March 8, 2025 • 18 mins
George Orwell wrote, “To see what's right in front of your nose requires constant effort.” Learn how to tune out the noise and focus on what YOU need to do, which is minding your business, self-improvement, and getting prepared.
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(00:00):
(Transcribed by TurboScribe.ai. Go Unlimited to remove this message.) George Orwell wrote, to see what's right in
front of your nose requires constant effort.
Learn how to tune up the noise and
focus on what you need to do, which
is minding your business, self-improvement, and getting
prepared.
(00:21):
Hi, it's the Urban Lady Prepper.
I help single moms and solo women with
practical emergency preparedness.
But of course, all are welcome here to
be better prepared for whatever happens next.
I've posted and done a podcast about coping
with the tactic of flooding the zone.
So much information is thrown at us that
we don't know which way to turn.
(00:42):
When this happens, people tend to stay within
their echo chamber as a first layer of
defense because it's easier to deal with.
We want that place of comfort, reassurance, and
validation.
But the one thing that not enough of
us do is to trust ourselves.
Trust our intuition and belief system, holding onto
the core of what makes us, well, us,
(01:04):
and staying true to it.
But one of the biggest reasons we are
where we are right now is that we
can't mind our own business.
Minding your own business means facing your insecurities,
problems, and lack of knowledge, rather than always
looking for someone else to blame, judge, or
fight with.
When folks mind other people's business, you have
(01:24):
the double effect of people not dealing with
their issues and being driven to disrupt the
lives of others who are trying to figure
out their issues and trying to find their
way.
Many end up contradicting and invalidating the beliefs
they're trying to force on others by doing
so.
You may be listening to this and wondering,
what the hell does this have to do
(01:44):
with prepping?
It has everything to do with prepping because
doing the self-work and having self-control
will help see you through the current situation
and whatever is to come.
There's nothing more painful than self-work.
The 2020 pandemic really started to bring the
poison outward.
When locked down, people were faced with the
(02:05):
consequences of their decisions, such as, why did
I marry this jackass?
Who are these kids?
Did I actually give birth to them?
Why did I take this job?
I have all this time on my hands
now and I have no hobbies and no
interest.
Who am I?
And how did I get here?
They were up close and personal with those
(02:26):
decisions without escape and on top of being
24-7 with their family, they had to
deal with themselves.
There's a buffer in outside interactions, like working
in an office or participating in activities with
others.
You maintain a veneer of civility by being
polite and professional.
There's always a distraction, whether it's people talking
(02:48):
to you or the work you need to
accomplish.
You haven't been alone long enough to recognize
how short-tempered you are, how unkind you
can be, how hateful you might seem, and
your self-righteousness.
How easily your buttons are pushed in an
environment when you don't have to, quote-unquote,
act nice.
Many people realized they didn't like what they
(03:09):
saw and faced a choice.
They could have taken that time to say,
okay, I have issues.
I'm parroting conditioned beliefs and attitudes I no
longer feel comfortable with.
I've made certain decisions not out of true
love and good intentions, but because of ulterior
motives, like physical, emotional, or financial protection.
(03:29):
I'm going to take this time to work
on myself.
I will delve into that dark place and
confront the aspects of my personality that aren't
so great, and I'll be brave enough to
make the necessary changes.
When the smoke cleared and people clamored to
leave their homes, it became real apparent who
did the self-work and who did not.
(03:50):
The people who didn't, they didn't do that
self-work, were screaming to be let out
of the personal hell they created, otherwise known
as their home life, and inflicting their frustration
on people unfortunate enough to have customer-facing
jobs.
These angry people liked it so tough, but
weren't brave enough to face themselves.
(04:11):
I've said it before, it's one thing to
be a prepper, but it's another to have
everything you've ever prepared for staring you in
the face.
I once mentioned that I'd rather be the
bookie than the better when predicting what disaster
might end the world.
That meant I didn't have an answer, and
I'm willing to let others take that bet.
It could be anything, and it's all happening
(04:31):
right now.
All the issues I've brought up since my
blog's launch in May are recurring.
The water problems, the food shortages, the extremism,
and the increasing disaster that are becoming harder
to contain and recover from.
Oh, and what's currently going on in our
government.
I hope that if you've followed me since
then, you've taken the information I shared to
(04:53):
heart.
I hope you've been doing the necessary self
-work, confronting those uncomfortable things, and getting your
life and business in order to prepare for
times like these, because you would be ahead
of the curve.
If not, it's only a short time before
it all turns into a full-blown panic,
and you won't be in the position you
wanted to be.
(05:13):
So if you tune out the noise and
focus on your preparedness goals, you'll navigate through
the static regardless of what you see and
hear, and will be less distracted by the
paths of others.
You won't be worried about what someone else
is doing.
Suppose you have a fixed vision of where
you want to be a year from now,
and are planning your way towards that.
(05:33):
In that case, you're less concerned about having
pissing matches on the internet, defending billionaires and
political leaders who are clearly showing they don't
care.
When you're that concentrated on what you need
to do and what you need to achieve,
you don't have the time to absorb the
massive amounts of negative information designed to disorient
you, make you angry, and overly concerned about
(05:55):
other people's lives and choices.
We often think the world would be a
better place if everyone thought exactly as we
do, but that's not how it works.
The failure of every regime or belief system
that insisted its tenets needed to be followed
by everyone, not just its core followers, should
prove that.
The 1% trying to run things now
(06:16):
believe no differently.
They think that the general population is stupid
and incapable, and that the gift of freedom
needs to be monetized and regulated by those
with money.
Of course, fundamentally, these people are just that,
people.
They're regular human beings.
They're incredibly flawed, or just downright awful.
They probably aren't much smarter than the next
(06:38):
guy.
The difference is, they have money and power
that we don't.
Whether or not they'll succeed in taking over
our entire existence remains to be seen, and
resistance is emerging.
But in the meantime, you have to wonder,
how wrong are they?
The people they exploit lose sight on what
would improve their own lives because they remain
(06:59):
so consumed with others and wanting those others
to suffer.
They're minding other people's business.
Now that it's clear this suffering exempts no
one, it's making the issues that impact us
all more real and intense.
And with discontent across the board, there's the
threat of civil unrest, which many preppers already
expect.
(07:19):
We Americans were warned that the economy would
collapse, and it is.
We were warned that there would be higher
prices and shortages, and there are, or will
be.
Many benefits we've grown accustomed to may be
taken away, leading to desperation we haven't seen
in a long time.
And no one is immune to this unless
you're so rich those things don't matter.
(07:40):
Right now, nothing should be more important to
you than being prepared.
You must tend to your physical stockpiles, such
as your food, water, and the means to
maintain and continue access to those things.
But if your mind isn't right, if you're
not self-aware, if you haven't addressed those
things that make you a less likable, agreeable,
or capable person in an emergency, you'll find
(08:02):
supplies and allies difficult to come by.
And that's not what you need.
By the way, if you're unsure whether you
have the essentials, click the link in the
podcast description to get your free essential prepper
checklist.
So what is the difference between doing self
-work and being selfish?
(08:23):
Selfishness is what happens when you don't do
your self-work.
Self-work involves getting to the core of
why you have the reactions you do, the
choices you made and continue to make.
It gets to the heart of your preferences
and intolerances, and whether they were of your
own making, something you adopted as a survival
mechanism, for comfort, or through conditioning.
(08:44):
When you look that much inward, you might
realize that you may have had to compromise
the very things that make you true to
yourself, and whether you contradict your chosen beliefs
to maintain a facade.
Once you get there, you may realize the
changes you need to make will alter your
life and relationships, but you'll probably like yourself
(09:06):
a lot more and really know who you
can trust to have your back because they
want your authenticity, not your obedience.
Understand that everything and everyone is interconnected, whether
we want to believe that or not.
And if that statement makes you uncomfortable, one
of the first questions you can ask yourself
is, why does it?
(09:28):
You may be the most secure and have
what you need or want right now, but
unwilling to be uncomfortable in any way.
In that case, you will not be mentally
or emotionally ready when there's a disaster or
social upheaval, and no one may be willing
to give you the little bit of humanity
they have left.
If you're finding it difficult to cope now,
it's only going to get worse for you.
(09:49):
Be uncomfortable mentally and emotionally now, and work
on your shit so you can be ready
and be the one that keeps it together
when it all craps the bed.
If you can't face discomfort now, how will
you face it when the conditions are even
less favorable than they are currently?
If you allow too much distraction and don't
keep your eye on whatever goal you aim
(10:09):
for, you will be less capable of handling
life when the, as the Canadian prepper says,
the shizzy hits the fizzy.
What's happening now is only scratching the surface
of what's coming.
I'm not speaking from a place of superiority,
but of experience.
I am by no means perfect.
I absolutely have flaws.
(10:30):
The difference between the person I am today
and the person I was even 10 years
ago is that if I had a reaction
or did something that wasn't great or that
I could have done better, I truly learned
from the experience.
Right now, something that I'm dealing with is
that I have my health to consider.
As a flawed person, I worked so hard
(10:51):
on my mental and emotional health that I
neglected my physical body.
Now I have to pay attention to it
or else.
Being emotionally and mentally prepared is great, but
one must also be physically prepared.
If I have to walk a long distance,
evacuate, or carry an animal or a child.
Prepping requires balance in every aspect.
As the saying goes, progress, not perfection.
(11:14):
The win is getting started.
Something I would do when I found myself
reacting was to try and catch myself in
it or better yet, video it.
I believe I'm one of those undiagnosed ADHD
having Gen Xers.
The things I hyper focus on put me
in such a trance that I get snappy
when interrupted.
(11:35):
I could be downright mean.
My patience in general is quite short and
while it's improved dramatically because I've worked on
it, I still could be better at it.
For example, one day I was videoing something
outside and one of my dogs was really
getting on my nerves.
I don't care how many people show loving
videos and pictures of their dogs.
(11:57):
They're great, but there's definitely times when they
could be a pain in the ass.
And one of my dogs, when he's in
one of his phases, can be a real
mofo.
So while filming this video, he did something
annoying and by then I was done with
him.
I immediately turned and snapped at him.
When I played the video back, I was
(12:17):
shocked to see my reaction.
The look on my face, my body language,
how I yelled at him.
I felt terrible.
I had to tell myself, this is what
I look like.
Was what he did so awful that he
earned that kind of response?
I wouldn't want to look and act like
that unless someone was threatening me, not merely
(12:37):
being annoying.
From that point forward, I realized that his
personality is a gift because it made me
realize those aspects of my personality that still
need work.
I had to question whether I truly learned
to deal with certain stressors or I just
removed them from my environment.
I'm not sure yet.
(12:58):
But when I find myself in a moment
that I may not be proud of later,
I ask myself that.
Am I so angry or upset right now
because I truly have a right to be?
Or is it because a stressor has reemerged
and I still can't deal with it?
When I begin to lose my patience with
anyone or anything, I think of that moment
when I saw how ugly I looked and
(13:20):
how much the target probably didn't deserve it.
And I keep trying to improve because ultimately,
it's not just for me.
Becoming a better person will make me more
respectful and treat others with more kindness and
sincerity.
And that can only help me when I
need it most.
So record yourself if you're trying to find
out how you look or act when under
(13:41):
stress.
Or ask the people closest to you what
you do that upset or hurt them.
Then brace yourself because it's probably not what
you want to hear.
Remember, you didn't ask them what they love
about you.
You basically asked them what they hate about
you.
And if the people closest to you know
you better than anyone else, you should want
to improve yourself for you and them more
(14:04):
than anyone else.
I hope you'll take what I'm saying to
heart.
Turning inward, educating yourself on your personality, and
working on your self-control will help you
move forward and prepare better.
You'll be calmer, less apt to be led,
and less inclined to join the mob mentality.
Being sheeple isn't a political party or movement.
(14:26):
It's a mindset.
To get out of the weeds, have in
your mind that you don't need an opinion
on everything.
That you don't need to chase every piece
of bad news down the rabbit hole.
And that the people feeding you this information
are painfully human and may have their own
issues they're not dealing with.
Do this, and you won't be so easily
moved by people who didn't do the self
(14:48):
-work.
You'll begin to see the damage.
You'll recognize it and have improved discernment of
the people, things, and situations you allow into
your life.
Everything happening now is about power and control.
So many things are out of our hands
right now.
Have the power of control over yourself and
your mind.
(15:09):
Don't concern yourself about what others are doing.
Don't waste your time obsessively consuming material that
will upset you or speak to the low
-hanging fruit of your psyche.
Stop defending or appealing to people who don't
care about you.
Stop worrying about what someone else believes, why
that person is a jerk, why that person
has what you have, or why you don't
(15:30):
have what they have and what somebody else
earns.
Who cares?
That's not going to improve your situation in
any way.
Remind yourself that crappy people, situations, and people
who live differently will always exist.
Don't let them fuel any anxiety or insecurities
you have.
(15:50):
That's the exact opposite of what you need
to be doing right now.
We may be unable to change or remove
those things, but we don't have to be
like those people, allow ourselves to be embittered
by circumstance, or strive to damage people we'll
never meet.
So to repeat George Orwell, to see what's
right in front of your nose requires constant
(16:12):
effort.
To navigate the current landscape, focus only on
those issues that matter to you, those issues
that deeply resonate and truly impact your life
personally, and any future goals you may have
for yourself and your loved ones.
The onslaught of information and news is meant
to remove your focus from what matters in
your life.
(16:33):
Latch onto that issue and follow it to
its conclusion.
Maybe your concern is bodily autonomy, perhaps it's
education, your social security, maybe you're a veteran.
Focus on that, because they want everyone to
be so distracted that they can't focus, and
then they start sliding things by you.
(16:54):
You find out later after the fact that
it was something really important to you and
impacts your future and how you prepare.
Focusing on a pet issue or two, getting
to the core of what makes you who
you are, and working on your weaknesses will
do more for you than arguing with strangers
online or becoming so exasperated you throw up
your hands and tune everything out.
(17:16):
That's what they really want.
Don't fall for the okey-doke.
This is why prepping isn't a hobby, it's
a lifestyle.
Many preppers focus on physical preps, but if
you don't have a more stoic perspective and
work on the things within your control rather
than those that aren't, you'll be swept away
in the hysteria.
(17:37):
You'll be under the sway of people you
don't actually like and end up in an
awful mental and emotional place, not understanding how
you got there.
If these times genuinely call for survival of
the fittest, be fit in all ways.
If you want to make a difference, feel
more secure and cut through the noise, mind
your business.
(17:58):
Be better.
Do better.
Do the self-work.
Your future self will thank you.
Thanks for listening.
Until next time, this is the Urban Lady
Prepper signing off.
(Transcribed by TurboScribe.ai. Go Unlimited to remove this message.) George Orwell wrote, to see what's right in
front of your nose requires constant effort.
Learn how to tune up the noise and
focus on what you need to do, which
is minding your business, self-improvement, and getting
prepared.
(00:21):
Hi, it's the Urban Lady Prepper.
I help single moms and solo women with
practical emergency preparedness.
But of course, all are welcome here to
be better prepared for whatever happens next.
I've posted and done a podcast about coping
with the tactic of flooding the zone.
So much information is thrown at us that
we don't know which way to turn.
(00:42):
When this happens, people tend to stay within
their echo chamber as a first layer of
defense because it's easier to deal with.
We want that place of comfort, reassurance, and
validation.
But the one thing that not enough of
us do is to trust ourselves.
Trust our intuition and belief system, holding onto
the core of what makes us, well, us,
(01:04):
and staying true to it.
But one of the biggest reasons we are
where we are right now is that we
can't mind our own business.
Minding your own business means facing your insecurities,
problems, and lack of knowledge, rather than always
looking for someone else to blame, judge, or
fight with.
When folks mind other people's business, you have
(01:24):
the double effect of people not dealing with
their issues and being driven to disrupt the
lives of others who are trying to figure
out their issues and trying to find their
way.
Many end up contradicting and invalidating the beliefs
they're trying to force on others by doing
so.
You may be listening to this and wondering,
what the hell does this have to do
(01:44):
with prepping?
It has everything to do with prepping because
doing the self-work and having self-control
will help see you through the current situation
and whatever is to come.
There's nothing more painful than self-work.
The 2020 pandemic really started to bring the
poison outward.
When locked down, people were faced with the
(02:05):
consequences of their decisions, such as, why did
I marry this jackass?
Who are these kids?
Did I actually give birth to them?
Why did I take this job?
I have all this time on my hands
now and I have no hobbies and no
interest.
Who am I?
And how did I get here?
They were up close and personal with those
(02:26):
decisions without escape and on top of being
24-7 with their family, they had to
deal with themselves.
There's a buffer in outside interactions, like working
in an office or participating in activities with
others.
You maintain a veneer of civility by being
polite and professional.
There's always a distraction, whether it's people talking
(02:48):
to you or the work you need to
accomplish.
You haven't been alone long enough to recognize
how short-tempered you are, how unkind you
can be, how hateful you might seem, and
your self-righteousness.
How easily your buttons are pushed in an
environment when you don't have to, quote-unquote,
act nice.
Many people realized they didn't like what they
(03:09):
saw and faced a choice.
They could have taken that time to say,
okay, I have issues.
I'm parroting conditioned beliefs and attitudes I no
longer feel comfortable with.
I've made certain decisions not out of true
love and good intentions, but because of ulterior
motives, like physical, emotional, or financial protection.
(03:29):
I'm going to take this time to work
on myself.
I will delve into that dark place and
confront the aspects of my personality that aren't
so great, and I'll be brave enough to
make the necessary changes.
When the smoke cleared and people clamored to
leave their homes, it became real apparent who
did the self-work and who did not.
(03:50):
The people who didn't, they didn't do that
self-work, were screaming to be let out
of the personal hell they created, otherwise known
as their home life, and inflicting their frustration
on people unfortunate enough to have customer-facing
jobs.
These angry people liked it so tough, but
weren't brave enough to face themselves.
(04:11):
I've said it before, it's one thing to
be a prepper, but it's another to have
everything you've ever prepared for staring you in
the face.
I once mentioned that I'd rather be the
bookie than the better when predicting what disaster
might end the world.
That meant I didn't have an answer, and
I'm willing to let others take that bet.
It could be anything, and it's all happening
(04:31):
right now.
All the issues I've brought up since my
blog's launch in May are recurring.
The water problems, the food shortages, the extremism,
and the increasing disaster that are becoming harder
to contain and recover from.
Oh, and what's currently going on in our
government.
I hope that if you've followed me since
then, you've taken the information I shared to
(04:53):
heart.
I hope you've been doing the necessary self
-work, confronting those uncomfortable things, and getting your
life and business in order to prepare for
times like these, because you would be ahead
of the curve.
If not, it's only a short time before
it all turns into a full-blown panic,
and you won't be in the position you
wanted to be.
(05:13):
So if you tune out the noise and
focus on your preparedness goals, you'll navigate through
the static regardless of what you see and
hear, and will be less distracted by the
paths of others.
You won't be worried about what someone else
is doing.
Suppose you have a fixed vision of where
you want to be a year from now,
and are planning your way towards that.
(05:33):
In that case, you're less concerned about having
pissing matches on the internet, defending billionaires and
political leaders who are clearly showing they don't
care.
When you're that concentrated on what you need
to do and what you need to achieve,
you don't have the time to absorb the
massive amounts of negative information designed to disorient
you, make you angry, and overly concerned about
(05:55):
other people's lives and choices.
We often think the world would be a
better place if everyone thought exactly as we
do, but that's not how it works.
The failure of every regime or belief system
that insisted its tenets needed to be followed
by everyone, not just its core followers, should
prove that.
The 1% trying to run things now
(06:16):
believe no differently.
They think that the general population is stupid
and incapable, and that the gift of freedom
needs to be monetized and regulated by those
with money.
Of course, fundamentally, these people are just that,
people.
They're regular human beings.
They're incredibly flawed, or just downright awful.
They probably aren't much smarter than the next
(06:38):
guy.
The difference is, they have money and power
that we don't.
Whether or not they'll succeed in taking over
our entire existence remains to be seen, and
resistance is emerging.
But in the meantime, you have to wonder,
how wrong are they?
The people they exploit lose sight on what
would improve their own lives because they remain
(06:59):
so consumed with others and wanting those others
to suffer.
They're minding other people's business.
Now that it's clear this suffering exempts no
one, it's making the issues that impact us
all more real and intense.
And with discontent across the board, there's the
threat of civil unrest, which many preppers already
expect.
(07:19):
We Americans were warned that the economy would
collapse, and it is.
We were warned that there would be higher
prices and shortages, and there are, or will
be.
Many benefits we've grown accustomed to may be
taken away, leading to desperation we haven't seen
in a long time.
And no one is immune to this unless
you're so rich those things don't matter.
(07:40):
Right now, nothing should be more important to
you than being prepared.
You must tend to your physical stockpiles, such
as your food, water, and the means to
maintain and continue access to those things.
But if your mind isn't right, if you're
not self-aware, if you haven't addressed those
things that make you a less likable, agreeable,
or capable person in an emergency, you'll find
(08:02):
supplies and allies difficult to come by.
And that's not what you need.
By the way, if you're unsure whether you
have the essentials, click the link in the
podcast description to get your free essential prepper
checklist.
So what is the difference between doing self
-work and being selfish?
(08:23):
Selfishness is what happens when you don't do
your self-work.
Self-work involves getting to the core of
why you have the reactions you do, the
choices you made and continue to make.
It gets to the heart of your preferences
and intolerances, and whether they were of your
own making, something you adopted as a survival
mechanism, for comfort, or through conditioning.
(08:44):
When you look that much inward, you might
realize that you may have had to compromise
the very things that make you true to
yourself, and whether you contradict your chosen beliefs
to maintain a facade.
Once you get there, you may realize the
changes you need to make will alter your
life and relationships, but you'll probably like yourself
(09:06):
a lot more and really know who you
can trust to have your back because they
want your authenticity, not your obedience.
Understand that everything and everyone is interconnected, whether
we want to believe that or not.
And if that statement makes you uncomfortable, one
of the first questions you can ask yourself
is, why does it?
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You may be the most secure and have
what you need or want right now, but
unwilling to be uncomfortable in any way.
In that case, you will not be mentally
or emotionally ready when there's a disaster or
social upheaval, and no one may be willing
to give you the little bit of humanity
they have left.
If you're finding it difficult to cope now,
it's only going to get worse for you.
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Be uncomfortable mentally and emotionally now, and work
on your shit so you can be ready
and be the one that keeps it together
when it all craps the bed.
If you can't face discomfort now, how will
you face it when the conditions are even
less favorable than they are currently?
If you allow too much distraction and don't
keep your eye on whatever goal you aim
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for, you will be less capable of handling
life when the, as the Canadian prepper says,
the shizzy hits the fizzy.
What's happening now is only scratching the surface
of what's coming.
I'm not speaking from a place of superiority,
but of experience.
I am by no means perfect.
I absolutely have flaws.
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The difference between the person I am today
and the person I was even 10 years
ago is that if I had a reaction
or did something that wasn't great or that
I could have done better, I truly learned
from the experience.
Right now, something that I'm dealing with is
that I have my health to consider.
As a flawed person, I worked so hard
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on my mental and emotional health that I
neglected my physical body.
Now I have to pay attention to it
or else.
Being emotionally and mentally prepared is great, but
one must also be physically prepared.
If I have to walk a long distance,
evacuate, or carry an animal or a child.
Prepping requires balance in every aspect.
As the saying goes, progress, not perfection.
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The win is getting started.
Something I would do when I found myself
reacting was to try and catch myself in
it or better yet, video it.
I believe I'm one of those undiagnosed ADHD
having Gen Xers.
The things I hyper focus on put me
in such a trance that I get snappy
when interrupted.
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I could be downright mean.
My patience in general is quite short and
while it's improved dramatically because I've worked on
it, I still could be better at it.
For example, one day I was videoing something
outside and one of my dogs was really
getting on my nerves.
I don't care how many people show loving
videos and pictures of their dogs.
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They're great, but there's definitely times when they
could be a pain in the ass.
And one of my dogs, when he's in
one of his phases, can be a real
mofo.
So while filming this video, he did something
annoying and by then I was done with
him.
I immediately turned and snapped at him.
When I played the video back, I was
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shocked to see my reaction.
The look on my face, my body language,
how I yelled at him.
I felt terrible.
I had to tell myself, this is what
I look like.
Was what he did so awful that he
earned that kind of response?
I wouldn't want to look and act like
that unless someone was threatening me, not merely
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being annoying.
From that point forward, I realized that his
personality is a gift because it made me
realize those aspects of my personality that still
need work.
I had to question whether I truly learned
to deal with certain stressors or I just
removed them from my environment.
I'm not sure yet.
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But when I find myself in a moment
that I may not be proud of later,
I ask myself that.
Am I so angry or upset right now
because I truly have a right to be?
Or is it because a stressor has reemerged
and I still can't deal with it?
When I begin to lose my patience with
anyone or anything, I think of that moment
when I saw how ugly I looked and
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how much the target probably didn't deserve it.
And I keep trying to improve because ultimately,
it's not just for me.
Becoming a better person will make me more
respectful and treat others with more kindness and
sincerity.
And that can only help me when I
need it most.
So record yourself if you're trying to find
out how you look or act when under
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stress.
Or ask the people closest to you what
you do that upset or hurt them.
Then brace yourself because it's probably not what
you want to hear.
Remember, you didn't ask them what they love
about you.
You basically asked them what they hate about
you.
And if the people closest to you know
you better than anyone else, you should want
to improve yourself for you and them more
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than anyone else.
I hope you'll take what I'm saying to
heart.
Turning inward, educating yourself on your personality, and
working on your self-control will help you
move forward and prepare better.
You'll be calmer, less apt to be led,
and less inclined to join the mob mentality.
Being sheeple isn't a political party or movement.
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It's a mindset.
To get out of the weeds, have in
your mind that you don't need an opinion
on everything.
That you don't need to chase every piece
of bad news down the rabbit hole.
And that the people feeding you this information
are painfully human and may have their own
issues they're not dealing with.
Do this, and you won't be so easily
moved by people who didn't do the self
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-work.
You'll begin to see the damage.
You'll recognize it and have improved discernment of
the people, things, and situations you allow into
your life.
Everything happening now is about power and control.
So many things are out of our hands
right now.
Have the power of control over yourself and
your mind.
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Don't concern yourself about what others are doing.
Don't waste your time obsessively consuming material that
will upset you or speak to the low
-hanging fruit of your psyche.
Stop defending or appealing to people who don't
care about you.
Stop worrying about what someone else believes, why
that person is a jerk, why that person
has what you have, or why you don't
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have what they have and what somebody else
earns.
Who cares?
That's not going to improve your situation in
any way.
Remind yourself that crappy people, situations, and people
who live differently will always exist.
Don't let them fuel any anxiety or insecurities
you have.
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That's the exact opposite of what you need
to be doing right now.
We may be unable to change or remove
those things, but we don't have to be
like those people, allow ourselves to be embittered
by circumstance, or strive to damage people we'll
never meet.
So to repeat George Orwell, to see what's
right in front of your nose requires constant
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effort.
To navigate the current landscape, focus only on
those issues that matter to you, those issues
that deeply resonate and truly impact your life
personally, and any future goals you may have
for yourself and your loved ones.
The onslaught of information and news is meant
to remove your focus from what matters in
your life.
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Latch onto that issue and follow it to
its conclusion.
Maybe your concern is bodily autonomy, perhaps it's
education, your social security, maybe you're a veteran.
Focus on that, because they want everyone to
be so distracted that they can't focus, and
then they start sliding things by you.
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You find out later after the fact that
it was something really important to you and
impacts your future and how you prepare.
Focusing on a pet issue or two, getting
to the core of what makes you who
you are, and working on your weaknesses will
do more for you than arguing with strangers
online or becoming so exasperated you throw up
your hands and tune everything out.
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That's what they really want.
Don't fall for the okey-doke.
This is why prepping isn't a hobby, it's
a lifestyle.
Many preppers focus on physical preps, but if
you don't have a more stoic perspective and
work on the things within your control rather
than those that aren't, you'll be swept away
in the hysteria.
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You'll be under the sway of people you
don't actually like and end up in an
awful mental and emotional place, not understanding how
you got there.
If these times genuinely call for survival of
the fittest, be fit in all ways.
If you want to make a difference, feel
more secure and cut through the noise, mind
your business.
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Be better.
Do better.
Do the self-work.
Your future self will thank you.
Thanks for listening.
Until next time, this is the Urban Lady
Prepper signing off.
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