deeper into the season,
into these shortest days of the year,
may the lights of Hanukkah invite us to dwell in our own
unsettled lives with more courage, clarity, and compassion.
(08:23):
May they remind us that being unsettled does not mean that
we are lost.
It just means we are still becoming.
Tonight, as we welcome Shabbat, we pause, we dwell,
we exist, and find presence in this moment,
not because all is settled,
but because sacred rest gives us the strength to face the
(08:44):
unsettled world with clearer eyes and braver hearts.
Shabbat.
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