Mastering Boundaries: A Guide for Cis-Women

In this conversation, Dr. Erika Miley and author Terri Cole delve into the complexities of boundaries, particularly for women who are dealing with being high-functioning codependents. They explore the societal conditioning that makes boundary-setting challenging, the myths surrounding boundaries, and the emotional toll of neglecting personal limits. Terri shares practical strategies for establishing boundaries, the importance of self-care for therapists, and the impact of social media on therapeutic relationships. The discussion emphasizes the need for self-discovery and the right to prioritize one's own needs without guilt. takeaways

• Boundaries are essential for healthy relationships.
• Many women struggle with boundaries due to societal conditioning.
• Setting boundaries is a radical act of self-love.
• Understanding the myths around boundaries can empower individuals.
• Emotional discomfort is a natural part of boundary-setting.
• Practicing boundary-setting requires patience and self-compassion.
• Resentment can indicate a need for boundaries.
• Therapists must model healthy boundaries for their clients.
• Social media can complicate therapist-client relationships.
• Self-care is crucial for therapists to avoid burnout.

00:00 Introduction to Boundaries and Codependency 01:16 The Struggle with Boundaries for Women 03:52 Connection Between Boundaries and Resentment 06:31 Understanding the Myths of Boundaries 08:24 The Importance of Setting Boundaries 11:54 Navigating the Discomfort of Boundary Setting 13:59 Childhood Trauma and Boundary Issues 17:23 Building Healthy Relationships Through Boundaries 21:20 Establishing Boundaries in Relationships 23:09 Handling Repeat Offenders 24:54 The Importance of Communication 26:57 Understanding Emotional Responses 28:52 Navigating Power Dynamics in Boundaries 30:52 Assessing Risks in Boundary Setting 32:40 Creating a VIP Section for Emotional Safety 34:29 Therapist Boundaries and Self-Care 36:31 Modeling Healthy Boundaries in Therapy 39:57 Financial Boundaries in Therapy 41:29 Social Media and Professional Boundaries 41:56 Navigating Professional Boundaries in Therapy 44:41 The Impact of Social Media on Therapists 47:09 Becoming an Expert: The Journey of a Therapist 49:38 Maintaining Curiosity and Preventing Burnout 54:46 Understanding Client Boundaries and Self-Care 59:55 The Concept of High Functioning Codependency

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