September 14, 2025 • 11 mins
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(00:00):
(Transcribed by TurboScribe.ai. Go Unlimited to remove this message.) Dang, no one saw last week coming.
Sometimes the aftermath can be as destructive as
the events themselves.
There are some events you can never prepare
for, but the secret is knowing the two
key things that will help get you through
times like these.
What are those two keys?
Listen to find out.
Hi, it's the Urban Lady Prepper.
(00:22):
I help single moms and solo women with
practical emergency preparedness.
But of course, all are welcome to be
better prepared for whatever happens next.
I had a different episode planned for today,
but I don't think it matters where you
are in the world.
It's been one hell of a week.
You can't even call it a roller coaster.
It seems like, okay, never mind.
(00:43):
It is like a roller coaster.
It's the part where you're at the top
and then it just keeps going down.
Here in the US, we're dealing with yet
another school shooting, which is becoming a sad
national pastime at this point.
An economy that's circling the drain and groups
of people who appear to have lost their
minds altogether.
I wish I could point to some positivity,
(01:04):
but there is very little to be found.
Believe me, I tried.
I've had to dig deep.
There are many things I'd like to say
and opinions I have, but what I posted
on my Facebook page instead was a quote
from Young Pueblo, which says, be so steady
in your own energy that you invite people
into your peace instead of falling into their
tension.
(01:25):
I know there are a lot of podcasters
and content creators who've had to measure themselves
on how they responded to a murder that
occurred last week.
It's one thing to see the political conflicts
amongst our leaders, our neighbors and family, but
sometimes the conflict is internal.
In an earlier podcast, I talked about how
I'm not just stoic by nature.
I follow it as a philosophy.
(01:47):
But I'm sure even my fellow stoics are
probably feeling, yes, I said feeling, up against
it right now.
When everything around you is so emotionally charged,
we've been pushed to the brink of what
we can take mentally, emotionally and financially.
It's not easy.
What I believe is really important and I
think is crucial for anyone, especially if you're
getting into prepping, is being able to not
(02:08):
only regulate your emotions, but also ration them.
Being able to do this will help you
get through weeks like these.
And believe me, there are many more weeks
like these to come.
So I'd like to provide some tips to
help you stay steady during a time when
the present is frightening, the future is bleak,
and even more people have shown you who
they are just when you thought you had
(02:29):
them figured out.
The first thing I'd like to recommend is
to remember that word spoken can't be taken
back and the internet is forever.
As we're being pushed to our limits, I
think we're all fed up with everything and
it doesn't take much for us to make
that rash comment, post that nasty meme or
otherwise lash out when something happens that we
(02:49):
can't wrap our heads around while dealing with
people we don't understand and can't reason with.
So I suggest taking a step back.
General, that knee-jerk reaction is not your
best look.
Think twice before sending that email or making
that post.
If news comes through that makes you so
upset that it shakes you, it might be
better to get up and walk away for
(03:10):
a minute to collect yourself before you do
or say something you'll later regret.
One of the things I've championed since the
beginning of Urban Lady Prepper is self-control.
This is something that comes naturally to some
more than others, but as we try to
navigate everyday tasks with people who are increasingly
becoming strangers or just stranger in general, being
(03:32):
able to get a grip and not be
ruled by your emotions is going to serve
you well now and going forward.
This is not the time for snap anything.
Not a snap judgment, not a snap reaction,
not an action that didn't have forethought.
Should a disaster or world-ending event happen
and as of right now, it's not all
at the table.
The ones who can take a deep breath,
(03:54):
pull themselves together and think it through are
the ones who are going to make it.
Being able to regulate your emotions is a
skill that requires practice because as one meme
once said, I honestly believe some people will
put on earth to test my anger management
skills.
We're all being tested right now.
I'm not going to lie.
(04:14):
I lost my shit yesterday, which is why
I must add that regulating your emotions doesn't
mean that you don't have to act as
if they don't exist.
That's what makes us human.
The secret is knowing how to let that
feeling flow through you and then deciding if
what made you upset directly impacts you and
will alter your personal existence.
(04:34):
If it doesn't, move on.
Also, do you have enough information to justify
any immediate action you thought about taking while
feeling that emotion?
If you don't, wait till you do.
And if what got you in your feelings
does impact you directly and you do have
enough information to be justified in that emotion,
then you should take into consideration what impact
(04:55):
that reaction will have on others, especially those
you care about.
Something I've had to grapple with mentally and
maybe you do as well is why people
are so obsessed with other people's lives and
what's going on in them and are upset
that they can't control them.
Their own lives might be a hot mess
but they sure as hell have an opinion
about what you should be doing with yours.
(05:16):
I'll never be able to understand people like
that.
I believe that folks need to do what
makes them happy and as long as it
doesn't involve doing awful things to others, especially
children or animals, leave people alone.
Freedom is for everyone, not just a select
few in a certain demographic.
Happy people make for a happier planet.
(05:37):
We should all want that.
But for some reason, it is so hard
for too many people to do.
It's as though if they don't force other
people to live their lifestyle, their own choices
can't be validated.
It makes no logical sense but this is
what scars our past, shapes our present, and
will greatly affect our future.
We may not be able to change those
(05:58):
people and they will always work to find
ways to trigger you because more positive pursuits
elude them.
So make sure to take time to decompress.
This onslaught, this barrage of chaos, otherwise known
as flooding the zone, is intended to keep
you off balance, unsure, and willing to give
up and cave in.
Or, so on edge that every soundbite that
(06:20):
so much has blinked that your deepest fears
or darkest fantasies will set you off.
Now, more than ever, it's essential to make
time for self-care and rest.
Designate a time when you will not listen
to the news, look at social media, or
communicate with people unless absolutely necessary.
Sometimes you just need to step away from
(06:40):
the fray and let your brain empty out.
Sometimes you need to read that trashy novel,
watch that dung TV show that requires no
more than two brain cells, or listen to
music that makes you smile.
Take that bath in the middle of the
day, go for a walk, sit in the
park, and not once look at your phone.
And for that span of time or that
whole day, tell people to leave you alone
(07:02):
unless their ass is literally on fire.
This will give you a reset and calm
your nerves, which will also help you better
regulate your emotions because you haven't waited until
you burned out, or as some of us
say, tore your ass or played yourself, and
now you have the additional task of damage
control of just looking like an idiot.
(07:22):
The second key is rationing.
Here are the things in your life that
are precious.
Your money, your time, your belief system, your
core values, your preps, and what you can
provide emotionally.
None of these things should ever be given,
shown, or shared freely without discretion.
Just as people are quick to point out
that nobody owes you anything, you don't owe
(07:44):
anyone anything either.
You don't owe them the gift of those
precious things because they are gifts, and we
have to decide, now more than ever, how
to ration them out.
While some of those things will always be
a part of who you are, just as
your stash can be depleted if you're not
careful, so can your spirit.
Don't allow yourself to be pressured or gaslit
(08:05):
into providing any of them to people who
don't deserve it.
There are those who extend no grace or
care to you but expect you to give
it.
To someone who, if you were lying injured
on the ground, would step over you, take
a picture, and post it with laughing emojis.
To someone, if you were on fire, wouldn't
pee on you to put it out.
We must be very selective about where and
(08:26):
how we're going to give these precious things
and to whom we're going to display our
emotions.
We need to be more discreet, private, and
discerning about where we share those things.
Too many strangers have access to information about
us that they probably shouldn't have.
So for those things, those precious things that
I mentioned earlier, don't give them access to
that too.
(08:46):
To sustain yourself, the people you love, the
causes you care about, and the goals you've
set, you'll need a deep well of all
of those precious things so they're available to
what and who truly deserves them.
So by regulating your emotions and rationing your
valuable attributes, you'll be able to maintain the
right mindset to power through an error that
(09:07):
will force you to make some tough decisions,
decimate relationships, and choose a side.
Even for those who present as mainly neutral,
and I include myself in that, it may
give you some privacy, but it won't always
guarantee your safety.
As people become more frustrated and desperate, their
intentions and misdirected anger can be costly and
(09:27):
even dangerous, even if you're doing your best
to keep your head down and out of
all the tussles.
We may have an event occur that won't
discriminate, and you may find yourself in the
thick of it with some choices to make.
The better you have it mentally together, should
you have to make a snap decision, you'll
be so steady, you'll have a better chance
of making the one that saves your life.
(09:50):
If you haven't already, start stockpiling as much
food and water as you can.
I have plenty of information on what you'll
need if things get so ugly you feel
safer indoors.
If there comes a time when you don't,
and you need to bug out, now is
the time to figure out where you would
go and how you would get there.
Folks, we're sitting on a powder keg with
a short fuse.
(10:10):
The sooner you recognize this, the faster you'll
understand that your focus should be on preparing
for and planning your security and your future.
Not what other people with their own agendas
are screaming at you to do or feel.
Thanks for listening, and be careful out there.
Until next time, this is the Urban Lady
Prepper signing off.
(10:38):
I'm sure I've given you some things to
think about as you go through the upcoming
week.
Has this episode resonated with you?
Let me know in the comments.
Don't forget to click the link in the
podcast description to get your free essential prepper
checklist.
While there, get one of my cool designs
on a shirt, hat, mug, and more at
my Redbubble store.
Or you can always buy me a coffee
(10:58):
or get a Jace case for emergency medical
needs.
It helps support what I do, and I
really appreciate it.
Join me on the socials, especially on YouTube,
where I'll be uploading videos for my blogs
from urbanladyprepper.com.
I appreciate your time with me.
Stay safe, stay sharp, and be ready.
(Transcribed by TurboScribe.ai. Go Unlimited to remove this message.) Dang, no one saw last week coming.
Sometimes the aftermath can be as destructive as
the events themselves.
There are some events you can never prepare
for, but the secret is knowing the two
key things that will help get you through
times like these.
What are those two keys?
Listen to find out.
Hi, it's the Urban Lady Prepper.
(00:22):
I help single moms and solo women with
practical emergency preparedness.
But of course, all are welcome to be
better prepared for whatever happens next.
I had a different episode planned for today,
but I don't think it matters where you
are in the world.
It's been one hell of a week.
You can't even call it a roller coaster.
It seems like, okay, never mind.
(00:43):
It is like a roller coaster.
It's the part where you're at the top
and then it just keeps going down.
Here in the US, we're dealing with yet
another school shooting, which is becoming a sad
national pastime at this point.
An economy that's circling the drain and groups
of people who appear to have lost their
minds altogether.
I wish I could point to some positivity,
(01:04):
but there is very little to be found.
Believe me, I tried.
I've had to dig deep.
There are many things I'd like to say
and opinions I have, but what I posted
on my Facebook page instead was a quote
from Young Pueblo, which says, be so steady
in your own energy that you invite people
into your peace instead of falling into their
tension.
(01:25):
I know there are a lot of podcasters
and content creators who've had to measure themselves
on how they responded to a murder that
occurred last week.
It's one thing to see the political conflicts
amongst our leaders, our neighbors and family, but
sometimes the conflict is internal.
In an earlier podcast, I talked about how
I'm not just stoic by nature.
I follow it as a philosophy.
(01:47):
But I'm sure even my fellow stoics are
probably feeling, yes, I said feeling, up against
it right now.
When everything around you is so emotionally charged,
we've been pushed to the brink of what
we can take mentally, emotionally and financially.
It's not easy.
What I believe is really important and I
think is crucial for anyone, especially if you're
getting into prepping, is being able to not
(02:08):
only regulate your emotions, but also ration them.
Being able to do this will help you
get through weeks like these.
And believe me, there are many more weeks
like these to come.
So I'd like to provide some tips to
help you stay steady during a time when
the present is frightening, the future is bleak,
and even more people have shown you who
they are just when you thought you had
(02:29):
them figured out.
The first thing I'd like to recommend is
to remember that word spoken can't be taken
back and the internet is forever.
As we're being pushed to our limits, I
think we're all fed up with everything and
it doesn't take much for us to make
that rash comment, post that nasty meme or
otherwise lash out when something happens that we
(02:49):
can't wrap our heads around while dealing with
people we don't understand and can't reason with.
So I suggest taking a step back.
General, that knee-jerk reaction is not your
best look.
Think twice before sending that email or making
that post.
If news comes through that makes you so
upset that it shakes you, it might be
better to get up and walk away for
(03:10):
a minute to collect yourself before you do
or say something you'll later regret.
One of the things I've championed since the
beginning of Urban Lady Prepper is self-control.
This is something that comes naturally to some
more than others, but as we try to
navigate everyday tasks with people who are increasingly
becoming strangers or just stranger in general, being
(03:32):
able to get a grip and not be
ruled by your emotions is going to serve
you well now and going forward.
This is not the time for snap anything.
Not a snap judgment, not a snap reaction,
not an action that didn't have forethought.
Should a disaster or world-ending event happen
and as of right now, it's not all
at the table.
The ones who can take a deep breath,
(03:54):
pull themselves together and think it through are
the ones who are going to make it.
Being able to regulate your emotions is a
skill that requires practice because as one meme
once said, I honestly believe some people will
put on earth to test my anger management
skills.
We're all being tested right now.
I'm not going to lie.
(04:14):
I lost my shit yesterday, which is why
I must add that regulating your emotions doesn't
mean that you don't have to act as
if they don't exist.
That's what makes us human.
The secret is knowing how to let that
feeling flow through you and then deciding if
what made you upset directly impacts you and
will alter your personal existence.
(04:34):
If it doesn't, move on.
Also, do you have enough information to justify
any immediate action you thought about taking while
feeling that emotion?
If you don't, wait till you do.
And if what got you in your feelings
does impact you directly and you do have
enough information to be justified in that emotion,
then you should take into consideration what impact
(04:55):
that reaction will have on others, especially those
you care about.
Something I've had to grapple with mentally and
maybe you do as well is why people
are so obsessed with other people's lives and
what's going on in them and are upset
that they can't control them.
Their own lives might be a hot mess
but they sure as hell have an opinion
about what you should be doing with yours.
(05:16):
I'll never be able to understand people like
that.
I believe that folks need to do what
makes them happy and as long as it
doesn't involve doing awful things to others, especially
children or animals, leave people alone.
Freedom is for everyone, not just a select
few in a certain demographic.
Happy people make for a happier planet.
(05:37):
We should all want that.
But for some reason, it is so hard
for too many people to do.
It's as though if they don't force other
people to live their lifestyle, their own choices
can't be validated.
It makes no logical sense but this is
what scars our past, shapes our present, and
will greatly affect our future.
We may not be able to change those
(05:58):
people and they will always work to find
ways to trigger you because more positive pursuits
elude them.
So make sure to take time to decompress.
This onslaught, this barrage of chaos, otherwise known
as flooding the zone, is intended to keep
you off balance, unsure, and willing to give
up and cave in.
Or, so on edge that every soundbite that
(06:20):
so much has blinked that your deepest fears
or darkest fantasies will set you off.
Now, more than ever, it's essential to make
time for self-care and rest.
Designate a time when you will not listen
to the news, look at social media, or
communicate with people unless absolutely necessary.
Sometimes you just need to step away from
(06:40):
the fray and let your brain empty out.
Sometimes you need to read that trashy novel,
watch that dung TV show that requires no
more than two brain cells, or listen to
music that makes you smile.
Take that bath in the middle of the
day, go for a walk, sit in the
park, and not once look at your phone.
And for that span of time or that
whole day, tell people to leave you alone
(07:02):
unless their ass is literally on fire.
This will give you a reset and calm
your nerves, which will also help you better
regulate your emotions because you haven't waited until
you burned out, or as some of us
say, tore your ass or played yourself, and
now you have the additional task of damage
control of just looking like an idiot.
(07:22):
The second key is rationing.
Here are the things in your life that
are precious.
Your money, your time, your belief system, your
core values, your preps, and what you can
provide emotionally.
None of these things should ever be given,
shown, or shared freely without discretion.
Just as people are quick to point out
that nobody owes you anything, you don't owe
(07:44):
anyone anything either.
You don't owe them the gift of those
precious things because they are gifts, and we
have to decide, now more than ever, how
to ration them out.
While some of those things will always be
a part of who you are, just as
your stash can be depleted if you're not
careful, so can your spirit.
Don't allow yourself to be pressured or gaslit
(08:05):
into providing any of them to people who
don't deserve it.
There are those who extend no grace or
care to you but expect you to give
it.
To someone who, if you were lying injured
on the ground, would step over you, take
a picture, and post it with laughing emojis.
To someone, if you were on fire, wouldn't
pee on you to put it out.
We must be very selective about where and
(08:26):
how we're going to give these precious things
and to whom we're going to display our
emotions.
We need to be more discreet, private, and
discerning about where we share those things.
Too many strangers have access to information about
us that they probably shouldn't have.
So for those things, those precious things that
I mentioned earlier, don't give them access to
that too.
(08:46):
To sustain yourself, the people you love, the
causes you care about, and the goals you've
set, you'll need a deep well of all
of those precious things so they're available to
what and who truly deserves them.
So by regulating your emotions and rationing your
valuable attributes, you'll be able to maintain the
right mindset to power through an error that
(09:07):
will force you to make some tough decisions,
decimate relationships, and choose a side.
Even for those who present as mainly neutral,
and I include myself in that, it may
give you some privacy, but it won't always
guarantee your safety.
As people become more frustrated and desperate, their
intentions and misdirected anger can be costly and
(09:27):
even dangerous, even if you're doing your best
to keep your head down and out of
all the tussles.
We may have an event occur that won't
discriminate, and you may find yourself in the
thick of it with some choices to make.
The better you have it mentally together, should
you have to make a snap decision, you'll
be so steady, you'll have a better chance
of making the one that saves your life.
(09:50):
If you haven't already, start stockpiling as much
food and water as you can.
I have plenty of information on what you'll
need if things get so ugly you feel
safer indoors.
If there comes a time when you don't,
and you need to bug out, now is
the time to figure out where you would
go and how you would get there.
Folks, we're sitting on a powder keg with
a short fuse.
(10:10):
The sooner you recognize this, the faster you'll
understand that your focus should be on preparing
for and planning your security and your future.
Not what other people with their own agendas
are screaming at you to do or feel.
Thanks for listening, and be careful out there.
Until next time, this is the Urban Lady
Prepper signing off.
(10:38):
I'm sure I've given you some things to
think about as you go through the upcoming
week.
Has this episode resonated with you?
Let me know in the comments.
Don't forget to click the link in the
podcast description to get your free essential prepper
checklist.
While there, get one of my cool designs
on a shirt, hat, mug, and more at
my Redbubble store.
Or you can always buy me a coffee
(10:58):
or get a Jace case for emergency medical
needs.
It helps support what I do, and I
really appreciate it.
Join me on the socials, especially on YouTube,
where I'll be uploading videos for my blogs
from urbanladyprepper.com.
I appreciate your time with me.
Stay safe, stay sharp, and be ready.
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